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LaLaLaaaa · 08/08/2015 04:11

New thread! Roll call...

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Fleurchamp · 28/08/2015 09:04

Oh and wil to get to sleep I usually pick a number in the high 00's and count backwards in 3s - I never get to zero.

Or, I listen to a podcast - radio 4 in our time - all interesting subjects but I have never got to the end of one. The voices just rock me to sleep Wink

Pisghetti · 28/08/2015 09:06

Haha Scoob rock on! MINIon gets a high five too! Go R!

There was more I was going to say but BabyPis STINKS so I'm going to have to come back later... Envy

WilHarlot · 28/08/2015 09:57

Thanks Fleur shall give it a go.

I can smell her from here Pis Wink

I hate the mobile site, have no patience for it.

Minion · 28/08/2015 10:27

Thank you!
Thank you!
MINIon takes a bow. Well she would if she wasn't napping.
She may have finally decided she quite likes sleeping on her tummy as she automatically rolls over now, she must wake every so often as that's what the moans are, but she probably thinks 'ahhh fuck it, sleeps much nicer'.

I'm not going to jinx it by saying this is the start of her getting better at night, so I'll just radiate in the glory that was last night.
Also had to perform my wifely duties RE our previous agreement, that the husband gets some when she sleeps through.
You win some, you lose some hahah!

wil I can never get back to sleep if I wake between 2-5! Almost always due to having an ear worm.. This mornings was that new sam smith song. I don't know the words, just the tune but bloody hell I can't stop humming it.

Just bought R her birthday present. A gorgeous patisserie kitchen from jojomamanbebe. Bit pricy but she's only getting one gift from us, then it's Chrimbo 2 days after that so were getting her little bits for it.

Please make sure I don't turn into those women on the christmas threads, you know the ones,, 45 gifts here, 23 in stocking , 7 from Father Christmas, 2 from the tree (WTAF?) and billions more from rellies. Plus all the stuff I got in the sales but they don't count,,yeah whatevs..

Feel free to Hooya (haven't used that one in a while) if I do.

FurryScoob · 28/08/2015 11:13

WHAT the tree now gets the kids a present too! Shock I have a small chimney that Santa can't fit a lot down, well that'll be my excuse for the next 10 years! Grin

No help on the sleep wil I have often nodded off on miniS's floor if I'm up with her in the night, very glad I bought the fluffier carpet now!

Minion · 28/08/2015 11:31

Yrp
My tree must be a tight fucker.

FurryScoob · 28/08/2015 11:35

Oh shit the Christmas tree, How does that survive a toddler???????

Doh bollocks, will stick my head back in the sand & worry about Christmas in December. May start stocking up on Wine now though!

Fleurchamp · 28/08/2015 11:39

Christmas!?!? Shock

S is asleep face down on me in a milk coma. So cute Grin

If you get an ear worm try humming the pink panther theme tune Wink

WilHarlot · 28/08/2015 13:52

Yeah I'd go for a fake tree and no baubles on the lower branches. But shhh now, no mention of Christmas!

minimooo · 28/08/2015 14:40

Yay R! That's brilliant min Grin

Sounds like S is doing well too fleur. That sounds like a champion sleep last night.
I love In Our Time, it's brilliant.

Enjoy having your mum here la. It's so nice to chill out for a bit while someone else takes over. Recharge the batteries!

Christmas!?? it's too early!

Sorry boo I haven't got any advice beyond someone else giving her the bottle while you're not around. Hope you find a solution so that you can still leave her for the weekend.

E had her third set of jabs today. Just horrible. She absolutely hates them. Poor mite just couldn't stop crying afterwards and we couldn't get her back in the car seat. I ended up carrying her home (it's only a 10-min walk). She's asleep now but I can hear the occasional whimper over the monitor Sad

LaLaLaaaa · 28/08/2015 17:41

Hello!

Catching up!

That's fantastic min! have you had a celebratory gin? That deserves one! don't you dare become one of those mad christmas mums - that thread was hilarious, the amount of stuff folk were buying! Also remember the 'Elf on the shelf' thing? What's that about??

mini poor baby :( that sounds rotten - at least that's them over with now hopefully?

wil getting back to sleep - I find brushing my teeth or doing something 'bedtime routine' like helps. Also reading a book.

pis are our babies in cahoots? Mine reeks! He's shitting every hour just now and his farts smell like death.

I ended up putting olive oil on B's dry skin - mw made this big thing about how it's not recommended but never actually said why, so I thought I'd just go ahead and do it. He hasn't combusted yet so I reckon we're ok.

My dm is here and is a god send. She is rocking B to sleep each time he wakes up too early and as a result yesterday I managed to feed every 3 hours instead of the top ups he normally requests. As a result he slept longer and was calmer and happier. Was still up with the straining pain at 6am but I was better able to cope with it now that I know it's quite normal, so I just took him out of crib and let him sleep on my tummy on his tummy. Today though is completely gone to shit. He's waking up all the time and wanting food - he's producing a fair amount of wind! I don't know how the heck he has room for any food.

I do feel a bit guilty as I'm just handing him to her each time, but I am knackered. My mum is being funny about him though - she's proper 'give me the baby!' obsessed. I had to ask her to step away from the pram in Boots today, because I wanted to push him myself for five seconds and she wouldn't let me! So glad she's here though.

fleur - I'm still miserably confused about the formula/expressing feed thing. I desperately want him to be able to take a bottle so that I can leave him occasionally but I'm terrified about supply dwindling if I do it every night. So I really don't know now what to do for the best. I really want to give him a bottle once a day - preferably the 10pm feed so that I can go to bed early when dh is here - but that's meant to be an important one for bf in terms of making them sleepy. I'm a bit :( about the whole thing because I've got the mother's guilt that I'll end up doing it wrong and having to finish bf earlier than intended. I was going to express after morning feed to give later in day. If I ask the health professionals they just go on about the supply and make me feel guilty.

Today he's cluster feeding and waking up often from naps and wanting food, so I'm exhausted. It's days like this when I feel like I want to knock bf on the head because of how tiring it is.

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Pisghetti · 28/08/2015 18:03

La my midwife recommended olive oil! We used organic sunflower oil for baby massage classes too which you could probably get in the supermarket? Do you need to offer a bottle every day? Mind you if you did and you felt it was affecting your supply you could just knock the bottle on the head for a bit and spend a couple of days doing skin to skin and you'd be alright again. On my bf group there are ladies who have successfully 'relactated' a couple of weeks after giving up bf and then changing their minds. Boobs are clever things - you won't just dry up overnight. As for baby taking a bottle I think you'll either get lucky or you won't. BabyPis has one quite rarely but will take it happily. On the other hand I think Wil has been unlucky with Micro and she just won't take one? When I tried to combi feed my son he loved his bottle so much he refused the breast! Babies aren't as clever as boobs Grin

Fleurchamp · 28/08/2015 19:39

I'm confused too la but all the cluster feeding in the evening is wearing me out and making me sore. I am going to use formula as a top up - say I feed at 11pm ish and then half an hour later he asks for more, I am going to give formula.

Hopefully this means as I am not entirely cutting out a feed it should be ok Confused

S takes everything we have given him so far - he doesn't appear fussy.

Minion · 28/08/2015 20:46

I had a lunch wine with the mums instead
My phone is being an arse so this will be short. God knows if this will even post.
We'll see how tonight goes. I won't be cocky, expect the worst and then I'll only be pleasantly surprised x

LaLaLaaaa · 28/08/2015 21:03

fleur I think I'm just going to go with it for the moment and see how I get on. I love bf - the closeness of it and being able to settle him, but I just get so frustrated at how tired I am when he cluster feeds and how I can't get anything else done. I think I need to learn to give myself up to it and just go with it. It can take so long to get him back to sleep afterwards that it's time to feed again, so I never get a break. But I guess thats just newborns!

I might do same as you and keep formula to hand just in case it gets too much.

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ZylaB · 28/08/2015 21:09

Apparently Farley's rusks are the food of the gods lol :). Though she's only done a little poo today and in still straining, I guess it must feel weird after doing wet breastfed ones for all this time. I'm trying to get her to drink water but she doesn't swallow much of it, will give her lots of boob tomorrow I think.

DulcetMoans · 28/08/2015 22:32

Good luck tonight min, fingers crossed for you!

Even grown ups like a good rusk zyla! Hadn't thought about the future of dealing with solid poos. Yuck!

Poor baby mini! Did you have to leave your car at the doctors?! At least you know it's all for the best reason. And they don't remember!

Christmas chat - yay! I'm looking forward to it already, but October is my limit for the start of actual celebrations. Never heard of the tree giving presents though!

Also have a stinky baby. Seems unfair since he spends so much time directly under my nose!

Had my 6 week check today. J doing well, passed all his tests. That hip one is horrible to watch - they bend him so much! I have an infection and on antibiotics from tomorrow. Can't get swab results til Tuesday so on two types of antibiotics to be safe - 6 tablets a day! Uterus not retracted either, has anyone experienced that?

RPopz · 28/08/2015 23:04

I bloody hate this mobile site! Catch up later xx

Minion · 29/08/2015 06:10

Ahhh nuts.
One off fluke it was! She woke at 3(she loves that time), husband fed her (Lazy way of getting her back to sleep but it works) but tbf she did go straight back and not a peep.
Sadly I couldn't get back to sleep for ages.
Today's ear worm...
Taylor Swift (loves me a bit o tay tay)

Fleurchamp · 29/08/2015 07:27

Morning all

We resorted to formula, again. I don't get it - he fed hourly from 5pm until 11pm (which is pretty constant as he takes 40mins - 1hr to feed) and was then still screaming for more. He took 4oz again Confused

Slept until 4am, changed and fed. Slept again until 7am.

I am so sore and fed up. I fed for 6 hours and give formula anyway!!

I enjoy BFing for those reasons too la - to he perfectly honest I am not sure my bond with S is all that strong and so I worry if I give up BF I will lose what little bond I do have. He doesn't seem that bothered by me either (which is probably a ridiculous thing to say about a 6 week old).

Ah min but she can do it and you will now go to bed every night wondering if she will sleep through
Love the Taylor swift ear worm Grin

LaLaLaaaa · 29/08/2015 07:41

Min hopefully it's the start of a better habit though? It sounds like she's getting a bit better!

Fleur - me too! Cluster fed 4pm until 10pm with the odd half hour nap but nothing proper. I was at my wits end at 11pm because he was still saying he was hungry! I was about to cave and give formula. But stuck dummy in and put him down and he finally slept at 11:30.

Then he didn't wake until 3!!!! Then 7:30!!

I feel incredible! Perhaps this cluster feed is the start of sleeping longer at night?

He did whinge lots with his gas pain at 6am but I lifted his legs up and down to help him fart and he went back to sleep.

Wow.

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cookielove · 29/08/2015 07:43

Ahhh fleur at 6 weeks they are still so little don't worry about your bond! It definitely develops over time!!

E head-butted me this morning, really really hurt and there was blood! Owwww!

DulcetMoans · 29/08/2015 08:05

Whose blood cookie??

Glad you had better nights la and fleur. It's all learning still. We've only had 5 he's once and no idea what was different that day!

I'm sure you have bonded with him in some way fleur, even if not in the way you expected. He's feeding and sleeping on you so he must feel secure enough and trust you to do that.

Not so good for you min. At least she went back down but still frustrating for you. Ear worms are a massive problem here too! This week it's been les mis - lovely ladies and people's song as I watched it on telly.

WilHarlot · 29/08/2015 09:15

I've missed something Dulcet, why the antibiotics? Don't know about the uterus, sorry. What do they do about that?

Zyla C wouldn't take much water when first offered but now she loves it. She takes more from those hard spout toddler cups than a baby sippy cup.

La giving a regular bottle of expressed won't affect your overall ability to bf. It won't affect the other feeds in the day. Just might mean that if one day you can't give a bottle for some reason, you may have a cranky baby because he is expecting a full bottle's worth and you're no longer used to producing that at that time of day. Like Pis says though, you could pull it back by starting feeding again. What I noticed was that i couldn't express as much over time so in the end, the bottle ended up being mostly formula. But expressing isn't a true reflection of production anyway. I loved the night time bottle - she slept like a dream. Introduced it at about three/four weeks and never looked back. Bfed for a year.

Little gannet has just had porridge, fruit and french toast for breakfast. Question: if I put a plastic sippy cup in microwave sterliser will it be ok or melt? I once melted a syringe...

ZylaB · 29/08/2015 10:11

wil I'm not sure I know what kind of cup you mean? We had an epic poo anyway, not solid solid, but still a big girl one! (Lol) so I'm sure she feels a lot better now :)

Ow cookie!

The cluster feeding in evenings sounds perfectly normal, H used to do it from 6 to 10 or 11 for months. Just readjust your expectations, use the time to watch some quiet tv or mn, don't even plan to do any housework or anything! The good news is they will hopefully bring bed time forward over time, as their tummies get bigger. H is now in bed by 8.30 most nights and sleeps through until 5ish about two thirds of the time, has a nappy and feed, then goes back to sleep for another couple of hours. It IS relentless, the feeding, so do what you need to to save your sanity, but try to remember it will get better, and write off your evenings, make your DP run around doing stuff and you snuggle with your baby :)