March 2016 - quick, a new thread!

[Swearwolf]

Sorry for the terrible title, I saw the old thread was up to 996 posts and panicked!

Ooh don't I feel important

Oh TriJo I'm so sorry. You must be feeling absolutely rotten, take care of yourself and hope C is feeling better soon.

Oh no, TriJo. ❤

Oh TriJo you poor things. Hope C rallies soon and you can have a snuggly weekend coming to terms with your loss.

I'm so sorry Trijo ❤️

Oh Tri . Even when it's a loss early on in the pregnancy it's still a loss and it's still a horrible thing to happen. Have a lovely restful weekend and take as long as you need to just feel sad and grieve. I hope C feels better soon too.

So sorry for your loss trijo.
Hope you get some rest and lots of support ❤

Oh my goodness TriJo I am so sorry

Oh tri there really is nothing anyone can say . Know we are thinking about you though and look after yourself .

So sorry for your loss trijo

So sorry trijo take care of yourself hope C is feeling a bit better and you get the chance for a rest.

Rest? What rest? Turns out C has hand foot and mouth and he's been an absolute nightmare with it all weekend. Pass the vodka.

We found a virasoothe worked very well (available from chemists - its a gel) when R had either a mild case of chicken pox or hand foot and mouth before christmas (exposed to both with symptoms that didn't quite fit either)... and socks on her hands but she was horrific for a couple of nights so hope C is feeling a bit better now.

So today was C's first proper day at nursery, I had lots of things that I needed to sort today but was looking forward to doing it all in my own time in peace. First dh's trains are up the spout so he decides to work from home then nursery ring to say C has a temp and needs to be collected. She'd only been there 20 mins! They have a stupid rule that says they will only give calpol once in a day so if there is more than 4 hours left in the day they have to be picked up, they don't even see if the temp goes down, she might not even need any more later. To be fair she does have a cold but she probably picked that up during her settling in sessions there last week. It's a good job I'm not at work yet.

How annoying MrsElls! DS started last week and he made it a week before coming down with a stinking cold on Sunday our nursery will give calpol and see if a temperature comes down which is good. DS didn't have a temp yesterday or this morning so I'm hoping we won't get a call today but he was really grumpy when I dropped him off and so snotty, I felt awful about leaving him there while he's under the weather. His key worker said they had lots of cuddles yesterday, but it's not the same as being with mum is it

That seems a silly system MrsE our place will give Calpol although we ended up keeping her off one of her days last week as she really was too ill to go in - she still seems pretty off a week later so will be shipped off to the Drs tomorrow to check out the cough.

I cant believe we are rapidly approaching the start of first birthdays! Is anyone doing anything much? Fully appreciate that they have no idea whats going on so I was quite happy not doing anything much maybe raising a glass with DH that we had all survived it but my mum is nagging to do something and i know the inlaws will all want to descend so wondering about giving them all a two hour window...!

Our creche has something similar, it's a pain in the arse! I'm just waiting on DH's annual leave year to reset in February so I can stop burning mine every time C gets sick. He's already had bronchiolitis, pinkeye and HFM this winter and it's only just over 2 months since he started nursery.

C's cold in now accompanied by gunky eyes, took her to baby clinic and hv said no sign of infection so is likely to be blocked tear duct rather than conjunctivitis. Ds struggled with blocked tear ducts at her age and had loads of eye drops when conjunctivitis was mistakenly diagnosed. Took C to nursery when I picked ds up and asked if they would take her tomorrow, explained what hv had said and they said if she still had discharge tomorrow I would need a Dr note saying its not conjunctivitis. Firstly, I'm not going to get an appointment tomorrow and secondly do Dr's even do notes anymore! Not considering the waste of NHS resources. Grr, its a good job I'm not back at work yet.

Wow MrsE your nursery sound like they're being a bit of a pain! When do you start back at work? Hopefully C will have got it all out of her system by then!

TriJo I haven't had to take any leave yet (we're only 2 weeks in!) but it's so annoying isn't it. I'm lucky that DH works from home a few days a week and his employer is pretty flexible - his boss will sometimes work from home to care for his sick kids so DH can probably cover a fair amount of sickness without taking leave. My firm on the other hand doesn't believe in working from home really ever so they definitely won't allow it for a sick child and I'll have to take annual leave. We've just booked a holiday for the summer and decided to just go for one week not two in case we need to use up a lot of holiday on sickness!

Now that I'm at the end of my second week back at work reality is setting in re what it's like being a full time working mum. I miss DS two full days at the weekend plus an hour or so each in the mornings and evenings on weekdays doesn't seem like enough time with him.

You do get used to it Me - it's a total shock to the system going straight back to full time work. Make the time that you have with him really special. If it's not working out though consider putting in a flexible working request.

Hi everyone, kind of dropped off the thread for a bit. I haven't really caught up but I see we're almost due a new thread anyway...

Trijo, so sorry for your loss, I hope you're doing ok.

Hope everyone else is alright?

I'm due back to work in two weeks, and having various nightmares. I don't really want to go back, but am currently trying to sort out childcare at the last minute as we've been let down.

I'd struggled to find childcare to start with as I needed someone who could take DS before and after his hours at preschool at the local primary school, which we'd also applied to for September. I'd found a childminder who was new to the area, she said she'd be all sorted and could take them by the 20th Feb, so DH took my first week off to bridge the gap. Only she messaged on sunday saying OFSTED said it was going to be possibly another 8 weeks, leaving us with no childcare for 5 weeks. She offered to nanny for us for that time but our flat is small and cluttered, she has her own child too who I assume would have to come with her before and after school, and DH is being difficult saying he doesn't trust her now she's messed us around. So we're looking at a combination of nursery for the baby and before and after school club for the boy (which I'd worry about as they normally take them from reception upwards and he's still in preschool, but his birthday is September so he's only a few weeks younger than the youngest reception kids. But still), then a different childminder who can take them from April. There's also another childminder who could take them two of the days I need, so that might be an option too. But I am so stressed about it, and DH isn't helping, he's behaving like this is all my fault because I've cocked up somehow, which I haven't.

I also heard from my manager last week, who hasn't been in touch at all since my flexible working request a few months ago. I'd had a letter from HR saying I would be working 3 days, which was what I requested, but nobody got in touch to discuss it. He's just told me that actually I didn't get the 3 days I wanted but 3 and a half condensed into 3, so I'll have to work longer days. He was like 'oh yeah, that letter is a bit ambiguous isn't it' - it said 24 hours a week, 8 working hours per day, tuesday to thursday. The key word here being working. Obvious now I know, but it really wasn't clear when the letter came and I had no reason to suspect they hadn't agreed to my request. I called HR to complain but she just said it did say in the letter. So I'll now be working 7.30-4.30.

I'm just feeling shit about going back, and these things are not helping :-(

Thanks Tri. The weekends do feel super special and I love that I don't get frustrated with DS at all because I'm just so happy to be spending time with him even if he is being a little bugger who won't nap DH and I decided before I went back full time that I'd give it 6 months to really see how it's going and if after that I feel like it's not working then I will put in a request to go down to 4 days. Which does, in my job, mean working full time for part time pay unfortunately, that's why I decided to go back full time in the first place, but maybe I'll think that's worth it to spend more time with DS. We'll see.

Swear that's utterly shit, all of it. I can't believe the childminder has messed you around so much, she must have known before Sunday that she wasn't going to have her registration in time. Leaving you with only a few weeks to sort an alternative is really bad. And work really haven't been very helpful about your hours, are you supposed to be a mind reader? Will they let you work a shorter day with no lunch break?

New thread alert!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2847951-March-2016-first-birthdays-coming-up

May as well finish up the thread! Very quiet on here these days, i guess we're all so much busier than in the antenatal days/ early newborn phase. I know I've been insanely busy since going back to work.

Dd2 is doing well, still sleeping in our bed and now im back at work I've fully embraced it as means i get my cuddles! She's teething though so an absolute nightmare.

swear that sounds really shit about tour child minder letting you down. Fx you get things sorted.

me hope things are getting easier for you. Full time work with kids is tough going. Like you, its not really a sensible option for me financially as I'd just be doing full time work in part time hours on part time pay.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, and see you all on new thread!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2847951-March-2016-first-birthdays-coming-up