March 2016 babies! The (hopefully) graduation thread!

[hayleycookie]

We reached 999 posts without making a new thread - woops!

Park your bums and continue the newborn chitter, and due date whinges

Magpie, I can see why the induction is important, and why the change of plan has thrown you.

DSs birthday is going well. Soft-play party was brilliant - nice to be able to turn up, have them do all the food and party bags and then leave them all the tidying up! He's now playing (very loudly) with his cousin - having a great day by all accounts!

Congrats crispy and tri, they are both gorgeous! Lets hope for the final two babies safely tomorrow

Hi all! Not been on here much recently - having 3 DC is keeping me surprisingly busy .

Congratulations on all the new babies and good luck to those (only two of us now?) who are still to have theirs.

We have settled in well as a family of five and we have been out and about lots, including for several meals out with all the children .

Ted is now nearly four weeks old and I am sure that he was smiling yesterday! Only managed to get this pic as I was too busy smiling back! He sleeps much better than the other two did - usually first sleep of the night is 4/5 hours and then about 4 after that until morning. Naps are a bit less predictable.

C

Congrats Crispy and Trijo! Two gorgeous boys for you, well done.

Magpie, really hope things get sorted for your induction and there's no second unplanned home birth. I'll keep everything crossed you get in and birthed tomorrow.

Indom, fx for you for tomoz too. Glad DS has had a lovely birthday and it didn't exhaust you too much.

Mrs, Ted is very cute! And there's definitely a cheeky smile there! Can't wait for those!

Had a rough night here last night. Zach woke three tines between 1.30 and 6.30 but struggled to latch each time and spent a long time fussing and crying. DH slept through pretty much all of it, even ehen DS1 also woke at another time (which I ended up dealing with too). Very grumpy and snappy today then when DH said he'd forgotten to get ketchup while shopping and I merely asked, did you not have a list? Cue him telling me to stop jumping down his throat, me saying a bit of sympathy to my exhausted state wouldn't go amiss, and him saying it's best off we don't speak to each other if I couldn't not be snappy. I obviously cried lots and we've barely spoken since. Sleep deprivation sucks! Jealous of all you a getting more than 2/3 hours in one go!

Ah, Missi, sorry to hear about your argument. Thats the kind me & DH have when we both get too strung out. Hopefully it'll be resolved soon.

Huge congrats Crispy and Trijo. Beautiful babies. Congrats to everyone else too as I haven't posted for a while.

Magpie that must be so frustrating. Hoping you get in tomorrow and aren't waiting too much longer.

Missi I feel for you. DP and I have had a few snippy arguments too. He thinks I micro manage him with the baby..and I totally do because I'm a control freak

J is going about 4 hours between feeds at night but during the day he turns into a raging milk monster. I'm worried he's taking too much, but we try everything to space him out. Dummy, distraction, nappy change, comfort, change of scene, etc. But he still roots away and does his 'feed me' cry. DS1 was the same and a pretty chunky baby (98th centile) but at nearly 4 he's slimmed right down. Think J might be the same.

DS1 seems besotted with J at the moment. Gives him lots of kisses! I wonder how long that will last! Here are the 2 of them together. Love them so much.

Was thinking today how it really doesn't seem that long ago when the original March 2016 thread was started and we were all getting tentative positive pregnancy tests and now nearly all the baby's are here. Really feels like weeks ago not months!

missi I feel for you with the dh arguments, I've been awful to dp lately when Rory hasn't slept. Luckily he just takes him off me and demands I go nap to stop being a cow haha.

Been back to mau again today - episiotomy is infected so prescribed erythromycin and metronidazole. Dr said functionally it'll heal fine but cosmetically I may need 'something done' I broke down in tears, dp said he doesn't care what it looks like but that's not the point. Just feel so resentful to this amazing little man and I know I shouldn't roll on the antib's kicking in - think I'll feel much better when I'm not in pain every time I move.

MrsBen, Trijo and Rhu gorgeous pictures of gorgeous babies..and bigger siblings.

Q sorry to hear that about the infection and possible need for some changes down there. It's not exactly the same but about 3 years ago I found a weird bit of extra skin down there, quite big which apparently was a large skin tag. I actually think it was a result of stitching from having ds as I don't understand what else would have caused it. Anyway I had a small procedure to tidy it up and it's fine now..well until this birth. I'm not sure if yours will be as simple as that but I wanted to know I've also cried over how it looks and had to go and have the appointment about it. You have my sympathy and your dh sounds as lovely as mine was about it all

Missi for you too. When ds was small dh and I argued terribly, it was a real testing time for us and it really was down to tiredness and worry over being responsible for a real live baby.

missi sorry to hear you and your dh have been arguing. Dh and I did terriably after dd was born and had the odd couple of stupid and very loud arguments in the first couple of days I was home. Sleep deprivation (and hormoans) really don't help, and you've had months of it! Touch wood dh is now taking it in his stride and remembered not to take things too personally when I start to flag in the late afternoon/early evening. If he upsets me his mostly leart to leave me alone if I ask after saying sorry and not try to justify himself until I've had time to calm down, which might involve venting at him! His also started to ask if I need him to shut up and go away when things seem to turn a little fraut. Just have to remember to tellk him how much I apprciate what he does do when I'm not in the middle of a hormonal worn out cluster feeding session!

q the infection sounds horriable, hope you're feeling more comfortable soon. I can understand why you feel so upset about the potentail of more work being needed down there. I've been really lucky with healing from my 3rd degree tear, although itching and what seems like millions of disovable stiches coming away have been driving me nutty, but the idea of going through the intial discomfort after stiching made me really worried about something going wrong.

I had a massive colt, tmi but the size and length of two fingers, come away the night before last that really freaked me out. Was so worried I was going to have to go back to hospital, potenially stay over night or just visit for a check up which would upset dd's return to some sort of routine. My mum eventually convinced me to call up the post natal ward and I spoke to one of the lovely midwifes I remember from my stay. She conviced me to have a prod at the clot and disscover lots of the suturing thread imbeded which the blood must have caught on! For those of you who've had internal stiches apparently it can happen, wish I'd been told that in advance.

Poor dd isn't very well at the moment. Really difficult having to let dh deal with her as it's usually my job to look after her when she's poorly. Also feel terriable having to tell her not to kiss or cuddle Eddy, trying and possiably failing by the snuffle his developing to prevent her giving him her cold. She coughed so much last night she made herself sick all over her bed. Such a brave girl, got up and just wanted to wash her hands and face and go back to bed. I had bit of a cry when dh sat with her while she went back to sleep because I had to feed Eddy, normally he'd have slept in her bed and she'd have come in with me.

Congrats trijo and crispy, gorgeous boys! Happy Birthday to your DS. indom glad you had a good day, I imagine energy reserves are seriously depleted now!

missi urgh DH and I are like that sometimes, there is a reason that sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture! Hope you guys make up soon

Q oh no you poor thing!

I've had a tough couple of days and was beginning to fear PND was starting. Just non-stop proper sobbing for 3 days, and started telling DH that we should give her up so a better mother could look after her for a split second I just wanted to run away. However for the first time Seren actually slept last night for 2 two- hour stretches between feeds, and I managed to sleep too instead of just obsessively watching her breathing! Feel better today so hopefully just normal baby blues . Feeding still not going great but I'm getting support, and she is almost back to her birthweight

dobby good to know (re clots) and hope your DD gets better soon

I don't want to do it. DS is enough, he's great now. What if it goes wrong? What if.. I'll just keep it in now. Yep.

indom You will be fine! And DS will love having a sibling. There was lots of screaming about not being able to do it and wanting to keep the baby in during labour from me! I was a total cliche.

ff You've had a really hard time and are doing amazingly! I think it can be difficult to differentiate between sleep deprivation and PND. The symptoms of both are very similar! It sounds like you are getting there, with the feeding. Well done!

dobby that clot sounds bloody terrifying! I'd forgotten about the joys of the lochia.

Anyone else up feeding? Am SO tired but he wants to be constantly on the boob, as you'd expect. If we were at home, I'd doze too, but the hospital beds are too narrow and high - I worry too much about dropping him!

indom no no no stop that talk now! He's coming soon and it's going to be WONDERFUL!

Congratulations Crispy and tri beautiful boys!

Missi sorry to hear you and DH have been arguing, my DH I'm sure thinks he keeps saying what he thinks is supportive helpful comments at the moment but not sure they are.

FF sorry to hear you've been feeling rough I had a full blown sob at DH earlier about how I Was a complete failure at breast feeding and everything I was doing was wrong, and have been feeling very down for a couple of days, then I was feeling guilty that I felt like that when I have such a beautiful girl staring up at me... it's amazing how 3 hours sleep just now has made me feel a lot better, hope you're feeling a bit better too.

indom you'll be fine! I have to admit the first week or so with El and DD1 was tough and both me and DP really struggled with juggling needs of a 28 month old and a newborn. But now - at 12 days pp- things seem to have settled into a new routine and I feel like we're getting on top of things.

Got my discharge appt for E today and another appointment at bf clinic. Think I'm going to ask them to check for posterior tongue tie again as E makes a clicking sound when she's feeding and I've heard that can be a sign of tongue tie.

I've still not heard from the health visiting team, I asked DPs mum about it yesterday (she's a HV in a different area) and she said I should have as apparently they are supposed to visit between days 10-14. Will have to ask about it today. In a bit annoyed at having to ask about it, I also had to ask about having E's hearing test and chase it up.

Didn't have a great night last night, E only woke at 11, 2 and 4.45 but at 11 and 2 she fed for ages (an hour) so I didn't actually get that much sleep and my boobs feel so sore this morning! I'm slightly worried I've got thrush on my breasts as my boobs hurt (rather than just my nipples) and Eleanor had thrush nappy rash yesterday. But not sure if my boobs hurt due to engorgement and I'm just imagining symptoms!

ffaux sorry to hear you've been struggling - sleep deprivation and issues with pumping, weight etc are bound to get to you, but do keep an eye on it in case its PND and seek help if you feel you need it.

q sorry to hear about your infection and worries over how things will look - but things might be better once its actually healed. I'll be honest and say I've never closely looked looked at all at my scar from episiotomy with DD1 but DP has never mentioned anything so have hoped it looks normal buries head in sand

Indom I always have a big freak out right before I go into labour so I'll be keeping my eye on you!

Anyway, morbid but one day you and your DH won't be here but your DS will have his brother. I have a fantastic memory but I barely remember age 0-5 so he probably won't remember a time his brother wasn't there anyway! It'll be fab :)

Ha, Crispy that reminds me of the lovely moment I knew Nancy was about to start crowning and I put my hands over my fanny to try to stop her coming out! The midwives had to keep telling me to move them!

Q sorry to hear about the infection. It might heal ok yet, and your DP sounds v reassuring

sorry, feel much more pragmatic this morning! Just one of those late-night panics!

Interesting Beaut, I'll let you know if there's a correlation! Got a sweep today (40+6), followed potentially by a nice walk.

That kind of morbid thought is fine. I'd like them to have each other in the future. It was the rather more immediate & selfish morbid thoughts that were doing me in last night!

Labour was so... fine last time. No big deal. And this pregnancy has been so east & straightforward. I feel like I'm owed some drama/horror, and I really don't want it!

ff sorry to hear you've been having a turbulent time with worry etc but glad things are feelings a bit better after some sleep.

indom good luck with the sweep and walk. I think that feeling of doom is common before labour like beaut said so fx things are happening!

q sorry to hear about infection and appearance - hopefully it might not be too bad, but I know its not what you want.

marmite it's so annoying when you feel like you're the only one who knows what's going on and what needs to happen, sympathies. Well done for being so on the ball and chasing it all up though!

I'm thankfully admitted now and just waiting to be examined. Having regular tightenings which look promising. Eeeek! DH very relieved to be here and not risking another fast one at home.

Ff sorry to hear you've been feeling so down, hopefully like you say a bit of sleep really can work wonders and I hope you continue to feel more settled.

Sleep deprivation is horrendous, I wrote on the thread about a fortnight ago about how it was affecting me and DP, after a lot if wise words on here I did confront him as he'd snapped at me in front of our Dd, he felt like I was speaking down to him, so I broke...but explained how physically and mentally shattered I was and NEEDED help...until then I really think he was completely oblivious!! He said I could ask him do do anything I wanted re housework etc...he was stumped when i pointed out he doesn't ask me, I just do the chores!! Since then, although I'm still sleep deprived as bfing, he has been helping a lot more, this in itself has really taken some pressure off and helped my mood!!

Indom, your very entitled to have a freak out...but you will be fine!!! I can't believe not only have you worked up until the bitter end but that you also have a 2yo . My Dd was 4 the day before Albert was born, the first week was quite testing, Dd loved her brother but was pushing me and her Dad quite spectacularly...but I'm happy to say this has passed. I was heartbroken that my Dd was so emotional wit the arrival of DS and thought if ruined our lovely set up...but now my heart bursts when she's doing her sisterly duties!! Don't get me wrong she still has her moments, she's 4 going on 14, but our new set up is growing on me too!! (Pic attached too!!)

Everything seemingly good at this end, still feeding well, still waking 2-3 hourly during the night so stupidly jealous of these 5-6 hours I'm reading about!! I'm a bit fed up with 'me' however. Really feeling about as fat and frumpy as possible, DP telling me to 'give myself a break, I've just had a baby' but doesn't get it. It's not just that, I don't fit in my clothes, I begrudge buying new feeding friendly stuff as it's stuff I wouldn't ordinarily wear, but can't get to the gym etc at the moment due to bfing....gah!! Think I'm going to try expressing today, if I can get Albert to take a bottle in an evening to give me some 'time out'. I'm still in my PJs now as have no desire to get dressed, the only thing that fit comfortably are my socks!!! (And they prob have holes in!!) Haha

Anyway enough moaning...good luck to the last 2 babies due, and all the best to everyone with feeding, sleep, etc.

Forgot the pic...my 2 babies...little and large!!

marmite sorry you're still struggling. A posterior tongue tie is easily missed unless you are trained to spot them . All the midwives, hvs and bf councillors told me Yusef didn't have one as he could move his tongue around but as I've said before only an expert can spot and snip one. I'd really save myself the agony and check into a tongue tie clinic .

Glad you're in and able to relax (well, a bit!) magpie!

I'm now wildly swinging between pragmatism and outright denial/panic! (All cleverly hidden by deciding to opt out of reality and playing repetitive games on my phone. Cunning, right?!)

Poppins! I have a 5yo, not 2yo! There is absolutely no way I'd have coped with a 2yo! (In fact, when DS was 2 there was absolutely no way we could consider a second!) DS is increasingly brilliant and independent (and also at school after the Easter hols!)

Very cute pic!