May 2007 - The babies are arriving!!

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Thought i would start the offical May 2007 thread as it is May and we have now had our first offical May baby - even though we have 6 naughty babies who queue jumped and arrived in April .

Probably be a while before there are many messages but a least we have a thread now

Welcome Nannyjo!

April, Lupins don't even THINK about shuffling off to April postnatal, you guys are here to stay. Couldn't imagine being here without you!

Pink, welcome to the world of being a mummy, constant paranoia, guilt, worry, the works!! As for the bad back, I too remember suffering badly with my first, a combination of the epidural side effect and not being used to the position needed to change nappies and feed. It'll soon go.. I still go and check on my other two dc before I go to bed to make sure they are ok, still breathing and not fallen out of bed or anything!

Anneme, wow scary but amazing story that Samuel managed to stay on the bed, I think I need to keep a closer eye on ds1 too, something like that could EASILY happen in our house

Lupins, hope you got to Legoland finally today! What on earth are all you ladies doing up so early??

And finally a big hug to MrsJB, hope you are feeling better today love, you know they are not real tears, just pretend ones, that help wash out all the yucky leftover fluids from pregnancy

Just had the hv here - what a waste of time! She was here 15 minutes and that included weighing Ruby! She hardly asked me any questions, just filled in a few details in the red book and booked to come and see me again in 2 weeks time. I told her about R being a little unsettled and she said try infacol which I'm sure is their answer to everything - that and cool boiled water!
On that subject I did give her some water to drink this morning and she has been a little more settled, I think she is going to be a sucky baby. There is certainly no prblem with her feeding she is only 16 days old and she has gone from she has put on a pound already!

i'm thinking i won't bother with the hv. midwife discharged us today - l has regained her birthweight in 12 days the clever girl.

anyone else b'feeding & drinking coffee - is it ok?

Afternoon everyone

I think I definitely have a mean case of the baby blues. The mw came today and I just cried and cried. Alexa has been a little cutie pie most of the time, but is a little unsettled early evening time. The main problem seems to be wind, and I am trying everything I can think of to ease it for her. Her daddy and I are taking it really personally when she cries though, I'm not sure that's helping.

I think the other problem is the potential hip disclocation problem. We got our appointment through for Alder Hey and we go next Wednesday, I am already worried sick about it. Everyone seems to think she will need to wear a splint between her legs for twelve months in order to correct the problem. But the thought of her little legs in a splint is breaking my heart, and ffs, I'm crying again. I am trying to count my blessings and remember that there are so many worse things that could have happened, but I am just worried sick.

I can't seem to relax at all, and am worried that I can't cope with being a mum. Any words of advice for a first timer? I'm hoping this is relatively normal.

Poor you PinkJenny. Baby blues are the pitts. Just be sure to go to the GP if you aren't feeling better in a week or so.

I don't blame you for feeling so worried about the hip dislocation. Try to compartmentalise the worry - i.e. put it away in a compartment until after the appointment. When you know exactly what you are dealing with then you can open that compartment and let the worry spill over or it may not be as bad as you fear.

Easier said than done, I am absolutely sure though.

Also make sure that you are getting enough rest - sleep when Alexa sleeps and eat well. It's a given that lack of sleep and poor diet aggravate anxiety ten fold.

HTH
dejagsxx

oh Pink, lovely, my heart goes out to you. It is so totally normal how you are feeling just now. I remember when dd came along I felt totally overwhelmed, exhausted, quite lonely and frankly, bored sometimes. It really does get easier and better. You have just had a major operation too. Are you getting enough rest? Can your mum come over and look after you all for a few days?

I'm with Dejags on the compartmentalising the worry until after you have had the appt next week, there's no point driving yourself mad with worry until you have heard what the hospital recommend. It may not be as drastic as you think and remember babies and children are incredibly resilient and normally it is the parents who find these things much tougher to deal with than the child does.

I don't know if this helps but both my dc's always had a bad couple of hours in the early evenings 4.30 ish til bedtime, I remember handing over dd to my dh when he came home from work saying 'just take her from me'. J too is now starting to be unsettled during the same times, i feed and cuddle, feed and cuddle

I'm sure you are doing a great job.

Abbey glad the water helped, my hv is a right dipstck, she gets appts wrong and doesnt do much wen she has been here

Pink i agree with the others what you r feeling is totally normal, having a baby is a huge upheaval, nothing really prepares you for your 1st, ewww i have just been covered in milky vomit!! where was I, i remember when willow 1st started getting colicy i was so frustrated that this little bundle wouldnt stop crying and nothing i could do would seem to help her, it does get easier around 6-8 weeks i found my feet, we are all here if you need us, hope you feel better soon xx

We did make it to legoland and had a lovely day, right off to be, sending your babies sleepy vibes so we all get a good nights rest xx

Morning all

Thanks for your words of support. I had a chat last night with my friend's mum, as my friend had the hip problem when she was born. My own mum was saying last night that she doesn't actually think I have the baby blues, more that I am just worrying about the appointment next week. Anyway, I'm going to try and enjoy the next few days, can't get this time back.

Alexa was a little monkey last night between 3 and 5am. I'm wondering whether when she sleeps for too long, and then wakes up absolutely starving, she gulps her bottle too fast and it upsets her. Does anyone advocate waking their babies up for feeds? Or is everyone a bit more as and when they want it and feeding on demand?

She's asleep for now anyway in the bedroom with her daddy. My other frustration is the bloody midwife visiting. Is it the same everywhere that they don't give you a time? And consequently, you're held hostage in the house until they turn up?

Ooh, I am always complaining! She's so gorgeous and I love her so much, its just a bit of a culture shock and unbelievably relentless. Having said that, when she looks at me, I just want to eat her up!

Morning all

PJ - hope you start to feel better soon. Our midwifes also call at any time during the day! The HV is a lot more social and gives a 2 hour time slot. Our HV is lovely so I am thanking my lucky stars. The HV I had for the DDS was lovely too so I was a bit worried we might get a dragon this time but didn't.

I am starting to feel human on more days now. I keep forgetting I had a have a blood transfusion (that lasted all night and the next morning - 4 packs of blood) and I think that is what is holding me back on the recovery front. I am driking a pint of guiness and spa tone daily and think that is helping. DP goes back to work Tuesday after 3 weeks off - I'm REALLY dreading it.

Callum is 3 weeks tomorrow and we have registered his birth but not at the GP yet. He has a sticky eye so we are off to GP this morming. DDs have a teacher training day so after the GP we intend a family shopping trip to Lincoln.

Callum is still brill and b/f going well. He had times early evening when he just cries but we just rock him and hold him and hopefully it won't last. Been there and done that with DD2 - going to get electric swing set up in case it gets worse.

Sorry for long post - don't get on here enough!

Morning all - I can just about still say that! Where does the time go when you've got a newborn baby? With ds we could be up, fed, dressed and out by 8.30, even when I was heavily pregnant! Now R has come along everything seems to take forever even though she doesn't take that much looking after yet!
Lupin - glad you finally got to Legoland and had a good day. It must be good to live close, we had a lovely day when we went.
Pink - glad you're feeling a little better. Your mum is probably right about you worrying about the appointment. Your lifetime of worry has started. I have worried about ds since the minute he was born and still check on im several times a night to make sure he's ok. People would be more concerned if you didn't worry about your kids I'm sure.
Ruby had an ok night last night. She went to bed and settled fine but when I fed her at 2 she would not go back to sleep. She had drunk 120ml of milk and I had to feed her to sleep with another 60ml! She's so greedy! She has been quite good since getting up this morning. We are off to a local playcentre this afternoon to meet up with NCT friends from first pregnancy so I hope she behaves in there. I don't want her screaming the place down! At least ds will let off some steam and wear himself out!

PinkJenny - sorry to hear you've been feeling down. Can't add to the great advice that you've already been given, so I will only say hang on in there - it will get better, you are doing an excellent job and everything will be ok.

I'd like to ask for some advice from the breast feeding ladies, please. This might sound strange but how long on average does it take for breast milk to replenish itself? The reason I'm asking is because Conor is going through a right greedy phase at the moment. All day yesterday he would feed for at least half an hour on one side, emptying it completely; he still wasn't satisfied so I'd put him on the other side and he'd empty that too. He did this at almost all of his feeds. Not only am I finding it knackering and physically draining, I'm worrying whether there's enough milk getting through to both boobs in time for the nest feed, which is generally three hours later. I was in tears at 1am this morning, worrying about whether I would be able to keep up with him and whether I'm going to spend the next 6 months feeling utterly knackered and wrecked as part of my new life as a human milk machine......

Pink I have no problem in waking babies up for a feed, Arlen also wakes up starving and will gulp a feed and be unsettled, however I find that better than him taking 45mins and faffing around on the bottle, maybe you could change the flow of teat you are using, I was told in scbu to use variflo or fast flow as small babies find these easier than the standard size 1 newborn teats, if you think she has gone to long and may guzzle then maybe give her a slower flow so she takes her time, and when yopu think she needs it use a vari or fast flow teat, glad you are feeling better, Willow had to have her hips checked when shesoon after she was born but it was fine, I think it is a standard with breech babies just to be on the safe side, I do think sometimes things can get blown out of proportion we were told Arlen would have extrmely senitive skin because he was getting a sore bum - he has got such lovely skin and it isnt sensitive at all, dd's is much more prone to product sensitivity, sure it will all be fine xx

Hi PinkJenny, I had my LO last week an he has clicky hip too, I know exactly how you're feeling. We've been told that we'll get an appointment in 4 - 6 weeks, can't help worrying. They don't seem to give you much information..

Hope the appointment goes well for you.

Ok feeling dim question, how and where do i apply for Arlens child benefit??? he isnt able to get registered until mid june due to no appts so i still dont have birth certificate, will i need this??

dont worry just found the link

Hello all - I am back www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1370&threadid=329341 here is my news

congrats GB! Lauren is now 13 days old and I still haven't had a chance to post my birth story....

Hi all,

Just thought I would pop in and say hello and see how you are all doing..

Getting a bit echoey over on antenatal now..think Im destined to be last one..will be sure to switch light off over there when I leave..

Glad to hear everyone seems to be getting on well and the bubs are doing so great..

Congrats Gingerbear, glad everything was ok in the end.

SKY good to hear you are feeling much better, I didn't realise you had to have a transfusion, gosh how scary, no wonder you have been feeling so tired. I didn't realise either that you were near Lincoln, I grew up there and my dad still lives there. Where do you live?

Creena, in theory the more Conor feeds, the more milk you will start to produce to keep up with his demand, sometimes it takes a couple of days until you catch up. Also I find I get mega hungry and have to eat more and rest more too for a couple of days until it all starts to balance out. HTH

Pink, good to hear you sounding a bit more lively today

Lupins did you find the child benefit thingy? Our pack came in our Bounty pack and yes we had to send off J's birth certificate with the application.

Oops booby time, have to go.

Hi all

You are my sanity, you really are. Alexa was really grizzly between 10am and 1pm this afternoon, but fell asleep on my chest eventually. Then had the mw and loads of relatives and the little madam slept like an angel. She's determined to make a liar out of me!

Dizzy - its so worrying isn't it. I'll let you know exactly what happens, but if you're not going in for 4-6 weeks, then hopefully its not too severe. I'm hoping that if Alexa's was really bad, they'd have had us straight in. I can see such a difference in her little legs since she was born, but don't want to get my hopes up. Mw came today and was glad that I wasn't crying!

Just had a quick walk to the local shop on my own, felt so weird. Life is just unrecognisable! I bought loads of treats for me and dh to have tonight though, so hopefully I can raise my endorphin levels a bit with lots of nice chocolate!

can i join??? I had a little girl on the 18 may after an emergency c section. she weighed 9 pound 8 and I had a 16 hour labour!

We are doing ok but wobbling a bit as i've had a few complications mainly my scar opening up and continously bleeding which is being kept an eye on.

I still feel very teary, frustrated that my wound isn't healing, and a bit traumatised over the whole thing i had awful problems with the catheter.

Any one else had post c section probs?

Congratulations Sheepgomeep

Creena - definately sounds like a growth spurt to me. Ella is just coming out the other side of her second spurt! She didnt feed from both sides i just let her feed until she came off. When i did offer the other she would vommit it all up! She went through about 4 days of feeding every 1.5hrs during the day, but stayed the same at night (3-3.5hrs). Your milk will catch up with your little mans requirements. I have to admit that by day 3 i was ready to change my name to Bessy!

What a hot and sticky day today has been! I just hope that the heat will have burnt off some of the excess lbs i am still carrying. Think i will have a nice cold shower in a mo.

Welcome Sheep, No experience to offer on the Csection, but it sounds like you need to rest up.

I've been having a miserable day today, think sleep depravation is catching up with me. Aidan sleeps beautifully but I was having to get up every two hours to put antibiotic eyedrops in for him, and then DS1 got a bug and was waking with a high temperature. Now he is a bit better he has gone wild, which is not a word you would normally use to describe him at all. He is obviously finding it difficult to get used to and I feel like I am constantly telling him not to do things as I'm stranded on the sofa feeding Aidan and watching while he wrecks the place. It is really hard to see him so unhappy. I'm sure it will get better though....

Hi sheepgomeep and congratulations. I had an emergency cs on May 10th after a 24hr labour and three failed ventouse attempts. I am actually healing pretty well I think but still horrendously bruised above the wound site. I can, however, relate to the teary, frustrated feeling you describe. For the first week/ten days I would burst into tears with alarming regularity and will admit that having planned a home water birth I felt like I had let myself down, my husband down and my poor baby down. I felt very anxious indeed but am happy to say that I am now 2 weeks post op and beginning to feel myself again. DH returned to work today and I've had a bit of a wobble but I'm coping much better than I was. You have been through a major operation and are physically and emotionally recovering. You must take it easy. Feel free to CAT me if you want to chat away from MN at any time. It gets better. I promise.

Hey there SOH, good to see you How are you and Mathilda?