October 2014 // thread 6 // baby's new year resolution is to sleep more?!

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If you find it munday send it over! Weve just had 1hr30 and now im being chewed on like theres no tomorrow. Dh has vanished. Must be in the house somewhere but just wandered off!

What is he up to! So tonight we got 1hr 30 then 2 x30 then 2x 1hr (with white noise etc) why on earth wont he stay asleep? Growth spurt? Teething? Just being a hell child.... who knows. Pass the matchsticks!

Alarmingly crappy night here. We had to dose her with capol because she was screaming at about eight pm (she never normally cries, really, certainly not to the extent that she isn't even interested in a boob, so it was alarming). She calmed down and finally slept about 9.30 then woke up at midnight and I couldn't get her back to sleep till 2. She hasn't done that sort of thing since she was proper newborn- she normally goes back to her crib after ten minutes and sleeps when she wakes up in the night, but every time I put her in there she woke up and started thrashing about, sucking her hands... finally went to sleep and woke up again at six. Fed her, put her down, she woke up, but I managed to get her back to sleep in half an hour or so by shushing and stroking.

So.... I don't know what's going on. I think in part I need to start soothing her in her crib, because if it's the transfer that's waking her then that's probably a sign she needs to have a more settled going to sleep thing. But I don't know why she's so unsettled. The early part was definitely pain, but the rest I don't know if it's an early sleep regression or low level discomfort or what.

Oh my god! We both came to bed at 9. I put her in the sleepyhead awake at 9.20 and just laid there holding her hand, she went to sleep on her own. I reckon both asleep by 9.30. Woke up at 3.30 - THREE THIRTY! But no crying, just gurgling - she barely opened her eyes while eating. Both boobs, back in bed by 4, and is still asleep. A-maze-ing. I vaguely remember putting my hand on her a couple of times in the night, so she obviously made some noises, but not enough for me to wake up properly. I'm now lying in bed reading a book waiting for her to decide she's hungry.

So, a 6 hour then a 4+ hour. Maybe boyfriend should go away more often!

Yay Goats! That's amazing. Hopefully that's the start of a new era.

I'm sure her late 12 week jabs on Tuesday will wreck it, even if it lasts beyond one night. Pessimist alert.

I think she managed it because she'srreally getting into finger sucking to self soothe. She has a muslin in one hand and fingers in hermouth ffrom the other hand - exactly the same as her cousins.

Oh sorry, in my sleep excitement I didn't answer questions - we're going to France with the in laws. We're going to share childcare, so hopefully we'll get some skiing! I'm looking forward to being in the mountains really, don't think I'm physically up to hardcore skiing

Woohoo thats ace goats :D

Goats impressive! And enjoy skiing. I have a good friend in Sweden and whenever I've visited her in jan in the freezing cold it seems to be layers...so tights etc under leggings to keep them snug.

We also after maybe a week of 2 hour wake ups finally got N to sleep at 10pm then he didn't wake until 3.43am! Almost 6 hours! He's never done that so I'm holding out hope for the future!!! After that feed it went bit dodge waking again at 5 but then he slept til 7am so not a bad night and I feel human again and not needing to mainline coffee today!!

Moose and tatty I'm so sorry your having it rough. I really do know how you feel, it's soul destroying not knowing why they can't do longer stretches... There seems to be some great advice on here though. I'm in agreement that although it's nice to know other people are in the same boat with the cries of 'oh that's normal' it doesn't ctually help as such. I quite like having a plan to try, I like feeling proactive.

Also off to buy some goat milk formula today. As no one seems to have any experience of it then I'll trial it out... It's on offer in the supermarket so seems a good idea to buy now!

Yay for longer stretches !!

We are just back from go outdoors buying sledges & new jackets as my dp has booked us a log cabin for two nights in avimore for my 30th in February ... I cant wait, no kids though just us two, it will be nice to spend some together but im apprehensive about leaving them but they love being at my mum & dads so its just me worrying needlessly to be honest

Going to get them both now from my mum & dads then going sledging before the lovely snow melts, dd1 is so excited

Can I please canvas your opinions? I have a leaving the baby dilemma.

So- yesterday she took a bottle but today she's refusing it again. I went out for a run and when I came back she was on the verge of tears and then started howling, which might or might not have been related to my return. It might be that she wouldn't take the bottle because she wasn't that hungry- it was only about 90 mins since her last feed.

DP basically would quite like me to go out as planned tomorrow (3 hours) and Thursday (5 hours) because he wants to be in charge and wants to try and comfort her, even if it means she cries most of the time. Would you go? Knowing: she might not take a bottle (but she does know how to drink from one) and she might cry quite a bit. I don't know whether to think "i can't possibly leave my baby to cry/risk her not eating" or: "she'll be with her dad who will cuddle her and soothe her and if she cries then he'll have to deal with it as best he can/she won't starve".

Genuinely don't know where the line is between responsible and precious.

Tatty go love. And yey for your DH its a lovely suggestion. They will both benefit from some daddy time. Try not to spend your entire run worrying though.

Goats high five!

tatty I would go. What's the absolute worst that can happen? She will cry,and I bet you anything you will come home to a happy fed baby. I'm sure your dp will be fine I think it's great that he wants to do it.

We had a better night again last night. He only woke once was a bit tricky for dp to get back down but did sleep after a bit of a cuddle. I feel so much better after my Friday night off!

I've just cleared out all Rocco's newborn and 0-3 stuff. I'm sad. Really sad. Dp was making noises about selling it I'm not sure I'm done
My head says no but my heart says yes. I must be mad.

stigz I'm so [jealous]

I love snow and really want to go sledging! It never bloody snows here just bloody rains.

Duh it's not [jealous]

Aw pregnant hopefully you see a bit of snow at some point ? Thats the first decent bit of snow here for about 3 years! Dd absolutely loved sledging, she keeps asking when she can go out again and checking that the snow hasn't melted.

Hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekend

Oh and i fell outside Harry corry slipped on the snow and went right down, dp had to pick me up as i couldn't get up for laughing, he was bloody mortified

Really wish this snow and ice would bugger off, its all melted and refrozen here so we're stuck in as we live on a steep hill so cant get the car out. More annoying as its the weekend and we usually make an effort to go somewhere as its easier with dh around, or dh takes him for a drive so i can sleep but no chance while its like this.
Also going to miss bf group on monday as its not going to get above 0 and its a 15 min drive. Havent been for weeks due to xmas, hv ill and us having hosp appointments so really feeling like i could do with the support.
I know there are worse things than being inside and im just having a moan but i just feel like im trapped inside for the forseeable :(

So fed up of this non sleeping baby. Well he does sleep, next to me with nipple in his mouth! Not exactly going to get me any useful sleep :( dh is in a foul mood because his plan of doing bath an hour earlier didnt work and everytime he picks him up to move him he wakes up!

I've had a bad couple of days too feeling reallj trapped. The baby won't take a bottle, cries when anyone but me holds him and my eldest is just constantly 'mummeeeeeee' at the moment. It's relentless. I really thought I was losing it this morning. Felt so claustrophobic :( it wasn't helped by DH getting up and not helping with the children but going on some crazy house clear up as though I've made it a total mess all week (don't think he realises how mich time I spend tidying and sorting etc). I just said 'I need to get out.. Now'. I went for a run it was quite therapeutic.
I know this has been discussed before but any tips for taking a bottle? It's like he doesn't know what to do with it. Just doesn't sick jt. Tried other people, hungry/medium hungry / not hungry, diff temps etc etc. what the magic trick please???

Ah moose sorry you've got one of those non-sleeping babies. I'm worried mine might be after she slept in car seat whilst I had a bath earlier.
DH away overnight, I'm feeding DD and putting her to bed but the stupid cat hasn't come home yet, grr

Do you think there might be a re-set button hidden on babies to get them sleeping again?

*doesnt suck it. Not sick

No magic trick I am afraid fedup. Sorry. perseverance will eventually work, it can take a long time though. Lots of people think stuff this, it isn't worth it and decide to wait until six months and introduce a sippy cup instead.

It's personal choice but I think the perseverance is worth it. DD wouldn't take anything that wasn't boob into her mouth - I wanted her to accept the dummy and the bottle. It took over 5 weeks of daily (usually several times a day) persistence until she got there.

But it gave me such a sense of freedom to know she could be soothed and fed by anyone. This was very important to me.

It is equally the case that with other people they just decide to accept and embrace the fact that baby is tied to them for the first six months for feeding and settling.

Oh i wish munday hes driving me crazy! As is dh. Keeps falling asleep whilst im feeding then becomes completely useless when he wakes. Then moans hes tired! Im not normally one to do the "youve had more sleep" thing but at the moment im spending so much time awake feeding that hes getting about 3x what i am!