March 2016 - I can't think of a pithy title because I'm too sleep deprived :/

[DomesticAnarchist]

New thread?
Sorry, really couldn't think of something humorous!

pixie hope that gets figured out for you soon. Reflux sucks.

Someone asked up thread if T had silent reflux due to her car seat screaming. It's not something we've investigated but I'm pretty sure she doesn't, as she sleeps fine on her back. I think it's more likely her general Velcro baby thing - she's happiest attached to me, preferably mouth-to-boob - and gets frantic when I'm not around sometimes. She does sleep or hang out with DH in the sling, but there's often an initial angry cry before she settles.

I have a Velcro baby today too. First time it's happened, which is lucky! I think he's properly teething (I'm sure I felt a sharp bit when I bonjela' him earlier). He is a sad boy.

I need to finish this marking today. I'm hoping I can plonk him on DH in front of the F1 later.

He was having such a scream earlier, nothing was making it better. So I took him in the shower with me. That calmed him down for a bit, I thoroughly recommend it (though beware of slippy babies!)

Baby sensory here is consisting of listening to my sewing machine. It has taken 6h to do two cushions with nappy changes etc.

Pixie I hope the referral ens in your mind being put to rest.

Mines been a velcro baby since birth. Slings are great but impossible to do most types of housework with a baby stuck to you.

Jealous of you having a baby who sleeps through the night me (even if it was only for one night).

Sounds like a nice day care ffaux. And yy to it being easier on them to go into childcare before they reach the separation anxiety age.

How worrying for you Pixie but the important thing is that he seems alert and happy, etc. It could well be that nothing is wrong but if it is at least they can find out what now and hopefully improve things for him.

trinpy us too. DH does most of the cleaning on the weekend, I do all the laundry, grocery shopping and meal planning and preparation. I don't cook weeknights as I'm uncomfortable with the hob and sling, but try to leave everything chopped and seasoned ready for DH. I expect we'll reverse tasks in September when I go back to work and he's on shared leave. The garden and lawn is always my domain though, and DH does the bicycle maintenance.

He's definitely not invited Swear, we saw the couple today and thought we'd broach it carefully so mentioned that we were going to speak to my parents to try and sort childcare, and they said they'd understand if we couldn't come. So definitely a no children wedding. Shame, we're going to have a think about it - few weeks before we need to RSVP.

DS has been lovely today and the teeth aren't bothering him as much. I think we had a "teething nappy" though - it was disgusting and quite green coloured?! Yuck.

Sympathies to those with Velcro babies. I agree slings aren't quite the magical solution some parents make them out to be! I can't bend down properly with DS in our sling nor sit down properly - can just about sort of perch on the edge of a chair with my legs spread wide (very ladylike!) and his legs hanging down in between mine. We find we're using it less now DS is bigger. I do take him for walks in it sometimes but he usually stays awake now and likes to look around. I'm thinking of turning him round in it soon so he faces out - his head control is very good so I think he'll be ok.

We've had lots of those sort of nappies recently me - green and disgusting(and lots of them). Ds has nappy rash too so I think it's all teething related. He has been clingyer than usual today too but that might just be a coincidence.

Such a shame about the wedding Me. I don't understand why people don't want children at weddings - they're family events! The whole thing is about family! the hen/stag dos are for unbridled piss-ups.

I eventually gave up trying to work around my Velcro baby (though I did manage to get the ring sling on twice without waking him up!) and he had a good long nap on me. And woke up much happier.

I'm one of the 'anything's possible with a sling' people! But I have 3 different carriers and several years of use behind me! And I'm not keen on housework or cooking anyway!

Now I've had a nice afternoon of cuddles, I better finish as much of this marking as I can and work out what I'm doing tomorrow. (Pump is already sterilised and packed, mustn't forget it)

I'm also of the 'anythings possible with a sling' persuasion though i think i depends on the sling! I have a woven wrap which is super comfortable. Am a bit gung ho and will just cook dinner with dd2 in it. me i think (?) Outward facing isn't recommended though can't remember why, but some carriers do hip carries which are good for nosy babies. Dd2 is very nosy these days and spends a lot of time being worn so she just cranes her neck to look around haha.

That sucks about the lack of children at the wedding. I've not had a wedding invite yet where my kids have not been invited and not sure what I'd do in that case. A good friend of mine and dh's is getting married next year and she was complaining about how children count in the head count for venues so I'm expecting dd1 and dd2 to not be invited but depending on when next year dd2 may be quite old then so may be doable. I definitely wouldn't go to a wedding if it was in the next couple of months and it was no children. I can see the whole 'its too expensive to include children' argument but when people don't invite babies (who don't eat a meal) I think it's a bit off. Just my personal POV though. When I chatted to my friend about the whole no kids thing she just didn't seem to get that you might not want to leave your child when they are young (obviously she doesn't have kids) let alone additional issues if you are bf which will be an issue for us next year as i plan to bf still then. Its a real shame but just go with your gut nearer the time on what youd feel most comfortable doing. I know some people who genuinely are happy to leave their babies but i couldn't. My step sister had a baby 6 days after me so end if march and she left the baby with my step mum to go to Glastonbury festival i know someone else from pregnancy yoga who had their baby a week after me and she went to a festival in Exeter for the weekend recently with her husband and left baby with her mum. Obviously in both cases baby is ff so the mums could physically do it but honestly i can't imagine being able to drop baby off at grandparents for 2-3 days to go off somewhere several hours travel away to go out on the piss right now. But each to their own. Just do whats right for you, at least you know the couple in question won't get offended if you decide not to go.

On the subject of weddings, best one I went to post baby was when dd1 was 9 months old and an Italian friend of mine got married in Italy in September. Was a lovely wedding which immense amounts of food and best of all they arranged child care for during the meal so had on site child minders who had toys etc and fed babies their tea and put them to bed. The kids were in a little building next to the courtyard where our dinner was and dd1 always needed to be rocked to sleep so I was worried about it but the childminders rocked her to sleep, came to the window and stuck her thumbs up at me so in knew dd1 was asleep. I could then enjoy my meal and have a few drinks. At the end of the night the couple arranged coaches back to the hotel. It was great. Course dd1 was a crap sleeper so i ended up tired and hungover with no sleep, but it was totally worth it!

Me I'm going to put an alternative view out there and say a wedding without the kids can actually be rather nice. The thing is, you can never quite relax with them around as they always need your attention /entertaining. I guess it depends on how you are feeding and if you have someone you would be totally relaxed leaving them with and how far away it is. If I had a wedding id really want to go to, i would probably go on my own and leaving the kids with DP (we don't have parents who can help unfortunately). If you think you'll be constantly worrying then there is nothing wrong with declining the invite.

I forgot who it was that made the cushions but they look fab!

If forgotten about the teething nappies!

We've got awful nappies too. Green, slimy, stinky and very frequent (even needing changing twice in the night WTF) does that sound like teething? He's also drooling and chewing on his fists a lot. Please tell me it doesn't last until his teeth arrive (no sign of any yet), as I may need to remortgage to afford all the nappies!

Anyone with the green slimy nappies have a recent dose of rota virus vaccination? That's what caused ours. It can also be from a cold or teething for sure, all that mucous goes somewhere!

I love my sling and can do quite a bit with T in it, but I can't manage tasks that require bending forward, and in this house that includes hoovering as all the larger toys and baby gear have to get picked up and moved around. I did cook with her on me when T was smaller, but she kicks like a mule when she's excited and I won't risk a pot getting knocked off the hob, especially with DS under foot.

Rhu you're right that it might be a nice break from DS. He is ff so no problem leaving him from that point of view. If it was a more local wedding then I'd happily leave him with my parents for the day. It's just overnight I feel a bit uncomfortable about even though he'll be 7.5 months by then. We'll see, they are lovely friends and I would like to be there.

MShip no recent vaccine here so I think it is teething. DS has his third lot of jabs on Wednesday though, relieved this is the last lot for a while!

Ugh c wouldn't settle until 2am last night. She slept 8:30-10:45 but after a feed wouldn't go back down.
Thank god she slept until 10am this morning though (with two feeds in between )

The problem with the sling is that you can't really bend over to pick stuff up because the baby's head sort of flops back a bit. Makes doing laundry challenging. Also, you get a blind spot where the baby is which makes doing things like putting small children in the child seats in shopping trollies very difficult (can't see where their feet should go). I had a stretch wrap when he was tiny, then a connecta, now a boba air.

I think the thing with facing outwards is it can be bad for their hips?

doc yep that's exactly what we've got. It doesn't last the whole time they're teething - I think ds1 only had it for a couple of weeks at a time and only twice. He didn't actually get any teeth until around 6 months (maybe later?) but 'teething' just seemed to be a continous state from 3 months until 1.5. Could really do with the 4 am poos stopping now though!

Hope your return to work has gone ok indom

me I second the opinion that weddings are easier without children, though I do agree they are family occasions so arguably kids should be included. It's an individual thing I guess. Hopefully your friends can let you rsvp a bit late so you can decide what to do!

Sorry to hear about the green slimy nappies. Sounds grim. We didn't really get it even after the rotavirus imm. And as for teething, not a jot here, but my others didn't get them til about 9m. This means that DS1 now 5.5 is DESPARATE to lose a tooth as all his friends are but his late developing teeth are also late to depart it seems!

also meant to ask if anyone knows how beautiful is getting on?

Hello!

Teething nappies sound gross. We've only recently finished with the rota virus nappies (and he's got the next set of jabs tomorrow!).

Agree that laundry is nearly impossible with a carrier. I do find myself doing a lot of deep squats!

Work was ok, thanks magpie. I was a bit disconcerted when I got home and DS2 barely looked at me. But then he remembered I was the one with the boobs, so now he's friends with me again! I managed to pump 140ml x2 too, which is about what he had in bottles while I was away, apparently (split over 3 feeds). Which is reassuring. Going to pump again after he's asleep later.

Hi all, sorry it's been a while posting, I have been lurking every now and again but just don't seem to find the time to post!!

Dom wow to being back at work, well done for sounding so calm about it!! I have been in to sort out going back and it's not until January now, will be skint until then but shouldn't moan!!

DD starts school in Sept so will be lovely being able to take and pick her up for the first few months.

Ff My DD has used a childminder and a nursery environment, both have their advantages so I think you've done the right thing if it's what your comfortable with. I'm still undecided about where to send DS this time as I couldn't fault either?! May do a day of each as only work 3 days and MIL will take him the other which I'm very grateful for.

I'm sorry, I can't remember who was struggling with the bottle feeding suddenly. My DS did this, took one lovely...until it was actually necessary as I had plans. Caused alot of stress and panic but when left he did drink, admittedly it was bits here and there rather than full feeds but he was fine!!

In the last 2 weeks I've introduced formula and bottles have replaced the boobs. I would ideally have loved to combi feed but expressing to keep my supply up was too time consuming. I don't know how I feel, pleased that I lasted 4 months this time, guilty that it's my choice to stop rather than having to, pleased that it gives me a bit of space if necessary and sad all at once?! But DS was becoming such a faffy feeder, it wasn't enjoyable at the end and with school hols coming up DD won't be at nursery so will be nice to get DS looked after and spend some time alone with her like the old days.

Time seriously jealous of your 10am start. Pleased your getting out and about too, I find it so much easier if I'm busy, today has been a day spent at home and it's been a tough one!!

DS is also showing serious signs of teething, fists, fingers and any objects he can grab are being shoved in his mouth, and today he has been the Velcro baby from hell!! He will not entertain himself at all, won't take a dummy so dentinox and calpol have been out in force. His cry has increased from a groany whimper to a fully charged shouty scream....soooo hard to tolerate!!

Any genius ways of keeping a 4 month old entertained!? His playmat works for approx 3 mins now until he rolls onto his front and then is pissed as he cant do anything?!

(Sorry this is just a moany thread but DS is being such hard work at the moment...6 weeks of having to look after both children 24/7 is sending me grey...)

Do you have a Jumperoo Poppins? We unpacked ours over the weekend. First day J was just in for a few mins but today he loved it and was in for much longer. I think they have reached that boredom age though so it's a constant rotation of mat, bouncy chair, Jumperoo, cuddles, etc DS1 is a good source of entertainment for him. Anything he does he finds hilarious! He starts school in sept too. How lucky that we are off to do the first few months of the school run. Really looking forward to it.

Glad work was ok Dom.

I've just seen the finding nemo jumperoo and want it so so much. Justifying £80 on something ds won't understand Is proving difficult though.

Thoughts with all the teethers, we also have calpol and dentinox out in force. No green nappies but the smelliest pumps - they could clear a room.

Glad the day went well dom I may be returning to work/starting new job as of September. Seems so early but necessary. If I get the job I'm going to try put off the start date as long as feasible but I didn't tell them I'm on maternity leave (didn't want it to go against me, even though I know it shouldnt)

me maybe by then an evening away might be nice. I've left ds a max of 5 hours so far though so understand completely what you mean.

I do have a jumperoo rhu gathering dust in the garage, just didn't know what the age limits were etc, may be time to get it out in my already cramped living room resembling more and more like mothercare!!

My DS also adores DD so may have to start paying her a wage to entertain him

We don't have any teething nappies over here but to be honest we are lucky to have any type off poo nappy as DS only tends to poo once every 10-14 days (which all I was told to do was give him diluted apple juice by the doctor).
I take my hats off to those who are back to work I go back in November and dreading it already, we have a childminder sorted now so feel s bit better about it.
Anyone else got a really miserable baby at the moment? DS is constantly winging and at night goes into melt down he feeds, then kicks off its like I'm not giving him enough so yesterday night I fed him from boob then gave him 150ml of expressed milk then when he had finished that he started to cry then was sick I'm stuck on what to do. It just took over 1.5 hours of screaming, rocking , shhhhing and white noise to get DS to nod off one bark from the dog and game over he's now wide awake and talking to himself I could literally chuck the dog out the window!

As for entertaining babies I've found DS gets bored too so just rotating him from mat to swinging chair to on my lap etc not sure what else he can do... Might look into a jumperoo as some of you have suggested before to others.

Hope everyone has a good night tonight!

Firsttimemummy your DS sounds exactly like mine, love him dearly but he's not very likeable at the moment!! He has always been grumpy but his saving grace was he slept quite well on a night, wakes for feeds but went straight backs to sleep.... That was until this week when twice on the trot he's woken up for over an hour at 2am and 4am!!

I'm a second time mummy and don't remember it being so hard the first time round!! (Denial or selective memory?!?)