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March 2016 babies - 2 here already, many more yet to come!!!

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Missikat · 19/02/2016 11:37

Hi ladies, thanks Indom for the suggestion of me starting a new thread. Seeing as Zach and myself have been knocking about on antenatal since November it will be lovely to have you all joining us shortly in the baby, rather than pregnancy conversations! Bring on the March babies!!!!

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shieldbug · 23/02/2016 20:17

So sorry miss, cross-posted. If I were you, I would go to the out of hours for peace of mind. Sounds like the symptoms you have had coupled with the dodgy equipment fully justify contacting out of hours. Good luck.

sherazade · 23/02/2016 20:34

missdee definitely call triage tell them of the white spots and swelling and your back history don't risk it

Trinpy · 23/02/2016 20:38

Hello everyone, haven't been able to get on here for a proper update for a couple of days but I have been checking the thread every so often to make sure everyone's OK and to see if any more babies have arrived!

Indom I love that your dh wells up watching DIY SOS, that's hilarious! Hopefully your ds will have fallen asleep long ago (and stay asleep!). I'm praying for a good sleeper this time - maybe we'll both get lucky? How much longer do you have left of work?

Suz interesting that you were given the option of a pre-birth visit when in other areas it seems compulsory. Seems to be a lot more sensible way of doing things IMO. Hope your baby turns the right way round soon(and ffaux, vroc and me's babies too!).

marmite that gp does sound a bit clueless - maybe she wasn't used to doing antenatal appointments? I wonder if she didn't write down the fh measurement because she wasn't entirely confident that she'd got it right?

Beaut hope that the consultant listens to your concerns tomorrow about being induced so close to your due date. Your way of doing things seems much more sensible under the circumstances, (but then again I'm not an obstetrician...).

I was the same as Beaut and didn't cry at all when ds was born (dh bawled his eyes out though!). I found it really hard to believe that the weird, wriggling, kicking lump in my belly was an actual baby and so when they handed me this screaming little person I was a bit more 'wtf?' rather than emotional. I watched Call The Midwife the other week and cried when the baby was born Blush. But it was partly because ds was watching too and he got all excited pointing at my bump and then at the TV screen and saying 'mummy, look, baby's here!', so I got a bit emotional about him being a big brother.

Also, silly question, but if you don't see the HV before you give birth, when do you get the red book? Does the mw give it to you at an antenatal appointment or do you have to wait until the birth. I only want to know because I keep having this weird nightmare that I can't dress my baby because I can't check his weight in the red book to know which size babygro to put him in Hmm.

Trinpy · 23/02/2016 20:42

X posted with everyone!

missdee I agree with getting a second opinion asap. Especially with your history, I don't think its worth the risk (and if its all fine it will put your mind at rest at least).

vroc81 · 23/02/2016 20:43

Missdee go get it checked, for your own peace of mind which in itself will bring your bp down.. I got sent off to triage by my community MW last week with a 150/95 and it went up and down a bit while I was there but the doctor I saw said they would be concerned to see mine at 160/100.. They just checked me over and had me back four days later for another check..

TheMshipIsBack · 23/02/2016 20:45

trinpy I think I got my red book when we were discharged from hospital, but it may have been on our first home visit the next day.

missdee Call triage at the hospital and tell them your symptoms. They're a lot faster than OOH and will take you seriously.

Still nothing much happening here - I think what happened on the weekend may have been the baby getting at least partly engaged. My bump has definitely dropped and my rib pain/heartburn is almost non-existent since then. Still having random mild contractions but have mostly stopped paying attention to their frequency as nothing has been painful enough that I couldn't get through with breathing. My dad is convinced the baby will come on Sunday and DS tells me (with great authority) that the baby will be here at 5 o'clock, but will not specify morning or evening. If either of them are right I will never hear the end of it. Grin

TheMshipIsBack · 23/02/2016 20:51

ffaux It took me months to feel truly bonded to DS. DH was similar. We're both just slow burners that way. There was certainly an almost physical need to be near him and to see to all his needs, but there was never an emotional rush. I felt incredibly isolated within the mum's groups I was going to, as everyone else seemed so in love with their babies and here I was hating being stuck at home, missing my work, with this little clingy human (and he was a colicky, high needs baby) dependent on me for everything. I can't pinpoint when it changed, there was no epiphany, but it did come in the end.

IndomitabIe · 23/02/2016 21:07

It's so tedious, isn't it marmite? DS used to happily talk to himself but now he gets up, runs around, has 15 wees, jumps & thumps around and when I try to do anything about it just laughs in my face. It took an hour but I was finally able to creep out at 8pm. Hopefully he'll be a bit better tomorrow morning for it. And I'm planning on doing it again tomorrow night, if necessary. We need to get him back into good habits.

Missdee I'd write those symptoms into your notes yourself, and then definitely ring the maternity ward to check. Being worried is only going to make your BP increase!

shieldbug, we went through a time of wondering if DS might have some autistic traits, but I think it's more ting at he's inherited my stubbornness. We have the screaming fits and violence (well, I get the violence, he doesn't do it for DH).

When he's on form, he's bloody lovely, but when he's being awkward he's fucking horrendous. we used to have weeks where he'd be wonderful for cm/nursery but continuously tantrum & scream for us morning & night. Literally every morning and every evening for a week. He now has more good days than bad, fortunately. But I fear for his teenage years.

Thanks for empathising, shield. Most people harp on about how wonderful their kids are, so it's unusual to have people admit their children can be challenging.

Ha! Trin! I've "decided" this one is going to be a laid-back contented sleeper! I finish work 4 weeks on Thursday, officially. I'd like to stop sooner but I'd be leaving my colleagues in the lurch, and my students.

TheMShip I know what you mean about the weird physical need to be with the baby. I remember being so incredibly frustrated with him (screamy, refluxy, non sleeper), but I couldn't bear him being taken or dealt with him by anyone else. It was so weirdly conflicting.

I found maternity leave so difficult last time.

I'm a bit worried I might actually enjoy this baby and this leave and won't want to go back to work!

Trinpy · 23/02/2016 21:08

shield I would add on to your advice - to make sure your birth partner knows your birth plan (and anything else they may need to know) so if you can't talk for yourself (e.g. if you're in too much pain to talk) then you know you've got someone who can speak up for you. This is really about giving birth but...no one told me when I was pregnant that babies don't start feeding and pooing loads straight away. I didn't find out until day 2 when a mw asked me how many times I'd fed the baby and was a bit Shock that it was so frequently. I'd been panicking that he wasn't getting enough because he was 'only' pooing once a day Blush.

marmite hope your dd is asleep too now. I'm really strict and don't allow any playing with teddies when its bedtime because it drives me crazy and I know in my ds' case he is only playing with them in the hope that he can entice me into playing with them too. I'm dreading the day when he gets independent enough to ignore me and carry on playing anyway!

MrsBen I'm very jealous of your co sleeper (and that you'll soon have a baby to put in it!). I didn't even think about the doctors' strikes, I hope it won't affect anyone on this thread.

MyNameIsSuz · 23/02/2016 21:21

Ooh good idea about things nobody told you - on a similar note to trinpy, nobody told me that sometimes babies don't wake up to feed and you might need to wake them up, or keep them from dropping off mid-feed. I didn't realise that and my boy was a dozy little thing, and he lost quite a bit of his birth weight in the first couple of days.

indomitable and marmite, sorry you're stuck with bad bedtimes, it's soul destroying isn't it? We had that battle with ds for several months, we're in a flat which didn't help as he could pop out of his room and see us on the sofa or in the kitchen, we'd spend hours putting him back as he got more and more manic. I'm worried now as we eventually cracked it and he now goes down perfectly, but I'm terrified the baby will disrupt him enough to undo it all!

IndomitabIe · 23/02/2016 22:22

DH came home with a creme egg Easter egg to make up for my troubles! 'twas gone in 60 seconds! Grin

Who's having a baby tonight then? Loads of you are term or approaching due dates, surely?!

marmiteandcheeseplease · 23/02/2016 22:41

Yeah its really frustrating - DP was with her for an hour and a half last night. I managed to get it done in an hour and she was asleep by ten past eight today. She always takes longer to settle with DP and takes the piss a bit more. But if we leave its either running out of bed and opening the door, or (worse) crying her eyes out. We really should have tried to crack it so that she'd go down without us but now its a little too late as once baby is here it probably wouldn't be good for sibling relations to try to leave her as I'd worry she'd resent the baby and blame her. So DP is going to have to do all the night time settling once baby is here as I'll be on cluster feeding duty (joy).

Have decided I am not going to stress about crap GP saying baby was breech. I think more likely she just doesn't have a clue and in any case not sure I could do much at this point other than spinning babies techniques which I'll do anyway as I think baby is back to back.

ffauxlivia · 23/02/2016 23:09

missdee I agree with everyone else, hope you were able to get something sorted

Wow ladies, really interesting on the immediate emotions/bonding issue. It's great to be prepared for all kinds of feelings and to know that it is all normal - thank you for your honesty. I'm so happy you will all be here to talk to if there are difficult moments.

And thanks shield for starting off advice for the FTMs, some really useful info, I'm trying to store it all up.

haha indom at the DIY SOS. My DH is not a crier at all but did choke up during his wedding speech which floored me. As for your DS, I am willing to bet he will be a wonderful teenager, he's just getting it all out the way now. Again it's good to hear the realistic side of motherhood. How do you think he will react to a baby brother, is he excited?

Paperblank · 24/02/2016 04:05

Say hello to Martha Iris Grin born this morning at 00.40 weighing in at 5lb 12.5oz.

She is currently snuffling in my arms and I have fallen head over heels with our perfect little girl.

March 2016 babies - 2 here already, many more yet to come!!!
maybebabybee · 24/02/2016 04:14

Paper congratulations, she is gorgeous!!! Flowers

Me624 · 24/02/2016 05:38

Paper congratulations! So teeny! She looks adorable.

Just seen on the old thread that Pug has posted an update too. Lots more babies! Can't wait for mine.

Woodenmouse · 24/02/2016 05:39

Congratulations paper she's beautiful. I love her name!!

Missdee2014 · 24/02/2016 05:58

Paper congratulations she is beautiful!

Thanks everyone for advice, I called outpatients last night and am still waiting on them to call me back - auxiliary j spoke to took half a message from me n said someone would possibly call me back! I'll give it til 11am n then I'll call again.

Defo member of csc tonight, been awake since just after 4 n can't get back to sleep at all.

IndomitabIe · 24/02/2016 06:03

Ohh, morning Martha, lovely name! Well done Paper! (Lovely sleep suit there!)

Hope you're right about the teenage years, ffaux!

Sorry for any crap sleepers, I slept really well! I'm so grateful!

36 weeks today! Nearly there.

vroc81 · 24/02/2016 06:20

Congratulations paper she's beautiful!

Member of CSC too, why is it when you have to be up early you're always awake worrying about not waking up?!

BeautifulLiar · 24/02/2016 06:34

Congratulations Paper! Really hope I have a pretty baby like that.

I couldn't sleep after coming on here last night. Although I understand the reason and blah blah I am fuming about the next doctor strike. I'm convinced it's going to fuck up my induction date now :(

MyNameIsSuz · 24/02/2016 07:03

Congratulations paper, she's gorgeous!!! Hope the birth was alright. Not to focus on the wrong part of that photo or anything, but you really need to tell me where you got that awesome giraffe sleepsuit!

sherazade · 24/02/2016 07:05

Congrats paper she's stunning

1frenchfoodie · 24/02/2016 07:27

Congratulations paper, she is a wee cutie.

Rubbish service for outpatients missdee, I hope they get back to you this morning.

RhubarbAndMustard · 24/02/2016 07:54

Congratulations Paper and welcome to the world little Martha. So, so beautiful.

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