June 2015 - our adorable babies are here!

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Right, I'll start us a post natal thread that we can gibber on.

We had vomit sunami X2 yesterday. One just before our dinner, which necessitated a quick bath/hair wash (which toots hated til sat her in the water then she was happy -ish). 2nd was about half 11 and all down her dad, took. But since then she slept for four hour stretches and been much more settled.

We formula feeding on demand (anywhere from 30ml to 90mls) but I don't know if we fed too much or didn't wind properly. But she is pooing for Britain so no problems that end.

come We had a really good day on Monday, we made it to our first baby group, had decent sized naps and slept well that night as well. On Tuesday there was still no vomiting or loose poos, he slept for 2 hours straight in the car to my mums and we still had a fairly decent night. Today has been a complete turnaround. He has been so unsettled during the day, only happy when he is feeding which has been at least hourly, has not wanted to be put down at all and has needed to be held at all times. He vomited earlier mini-projectile like (it made it as far enough away from him to reach my elbow), but there is nothing else obvious wrong with him. He is not dehydrated, not in obvious pain, not drawing his legs up, no temperature, dozing off to sleep with most feeds. This is kind how he was before his stomach bug showed itself last week. Would it be overkill to take him to see a GP even though apart from the vomiting there aren't any symptoms, he is just not himself? I wish I knew what he was trying to tell me.

I'm still in the cake, sugar, junk feeding plan for myself. DS feeding so often must be sort of balancing it out, right?

come Mabel is good thank you, we have her first lot of jabs today though so not looking forward to that! Hope she will be ok!

Hope your daytime routine takes hold soon, it's so much easier when you can sort of have a plan around feeding times! And don't worry about your diet yet, until baby is more settled and you get a break from feeding constantly eating healthy is just not a priority it will sort itself out soon though don't worry!

excited if you are worried about Charles take him to the gp you know him the best and if something is telling you he isn't well you are probably right.

Thank you Chook, I decided that if he was still the same this morning then I would book him a GP appointment, but he seems to be back to normal. He has slept really well this morning, has given loads of smiles and happy sounds.

Good luck with Mabel's jabs today, I hope that they aren't too bad for her or you.

hi everyone,

come how is your routine going? I had the same plan to start setting up a routine of 3hr feeds, but yesterday was a big failure: DS was unsettled the whole day, wanting to feed more often, but then not really feeding much at all (so I suspect he just wanted to suckle, but he didn't seem to want his dummy). He didn't really settle at all during the day. All in all, a difficult day, ending with me teary and exhausted. I feel awful when there are days like this, because I can't wait for DP to get back to he can take DS "off my hands" - but then that feeling makes me feel bad and guilty...

I think it all boils down to how much sleep I get. I am naturally a person who needs a fair bit of sleep (probably more than average), and I just don't seem to be able to cope with 4 hours sleep per night. Some nights are better (last night wasn't too bad: DS slept from 10pm to 2am, then till 4am, then woke at 7am, and importantly he managed to go back to sleep quite quickly after feeding), but some nights are just really tough when DS wakes and then will not go back to sleep!

Sorry for the moan...

Chook hope Mabel's jabs go well

excited glad to hear that your LO seems back to normal.

Off to shower now (hoping DS stays asleep!)...

update: DS napped while I managed to have a nice leisurely shower, wash my hair, and moisturize! I feel much better: today is off to a good start

Wellllllll....... yesterday was a disaster. feeding and playing portions of the day are going well. DD is interacting and wriggling about no end. Set her at bottom of mat and she pushes to top quite easily - one to watch all the time I fear!

Not so good are the sleeping bits. She'll go down for 10-15mins tops. Then wake herself up.

That said, I've just fed her at half 9 and put her in bouncy chair. She's asleep and I've also managed a shower!

Wasn't a complete disaster yesterday but her over tiredness plus crying got to me so was in tears by time OH got home. Everything is compounded by feeling like periods about to restart plus I have MS and some of my original symptoms returned so have constant pins n needles/numbness which make me scared ill drop DD. I won't. I'm very vigilant but it's a horrible sensation. Snottery tears around yesterday (minus the snot)

BUT I've had a shower today. Just about to try and get some breakfast in me and dry my hair then we are off out for fresh air/spot of shopping. Fingers crossed it's all done with no dramas!

P's. I was excited about the shower can you tell?!

Zah glad you also got a shower hope you have a good day

excited and zaha thank you for your well wishes, she cried for about 10 seconds then all was fine, she didn't show any signs of any side effects but she did sleep for 11 hours last night so they def did do something!

Hooray for the baby free shower time! Makes you feel so much better doesn't it, hope each day gets a little easier and you manage to get a little bit of time back to yourself each day!

Oh chook I was was so excited about my shower I forgot about mabel's jags! Glad she didn't have any side effects. What was your secret?!

DD has hers next week

Well we made it out for a couple of hours. Think I need to start dressing DD in dresses though as everyone thinks she's a boy!!!!!!! Which is very annoying. I want to dress her in dungarees and combat shorts. Ha ha ha

Anyway, we made it until 2pm before any crying fits. Currently got DD in rocking chair thingy to get her to sleep. I should hoover but I'm watching telly instead

Haha no problem come shower time is very exciting! I didn't do anything in particular just had a bottle ready for straight after and she was happy with that!

Hope your little lady is letting you get some rest! And I Second the dungarees Mabel lives in those and rompers.. I love them!

Routine?!!! Haha! Mind you, my little chap will sometimes go down for a decent nap after "lunch" (whenever that is between 11 and 3!) so I suppose that's a bit of a pattern. Often he's woken because of plans his sister and I have, though. Poor second child

He has his jabs in a fortnight, the day before we fly on holiday. Yikes.

Lo cracks me up. Just woke up to to find she had manoeuvred self from a "feet to bottom of cot" position to lying across the cot, head not quite touching side.

Now wondering what to do re protecting her wee napper as obviously bumpers are banned. Thinking a rolled up towel shoved under sheet bolster style. All other ideas welcome as that's all my 3 in the morn brain cab think of!

pas We have jabs the same day as you.

come Bolster style towels could work.

We had a really good sleep last night from 22:30-05:15 and has been feeding and going straight back to sleep from then until now. I never thought that we would have any sleep even approaching this in the early days.

Morning

come how is your routine coming along? I've abandoned the idea of a routine. It just wasn't working, so I am back to DS dictating when is wants to eat, sleep, and play!

excited glad to hear that you got some good sleep. That is really great, it makes such a difference, now if only DS would follow suit...

DS has his jabs in a fortnight. Is there anything I should know to be prepared? How might he react?

For those of you who are ftm. are you following any books or methods? I am winging it to be honest. I had a book for pregnancy, but for some reason, I don't really want to rely on a book for baby. But sometimes I have no clue as to what I should be doing!

Zah, I'm an absolute believer in winging it following your instinct rather than books. Like you I had a book for pregnancy but every baby is different and I really don't think a book it even a library of books will answer all the questions! I watched my best friend sink into horrid pnd largely, I'm sure, because her very difficult baby didn't conform to any of the books. It's made me very sceptical.

We are completely winging it listening and responding to Charles' needs whenever they may be. It turns out that mornings are currently more sleepy and the afternoons more active. I figure that if he is full,clean, happy and rested enough then that is good enough.

It turns out that the D+V hasn't resolved and even though he isn't pooing every day, when he does it's fully liquid. We had another trip to the GP, and although he is well hydrated and alert the GP recognised that there is something wrong (we are nearly 2 weeks since the start of it), but that he is not unwell enough today for a hospital admission. I have collected a urine sample, have a poo sample to get and he is to be seen again after being weighed at baby clinic on Wednesday. Any worsening of symptoms and we need to go to A+E. I have a horrible feeling that he will have either lost weight or not gained a great deal and will be sent to hospital.

Well I broke my baby. That's how my routine is going. Dropped her on to hardwood flooring. She flipped right out my arms as was bending down to put her in her bouncy chair.

Fracture to her skull. I absolutely win worst new mum of the year badge.

Wee soul is all back to her wriggly, colicky self. Me, I'm an absolute guilt ridden mess of tears and well grief.

Slightly calmed by medical/nursing staff telling me this happens A LOT!!!! But that child protection services chat is still to occur

Oh come!! You poor poor thing! I'm sure she's absolutely fine, as you say it will be you that is the mess. It must happen lots. My 3yo has started wanting to pick ds up to pass him to me... That's fraught with fracture potential, I can tell you...

Thanks pas she pretty much is the exact same as she always is.

The consultant wants her to stay

Oops posted to soon.

Stay til end of week. As that's his preference.

They are so matter of fact about it. Kind of scary that they obviously see this so often. Maybe they should start a "I dropped my baby" therapy session.

I'm starting to make a few jokes about it now. And I'm actually able to listen properly to ward round and ask somewhat intelligent questions.

In later years when lo tries to blackmail using this I'll need to turn it around to "well if you weren't such a wriggle worm"

come you are not a bad mum, it was an accident. I looked after a very wriggly baby when I was a student that had wriggled off the bed and got a cut on the head deep enough to see the bone. Make sure that you look after yourself too.

Hi all, can I join? Ds2 was born 16th June so he's 7 weeks now.

It's a lovely feeling being a mum of two, knowing they're brother, having a cuddly baby.

It is also hard, night feeds, trying to balance time between house stuff, ds1 and the baby.

Baby is mostly sleeping well, he'll go a good 4-6 hours at night but he's in no routine with his daytime naps, he'll have a long sleep but never at the same time so it's hard to plan anything around that.

I'm wondering what everyone's days are like? I'm a bit lonely at times, sometimes it's 10.30am and I'm still not dressed or even had a coffee by the time I've fed and dressed ds for him to be sick, have two exploding poos, put the washing on etc.

Other days run much more smoothly but it's definitely a juggling act.

People say to sleep when the baby sleeps but how can you do that with an older child and housework to do? Things like washing, loading the dishwasher, making meals and just showering yourself can't just be left. Also there seems little point settling for a sleep when you don't know whether the baby will sleep for 10 minutes or 4 hours.

Ds will sit in his chair for maybe 10 minutes but after that gets fed up and cries.

I'm managing, the house is tidy enough and I'm managing some days out with ds1, but I'm not really cooking anything much.

Oh come you poor thing! Like everyone says it happens all the time. Not that thst makes you feel better, but she is ok. Angus has a tendency to fling himself backwards as I'm carrying him down the stairs, so I'm sure I'll be posting similar soon.

Hi pyjama! Congratulations and welcome. My days are a bit all over the place. I'm mostly at home, because I live in the back arse of nowhere and we are pretty trapped here. He doesn't nap all that much in the day, not like when he was newer (he'll be 11 weeks on Thursday). Same as you I'm often not dressed or showered by 10:30. How old is your DS1?

Thanks Bazza, he's 7, he's been really good and really helpful. I kind of miss him though, especially as it's the school holidays. I'm used to us just doing what we like and suddenly there's this new little boy who's taking up so much of my time.

I'm doing my best not to leave ds1 out and I've taken him out on my own a couple of times but it's inevitable that things are very baby focused what with 3 hourly feeds, dealing with poo, sick, playtime and trying to get baby to sleep in between all that.

Oh come you poor thing, that must have been terrifying but as the others have said its so easy to do when they are wriggling about... You are not to blame even tho you will! I had social services call me when my dd1 fell down the stairs and broke her wrist at 18months it was just a call and they didn't follow up with anything so good job I wasn't beating her really!

pyjama congrats and welcome I have a similar age gap my dd1 is 6 and my dd2 is 9 weeks this Friday so I get what your saying about juggling the two and feeling Guilty about the time spent with baby but it won't last that's what I keep telling myself it passes so quickly I'm just trying to enjoy the baby stage