March 2016 - quick, a new thread!

[Swearwolf]

Sorry for the terrible title, I saw the old thread was up to 996 posts and panicked!

Ooh don't I feel important

Hope your ds continues to cope well with the teething me. I was tickling C this morning and noticed that she has the top 4 all starting to come through at the same time. She was grumpy a few days ago so I started giving her the Ashton and parsons teething powder twice a day, was thinking I might stop as she seems ok but think I might keep going for a couple more days until this lot are fully through!

I have noticed that somehow C will be in nursery two weeks before I am planning on going back to work, I think nursery must have said that she had to start that week and in my baby brain phase I never considered what I would do with myself. I did consider going back to work early but its my birthday the week before I go back so I don't want to!

Ooh MrsE, lucky you!!! Enjoy it, it might not happen again for years! I'd try to use the time to get the house in order, cook up batches of soup for work lunch, wander home via Costa, crochet, nap in the daytime... But would probably waste it watching Jeremy kyle!

I've got my work Christmas dinner tonight, I'm nervous as it's quite far away and dh has never had to put the (still breastfed) baby to bed before, if she doesn't go for it I won't be able to run back and feed her. Eek!

Ooh, this dropped off my 'Threads I'm On'.

MrsE, I second the advice to make the most of the free time. It will literally be years till you can have that kind of freedom again!

We are having a bit of sleep regression, it seems. About 2 hours of screeching/wakefulness sometimes from midnight-2, sometimes from 2-4. Either way it's destroying me!

I can't believe it's separation anxiety - he's still in the Snuzpod 5cm from me (although it has happened the night I went to an exercise class, a night I worked late, and tonight after I went to the work xmas dinner - I think he's punishing me for going out).

DH walked him round a bit. Gave up, gave him back to me and his fancy noise-cancelling headphones on!

Oh and the biting. My nipples have survived #2 remarkably well up till now. Now they're so sore, despite being used only morning & evening!

I thought he'd actually amputated a nipple this morning

Indom, Can I join the sleep deprivation and being bitten on the nipple club?

Signing into the CSBNC (crap sleep bitten nip club)! The last two nights have been slightly better though, only one or two wake ups like in the good old days, so hopefully we're coming out the other side.

Left the bab last night for my work night out, lots of expressed milk (which took ages as I'm bad at expressing) and felt nervous but OK about being too far away to run back if needed. Texted dh about half 7 to be told all were asleep. But got home to find actually she'd refused the bottle and the sippy cup he decanted it into, and been sad until she went to sleep. Poor baby

Argh i fell off the thread too.......will catch up at naptime but just popped in to say arghhhhh (and thats a shadow my fingers arent 2 different colours)

Ahhh! Congratulations Q! What a whopper!

Congratulations Q, lovely ring too. Was it a surprise?

Hope the bitten nips are okay. DD has 6 teeth so very happy she is not a biter. Hearing her crunch through corn snacks does make me a bit nervous for my nipples from time to time.

It was nice of your DH not to worry you Swear and I guess she wasn't too sad if she slept at a normal time. DD is okY with expressed milk but kept poor DH up to 10pm the first night I went out.

Finished work for 2016 yesterday (went back mid Oct), woowoo. Reputedly veey long hours in next job so I am going to stock up on sleep!

I kind of knew it was coming (6 years in, mortgage and a baby) but today is his birthday so completely blindsided me with it.
Hope the sleepless babies are slowing working their way through colds and regressions.

Congrats Q! What an amazing ring. Do you envisage a long engagement or will you get planning right away?

Commiserations to the bitten and tired.

Work have asked me to go in next week for a client lunch. DM isn't available to look after DS so MIL is going to have him. Slightly nervous about this as DM has looked after him on her own quite a few times but MIL hasn't yet! She is fine but he just doesn't know her as well. Sure it will all work out though!

Eeeeee congratulations Q!

It'll be fine me, I know MILs get a bad rap on mumsnet but she brought up your DH well enough so I'm sure she'll do a good job! If she's anything like my mil she'll be so worried about upsetting you by doing anything wrong she'll be asking for detailed instructions!

Aww Q congratulations! Your ring is beautiful.

I don't know if my DS is having some kind of 8 and a half/9 month sleep regression, or just being a little pickle, but oh my goodness bedtime was hard work tonight! He went to bed at 7.30 which is his normal time, but didn't fall asleep until 9.00. DS is a baby who needs to have a cry before he falls asleep, and this usually lasts for 5-10 minutes, no longer and its not an upset cry if that makes any sense, but he seemed so upset this evening. He'd had vapour rub, bonjela, milk, calpol, new nappy and he was warm, no temperature, so nothing that we could think may be causing it. We got him out of the cot and he immediately cheered up, and then started it all up again as soon as he went back in. Arghhh! And breathe! It's just not like him at all, bedtime is normally a breeze so it's stressed me out a little. I'm hoping it's a one off, and also that he's not going to keep it up all night!

Congrats Q... ring is gorgeous! How exciting!
Sorry to hear of all the bitten and sore nipples, I stopped breastfeeding a couple of months ago now and DS didn't have any teeth but still remember the gum bites so I hate to think what the teeth bites are like!
Glad nights out have gone well for some of you:me and DH have just had a night away went Xmas shopping yday and today and he went to childminder yday day and my DM collected him and had him over night and today was so refreshing to have some adult time, my first night away from him since he was 2 weeks old! Very strange but enjoyed it

Thanks all, im still shaking haha.
me not too long but a couple of years at least 😀
Sure your mil will be fine, theyre robust little creatures so she wont do too much damage
Oh no dotty we had a sort of regression, waking between 2-4 for at leadt an hour. Lasted about 10 days and has stopped now but night sleep has turned into 6:30pm-5:30am. I do NOT like 5:30am.

Oh that sounds lovely ftm ive never yet spent a night away from ds, is that weird?

Oh congratulations Q, I love a good wedding! I just had to think really hard whether I had had a night away from dd and I think i have only had one. I'm still breastfeeding and have 2 dc's so whilst it is entirely possible to get a night away as she sleeps pretty well I just think getting two of them to mils is a bit of a faff!

Q I don't think it's weird, I haven't had a night away from DS either. Oh well, if it is then we can be weird together!

ftm that sounds lovely, I'm glad you had a good time.

Q the rest of last night was fine and DS woke at 7, so I really don't know what that was all about at bedtime. He had a later nap, maybe that was the problem? I don't blame you, 5.30 am is a very rude hour! Funnily enough DS has woken at around 3 am a couple of nights but he just lays there quietly and then goes back to sleep on his own. Odd!

I'm sorry to bring the thread down but I've woken up feeling a bit glum . I just feel like life at the moment is so incredibly boring. It seems as if everyone around me has got nice things going on like moving house, going away, having nice surprise holidays planned for them, and I have nothing, nothing to look forward to. It's stupid, I love my house I don't want to move and I don't particularly like going on holiday, but still a little part of me wishes it was me doing these nice things. I get up every single morning with DS, we play with the same boring toys, if DH is working we go to the same boring shops or walk the same boring route and eat the same boring food. I am starting to really look forward to going back to work to break up the monotony and that makes me feel really sad. Don't get me wrong I enjoy my job but I feel like this time should be spent enjoying being with DS, not wishing the time away looking forward to doing something different. I'll regret it when I do go back I know I will. Now I feel guilty as I feel as if I've labelled my DS as boring which he isn't, he is incredible and amazing and I love him so much. Arghhhh! Sorry for the long old waffle. I'm sure I'll feel better by tomorrow.

dotty don't beat yourself up, I completely get what you are saying. My dh's family do a big Christmas party each year and it was yesterday, even though we have had ds there for the last 2 years this year with an almost 3 year old and a baby it seemed to completely change it for me and I found myself completely appreciating why some people say they don't want kids as they like their lives as they are. Then ds said the best thing about the party was that mummy, daddy and C were there .

I also know I will be happy to go back to work by Feb, just to be known as my name rather than C's mum for a change and there are only so many times you can sing the same songs.... It's getting harder to keep entertained as money gets tighter as well as shopping isn't as much fun when I question whether I really need every purchase and I think supermarket cake would be cheaper than Costa. At least Christmas will bring new toys to clutter up the house and the little ones are starting to get to the age where they can interact more, its just annoying that that stage coincides with going back to work! Can you try to find something new to break the monotony? I've just started to learn to crochet so do that once the munchkins are in bed for a bit of relaxation. Next week however will be spent making things for ds's train themed birthday party. The luxury of maternity leave has meant that I have spent literally hours searching for party bag fillers and even have a dedicated spreadsheet for rsvp's, games, bags and food just because I'm not at work doesn't mean I don't need spreadsheets #toomuchtimeonmyhands

Not having had a night away from your 8/9 month old isn't weird in my book! DS2 still BFs & wakes overnight so wouldn't want to inflict that on anyone. DS1 was well over a year when we had a night away. (And even then I still woke up overnight!)

Dotty, it's ok to feel down. Life with small children can be monotonous and hard, and when you add sleep deprivation into it it can be awful.

Can you try planning little things to look forward to? A day out somewhere, a lunch/dinner, even the cinema without children would be a treat right now!

I managed 3 months of leave before I got to your level of boredom. Well done on getting this far! It's ok to want to go back to work.

MrsE, that is impressive party planning!

Dotty I absolutely hear what you're saying! I love DS to pieces but I am quite looking forward to going back to work in January. I find it quite monotonous too and only stay sane by getting out a LOT. im really lucky in having a lot of friends on mat leave at the same time as me plus my parents close by, my dad is retired so if I'm at a loose end I can go round there without spending anything and have another adult to talk to. Maybe try and mix up your days a bit so you go to some different shops etc, even if you don't buy anything? But agree with all the others, it's ok to not enjoy every second!

Oh and I have only had one night away from DS. I doubt I'll have another one until Feb when it's my 30th and we've got a night out and hotel stay lined up!

Thank you everyone. I'm sorry that others feel like this too but I'm glad that I'm not alone. I've had a good cry and a cuddle with DS and feel a bit better now. I also read my post back and realised I sound like a moany old wotsit who is jealous of everyone else who has more exciting plans than me !

Dom I would love to plan some things to do, but if I'm honest I don't really have any friends I can do anything with. I've made some mummy friends that I meet for lunch with the babies which is nice, and I've got work friends but because of shifts it's hard to make arrangements. I would like to go out just with DH too but when we have spoken about leaving DS with one set of our parents to go out he has said in his words that he doesn't see the need to go out without him, so I'm a bit stuck!

mrsells your DS sounds very cute! I tend to spend my evenings once DS is in bed doing housework but I might bin that off and do something for me! Before DS was born I bought a jigsaw puzzle to do while I waited for him to arrive.....it's still in its wrapper so maybe I'll get that out and give it a go in the evenings.

me thank you, I do think I need to get out more. For some reason I lack confidence when I go out with DS with feeding and stuff, goodness knows why as he is a dream but I do, and as a result tend to go to the same old safe places all the time. I shall try to be more adventurous! It's my 30th in May so I will have to make some nice plans for that.

Well, after last nights fun and games DS has fallen asleep just like that. I am going to have a shower and then I must sit down and write my Christmas cards and then probably have another good cry before bed just to let it all out and give myself a nice big headache!

dotty honestly - babies are a bit boring, its ok to think that. You cant converse with them, they dont reall 'do' much. Im back at work now and after the initial fear i love it. Ds has settled really well at nursery which is a huge part of my being comfortable too

have been lurking whilst at work last week but congrats on the engagement Q!

I'm currently led in bed feeling pretty crappy after getting a case of mastisis basically a combination of DD2s latch going to shit as her second top tooth has come through, and not feeding at all during the day over the weekend. Last week she wasn't really interested in drinking milk from the 360 cup whilst I was at work - she didn't refuse it as such, just wasn't bothered. So then she was reverse cycling, whilst I was still pumping at work and feeding at night, so when it came to the weekend I had massive oversupply. Started feeling achey last night then tired and flu-y, got the chills and felt awful all night. DD2 was up pretty much every hour which made me feel even worse (though probably a good thing she was feeding so frequently). Realised I had a hard red patch on my boob this morning and went to the doctors this morning and had it confirmed, so am now on a very high dosage of antibiotics [cries]. Feeling very sorry for myself! Anyone have any suggestions for clearing the blockage? DD2 has been feeding well off my bad boob but it still feels hard and red so not sure what to do....

As for babies being boring, honestly I agree. I love DD1 and DD2 but I couldn't stay home to look after them it would drive me mad. Sometimes you just need a bit of adult conversation and to feel like a person again, not a mum (iyswim).

Oh marmite you poor thing, I've only had blocked ducts a couple of times not full blown mastitis but even that made me feel awful. Have you tried blasting it with a hot shower whilst massaging it? Or getting dh to try? There is no way I would be able to let my dh do it but I know some people have had success that way.