Jan '07: Finally, we can reach to cut our toenails, see to groom our ladygardens, and have norks the size of norway. Shame we're too tired to give a damn!

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Hmmm, hope it's not too long a title!

Hi Guys - I am so cross, my laptop has completely broken, hard drive, the lot - lost all of my Jacob photos, wedding photos, wedding video AND I can't get on MN and there has been so much chatting to catch up on!! I am currently at my BF house on her DH machine, laptop will be out of order for about 3 weeks so I will keep nipping on when I can so this may be a mammoth post!!

No time for personals (see above) but survey. Love you ALL but special peeps for me are:

Lizz - email bud as well as MN bud. You make me laugh.
2Happy - you are a gem.
LTH - for being as graphic and as rude as me
EAH - a sweetie

Oh god, I could go on about you all actually so big kisses to all (god this is like an Oscar speech!!). You are all so wonderful and have kept me sane through the last few months. Thank you.

Galmum - thinking of you and your little boy.

CRANIAL OSTEOPATH (CO) - OMG, my devil child has been replaced by an angel child! Saw the CO yesterday. He immediately picked up that J suffers with a sticky left eye (it wasn't yesterday and I hadn't mentioned it) and that he sleeps with his head to the right. He said there were areas of pressure on this part of his skull which would be giving him baby headaches. He did his stuff and it was like he switched off my SCREAMING LO. That was yesterday and today he is still calm and placid. I hope it is not just a fluke - I am going back for a follow up appt on Friday so fingers crossed it lasts.

Anyway, must dash, BF DH is hovering (think he wants his PC back!)

Absolutley Fantastic wilkie I'm sooo glad you went.
Gutted for you about the photos of Jacob, I have nightmares about losing all the photos of George. I've down loaded loads but haven't deleted any from the camera yet incase the PC dies. I've asked DH a 1000 times to put them on disc but has he??....has he fuck!!
Is there anyway of getting them back?

Romantic old goat that I am, I taped over our wedding video....on purpose!!
Our whole ceremony was 5minutes and 19 seconds so it seemed a bit pointless keeping a whole 3 hour video tape for just that....Aren't I the most romantic person ever???

I've asked DH a few times if he can remeber his vows and he can't, which is just as well because neither can I

Bloody hell, what are we like???

Wilkie - welcome back! Was wondering where you'd gone. Absolute pisser re photos; you must be gutted. I just got mine printed today, and bought some things to make the photos in to postcards to send to the grandparents at various intervals.

EH - lol imagining lo in Dora t-shirt and tights! Good look for a party

lth - CAN'T BELIEVE YOU RECORDED OVER YOUR WEDDING VIDEO! (oops , didn't mean to shout, sorry about that)

Where is everyone this afternoon / evening? Are you all trying to tell me you have lives? I am so jealous!!

well, i've spent this afternoon cleaning! dh was whingeing about the state of the house and he "can't" clean, apparently, so i asked my friend to come over and give me a hand whilst DH looked after Zac. anyway, he's spent all evening whingeing about the fact that he can't find anything now! argh! AND he's just trod mud into the clean carpet in the lounge! ARRRRGH!!! sometimes, i'd love to be a single parent.

no, i don't mean that. well, maybe just a little....

Wanted to add about the bf and contraception, it depends on a number of things; link here clicky

hope everyone is ok. Had Caitlin's party today and it went great, then had family over in the afternoon. She's 5 on Monday

Happy birthday jodies dd glad the party went well

Wilkie what a bummer about your pics did you have them printed off or still on your memory card-hope laptop is fixed soon

RGee i often think that when i check on here and noones posted i tend to have a look a couple of times a day but can't think of anything to post

Party went really well Ellie agrees to put her party dress on and let me do her nicely and she was so well behave i was so proud of her she played the games nicely (bit of help with pass the parcel as she hasnt quite got the idea of it yet)sat at the table and ate her birthday tea without moaning or trying to get down and actually gave the birthday boy his present without screaming the place down (previous parties she seemed to think that all presents are for her [blush) hattie got passed around between all the oldies so she was happy having lots of cuddles. Have my goddaughters 3rd bday party on weds so hoping that'll go as well.

Am very peed off with dh he stayed up lat night watcing crap on tv and having a few drinks except that a few was actually alot and he knocked over a glass of red wine on the floor that has splashed all over the cream sofa he fell asleep downstairs and when hattie was crying at 6.15 this morning i got up to sort her and ellie he went to bed and still there. He promised to take ellie swimming but i know he won't now and she'll be so dissapointed i wish he wouldnt say things to her and then not do them as she remembers what he says to her.

I honestly think being a single parent wouldnt be alot different for me as he is at work all week and is normally gone before they're up and they are going to bed when he gets home and then spends his weekends asleep or fixing one of his bloody bikes (he has 3)or watching fuc**in sky sports. Because he isnt here for bedtime in the week ellie now refuses to let him put her to bedat weekends so feel like i have to do everything all the time. In the 7weeks hattie been here he has done 3 night feeds and has yet to sterilise or make a bottle, do both of their bathtimes or actually look after both of thnem on his own (he can only cope with 1 of them at a time). Sorry in a foul mood with him and feels better now i have had rant

Ellieandhattie - thanks she can't wait to get the rest of her presents tomorrow. Sorry to hear about your dh not helping, it's annoying when they promse things to the kids and then don't do the Hope he sorts himself out and starts helping out more, have you talked to him about it?

Can anyone help with this? We've had sex twice so far without any problems but last night when we had sex for the 3rd time there was a lot of
red blood. I didn't feel any pain. I think I will make an appt to see my gp but wondered if anyone knew what this was? I am exclusively breastfeeding at the moment so don't think it's a period and the bleeding didn't continue. I
had no tears or stitches after the birth and it was a quick and intense labour. My lochia stopped about a week ago. There was quite a lot of blood as well, sorry for the tmi

On another note we ended up not using a condom or rather we started off using one and then he took it off because he couldn't feel enough and as it was halfway through neither of us really were bothered. I know the chances of pregnancy are low though but we won't be doing that again, especially after he's just had a vascectomy and definitely wants no more kids! Funny how he wasn't concerned during sex, men eh lol.

hi guys, umm Ive read some of the posts and you have been talking about sex whichreminded me about a couple of questions I had. hope you can help

do we have to wait till my 6 week check?

is there any contraceptives other than condoms that we can use bewfor I have a regular period cause that isn't going to happen for a long time?

TR, Not sure about the contraceptive before you period returns, we've always used condoms and TBH now that I think about it I'm not sure if you're meant to wait until the 6 week check for a bit of red hot lovin'.

We never have....

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hi podmog - good to hear from you! my boobs feel really full all the time - i think my ds has had a growth spurt this week too and they're quite sore (the right one especially). i've got some fluey symptoms too - achey back and splitting headache, i'm just really hoping it's not mastitis!! i was told that expressing wasn't a good idea as it the more you get out, the more goes in (if that makes sense) but then someone else told me that if you don't get it out it can lead to a blocked duct! argh!!

TR - i'm now on the progesterone only pill. i didn't really want to go back on the pill, but there's a 6 week waiting list to get a coil fitted and i know where i am with the pill!

zac slept from 8:30 last night till 4am, then from 4:30 till 7:30!! he's so nearly sleeping through, it's great - i never expected it this early!

EAH - -I have felt like coming on MN and ranting about my DP not helping enough several times since DSs birth too, but managed to hold my tongue so far as now and again he does something really nice and thoughtful and helpful and redeems himself for all the other stuff he doesn't do!! Like your DH though he really does need pursuading to help out and, like all men I'm sure, tends to take the easy jobs, like giving LO his bottle(quite a nice job really!) and think that means he's done his bit for the day and leaves me with all the rest of the cleaning, washing, changing, walking up and down to stop him crying etc.

Jodie- not sure about the bleeding. I know I carried on bleeding on and off for about a week after I thought the bleeding had stopped, but a lot of red blood probably isn't quite right. Sounds like a good idea to go see the gp. Hope everything's ok

DP and I have been using condoms as well. We've got our 6 week check-up tomorrow though and I'm going to get a prescription and go back on the pill i think... as you say UD, you know where you are with the pill.

UD - are you formula feeding in the evening - is that why Zac sleeps so well?
We tried it last night for the first time, but LO still woke up in the middle of the night.

Podmog - my boobs constantly feel full too. The only relief I get is when I express it all out. Can't wait to stop BF! I have started to moo. x

lizz ud is breast feeding

dh hasnt done anything to redeem himself today in fact just irritated me even more, I was so tired and fed up earlier I was having a bit of a cry in the bedroom and ellie came in an started crying because I was Tried talkingto dh but he having a defensive day saying he works 50+hrs a week etc I know that but I work more hours than that looking after the kids and house aaargh theres no reasoning with him his rant today is that when he goes out wit his mates I ring him tried to explain that I ring becaise he never actually comes home when he says he is or just doesnt make it home then I am laying in bed at 2/3/4 in the morning wonderin if he has had an accident etc he says he doesnt ring because I'd moan, I probably would moan but at least I would know whats happening he is going out friday afternoon for his friens 30th drink but I know he'll either not come ome in the early evening as he says he is or he'll come ome and really annoy me because he'll be drunk tried to say that if he stays in with us in the afternoon he can go out in the evening and stay at his mums (some of them are going to a pub about 5 mins from his mums house in the evening) but no he wants to go in the afternoon.

It actually got to th epoint today that I packed him a bag and asked him to go as I feel it would be better for me and dd's as they don't need to bE listening to us arguing and bickering. I think the main thing is that I dont drink and he likes a good drink but he lies about it last night he got a bottle of wine and I was okay about it but this morning I have discovered another empty bottle he then denies he has had until he is faced with the evidence & then admits it today evenafter all the rows he's had another few glasses of wine he doesnt drink in the week but goes a bit stupid on fri/sat/sun nights sorry another long moany hormonal tired rant should put this in relationships bit really. I think I am going to talk to his parents as this seems to keep happening more and more in the last few years and last time his dad had a quiet word with him (took him down the pub !) and it got better but I think that maybe if he moved out for awhile he would realise what he would be losing

Sorry just read that back and apart from really bad typing and english that was so moany

oh honey - how awful for you...i had no idea things were so bad. it sounds like he has a bit of a drink problem, i mean, i know you said he doesn't drink in the week but bingeing at the weekend is not healthy at all. in some ways it'd be better if he spread his consumption over 7 days!! i don't have any practical advice as my dh doesn't drink (his dad was an alcoholic!) but you know we are all here if you need a rant!!

as for zac's sleeping - i think we may be in for a rough night as all he's done today is sleep!! expect a very tired and grumpy dryad tomorrow morning!!

thanks ud it was just nice typing it all out, it goes like this in fits and starts be 4/5 weekends like this then he'll not drink for a couple of weeks. He keeps saying he isnt going to do it but it is almost like he starts and can't stop I just don't understand as I don't drink. His mum was concerned about him a coupe of years ago and got lots of leaflets etc and read through them and his mum and dad sat hin down and really talked to him (he was 26 at the time not even 18) and it worked I think soem of the drinking is to escape the normal everyday headaches money/bills etc but we are not in huge financial debt got a mtg but we can afford it and owe a small amount on credit card but if we wanted to we could empty savings to pay it off. The drinking seems to get worse at certain times so am wondering if the arrival of Hattie is the case this time, he has gone to bed now as was snoring on the sofa and getting on my nerves. I have decided that if his mum asks me if we had a nice weekend tomorrow when she Instant Messages me (she im's most days to see how e and h are) i am going to say not really but not expand unless she asks.

God here I go waffling again I am going to see if Relate have a website as maybe we need to sit with an independent person to try and sort some of these things out as the olast thing I want is this to affect ellie or hattie

ps hope you have a good night with zac and thanks for your kind words

Ellieand hattie - sorry things have got so bad - big hugs - having 2 young children is v.tough - hopefully you'll get a chance to talk it through with dh when things are calmer.

AmyClaire - sorry about your niece - it's tough for you too - I know how it has impacted on our family and close friends. I'm sure you have great memories of your niece - I'll think of her as well when I talk to my little boy.

Only popped in to say LO and I are off to visit Granny & Grandpa for the week . let's see how 2 hr drive goes?!! Mum will be a star and do all the cooking and help look after LO. Dh is really looking forward to the peace and quiet!!

PS Starting to feel more human - hair trimmed, legs shaved, ladygarden tidy!! That led to dh and I indulging in some contact sports!! It was actually enjoyable

EAH - maybe getting his parents involved isn't a bad idea...it might be the shock he needs? maybe he doesn't take you seriously enough? i think men are sometimes like toddlers - threats are no good if they're not carried out!
Galmum - hope you have a good week. FWIW, zac always sleeps in the car!!

galmum have a lovely week hope dd enjoys al her extra cuddles.

UD good idea think I'll word it tonight andmay just email them as its much easier than telling her face to face she can be quite supportive but also doesnt like to interfere to much but I know she'll tell FIL and he'll mention it to dh

oh and your comment about men and toddlers is very true in this house!!!!!

blimey, must be a nightmare having a man AND a todddler!
well as i suspected zac was up and down like a yo yo in the night - he woke at 12, 2 4 and 6! arrrrgh!! then i couldn't sleep for dh's snoring! i want to smother him with a pillow when he snores like that!! i can't even spend the morning in bed cause i have to take z for his hearing test!

EAH - you poor thing. I agree with UD that it may be worth mentioning to your MIL, especially as you're reaching the point of packing bags , and it did the trick last time. So what if he works 50+ hours - what does he think you do? You're on 24 hr call all the time. He seems so wrapped up in himself it's unfair on you.

UD - I was going to ask you what magic you weaved to make Zac sleep through so well. After last night perhaps not! I guess at least I know I will be woken up most nights at 2 and 5.

Snoring husbands are bad! On Saturday evening (my dh only joins us at the weekend, but still no 'fun' until boobs stop hurting ), I woke up at midnight to find dh sat bolt upright chuntering to himself. I asked him what was wrong and he mumbled about getting something for lo's feed. We continued the conversation for a short whuile, then I decided to wake him up as he was actually sleep talking. The lo making strange noises in the night is funny enough, but throw in a sleep talking hubbie!!

Enough of my ramblings. Here's to a good week to you all, especially EAH.

2Happy, love your thread title!!

brings back memories!