The 12th Gemini Bus - the journey continues

[AGnu]

Looking forward to seeing where this thread takes us!

[Loraline]

I saw a gorgeous pic of beautiful baby girl on FB and HAD to find you all and say co congratulations AGnu! She's gorgeous.

Hope you're all well. C is loving school and 19 month old E is happy at nursery. I'm flat out at work so tired too but all is well.

[AGnu]

Thanks Lor! We're all rather besotted with her. The photo of DS2 talking to her with his bear makes me cry - it's just so sweet! I'm not normally an overly sentimental person, must be the hormones!

Glad everything's going well with your 2! Any plans for any more or are you done?

[Loraline]

Done. Definitely done. 2 is enough for me!

It was that photo with the bear that I saw first. Totally adorable. I love her name too! One of those fantastic, not heard much these days but not weird or unusual names. Really lovely

[peardrop2]

Agnu congratulations!!!! Oh so exciting! Your family is complete or maybe not Anyway, just came on to see if there was news. I hope you’re enjoying all the cuddles and not too many bad nights!!! Got to say it’s rare in my house to get a full nights sleep with a 4 and 1 year old!

Lor glad to hear things are well with you too. It’s quite mad having two isn’t it! I really don’t know how you manage to juggle work on top of it all. Super star ⭐️

I’ve just finished my first term back at college. It’s been amazing. I’m not studying anything important...just a one day a week hobby to get a bit of me time. I have found having two children quite lonely so it’s just been a good distraction as I haven’t got the career to distract me. Anyway, it’s nice to be able to say that I do something other then school runs, cooking and baby classes

[peardrop2]

Hello, it’s 3am and I can’t sleep so it just occurred to me that traditionally I must share my exciting news!! Found out this week that I am pregnant with no3 It’s a massive shock because it’s happened first month of trying 😮 You might remember it took me 1.5yrs to conceive DD so we’re very surprised things have happened so quickly! You hear storires like this so obviously it happens.,,I just didn’t expect it to happen to me at all, There will be a two year gap between middle and last child, I don’t know if that’s good or bad. I’m sure there will be positives and negatives, Naturally I am already freaking out that I’ll have enough time to give both a 2 year old and a baby enough of my time (plus a 5 year old starting Yr1). I think I would always worry though whatever. I have a 3 year gap between bpear and tinypear and that feels quite large as bpear is in school and tiny pear is still not walking unaided. Quite a few of my friends have had small gaps with their first two and then a larger one with their third. I am doing the opposite (could be smaller though).

Still, as always I am mainly wishing for a healthy baby and a safe arrival. I’ve already been told I can’t have anymore natural births so this birth will be much more planned.

I hope everyone else is doing well?

[AGnu]

How exciting pear, congratulations! Fx it all goes well for you!

I actually think having a smaller gap between 2 & 3 makes sense. bpear is settled in school so you don't have to worry about that change with a newborn as well. He'll be old enough to talk to about it & be able to help out with fetching things & you can make him feel involved & important as the oldest. When are you due? How do you feel about not being allowed to labour naturally? How are you feeling in general?

[peardrop2]

Thank you Agnu and what good points you make about bpear being older and wiser! I hadn’t really even thought about how I’ll be able to talk to him more. I have a friend who is expecting her 3rd soon and she will have a 6 year old 4 year old... it will be interesting to see how things change for her too. Slightly different as she will have two in school by September. I think I should focus on how I’ll be able to give my love to Tinybpear no matter what as she can stay at home with me and the baby instead of going to a nursery and having me as a working mother etc. I mustn’t let myself get too riddled with guilt about her being the middle child! Fingers crossed she enjoys it

I feel great so far but it’s early days and I didn’t get much sickness with the other two. I was much worse with tinypear (mainly because I wasn’t sitting behind a desk anymore) so it will be interesting to see what happens with sickness and tiredness. I am hungry and have tingly boobs but not much else apart from tiredness. To be honest though I’m always tired

DH thinks I’m behaving like a nutter because I keep saying things like “it’s so weird to go out for a meal and be amongst family/friends who have no idea that I am pregnant”! I think it’s because the whole world knew I was TTC 1&2 so I feel like this will be a real surprise. I am due in October but it will more likely arrive in September because of the c-section. I am pleased not to have another summer baby as bpear is really struggling being one of the youngest in school. He cries every morning at the moment, begging me not to leave him, it’s heartbreaking. The school is amazing and so positive with him so we’re very lucky. He has a fantastic time when he is there and I see so many happy photos and short video clips of him enjoying his time. They say he is lovely but emotionally hasn’t quite developed fast enough like the others so he is struggling to fit into a friendship group. The government has got it so wrong. He would have been far better off starting school at age 5. It’s made him grow up far too quickly and he’s utterly exhausted everyday. Worse at the weekends to the point that I’ve cancelled his swimming lessons as he just can’t cope with any extras. However, he does love school and they’re doing a great job so it’s just a matter of time before he gets there. I think he will be far more settled in Yr1 or Yr2.

How are you finding having 3 Agnu? Is everyday a blur?

[peardrop2]

Oh I forgot to say that I’ve got my head around not having a natural birth now. The consultant broke the news soon after tinypear was born when I went for my post birth review. It’s just too risky with the tearing I experienced with both children. Obviously I hate the idea of it being so clinical but I had the most amazing hypnobirthing experience with tinypear so I don’t feel too robbed. I know from experience that the surgery team at my hospital are amazing and since I end up in surgery post birth (both times) anyway it really should make little difference. The difference is this time is that we will be able to plan. DH is self employed so it will be fantastic to plan ahead a little and I walk to school so I don’t need to drive for a while anyway. It should all be semi OK. Plus I’ve been told I won’t find the recovery too dis similar to what I’ve experienced before. We’re not going to find out the gender this time. I think it will be a nice surprise in the theatre to keep me focused on something positive. I always feel like I know what I’m having anyway. The scan is just a confirmation...maybe I’ll get it wrong this time!!!

[Loraline]

Hi. Sorry I've been quiet. In definitely not a superstar juggling my 2 and work. I'm just knackered!

Pear amazing news! So happy for you and delighted you haven't had to deal with the stress of TTC this time. How lovely. C Section sounds like a great plan. As you say, no point in risking bad tearing again. The longer term consequences are too rubbish. Another baby. Wow.

[AGnu]

I think we're all a bit quiet these days @Loraline!

How's everyone doing? All ok with the newest addition to the @peardrop2 clan?

[AGnu]

& yes, I have been deliberately waiting until exactly 1 year after Lor's post to make a joke about us all being a bit quiet!