October 2014 // thread 3 // Maybe we'll get some sleep soon.

[MundayCakes85]

Last thread is full so here's a shiny new one

Sorry to hear of so many people struggling. AF arriving has made me feel like everything is the end of the world, coupled with a baby photo shoot with screaming baby and the thought of a 5 hour drive tomorrow I have reached for the wine!

For those struggling with formula, it is not the devil it can be made out to be! So many ff babies grow up to be happy, healthy intellectual people and there are bf babies that grow up the opposite. I still occasionally shed a tear that I gave up, but I did what was right for us at the time. The fact dh does night feeds is also amazing

Jeez, I shouldn't have said anything earlier, can't get him to sleep tonight now either! Been trying since 5pm! Aaaaaahhhhh!

Hi everyone, can I join?

I popped my head into the group very briefly a few months ago but I'd love to join you all again. My little October baby was born on the 10th, he's a little boy and my third dc.

Hello Butternut pull up a chair and get ready for lots of late night chat.
Tatty that's a lovely thing to say and very true. It's hard enough as it is without the guilt of not BF.
I managed a bath while DH struggled with a screaming baby, didn't think to check her nappy!!
Now she sounds all hoarse when she cries

I know that FF makes some people feel bad but it really really shouldn't. At the end of the day the baby is being fed and we are privileged to live in a country where it is readily available and we know how to mix it correctly and sterilise etc. I have been doing one bottle of Aptamil since two weeks when I wasn't feeling very well and my mum make the very gd point that it doesn't matter how the baby is fed but how healthy is the mother. A knackered and Run down mum is no good for the baby.

I'll get off my soap box now!

Wishing good lucks to everyone tonight. M went down 10.30 last night, woke 3am and 6.30am. Come on little man, you can do it again (prays!)...

I was FF and so was my husband many moons ago. Granted I have two heads and turn into a monster periodically and he has a hump but we're both generally ok

Formula was developed for a reason and is saving babies lives around the world.

Saying that I do understand the importance of BF and the emotional tie
even though I didn't get any milk... I don't look at myself as a failure - just that nature had other ideas for me.

CJ empathise with you as it's exactly the same here. My right shoulder and upper back is in agony from carrying him in sling or arms the whole time (I have pain here normally) but can't see another way at the moment.

This too shall pass.... as they say! However I keep getting scared that it won't pass unless I make it pass. Those who have done baby wearing with previous children - did you try to get baby to nap elsewhere at some point and if so at what age and how hard was it? I'm all for naps on the go but I can't see how it's sustainable once they get really heavy (especially with back pain already) and I do like the idea that I could one day get a chance to do a few things in the house whilst the baby naps in cot (not that I ever achieved this with my first so it's probably wishful thinking!)

My current aim is to get him used to sleeping in sling/carrier but without me having to move/walk constantly. He stayed asleep today while I sat and had a coffee with a friend, so success so far!

I'm not sure what I'm going to do, he will not sleep tonight! Normally goes down a dream. I'm about to pass out!

Weird day here. Great night last night followed by a day at my mum's where she was happy and smiley all day, but did some napping that she wouldn't normally do - no idea why. Anyway, currently she's WIDE AWAKE and shouty with it. Boyfriend pacing the floor with her. I predict a bad night!

Cj - car? Take him for a drive?

Holy cow, we finally have lights out! I guess it's not like they are never going to sleep! Queue manic grin & delerious ramblings better sleep. Good luck for a quiet night brave Mummy warriors! X

Ooh, same here. In bed next to me sparko. Fingers crossed!

We have this weird 'won't sleep until after midnight' thing going on.
He seems to sleep during the day and then he's been up since 7.45pm. Hubbie just fed him, brought him upstairs ASLEEP, put him in the Moses basket and ping! He's awake again

He's now chuntering away to himself. In the dark.

It's groundhog night here again. All day she sleeps calmly after being put down. 11pm comes and she just cries and whinges when we put her in her Moses basket. Currently in the lounge with her in her carrycot on the pram as DP sleeps soundly. She's awake but not crying. Maybe it's the Moses basket she hates. Or maybe I'm giving off stressed out vibes.

Spoke too soon. She's now wailing from the pram. So it's just night time she hates. Late night Netflix for me then.

I'm starting to lose it. Still screaming and now I'm crying. What am I doing wrong at this time of day?? Every other time she's just fine. Why pick the middle of the night to scream and refuse the Moses basket? :'(

Oh pebble I can feel your pain. R is the same - fine going down in his bed at day time. Screams at night. What happens before 11? Maybe try get her down earlier? We have started trying to get R down at 7 to 7.30. I'm having success by about 8.15 at the mo. Then DH dream feeds at 11.

It's very illogical like they know and just cry for sake of it. I went a bit crazy on Monday when it took me over 2 hours to settle him.

pebble- it won't be anything you're doing wrong, although I know it feels like that (especially at 2:30am) Relentless crying is so trying and is enough to drive anyone to tears. Can your DP take over to give you some respite? Even half an hour away will make you feel so much better.

Is it angry crying or does it sound like pain crying? Either way, I hope you manage to get some sleep very soon!

I agree pebble it's nothing you are doing wrong, can you get a break and let DH handle it for a bit? The relentless nature of the crying is just the worst and really grates on us.

Also it does seem to pass (fingers crossed and hope not jinxing) our witching hour has moved forward to the before 11pm slot which does make it mentally easier to deal with. Thinking of you ladies and hoping the sleep kicks in soon.

Pebble hope the crying eventually gave in to sleep. As others have said, you aren't doing anything wrong.
Missus hope the chattering lent it's self to sleep eventually. My DD used to do that from approx 14 weeks & I loved the sound.
I'm up again from midnight, not getting much rest round here! Might give him some formula as a top up tomorrow night if he keeps this up. He is 14lbs at 9 weeks from 7lbs 6oz, a big hungry maniac!

Really sorry to hear you're struggling tonight Pebble I hope you all manage to sleep soon.
Feeling awful- DD head butted my thumb just now- instant red faced screaming and horrible nail shape on her eyebrow Terrible Mummy

Oh Munday at least it wasn't in her eye. There will be lots more of those type of incidents before neck & head control develops. Don't beat yourself up.

"A big hungry maniac" - ha ha ha!