Just Mumming Along (Viroids 3)

[cookielove]

There doesn't seem to be any links to the old threads on the old thread

So here is thread 2 which I accidentally filled up whoops!

the current grad thread number 19

And just shagging 36

Goes to show how much time we mums have on our hands!

Ok quick roll call too!

Name: cookielove
Age: 32
Just shagging Dc: Ds1 Elijah, born on 13th August 2014. 5lb 4 oz. He is almost 21 weeks.

I'm not a fan but the new SIDS guidelines suggest they lower the risk. I keep meaning to ask my useless midwife her advice.

DD woke up once between 2.30 & 9.30 if I'd been in bed it would of been the best night sleep since she was born but instead I was watching crap on TV while she slept on my shoulder. DP is keeping out my way so I don't club him to death & bury him under the patio. I've found a water squirty gun, he will leave the bed if he snores tonight!

I'm the same cookie, she looks so cute! like maggie Simpson ha!
She seems to have a cracking startle reflex and for some reason, the dummy lessens that. She's very still at the mo'.
HV has just left and the little madam has gone from 6lb 12 to 7lb 11 in 9 days!
Safe to say it was a growth spurt then! She's getting fat rolls and everything.
All Healy, which is a relief and apparently has great neck control already. Which is no surprise as she's very 'necky', she does a great ET impression.

Great weight gain min, awesome work!

We don't have a dummy but mainly because it never occurred to me to try. DP thinks it would have helped during the screamy times but hey ho, we've moved on.

Been to the shops today - got a toastie maker. Moar cheese!!

OMG I love a toastie! Over Xmas I had loads of turkey, stuffing & cranberry toasties and they were LUSH.

We use a dummy, though I don't love them they're damned useful! Trying only to use it to settle to sleep, he won't have it any other time really.

Just had a busy day here, baby cinema club at 11, which was really good actually! They bring you coffee and cake to your seat and have the lights on low so you can see what you're doing. Saw the Theory of Everything which was pretty good. Finished at 1:30 and had to be at GPs for 2pm, but had totally cocked up timings and only got there at 2:15 Luckily the receptionist took pity on me! He's now 10lb 8oz and on 50pc for weight and height
He properly screamed when he had his jabs, but got over it pretty quickly and is now snoozing happily in his car seat I love the NHS, got a free prescription for some calpol, Infacol, saline drops, & a massive tub of Aveeno moisturiser!

That is fab weight gain Min you must be well chuffed! It's so satisfying when they start to get pudgy

I was contemplating dummies last night Min when minipopz would only go down in his basket with a finger in his gob... and I was pretty certain he wasn't hungry after a 6 hour cluster feed! They seem to be out of fashion don't they - but I had one and so did my sisters and we turned out ok. You're not bfing are you? So you can ignore all the nipple confusion guff which is why hvs try and put you off them.

Today I have been mostly crying about the birth... fb friend put a pic of herself looking all serene and glowy in the birthpool with her newborn this morning... it did me in. Also feeling bad for wishing him to be born because now he is born and he will grow up and i love his fuzzy newbornness....

Hormonal much?!

Plus DH is bringing the dog home as we speak. I cannot imagine the two of them in the house together currently!

I asked the hv about dummies today, she said the same thing about bfing but expressing is ok. She also said that 'guidelines' had changed again, and they now say dummies can help against SIDS as long as you only use them when baby is deep sleeping.
So it's good enough for the government, it's good enough for minion.

Yep she's turning into a right milk monster. I was amazed they grew that much tbh. Thought it'd be an ounce or so but nearly a whole pound!
Mental

Popz, may be worth asking for a debrief with a midwife? I wish I had had one. I was pretty traumatised by it for quite a while. The bonus is that you didn't get to put a photo of yourself in birthing pool on fb. I would put that in the 'oversharing' category.

Also pretty sure nipple confusion is a load of bollocks.

Elijah never had nipple confusion just lazy ness he always went for the easiest option and as my supply wasn't the best bottles were mu get easier!

I think that nipple confusion is total bollocks. I've never been able to find any decent research proving it's existence either way! Life's too short, just do what works

Haha, she didn't share it publicly Wil - Its on an antenatal club fb group. Spawned from mn, like our JSers one, only much busier. The midwife that did DS's baby checks said I could go to a "Birth Afterthoughts" class or something - after I told her I'd never do it again!! I was pretty shell shocked at the time but feel like I could come to terms with it. Perhaps its just turbo hormones making it seem so raw today.

hey popz I can really relate to what you're feeling. I haven't had a debrief yet, don't want to be sent into a spiral of sadness! It's all processing through and it will feel raw and sad but it gets better. I am hoping for some counselling etc though
to you xx

Argh not coherent. Will go for debrief when feeling stronger, probably fairly soon. xx

Haha that's mildly better Popz . I remember the consultant discussing it in the hospital with me but you don't take anything in at that point and I just said I was fine. TBH half my issue was probably with the crap recovery.

Obviously tell me to bugger off if you don't want to revisit it Popz, but I didn't hear your birth story, what happened? Sorry that it wasn't a positive experience
We had the midwife take some pics in the birth pool after, but they were sooo not for public consumption Lots of sweaty face and bloody water!

And we've regressed. Strange night for the lady of the Manor.
She's very fidgety in bed, won't fully go into a deep slumber. Making all her little squeaks etc.
Makes for a very unsettled night. Thankfully she isn't screaming.

Does it make a difference if you prop one end of the mattress up so she's not totally flat?

I've not tried it since the first night where she was a nightmare, may give it a go tonight tho.

It's fine Ness - I do need to write it down, just not got round to it yet! Will share soon. It probably wasn't the worst ever. I just think I let myself down a bit.

Cracked and gave him some formula last night again and he is not remotely interested in boob this morning... BOLLOCKS.

Give him time Popz, he'll want it when he's hungry. If you weren't screaming profanities at the doctor, you're a step up on me .

Oh Popz, there is no such thing as 'letting yourself down' when giving birth - it's the single hardest flipping thing you'll ever do, and everyone's pain is different, so don't beat yourself up.
It's so hard not to be tough on yourself though! I got really upset after the birth when I needed to push out the placenta, and I just couldn't. It was 2hrs and a lot of tears (as in boo-hoo - that is one time it could be either definition!!) before it arrived, and I really felt like I'd let myself down after a really positive labour - DH had to talk me down a bit! Later on I could have a bit more perspective - having pushed out a baby it was reasonable for me to be bloody knackered!!

Oh popz, don't be disheartened! he'll want boob soon enough! I've only been a mom for 15 days but there's one thing I know by now, if baby is hungry, he will take anything..
This doesn't count for my child, who will not under any circumstance, have boob!

Well, she's finally asleep.
On me!
Arghh and I've got things to do. Namely get to the post office. Is it awful if I just let her stay in her baby grow and slap a snowsuit on her?
She'll sleep in the pram.

Husband has had to run out as our second steamer from boots has tripped our electrics! Shite things, and I've no bottles left.

This parenting lark ain't that simple is it...

Ah popz you did great. xx

Lots of skin to skin will get him back on. He'll throw himself towards the nipple when he's ready. That's how I got dd back on the left. Stay topless!

Right, off to a sling library. Sitting in my pants with dd sleeping isn't getting me very far!