October 2014 // thread 3 // Maybe we'll get some sleep soon.

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Last thread is full so here's a shiny new one

Aww glad you had a better day on the sleep front cj - i didnt go over the door today so feel a bit guilty, i didnt do anything productive other than washing ! We had a really unsettled night last night, normally she's settled for half 10 at the latest but last night she didnt go down till 1 am then was back up at 4am. She's only taking half a feed sometimes then wanting the rest as im about to put her back down, so im not really in a routine yet either and she is ff. i think the problem is that she only does a poo every 3 days, so ends up really bagged up! The day she has a clear out she feeds like a dream, poor wee soul i will mention it tomorrow at her 6 week check but they will probably say just give her water, which she doesnt entertain

Hi ladies...sorry to hear of random crying/screaming fits...believe me, it will pass!

Had Adam weighed today...he's put on 13oz in 9 days ...so he's now 9lb 15oz at almost 5 wks...just received gifts from friends for up to 10lbs babygros...have just washed them too

Just had a call from SIL...MIL has a 7cm tumour on one of her lungs...need to break the news to DH when he comes home. We'll prob try & head home for Christmas now...need to talk DH into it as he's never keen but would hate for this to be one of MIL's last xmas's & he hasn't spent it with her. Getting flashbacks to when my mum was told she had cancer... But DH is 1 of 5 & been through it with their dad...doesn't make it any easier but they're generally quite good at rallying round..

Betty, now you are FF then I agree with CJ above. I would wake baby every 3 hours and feed very regularly through the day.

STIGZ I have the boy version of your DD. We had a midnight bedtime last night & a fussy night of bad feeds. My DS also only poos every 3 - 4 days although he is EBF, thought this was normal in that case but actually he feeds better after poo!

Crossed post. Sorry Granny

Betty I swear all HVs are on a mission to get all mums feeding how they did. We have very low BF rates locally so the ones local to me are all pro FF "as you can see what they're getting". Lil looks tiny as a prem BF baby compared to big term FF babies, and I know they're itching for me to give top ups but there's no medical reason to suggest it.

After dropping a couple of centiles (I expected she would as my diabetes made her abnormally big) she has found her line - the 9th centile like her brother. My babies are great eaters but fairly wee (they vary between 2nd - 25th centile). Not everyone is meant to be 99th centile!

Our paed is hilarious, he reckons UK childhood obesity is linked to "HV obsessions with fattening up babies like the Christmas turkey". Small isn't bad, big isn't bad but big isn't better either - the trick is to try to balance length and weight centiles so babies are growing in proportion. Someone has to be 2nd centile!

I haven't seen londonjen around for quite a while now. Jen if you're reading come back and let us know how you and E are getting on, I hope all is well.

Also flip haven't noticed you online for a bit hope all ok. (You're probably just having a life!)

gun I think you have done absolutely amazingly well to ebf this far with everything you have gone/going through. Honestly I do, please don't feel bad about using formula if you need to as tatty said it is these situations that we are lucky we have formula a perfectly safe alternative to use. I have been giving v a ff once a day since 2 weeks old and I think for me things would have been a lot more stressful with all her and my health/anxiety worries if I had just been ebf as sleep has helped my problems massively.

Almost one week on only a 3rd of my usual labetalol dose and my Bp is maintaining well. Fingers crossed it continues this way. Gp tomorrow think she'll want me to cut down even more. I'm looking forward to v gettig ranitidine I really hope it works for us.

I'm so tired today v slept so badly last night that bloody sleepyhead it's so small for her I don't know how your babies fit in it. Her body doesn't fit in the middle flat bit so she ends up resting on the raised bit and is not comfortable or safe as babies are supposed to sleep on a flat surface. We are going to try the crib on it's own tonight if that fails then back to the carrycot. She's hardly slept at all today lots of crying.

Didn't realise there were posts on the next page

just received gifts from friends for up to 10lbs babygros...have just washed them too confused

Slightly embarrassed to admit this, but I returned almost all the gifts I got for when DD was born. Given that she is DC4, I really did not need any clothes - I have them all stored in the loft including 21 pairs of 36m trousers, why do I need that many?.

But loads of people still bought me clothes: "I didn't buy you newborn size because I knew you'd have plenty that size" (Yes - I also have loads of 3-6m, 6-12m, 12-18m etc as well).

So looked at labels and returned all to the shops they were from, with tags still attached, for store credit. Will spend the store credit on DD, just on things she needs.

That makes me a terrible person doesn't it

Thanks for all the comments I spoke to another HV today who also wants me to top baby up I'm going to get her weighed again in the morning to check that the scales were correct she was thrashing around at the weigh in and the second HV said it was have not weighed correctly if she's still showing a weight loss then I will start to top up. I've been encouraging her to feed more today less gaps inbetween and longer feeds but all I've achieved is making her sicky.

FATE that makes you a sensible person. I noticed how most of the presents we got from people with children had the receipts included.

Been on a wild goose chase today. Yesterday the health visitor said Ada had an umbilical granuloma and I should take her to the gp. I felt a bit guilty because I'd noticed it but thought as it wasn't causing her obvious pain, wasn't red and didn't smell it would probably be fine and dirt itself out if I kept it dry. So today I tried to take her to the gp, couldn't get an appointment, so took her to a walk in, and after an hour's wait the gp said "why have you brought her to me? It'll get better on its own. Maybe put salt on it". Rage.

Now we're putting olive oil on her scurfy eyebrows and her dry bum and salt on her belly button... Boyfriend said it's like preparing a roast.

Boyfriend said it's like preparing a roast

^ This had me laughing out loud.

me great news about the bp being stable. I've been to scared to check myn as I know the stress will have pushed it up

fate I agree with tatty I would have done the same

tatty that's so annoying HVs certainly know how to make you doubt your own judgement

granny sorry about your MIL

yellow - that is true i suppose - someone has to be 2nd percentile!! Gonna be more rigid about 3 hour day-time feeds and try to relax. Thanks for all comments; it has made me feel better.

fate very sensible, wish i'd done that more, and i wouldnt mind if a pal exchanged a gift I'd bought at all, if they got better use from something else. I too received masses and masses of next size up as "no-one will have got you that" heheh

Granny - I'm sorry about your MIL too.

Sorry to hear about your MIL Granny.

Betty, hope you manage to have a relaxing evening. My dd dropped percentiles and I found it really stressful trying to work out a feeding plan. She eventually followed a lower percentile line and was fine!

DS had his health visitor check. He's now 13lb 5oz at 7 weeks. He's dropped one percentile line but she was happy with him.

The health visitor suggested using doublebase for the rash/dry skin on his face. I used that on dd and when she started talking she called it "the stingy cream" , I hope it isn't stinging ds. He did cry a bit last time I put it on, but it sounded like irritation at being messed with rather than pain.

My mum bought me newborn stuff for ds and he was born too big for it! She'd already washed it before giving it to me so I couldn't return it, such a waste!

Popping in to wish everyone a happy thanksgiving from America!

My mum is over from ireland and been too busy to be online so am miles behind on the thread and facebook! But having a great time and dd2 is all style from her presents from ireland (she is reaching the toes of all her 3-6 month stuff. 7 weeks tomorrow and she's been in 3-6 months for two weeks. Long, lean and light like her brother was at this age!).

Hope all mommas and babies are doing well!

Off topic slightly but if I don't rant I may kill my H! (D has been removed!)
3 weeks ago we had a mouse in our bedroom & it frightened the life out of me when I was up doing a 3am feed. It came in as my H left the front door open. Anyway I managed to get rid of the mouse, however my H has just gone out to the car to get a beer & left the bloody door open again. I was in the middle of feeding my DS in the dark in the bedroom to try & settle him & I went dashing out to close the door to find H sloping back in with a beer. Now DS is awake again & I am hopping mad in a dark bedroom. The D might be missing from the H for sometime. I hate mice & have been paranoid out of my mind about more getting in since that happened.

Can we return stuff if no gift receipt but tags still on? I've got a lot of next stuff I don't like or he doesn't fit...

fedup you should be able to exchange or get a gift card. Our problem is loads of people giving us hand me downs which I hate and very little space to hide it all!

granny sorry to hear about your MIL :(

I'd not thought to exchange things, apart from a Gap top I need to take back in prem size. All the 3-6 month upwards stuff is in a box waiting to be looked at!
Mrsb I've vacu-packed all newborn sizes to pass on to brother/ keep for future babies. It's going in the loft at the weekend.
Got my check up with the doctor tomorrow, only have male doctors so i know he won't be investigating stitches/ piles/ weird numb patch on thigh.

I keep thinking today is Friday

Ooh ooh munday I had that numb patch on my thigh thing after dd1 is was so weird. Never got to the bottom of what it was and it was like that for about 6 months. I wondered if it might have been to do with the syntometrin injection.

granny so sorry about you mil

I'm drowning under clothes I need to sit down and go through everything just never seem to find the time. R is still in newborn (just) but I can't remember where I put all the 0-3 stuff.