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JuniDD · 04/03/2015 19:39

A lovely thread for all the JS Grad Grads to chat feeding, sleep and post-birth STUFF.

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Roll call please ladies and perhaps add the number of slings and buggies you have acquired at the time of posting... Wink

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Minion · 31/03/2015 08:04

Oh I'm all for swaddling zyla, it's been a sleep saver here. very good but nobody warned me about trying to wean them off it.... Eeek

willywallace · 31/03/2015 09:11

That's my issue too zyla: inconsistency. If you know what to expect things are easier.

ZylaB · 31/03/2015 10:55

I agree wil these things should come with some sort of individual instructions! How are you doing? It's sounding like its jot getting much better at your end?

min I think at the moment I'll take some sleep and deal with getting her out of swaddling when she's bigger Grin. We only swaddled her arms so she was moving her legs freely, hopefully this may help! (Having said this I get it won't work tonight now lol)

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 12:23

MicroBoo spent all of an hour and a half in her crib last night Sad I was starting to think that I should broach the subject of a bednest to DH as she's happy to sleep next to me if I roll her off. Then we saw the prices of the photo's from the cherub shoot and I changed my mind a bit, and then we got home and found the fence had blown down so now we have to get it fixed as all of the posts have rotted at ground level. None of this is stuff we could afford. Pretty sure DH is in real danger of crying...

laurenamium · 31/03/2015 12:30

I fell off the Fred Shock

The cats brought fleas in Confused I've only seen 2. One on the cat and one on the floor, and the dog is clear. But I'm on High alert and the cats off to the vets first thing in the morning to be re treated. I'm so itchy!

I've also signed myself up for a new mums fitness thing- basically circuit training in a park with your baby there next to you.

Sorry to those that still are getting no sleep and with unsettled babies Sad

RPopz · 31/03/2015 12:32

DS would never be swaddled so at least we don't have that to deal with.

DH is fucking pissing me off something chronic. His friend has been to stay this weekend and is just leaving now. He's done nothing with the baby so I've had no day off this week. They've monopolized the tv and living room the whole time as usual. Were out til 5am on Saturday. I bought them a Dominoes last night cos i wanted one. Get up this morning to find they've eaten half of the pizza I saved for my lunch for their breakfast. DH's mate gave me a tenner towards the pizza which DH announces he's keeping to pay for petrol... (I gave him twenty quid towards petrol the other day!!! Angry )

Now got to trail poor DS an hours drive to the new hospital that Mum's been transferred to so she can whinge at me for buying her Primark pants instead of sodding M&S ones!

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 12:42

Argh popz what an arse! Remind him of this next time he considers having a friend to stay and girly tell him no bloody way!

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 12:42

Girly = firmly

willywallace · 31/03/2015 14:46

Popz that's fucking inconsiderate with everything you're going through at the moment, not surprised you're annoyed.

zyla I shouldn't moan because I get a heck of a lot more sleep than you do. I think really it's just having two. I could probably cope fine with the baby situation if I didn't have a really demanding toddler. And the house is just so messy but if I put her down for more than five or ten minutes she screams so I can't get anything done. All in all I'm just feeling pretty fed up and that makes me feel guilty because I loved this time with MiniWil.

ZylaB · 31/03/2015 15:43

She'll get through it wil, forget about the housework enjoy your baby! I'm getting my head around the times (most of the time) when H screams when put down and am sitting and cuddling or slinging and pottering about. I can't imagine how hard it is with a toddler as well, you're doing a great job!

Minion · 31/03/2015 16:10

Ahh boo if you are anywhere near cheshire I'm selling mine for £80

FurryScoob · 31/03/2015 18:06

Rpopz Hope your DH at least buys you a mahoosive Easter egg to make up for his twatish behaviour.

lauren stronghold is good flea killer, cheaper of the Internet & less hassle than getting to the vets.

Don't worry about the mess wil time with your kids is more important. Anyone who has time to notice the mess can clean it up for you, that's been my moto for the last 4 months! Grin

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 18:10

We're in Norwich min, so I'm pretty sure we're a gazzilion miles from you (my geography is pretty shoddy, but I think you're the other side of London?) I was thinking of hiring one, I can't cope with having much more stuff that we're going to have to sell once microBoo grows out of it! but yea, on top of the cost of fixing the fence, and the potential cost of us wanting photo's from this photo shoot funds are a bit tight to be buying a bedrest when we already have a crib...

MicroBoo sleeps really well in the sit'n'relax during the day... she's technically not meant to sleep in it because it's not flat, but I'm wondering if it's worth taking it upstairs and seeing if I can get her to sleep in it tonight, it's got to be safer for her than sleeping in the bed with me...

Housework has been abandoned in our house, nothing has been cleaned apart from the kitchen since I went on my pre-induction cleaning spree about a week and a half ago. DH doesn't see the mess and I've been too busy feeding and watching the girls and desperately trying and failing to nap to clean, but it is getting a bit much, might have to lock the three of them in a room together tomorrow afternoon and go on a quick spree...

RPopz · 31/03/2015 18:35

Boo you definitely should not be cleaning! Get Mr Boo to do it, that's what pat leave is for!! Bednest is worth every penny IMO. Shame I can't share our rental with you... We're blatantly not going to get another 3 months out of it Sad

AIBU to just really fucking hate my husband?? Is it a normal post natal thing? I think this weekend has just really proven that his life hasn't changed at all, apart from occasionally having to cuddle a baby. And I'm being everything for everybody. I'm knackered.

Minion · 31/03/2015 18:53

No I'm near Manchester, still other side to you tho.
popz are you at the 'if you dare breathe too loudly ill save the next poonami nappy and make you inhale it ' stage?
Seriously though, what do you think is causing it? I have a little jealousy /resentment that oh gets to continue his life whilst I'm at home placating miss mardy knickers.
Then I remember that he misses a lot with her and feel guilt... But sometimes... Grrrrrrrr
Is he hands on our do you think he's just waiting for the stage where they do more? I hear that's common

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JuniDD · 31/03/2015 19:32

popz I go through phases of fucking hating MrJ and he's not so bad at all. I think you are justified!

The dentist is a bit "no blame" with the receding bone thing and suggested it may be hereditary. MrJ thinks I need to clean my teeth more often.

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willywallace · 31/03/2015 19:38

Is it different to receding gums?

I felt like that about MrWil last time round - think it's perfectly normal. He's way more helpful now though. Have you told him how you feel Popz?

Boo is there anyone who wants to buy you a baby present who you could get to help pay for the photos? I hate photographers who charge per photo.

Thanks for reassurance. Just having a shitty day. Up and out early tomorrow though which is always better.

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 19:42

popz I elbowed dh in the face last night and told him that if he was going to fall asleep could he do it the other way because him falling asleep in my ear was making me want to stab him with my sword long story but I do have a blunt sword and it is under the bed he was surprisingly obliging! I think it just takes the men folk longer to get used to the new small folk, dh is very hands on with miniboo now she's bigger and has what he calls a 'proper personality' but he has this look of wide eyed terror every time he needs to do something for microboo. Dad says it's because the babies are small and fragile looking... and them not being comfortable makes them look lazy and thus makes us hate them...

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 20:02

I don't know wil PiL blanched at the price list, going to mention it to mum, but whereas with miniboo people kind of threw money at us people are mostly of the opinion we must have everything we need this time feels a bit sorry for microboo There are packages, but the one that's the best value is £600 Shock that does include every single image from all three shoots on a usb though and the copyright for them and they're all photoshopped and beautiful looking and come in both colour and black and white in theory bearing in mind the amount of effort he put into todays shoot I actually think it's not that unreasonable, but £600 is still a lot of money... If they don't need payment till the last shoot we could save £50 a month which is pretty doable if you ignore the ridiculous sum of money we need to find to replace the fence in the back garden

RPopz · 31/03/2015 21:03

Haha Boo ... Mr Popz is already not allowed to sleep facing me (I just don't like it) or facing my back (I HATE him breathing on my neck). We have a strict back to back policy here Grin Strangely, he has recently taken to sleeping with his head on his arm and his elbow stuck out at a lethal angle.... Angry

I'm not sure what it is Min - I'm just generally annoyed/ repulsed/ irritated by him at all times at the moment. I don't mind particularly that my life has changed but I do resent that his hasn't at all... in that he goes to work, comes home and just sits in bath/ glued to his phone/ dicking around with his gaming stuff for hours. His friend only left this morning but he's been whatsapping him all evening... He speaks to him more than me! He said he wanted to bath DS earlier but turned out what he actually wanted was to have a bath himself, have DS in with him for a wash, and for me to do all the preparation and sorting DS out after while he continued his leisurely bath! Told him to fuck off.

RPopz · 31/03/2015 21:06

How many photography sessions do you get Boo? We had one done for 250 quid. Was pretty annoyed when I realised we only get 5 pics for that (digital not even prints). To buy all the images she took would be 400 quid! Shock

willywallace · 31/03/2015 21:19

We just had one session booked - although turned into two due to little miss' tantrums - and got all images, each in colour and b&w for £50. Think it was about 60 images in total. However I don't love them, but they're good enough for that price.

willywallace · 31/03/2015 21:24

Popz the gaming would end me. Can you tell him you're struggling to manage with everything - even if you're not - and write a big list of everything that needs done each week and he can pick jobs to do? Or is it more just taking responsibility with DS? Can you find an exercise class or something even for an hour once a week to go to?

TheBooMonster · 31/03/2015 21:53

popz there are three sessions, today he did micro on a plain backdrop and on a couple of the props and then some with the two girls and then all four of us, so there should be a fair few pictures there, the whole thing took about an hour. the cost of the shoots is £29 and includes a print from each shoot.

ZylaB · 31/03/2015 22:13

Scream
Scream
Screeeeeam!

I dunno, she's so settled until we actually try to put her down. I honestly think she's over tired, she hasn't had a proper sleep since 4 or 5pm, but she just won't go down. Silly baby.