February 2016 - our babies are here!

[IslaMann]

New group for those graduating the ante-natal thread

Haquoi - I have 3 cats and they're all loving me being at home on mat leave, but they get a bit too excited when I'm stumbling round the house at 3am! This morning as soon as he heard me at the top of the stairs, one of them ran half way up, went rigid and leaned against the wall. It's hard to explain but it's very odd and something he does when he's excited to see me. He looks crazy though!

Clumsy - Hoping you feel better soon and get some rest.

As for me, I was up and at Morrisons by 9.30 this morning! I don't know what came over me! Second time this week. I usually hate that shop, but I seem to be lucky at getting a parent and child car park space right outside the door, and they have the car seat trollies I like. Even better you don't need a £1 coin like you do for the usual trollies. Unfortunately, going that early in the morning and so tired means I've come back again with lots of cake.

DS is currently on his sleepyhead fighting the sleep! Ever time he spits out his dummy he cries and I have to go and put it back in. I wish he would just let it take him over and get a nap. Dozing round the supermarket does not count!

Oh dear, not good being unwell

I second cabbage leaves in bra for sore boobies, I had them in when I had to suppress my supply.

Thanks for the swimming advice! My mum brought me disposable swim nappies yesterday by complete coincidence. Aldi have a baby event this week and she got them there. Will look into the wetsuits.

Ds is really starting to take interest in the world around him, it's lovely to watch. I was doing some silly dancing to creedance Clearwater revival earlier and he squeaked along!

So yesterday was a fun day! Ds was awake every hour & 1/2 ish, plus nightmares, and then I had to get up to head to a sling library (I have to return a sling). Running late (of course) I can't find the pram adapters and end up losing my temper in front of the baby. Then I put him in the car (lo and behold! Adapters!) and have to run back to the house to get the pram. All this time he's crying and crying as he hates the seat. Just before I get in myself I have a quick glance at him and his hat has completely ridden down over his eyes and nose - no wonder he's screaming. I felt so do awful. In the car I wolf down a banana and breakfast bar as there was no time for breakfast. I have to stop for cash on the way and then get on to the motorway and realise that I have no petrol. It's 15 mins to the next services and the petrol light comes on just before I get there. Finally arrive at the sling library, walk up the stairs and there's a woman with her baby in the sling I desperately want to try. I almost burst into tears! Luckily it works out that she works there so is happy to give it up for me to try. Then I realise bubs is soaked and he screams the house down while I change his bum and clothes because of course he's tired and hungry as I've been rushing. We pick our sling and leave, driving the 40 mins back home (a couple of failed attempts to stop at a baby shop and post office, plus a parking up on top of a fell in order to eat second banana as it's now after lunch. I get home and crash out in front of the TV with huge amounts of food inc cake for the rest of the day.It's between eating or sleeping and I chose eating. DH got home at 6.30 and was lovely to me as by this point I'm so tired I feel ill and dizzy and hot and sweaty. Another fairly crap night now though but I can have a bit of a lie-in. Yesterday shouldn't have got on top of me but it really did, it was a bit shaming.

Rant over, sorry!

handbag your cats sounds adorable. And about morrisons, it's the simple pleasures that make everything worthwhile, isn't it?

clara I'm constantly surprised and delighted with ds' changes, he's so amazing! DH and I did loads of stupid dancing in front of him and he loves it!

Mmm, hungry.

Ah we all have days like that haq, even without a baby to look after. Be kind to yourself. As for the hat, we do that all the time! Hats are either to small or too big for ds!

In other news, I think I need to move ds onto next size tests already

I made the mistake of goingto the supermarket at 8 once handbag and forgot you coyldnt buy wine before ten

Clara - Loving the wine anecdote. You sound like my kind of girl! I was in asda the other weekend at 8am and they hadn't made up the garlic breads on the pizza counter yet. I almost cried!

Haquoi - Yuo, we all have days like that. I find that a steady stream of cake and biscuits helps with the tiredness. Well it doesn't really, and makes me feel gross, but you don't get much chance for sleeping when you have a baby so it's a way to make it through the day.

I've had a tough few days - DH went out on Friday and spent Saturday hungover, then on Sunday morning woke up with a really bad shoulder. He's been to the physio and it should get better within a week but he can't lift anything. Meaning I'm on full time baby duty. And have been since Friday morning. And he was out yesterday til 9.30 with work and will be again tonight (if not later). So not even here to watch the baby while I cook / clean / tidy up. He's so good with the baby I don't want to whinge about him, and he's really in pain, but I'm so tired! And baby had me up at 2am, 5am and again at 7am for feeds. We're going out in about an hour but he's asleep on his playmat. I don't want to disturb him!

And then he smiles at me and it's all forgiven!

Teats, not tests!

Aww haq nightmare day!!

DD has her first cold (at 12 weeks so not bad going!) and she's all snuffly at night and sleeps even less and is finding feeding hard! How long do colds last in babies? Any remedies to try?

I feel your pain haquoi. Today is my day for similar. Although I did have a decent night-wake ups at 145 and 530- dd had cried most of the evening until she finally went to sleep at 1030.

So today ds had a photo of him and dd2 he wanted to take in to school as it was to do with his topic. We were ready early so said we could pop into supermarket to print it on he way to school. Took dd2 in with me and she started crying. Couldn't find the cable to fit my phone. Took back off phone to get sd card out to do it that way instead then dropped case and back of phone. Dd screaming now. Trying to soothe her and work out how to get the pic printed. About to give up when lady from photo desk comes over and gives me cable. Doesn't work. Dd still screaming, time is ticking and I'm feeling really stressed. Lady eventually manages to get my phone to link with machine and we get the pic printed.

Dd falls asleep on way to school but wakes and starts screaming again as soon as we get home. Then realise she is soaked through so do a full change. Screams again. Try to feed her but she refuses. Decide to go to baby group anyway in case a change of scene works and it's better than being home tearing my hair out. After an hour of her crying on and off there, still refusing to feed leaving me sat there with my boob out looking like a total incompetent I leave, haven't been able to talk to anyone anyway and am feeling harassed. Dd falls asleep in pram as soon as we get outside so walk round park a few times then go home. Just make myself a drink and sit down when she wakes again. Agrees to feed this time. Does massive poo. Change her and she seems happier. For all of 5 minutes. Sigh. Can't settle her so put her back in pram, abandon coffee and go back out. Had an hour of walking and she seems fully asleep so come home. Drink cold coffee and decide to pump. After ten mins she wakes again, straight into full blown screaming again. She's now gone back to sleep in my arms. Don't know what is wrong with her!

Handbag dp has been doing diy all weekend as well as his normal work and evening clubs mon and tue so I've been mostly going solo too. I don't think that has helped with my coping levels today tbh, normally her crying doesn't bother me so much but today it's made me feel really harassed and embarrassed.

I like that dp is so focused on getting stuff done and obviously the diy benefits me too and I know he only has the weekends and evening to do it but I wish he'd realise that I'm constantly juggling and i dont get to focus on any one thing. Hes brilliant at seeing the bigger picture but sometimes I need help in the now which he's not so good at realising. It's an ongoing 'discussion' we have...

Liberty hope your dd isn't too poorly and makes a speedy recovery. Dd2 is on her second cold, the joys of older siblings.

Oh no! and for everyone having tough days.

liberty I hope dd feels better soon.

I've sent dd into school today so hoping she lasts the day, she has had no v&d so fx I won't get a phone call. It's dm's 60th birthday today so nipped out to get her a present this morning after having panick ordered some flowers yesterday as none of us had got her a present due to being so poorly but she has called saying she is not feeling wonderful, I was hoping she had avoided the bug so desperately hoping this isn't the start of it for her. Dh has gone back to work today absolutely shattered, think he may have realised how difficult it is looking after a baby on your own with not much input from anyone else. He decided it would be a good idea to invite the in laws over yesterday just what I wanted/needed but i think he was struggling. Hopefully this may mean he will become slightly more thoughtful and communicate a bit better.

Thanks trioika and clumsy hopefully she'll recover quickly! troika what a nightmare....!

liberty my ds got his first cold last wednesday (8w). He was pretty bunged up and unsettled for a couple of days, and all we have now (a week later) is a bit of a runny nose still. We've just let it run its course without any treatment, although he also had his first immunisations in the middle of it, for which we gave the recommended dose of infant paracetamol. I can't say it had any effect one way or another on the cold, but we'll never know!

I've heard that vicks smeared on a tissue pinned to their cot (out of reach) can help if they are particularly congested. They don't recommend putting vicks directly onto their body so young.

Fresh air (but well wrapped up) is recommended too, so some walks with the pram if you have the energy? You're probably doing that already!

We're going to MIL this evening for my SIL's birthday. I'm supposed to be there in an hour (so need to leave in 40 minutes), but baby has finally fallen asleep on his playmat after not sleeping much earlier today and generally being a bit out of sorts. I really don't want to move him to the carseat (cue screaming!)....Ah well, hopefully a 40 minute nap will be enough to settle him for a couple of hours.

After crying for most of the day dd fell asleep half way to school and is still asleep now. She has been in carseat 2.5 hours now which I'm normally really against but I really really don't want the screaming to start again. Giving myself another 5 minutes before I get her out...

Thanks clara I'll try the Vicks!

troika I've had similar, DD had only had an hours nap total until 3pm so when she feel asleep on me I just let her sleep even though I'm trying to wean her off sleeping on me and trying to get her into cot for naps....!

How's it going cud, have you avoided the dreaded mastitis?

I'm of the 'never wake a sleeping baby' school of parenting too! DD was asleep on me for over three hours today...The housework waited . Far harder when you're wrangling more than one though, especially for those who are flying solo for much of the time.

I share your pain haq and troika. The highlight of our seven hour return journey yesterday was having to change my poo covered jeans (thanks DD!) outdoors in a pub car park near Solihull, before sorting the child.....

Thanks for all the boob advice ladies! Seems to be on the mend now, a pretty firm massage in a very hot shower must have released a blockage as there was lots of spray followed by just feeling bruised and now almost sorted. Phew!

Sorry to hear about the disaster days haq and handbag hope you have both recovered... and i never knew you can't buy wine before 10! A bad morning a little while ago had me seriously considering gin before 9am. Fortunately i have wine and gin in the house but usually try and save them for after kids bedtime!

Your cats sound lovely handbag. We have 2 and they're still cross about the 2nd small person. Although the black one did enjoy sharing ds1's yoghurt at lunchtime. Which he then took back and continued eating (vom face!) Thinking of which i hope the bugs have passed clumsy. Babycud had a cold a few weeks ago. I didn't have any vicks in but put some olbas oil on a tissue near the moses basket that might have helped the snuffling...

Hope you had a good evening clara i hate waking a sleeping baby so hope it wasn't too traumatic.

at the trousers northern!

cud glad you are getting better.

I used to use snuffle babe on dd when she was little which is like a tame version of Vicks but I don't know how young you can use it from. It may be worth checking out.

The bug mainly seems to have disappeared from our family but my sis is driving me crazy as her youngest who is 15 months doesn't seem to be getting over it but she doesn't see the point in anti bac wiping all the toys he has been playing with (chewing) everyday. I figure even if he isn't reinfecting himself it would be worth doing just in case .

northern oh the glamour of being a mom! At least you had spare trousers

Breaking our 24hr silence to report I am pinned to the sofa by my little man who has a handful of my hair he's not letting go of! It's been 45 minutes!

Thanks handbag I thought I'd killed the thread I hope you are pinned with tea and cake and the remote control handy.

Dh has come down with the bug this morning so decamped to moms for the day

Awww handbag so cute!

troika that sounds like a helluva morning!

Sorry for silence in my end, barely functioning after a week of bad sleeping and the deprivation means I've come down with a cold, so feeling doubly sorry for myself. DH has been lovely and I'm going to my Mum's this afternoon so she can take the baby and I can sleep. The main issue is actually being so tired I can't bring myself to nap, it's soul destroying waking up and realising you've only had 15 mins!

How is everyone doing?

Oh no clumsy!!

chinchilla

Made it to mil the other night and ds was actually on good form and not thrown out by the late night excitement.

Oh dear chinchilla,we had similar experience yesterday with poo on dh trousers, my trousers and the couch. Nearly accompanied by my wee I was laughing so hard!

Does anyone know a remote island I can go to for free? I've had enough of today and can't even go to bed coz dh is really poorly. Sorry I'm moaning but had stressful day and feeling sorry for myself only just been able to sit down to eat my dinner

It must be the week for pooing on trousers, I have a fantastic photo of ds grinning from ear to ear after pooing all over my trousers...apparently it's funny when I'm in a hurry, its a good job he is so adorable!

haq try having a bath, may help with the cold and you won't feel bad if you don't fall asleep but it is still relaxing (make sure your dp cones and checks on you in case you do fall asleep/ bring you more chocolate)

clara glad you had a good night

DH is still suffering with his shoulder so I'm still on full time baby duty, 2nd weekend in a row. Luckily he was able to watch DS for a couple of hours this morning while I had a nap, and DS slept from 11-4.30 which was amazing after a couple of nights of 2,5 and 7. He's asleep on me now without my hair in my hand!

Can't believe how tall he's getting - he looks so big in his bouncer hair and in the bath now. 10 weeks old tomorrow, so don't think he counts as a newborn anymore.

Oh no handbag is he getting his shoulder looked at? Glad you got a nap though.

They grow too quick, think I'm going to have to get the 3-6 month clothes out soon