August 2015. It's all about food consumption and late nights at Bar Mugabe Nights

[Dozygirl]

New thread for us fast talkers

Morning all. I'm feeling tired and achey today and LO wants constant feeding. Am meeting friends for lunch in an hour, hope she naps although who am I kidding - she never naps in public. Defo a baby who gets overstimulated!

I remember once meeting a friend for lunch and we ran into a colleague of ours. LO had actually fallen asleep in car and stayed asleep in the cafe. I put a blanket over the buggy so she could sleep in darkness, and even told colleague "she's finally asleep for once" and she still lifted the blanket and rubbed baby's cheek and woke her up. I could have strangled the woman!

Hello ladies and babies! We had our lovely play group this morning and just having a sneaky costa now before heading home. Their new Xmas menu is out and they have gingerbread muffins!! Eek to the dieting but ah well.

DH let me get a few hours yesterday evening which made the night easier. We went to Duxford imperial war museum yesterday which was great - DS cried in the pram until we took him out to show him all the planes! Finally had a poo as well and seemed happier!

Im naturally very dark in the hair department and DH is blonde. When DS was born he was very blonde but is now looking more ginger although he still has beautiful blue eyes.

Off home in a bit to make a stew and make a list of ingredients for mince meat as I'm making mince pies again this year hopefully! Very festive!

Oh and yes to DS getting over stimulated. All the time and it can be so tough to calm him down.

MaGrat- jealous of your Costa!! Their new Xmas treats are beautiful aren't they, went last week and had a salted caramel cappuccino so yummy! My usual Americano with skimmed milk isn't naughty so I'm stuffed with the Xmas menu being out!

Got the health visitor coming round in an hour for DS's 3-4 month check. It is actually one of the nursery nurses doing it rather than my HV which I'm a bit gutted about as she is fantastic but never mind this other one seems nice too! Don't really know what this check involves but DS has started trying to roll this morning! Kept getting stuck on his side but his little face of determination was so cute!!

Good afternoon!
Am I right in thinking that we are almost all either ginger, married to a ginger or mum to a ginger? Awesome!

We're having a quiet afternoon after another vet visit. Ds has had a 3 hour nap so I've been having cuddles with the pooch, who appears to be on the mend thankfully. Ds is now fast asleep again, nuzzling and smiling at my boob.

Mmmmmmm to bacon and sausage bap lily! So jealous that your dh made you one. Hearing things like that make me regret marrying a vegetarian!
What a clever little cutie you have there. You will need eyes in the back of your head soon.

at someone moving a blanket and waking the baby grok! I would have been fuming.

Mmmmmm to costa's Christmas menu magrat. I demolished a mini toffee cake yesterday. I got an invite last week to a night tasting the Christmas menu but couldn't go. Gutted!

Is it bedtime yet?
I've been to my mums today in the hope she could entertain my terrors. No luck they were over tired grumps all day. Then I had parents evening at 5 but didn't get seen until half past! babies were crying, DS1 was bored out if his mind!
Had to buy a superhero costume for DS1 today for Friday. Couldn't find one anywhere. So I bought him Darth Vader and told him he can be a villain. Can't have superheroes without villains.

Ginger: I'm brown, DS2 is brown, DS1 and DD are much lighter and more a very dark blonde if that makes sense? Not quite brown not quite blonde. Their dad has brown hair too. But he does get a ginger beard and their Nana on their dads side is ginger.

Weight: I really am a fatty. I was 11st 8 when I got pregnant with DS2. I was almost 16 Stone by the end of my pregnancy. I'm now 14st 9.

Sleepy time now so just a quick post. Apologies to those I don't reply to directly. Have been ambling around in a sleep deprived fuzz as our recent run of 9pm - 4am sleeps came to an abrupt end on Saturday night to be replaced by 1am, 3am, 5am and 6:30am feeds for the last two nights. She's snoring now so I am definitely heading that way myself.

frolic bilingual babies rock! I was one (Finnish/English) and it is a great gift to pass to your child. The baby giraffe was there and very cute - we always have to visit it first or grumpy 1 gets sad.

fatty what a run you guys seem to be having. Hope all the DCs are well now and you get a bit of a break from illness for a while. Hope parents evening went well. I always throughout the villains were cooler than the superheroes anyway

Diet-wise I have 8kg to lose to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Stopping eating so much chocolate would definitely help. Am getting more motivated to get out and walk now though so aiming for at least three miles a day on top of the school run. It's the way I lost my first lot of baby weight so I am hoping it'll work again this time. Poor DH has had to start running again though as he's put on more weight than me! Grumpy 1 asked him if he was going to feed the baby to give mummy a break and that was it, out came the running shorts

See you all later at Mugabe nights x

Long live the gingers! !!

Ooh lily your reminded me about the health visitor. Ive just said to dp I've forgotten to ring the hv after I missed our appointment last week but then realised I had rung her back to rearrange and she's not rung me back. So that's ok haha.

I went through Starbucks drive thru today. I'm not a lover of Starbucks but I was hungry and dd was asleep in the car so figured why not. They had mulled grape fruit thing....ooooh it was delicious. I love mulled wine so this was a lovely alternative. I had my last mulled wine the day before I found out i was pregnant last year because I thought I wasn't pregnant so I was enjoying it and drowning my sorrows lol. Then discovred I was actually pregnant haha.

Was feeling a bit overwhelmed by life this morning for some reason. Had a busy weekend so the house was a message and dp had done bugger all even though he'd been home alone all weekend. Men are pants. He just does not think to do a single thing like put his beer bottles in the recycling bin. Anyway luckily my lovely mother wtched piper for me for a couple of hours so I could get on top of thing . I literally do not know what I'd do without her. She's an angel in disguise. Sometimes think I'd be better being a single mum and having my mum to help than being with my useless dp sometimes. We definitely need something to inject some happiness back into our relationship though because at the moment I can't be doing with him and that makes me sad.

This miserable weather isn't helping things. Can't go out for nice walks like I had been doing. Rushed around this morning to try to make a free coffee morning that was half an hour away but dd needed feeding and I needed petrol so was nearly an hour late. They had lots of things to do and I didn't get to do any of them apart from have some xmas photos taken of her for cheap so that made it worth it. If they turn out good that is haha. Have to wait now for her to edit them.

Happy Monday mugabe friends

LO been trying to go to sleep for 3 hours then bursts into tears as soon as we put her down - very uncharacteristic for her at night. She's soooo tired. We even tried to grin and bear it for near 30 min to let her cry herself to sleep. Am BF her again now on my bed beside her crib, hoping she'll go down finally. I feel another long night in Mugabe ahead!

Bc of my gestational diabetes I had a strict diet while pregnant and actually lost some weight (all medically supervised). So I'm back to my pre baby weight now. But just so tired st wondering how to lose 2 more stone! Esp while BF and the monster appetite that comes with it. DH keeps sabotaging me too, like he bought me a lovely eclair from m&s! He doesn't want me to lose weight. Im also doing circuit training twice a week which I love. Bah. There's just such a steep learning curve for first time mums, the long list of "should"s gets overwhelming and exhausting!

Ok pity party over. Im going to head to the Mugabe bar then dance like no ones watching...

Oh slow cross posts. Gutted you've lost your nice stretch of sleep. Hope u get it back again! We're trying to put dd a little bit earlier so dp has just taken her upstairs now. It's not ended up being much earlier in the end hahaha.

Evening all!
Is there a 10/11 week growth spurt? Ds is going crazy for the booby today. He has not stopped all evening. He usually takes a bit of a break during cluster feeds, but has barely took a breath tonight. And he's STILL going. I'm amazed there is anything left in them.

I hope you have a better night tonight fatty.

Your poor dh slow, that comment would be enough to get any man running. My Dh has, annoyingly, lost quite a bit of weight recently as he's had to make a few diet changes due to a stomach thing. Like grok's dh, he keeps brining me yummy things to eat. It's lovely that he doesn't want me to feel pressured to lose weight, but I do wish he'd stop with the treats. I'm too lazy to get them myself, so probably wouldn't have 1/2 as much without his 'help'.

Mulled plum drink sounds lovely dozy. I also love mulled wine and remember us talking about it last year on the conception bus. I also love mulled cider. Yum!
Sorry you are feeling a bit down and finding things hard with dp. This whole parenthood thing totally changes the way you look at life, doesn't it? Are you able to tell him how you feel? I find that resentment can build so easily when you are tired and frazzled from caring for a baby and try to 'air' stuff before it turns into bigger stuff.
We also need to get working on an earlier bed time.

I hope dd is finally asleep grok. I might see you at the bar later since ds' showing no signs of stopping this marathon feed.

Good night augmums - hoping for sleep all round.

Bleurgghhh! Tres tired lovelies!

Will elaborate more in the morning. But had burger and hot dog today - bloody yum! Lovely day with mumsey, lovely mini evening out with DH. Desperate for sleep though now. DESPERATE!

Oh snd giz us a bueno!

Ooof! And we are back! Had tried going back to bf'ing all evening rather than the shite bottle in a bid to see if it was that which had made her start to wake again, but clearly not . Ah well, the sleep will return, must just grin and bear it. Somehow seems harder to have had sleep and lost it than never to have had it at all though!!!

lily we had our last visit with the HV at 6 weeks and she said we wouldn't now get another visit until 1 year. It's amazing how different the service seems to be across the country. Having said that we still haven't had grumpy 2s 6 week check so can only conclude they are not that proactive around here

Right, she's finished. Off to catch me more zzzz's. So dangerous these middle of the night feeds. Last night I ordered loads of different types of bag clips for the pram and tonight I've ordered a star snug (in ginge orange of course!) I need her to start sleeping again before we go bankrupt

Evening all! Despite having a lovely calm put to bed, J still spent 2 hours crying, so no nice quiet evening tonight and another one with DH and I alternately running up and down stairs taking turns to soothe him. It's so frustrating - he seems opposed to falling asleep despite tired.

Having first feed after that and he doesn't seem that keen on going back to sleep - just keeps coming off, wriggling and moaning. Think I might get a drink at the bar if anyone cares to join me?

I'll join you tindel what shall we have?

Hope everyone is having a better night.

Well the diet started well but ended with a drive thru to McDonald's! Basically dh was working late and I hadn't had chance to make the dull, use up the last bits before going shopping tomorrow, pasta and hey diet ruined! Tomorrow will be better.

Dosy I remember feeling the same about my dh when ds1 came along. Babies put such a strain on your relationship. Lack of sleep, sex, financial strain etc...I found having a night out together where we got to discuss everything helped and we were back to normal when I went back to work. I think I found him having a life outside the home difficult. Things seem better this time around. He's been a lot more helpful around the house , with Ds1 he has to be and I think we both know what to expect and that this current state of affairs won't last.

Right ds2 has fallen asleep so going to stagger back to bed. Might see you all later

Hi Newbie here. DD born 9 August - first child.

Just dealt with a gross green nappy (2nd vac yesterday) and feeding. Am amazed how quickly I've learned to react to the sound of her filling her nappy.

Suffering a bit with meh cold (she's fine, I am the one with bunged up nose and cough) so been going to bed earlier which of course means she's consistently been awake at 3/4 rather than doing midnight to 5/6. Somehow the same amount of sleep feels more civilised when 4am isn't involved!

Bizarrely she's also ginger with blond and mousy parents. Might be going paler from the eyelashes/eyebrows - invisible and still has her dad's blue eyes.

Slow I'm a bugger for night feed ordering too!

Mini mzzzf having a 'mare. Super snotty and needing snot clearing every couple of hours - such fun!

My face hurts from tiredness. I'd smash a mulled cider right now!!

Omg DS just slept for 7.5 hours! What a treat! It tops off a dream day from him, gorgeous easy going baby. Long may it last...

Rra that sounds awfully scary, hope your LO is doing ok now.

Welcome Random

Sorry to hear things aren't great Dozy, agree that babies put a huge strain on things and don't get me started on OH's inability to see when things need doing around the house. Hope things feel better for you soon.

I'm about 6 pounds heavier than I was pre pregnancy - though I reckon a couple of pounds of that is boobs! Realised I couldn't go running as was going to need a serious sports bra but was talking to a friend who recently had a boob job and she gave me her post-op bra promising there was no way my boobs will move in it! Still wimped out last night though coz it was blowing a hooley in London, sure I'll find some more excuses tomorrow

DS has a ginge tinge, both OH and I very dark so assuming DS will head that way as he gets older. Also - he doesn't look like either of us. How weird is that?! Babies usually look like one of their parents right?! I swear if OH hadn't watched him come out of me I'd wonder if he'd been switched at birth!

Much coffee and Bueno to those having crap nights, I'm back off to bed now, Mugabe Mugabe everyone.

Mugabe, everybody! Did thought she'd get up do I could join you all for a drink. How thoughtful!

Welcome randoms. You just described exactly what's gone on here - LO filled her nappy big time and it woke me. So I decided to change it before it leaked every where. Well she screamed the house down. It was green as she's teething so bad upset tummy. Honestly think she might have woken the neighbours, does anyone else get self conscious about that ever?

So she finally went to sleep last night after 5 hours of trying yo get her down. Ugh.

Dozy, I totally Understand how you're feeling. I'm surprised at how much the dynamic changes with the arrival of LO. I'm constantly having to remind him about housework. Like when im with her, I'm also cleaning the kitchen, doing laundry, changing sheets, showering and getting dressed (OK, only sometimes on that one!). But he never does any of those things, just plays with her. I have to remind him she needs a break sondtimes so don't forget naps, or just put her in the swing chair and tidy up. He hates it when I do that unless I really butter him up first which is ridiculous. Anyway. I empathise! I usually find waiting until dd is in bed and telling him when things are bothering me and he usually apologies. like frolic says, when you're tired and frazzled it can be so hard to communicate. Shall we have a drink? Something with a mini umbrella and sparkler perhaps??

Ok hopefully going back to bed won't be as bad as getting to bed. Wish me luck!

Back at the bar again! Tempted to get a pitcher of something ...

In terms of issues with DHs, what I found worked was to text him during the day. Sounds a bit childish, but it meant I could take my time to explain myself rationally when I felt a bit more clear-headed (also meant I could say positive things, as well as what I wanted him to do) and he could read it when it suited him. As it was, he rang me when he was at work, we had a brief chat then talked about it in detail once he got home.

Morning all

Welcome random

rrra hope all ok now - that must have been a really scary experience

Very jealous of all the long sleeps - frolic, dozy, clstow - hope they continue for you and start for the rest of us very soon

I had the Monday from hell yesterday. Knew when I heard the howling wind and pouring rain it wasn't going to be great! Eldest gets bus to high school - she phoned as I was putting other DCs in car to say bus hadn't turned up and could I come and get her - popped back in house to get baby and by the time I get back out to car, toddler has been sick everywhere!! Forget about eldest who comes stomping up the road soaked through and now very late. Toddler screaming about sick and everyone else moaning about mess and smell. All have to get out of car, strip toddler and shower her, scrub car then all back in and extremely late for school. Car still stinks of sick

Then to top of my day, already ranted about Argos the other day - well, my order arrives and half the things are missing / have items I didn't order!! Tried to telephone them - not a chance - no answer, in a queue - sent an email - still no response - mad

Finally, DD had yet another feeding frenzy last night - seemed to just feed constantly from 1am until I get up at 5am - she is lying sleeping now like a little starfish in the middle of a super king bed - wish it were me. Here's to a better day today........

Morning. Awful night here. DD woke up coughing and had lost her dummy about 12.30. Then as I settle back down 15 mins later DS woke and we were up for two hours. He still not breathing great and he was hot. Discovered he had a temp of 38.7. So stripped off, gave calpol and rang the children's ward. They didn't seemed concerned about the temp (was the part I was concerned about) but said I could bring him in if I wanted. But chose to stay put. He has been waking every hour since, got a bit cold and just wants a few sucks before pulling off again.

I think I'm going to take him back in though while I still have open access to children's ward. His temp is still ok but it seems his chest is pulling in a bit now. I'd just like the reassurance he is still ok. I was told it could get worse until day 5, and this is day 4 so it is prob nothing.

Please send all the prosecco, coffee and white choc chunky kit Katz you can find!! (Bought a White choc kit Kat yesterday while buying emergency milk from village shop. Thankfully not eaten it yet. Considering it dipped in coffee for breakfast).

Love, that sounds awful!! I had toddler sick to clean up while baby screamed from bouncy chair on Thursday evening. All down kitchen cupboards. I feel your pain.

Dozy, I sympathise. My H can be great. Was fantastic during first couple of weeks. Did things without needing me to ask. Amusing DD. cooking and some cleaning. Not so much now. I too struggle with it, and with coping mentally day to day. Had started to feel better but with DS ill I'm feeling more down again.

Sorry lots of you hD bad nights too. Thank goodness for Mugabe nights!!

Morning all. Last night was much better!
Re: eye colour: DS1 has magical colour changing eyes (they really do change its completely awesome!) They are usually hazel but have been blue grey green and gold all in the last week.
DD has my brown eyes and DS2 has his daddies blue eyes. I was told if babies eyes haven't changed by 7 weeks they will stay that colour. So all 3 of mine have different colour eyes.

Mugabe Nights had been busy overnight. Sorry I missed u al . Maybe next time. Sending lots of extra energy to u lot today.

Rrra sorry to hear lo is still poorly. Definitely get him checked out if you're worried. Better to have your mind put at ease than missing something.

Mzzf poor mini mzzf and her endless snot. Hope there's some improvement soon and u get some sleep.

Slow yey to the star snug. I got medium and it's way to big so been trying to get a bargain small one on ebay but no joy so far. I've tried her in it but the hat falls over her face if she wriggles

It's our 3rd anniversary next weekend so we're planning on having a meal out together without baby so that'll be a good opportunity to have a good chat about things and also let our hair down. We normally have a weekend away but I think this will be better as we can do this without having dd in tow. My auntie is up visiting for the weekend so her and my mum can have piper for us heehee.

Welcome to random :)

2nd jabs today. Anyone else still give calpol just as a precaution even though they don't have the men b one this time? I wish someone else was taking her. I didn't like the sound she made last time they did it.

Dd has blue eyes still but both me and dp have blue eyes so that doesn't surprise me.

Love, toddler sick u poor thing :( I hate the smell of sick. Makes me sick too. What a rubbish rainy morning. Rain makes everything so much harder doesn't it

Thanks for the welcome. For night after vacs it was much better than expected - 1st vacs were horrible, grouchy monster the whole night despite Calpol. This time didn't give any and she was fine, just a most offended squeal at the time and a good stab at evicting the rotavirus vac from her mouth.

Not been thinking about weight - back in pre pregnancy clothes purely due to her being sensitive to eggs so cake is not an option. Also not sure about chocolate and with a choice between sleep and chocolate sleep will always win!

Just having front and back doors replaced as more or less final stage of house project - yay!

Good luck with the vacs Dozy and hope all those feeling unwell feel better soon - no idea how you guys keep track - struggling to know my own name with little miss distraction.

Anyone else having phone/plate/whatever is in range swiped at - nearly lost my crumble last week, various babygrow feet have food stains and she's been trying to post this message for me for a while!