Just Mumming Along (Viroids 3)

[cookielove]

There doesn't seem to be any links to the old threads on the old thread

So here is thread 2 which I accidentally filled up whoops!

the current grad thread number 19

And just shagging 36

Goes to show how much time we mums have on our hands!

Ok quick roll call too!

Name: cookielove
Age: 32
Just shagging Dc: Ds1 Elijah, born on 13th August 2014. 5lb 4 oz. He is almost 21 weeks.

J went for a trumping record this morning - 12 in a row
I feed him on demand, which is anything from every 1.5hrs, to 4hrs depending on time of day and how much he ate at the last feed.
Today he ate 11:30pm-12, slept, then ate 5-6, buggered about a bit, so gave more food 6:30-7, slept, then fed 10-10:30, awake until 12-12:30 feed and he's still asleep from then!
Our rule is pretty much that if it's 1.5hrs or more from last feed and he's crying, we try everything (change, play, jiggle) and if it doesn't work, we feed him again!

I bf on demand although if she was being particularly frequent I may have tried to distract her with a walk in the pram or something which involved me wearing headphones to block out the screams. Usually formula keeps them going a bit longer and should theoretically make it easier to get into a 'routine'. They do seem to find their own schedules eventually (and then change them whenever there's a growth spurt, teething, bug etc etc ).

Haha I didn't think of MrNess. Maybe the next feed then! You forget how noisy they are .

I assumed Noah would be shit from the fact it was a big budget film with Russell Crowe in it but thought I'd ask.

God this thread is reminding me what the newborn stage is like. You honestly do forget it all so quickly. How am I going to do it with a toddler in tow?!

Bugger mn just went crazy and ate my post grrrrr!

Anywho Eli is fed on demand and I think he is trying to up his feed but can't quite manage it yet. Lots of the other ff babies are drinking 7 or 8 oz and Elijah is the 2nd oldest (although one of the youngest if you go by due date) he only manages 6oz staggered then will shout for more 1-2hrs later. And that's all he really shouts for.

Busy day on the thread! DD is fed on demand and I probably try to feed her too much! She happily refuses though.

Now got my SIL's old steamer but she's been feeding great today.

ness I had the one boob at night thing. It will settle down but if it's full it's a good time to express if you can face it.

Currently skin to skin with DD, love it.

Tell me this gets easier.
I'm in tears with tiredness. Thankfully husband has come home and is with her. He's sent me upstairs to get some sleep. I've called labour Ward who say it sounds like she just wants feeding more. I'm on 2 bottles at one feeding as it is!
I thought I was overfeeding her, turns out underfeeding instead.
I'm shit I know.

Your not shit min it's really hard adjusting to life with a newborn! The whole I can't focus I am so tired gets better. What helps me is dh often takes Elijah 8-10 so I get an early night it help prepare me for the wake ups later on. Although now he is doing much better on the waking up side of things!

minion you are not shit & yes it does get gradually easier. I spent hours in tears through tiredness & frustration, I've also sat & looked at DD a few times & thought what have I done I can't do this. The lack of sleep is a massive shock to the system but you do get use to it & they do start sleeping for longer. Sleep whenever you can & don't worry about anything else apart from feeding your DD,housework can wait or your DH can do it! We're all here for you & I'm pretty sure we've all been in the same place you are now. Ring your midwife & insist on a visit if your not sure about feeding, They are there to help & should come out if you need them.

I'd second that, the HV or midwife are there to help, so use and abuse them! I found in the early days I could only function if I slept whenever possible, so if he went down in his Moses basket in the middle of the afternoon then I'd close the curtains, get a blanket and pillow and sleep on the sofa until he woke up. DH did the same as cookies OH and took the late evening session, coz J was totally nocturnal for the first 3weeks, so I slept 9-11, then I'd be up with him til 5/6, when I'd wake DH to be with him until he went to work at 8.
It's bloody tough in those early days, just don't be hard on yourself. Sleeping, cuddling and feeding your baby are all you need to do!

I agree, you are NOT shit. Don't you still have the Health Visitor coming to do check ups?

It gets much easier but unfortunately mother's guilt always pesters you about something.

I used to go to bed about 8/9 and MrWil would give the last feed which I either had expressed the night before or sometimes formula. Then he'd bring her up when he went to bed and I would deal with her next time she woke. Meant I quite often had a good chunk of sleep before the nightshift began.

Does it help if you carry her so she's leaning forwards? Like her stomach is resting on your forearm?

Found you!! Coming to join the party

Rpopz
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DS 3 days and 3 hours old!

So.... How long is it acceptable to walk like John Wayne with a cucumber up his ass for?

About 3 weeks in my case!
My best tip in these early days is: if you need a wee - GO! You don't have the pelvic floor to hold it in and you don't want to ruin a pair of slippers like I did!

Hahahaaha to both those comments. Are you really sore Popz or ok?

Right, big girl pants are on. Momentary blip is over.
The gal is having a growth spurt. I am not the worst mother in the world.

I CAN do this.
There's teenagers for petes sake so manage!
I will not sit in floods of tears thinking I'm growing my daughter into burger kings favourite customer.
If she wants food, she can have food!

And I will not be a matyr. Husband WILL have her tonight.
I decided last night that I'm what she needed. Bollocks to that. WE both need to cuddle her and shush her to sleep.
Poor man, hes been non stop since getting home from work.
I did however do the washing and tidying up today, so not a complete waste.
Tomorrow is health visitor so I shall strive to make myself look half decent too.

Thanks girls.
Grip taken and gratefully received

Pretty sore but I also keep forgetting to take pain killers... they weren't very on the ball with providing them when I was on the postnatal ward for some reason. It's like they only offered when they (infrequently) remembered. Sitting on some frozen sweet corn has improved matters Just got the first poo over and done with anyway

Glad you're feeling better Min We're still in the "sleepy newborn honeymoony DH still in awe of my birthing skills and fussing round doing everything for me" phase. Sure I'm in for a shock to the system when he goes back to work!

How lovely Popz. Doubt I'll get that this time round. Once you've done it once they're not so impressed anymore. Congratulations on the poo. I found that a horrific experience.

By the way Min, I'm not sure our message was get a grip! But if that helps, then I'm sure we can take a firm hand with you .

Yes, be firm! I need it.

J slept 10:30-4! does victory dance round bedroom
Now he's back asleep and I thought it's be a good idea to express now and empty out boobs. What do I get? A measly fricking ounce!!
Going to be a good girl and resterilise and get pump ready for when I wake up again...
Hope everyone is having a reasonable night? X

Yessssssssssss.
Little Madam went back to her 2x 4 hrs stretches! I feel like a new woman!

The husband went out to the 2r he tesco last night and picked some dummies up, just in case. She's not interested, but if she keeps suckling her fist she'll have no hand left!
I too am sterilising etc s soon as she bobs back off.
Must be more organised. We've moved all bottle making stuff into nursery.. What a time save I tell thee

Glad things picking up. Love that four hourly newborn thing.

I had a four hr stretch (she had five, hurrah!), then i was hungry and couldn't get back to sleep as cold and now up again after about another hr for me. Starting to feel knackered.

We've had no sleep, not because of DD she's tried to nod off but DP's snoring has kept us awake so weve had to set up camp on the sofa! He should of got up at 4 for work & we could of gone back to bed but being self employed he's obviously decided to give himself the day off & is still happily snoring away.
If he wasn't such a deep sleeper I'd let DD wake him up but he never hears her cry what a knob!!!!!

ah furry wake him up and put him on the sofa. Or if he's having a day off you can get him to do EVERYTHING.

Never understood how small babies could be "up for the day' in the wee hours. Now I do. Bloody birds singing as it gets light. Grrr. I want more sleep.

Good grief furry, I'd have rage at that!!
I am completely knackered due to weird light sleeping between 6:30-9:30 I sort of never quite got off properly kept waking up coz J was making squirm noises (does anyone else's baby try to imitate a horse??), then I was cold, then I had freaky dreams, now my tummy is upset Got to be out of the house in 25mins and not yet dressed or fed J...

Yes to squirmy whimpering sounds. Poor thing sounds like she's had a really long day at the office sometimes.
I am on fire today, helps that I slept through. Both washed, dressed, fed, burped and chilling.
I have succumbed to the dreaded dummy. She's a sucker and hoping this sates her.
She's happily chomping away on the sofa next to me whilst I express.
Hope I haven't created a giant parenting faux pas. Ah well.
I'll only use it to get her to sleep (she says)
Anyone else use one?

min Elijah has a dummy (i am not really a fan of them) he is very hit and miss with it. Will only take it if he is really tired, hardly ever has it at night and won't even entertain the idea of it to settle him if he is just grumpy!

Even though I am not a fan of them he looks terribly cute sucking one!