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December 2012: The one were they are stubborn Monkeys

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halestone · 03/04/2015 07:02

New thread for us.

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DeladionInch · 27/07/2015 08:47

R worked out our basic lifty one at 16 months. Ditto the latch one at the park! We have one with a button that he's not strong enough for these days

SpottyTeacakes · 27/07/2015 08:56

We took our stair gates down ages ago. One of them fell off the wall and the other one was just annoying me. Same with the third one.

MrsNutella · 27/07/2015 09:30

It's one where you have to press the button on top and underneath. Sad

DeladionInch · 27/07/2015 09:34

Ours has it on the side, you have to push in to lift the handle then lift the whole gate. The button is the kitchen side not the R side!

ThreeFrazzledFandangos · 27/07/2015 12:56

Yep stair gates taken down here when he worked out that there was a pressure point on it and if he ran full pelt at that spot it would spring open.

I took it down to prevent him hurling himself straight down the stairs Hmm

utopian99 · 27/07/2015 16:23

We've never had stair gates as O started walking so early he sort of just learned that stairs are not for going at without adults. Not these days of course, but he seems to be sensible still. Of course now A is staggering about on fingers at 8mo I suppose we really will need them or he'll just try to copy his big brother..

hales you're being very decent, but I'd be of a mind to teach him to step up and stop being a sponger. Angry

MrsNutella · 27/07/2015 18:27

They are more to prevent him from running off upstairs again when we don't want him too.
It was the casual way he opened it this morning and we haven't seen him do it ever before!

We have three gates though and the upstairs two I don't think he can work. They involve a pinch and slide movement that I hope keeps him foxed long enough for DD to get the hang of stairs. Then I'm happy to take them down.
DD loves climbing them and patting the stairs as she goes.

Well, after a nightmare bedtime last night - which involved him climbing under his mattress and lying between the bed base and the mattress, the unpacking of a whole box of baby ear buds "mummy, I cleaning my ear" and then on subsequent trips to return him to bed finding more of the cotton wool bits and him handing it to me saying "snowman" (but in German) and me trying not to laugh it took two hours for him to go to sleep.

Tonight it took DH about 20 minutes Hmm DS was pretty tired though. My turn again tomorrow...

SpottyTeacakes · 27/07/2015 18:39

Ds doesn't walk down the stairs....he jumps down them Confused

ThreeFrazzledFandangos · 27/07/2015 20:18

DS has had a nap. I've delayed bedtime by 1 1/4 hours. Let's see what time he finally goes down.

WLmum · 27/07/2015 20:43

How are you today hales?

DeladionInch · 27/07/2015 20:46

Good luck Fraz

WLmum · 28/07/2015 21:34

No one online today?
Hoping you're ok hales
delad when are you due? Did I imagine it or are you having another little dude?

Barbeasty · 28/07/2015 21:50

A little WL!

A is being very difficult this week. He and DD have been at MIL so far this week (she has h Mondays and Tuesdays normally) and it seems he doesn't like sharing "his" time.

He's also being fiercely independent. After insisting he get changed himself after swimming last week, so far yesterday and today he's got himself ready for bed. Nappy, teeth cleaning and all. I'm not allowed near it.

DeladionInch · 29/07/2015 08:10

6 weeks or so wl yes, brother for R :)

Thinking of you hales

SpottyTeacakes · 29/07/2015 16:25

Dd's first tooth has fallen out. Ds doesn't understand why his aren't falling out Smile

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halestone · 29/07/2015 16:35

Delad, i didn't realise you knew the sex congratulations. Two little boys sounds perfect Grin

Beasty, H is like that and its very hard work especially if we need to be quick.

DP asked my Dsis to babysit H and he and me talked calmly. He said he doesn't actually want to split up but he was struggling alot at the moment. He said i moaned alot recently which is true i am and he said that he feels like i've lost myself abit as we haven't been able for me to go out with friends and have my own life, again thats true. I said i was struggling to deal with DSD at the moment and he agreed her behaviour has become hard work. I also said that i struggle with his family undermining his decisions and doing what they want and us having to deal with the consequences.

He is going to have a word with DSD and his family Mil I am going to try and stop moaning so much and try and get out with friends more now our finances are in order. He and me have also said we need to resume date night once a month again so that we can talk in private and not let issues build up to this point again. So hopefully this last few days is over and we can try again to be more respectful of each other. Thank You all for your support i genuinely thought it was the end and now feel embarrassed about the whole situation.Blush

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DeladionInch · 29/07/2015 16:54

You didn't cause it, don't be embarrassed! Better to tell us anyway, we don't know him so a clouded opinion doesn't matter Flowers

WLmum · 29/07/2015 17:27

Bless you hales no need for embarrassment - we're all friends here! Glad to hear that you've got an action plan to get things back on track.
spotty T is always telling us she has a wobbly tooth.

SpottyTeacakes · 29/07/2015 17:37

Ah hales definitely don't be embarrassed! Hope things improve for you.

We've had three wees and a poo in the potty this afternoon and no accidents. He keeps sitting on the potty to fart too Grin

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halestone · 29/07/2015 18:40

Thanks Thank You everyone, theres lots of changes we need to put in place, but hopefully they will work and we will be fine.

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halestone · 29/07/2015 20:18

Spotty well done to DS.Grin

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MrsNutella · 29/07/2015 21:46

hales I think the way that you two have been a ble to sit down and talk is a really really grown up thing to do - oh I know, no body really wants to be a grown up do they?! - I think it shows great things for both of you! As long as your happy I hope you two can make it work.

DH and I have had our moments. I think small kids are intense and they push you to the limits. Sometimes of course you forget to take care of yourself and then other things can creep in which just grow to become problems.

Ugh. Life. It is not easy! I had a horrible Monday, then DH took DD and sent me out for a coffee on my own. It was lovely and after half an hour I was feeling much better.

spotty well done DS! I cannot wait for potty training to happen and be quickly behind us I hope things go errrr... In the right places for you Wink

SpottyTeacakes · 29/07/2015 21:58

Potty training is my most hated part of parenting Grin I'm already regretting starting it as we go out every day and it seems so much hassle!

Barbeasty · 29/07/2015 22:28

One if DH's colleagues is expecting his 1st baby and was asking DH about it. How long do sleepless nights go on for (2.5 years); how long do you have to change nappies for (2.5 years and counting!)....

A did a wee on the floor this evening and told DH to "clear that up Right Now!" He wasn't mirroring my intonation and phrasing there. Noooo.

And apparently shining a torch on your willy (standing naked with torch in one hand and willy in the other) Is Funny Mummy.

Barbeasty · 29/07/2015 22:29

And glad you're sorting things Hales.