Here comes the terrible twos!!! (OCT 04 TODDLERS)

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wwwwwweeeelllllllll im still calm.... (just about!!)...

hiya jbad....yes it does make sense. xx

It sounds as if Toby had quite a quick and easy end considering. It could have dragged on and he wouldn't have been as comfortable as he was.
I hope that doesn't sound horrible, but I think I would prefer to have a quick end myself.
How are you getting on Jbad?

That looks horrible when I read it back. I meant that it was good that he had his breakfast and then was taken ill and it was all over quickly. If you see what I mean.

It didnt sound horrible I know what you mean, and yes I would want to go when I dont really know whats happening to me. We are doing ok all prepared for tomorrow as in food and drink. Really not looking forward to it (not that anyone would) but I am nervous and scared about it too. I dont want to have to say goodbye to my little boy, it shouldnt be like this. I know he will be in a place where he will be looked after and at peace with no difficulties probably running around listening to pumping tunes really loud!!!!!

All that I need to do for tmrws food is cheese and bloody pineapple! I bought a £10 block of cheese from bookers and 9 tins of chunks. Then I managed to drop all the cocktail sticks I had on the floor DUH! Local shop had run out of them so managed to buy some in another shop so I bought 400! Oh the other dilema was that I wasnt sure whether the crem cd player would play recordables so I rushed around town with DH yesterday to buy one of the songs. Luckily we have the other 2 at home!
Its like a bloody comedy with us. You have to laugh with us on this one. We also took the items to go in with toby and I forgot that I had 2 letters that needed posting, I left them in the bag by accident so I made DH phone funeral directors and explain that these letters we NOT spposed to go in with tobs!!! He was very nice and said he would post them on his way home. OMG what a giggle!! What seems to be like a sad time at the moment we still have something to laugh about. And watch people laugh with us!

Good luck for tomorrow Jbad - its good that you can laugh, I love the idea of your letters going in with Toby!

How are the rest of the horrors? Geog starts pre school this week. He seems totally up for it, his key worker is called Maggie, you would think she was one of the family the way he talks ' Maggie won't like it if I ...', 'Maggie will be pleased if I ...'. I hope it lives up to his expectations!

jbadgirl - just wanted to say best wishes for tomorrow xx

jbadgirl - will be thinking of you tomorrow xx

Me too! It shouldn't have to be like this I agree. I'm so sorry you have to say goodbye to Toby. I would be very scared as well. I hate funerals, partially because I don't like seeing everyone so sad, even if I don't know the person being buried. I walk across the graveyard on one of the walks I do with Alfie and there are quite a few little graves in there, a lot only lived for a day or two. I'm glad for you and Toby that you all had longer to enjoy each others company.
RIP Toby.
I hope it all goes well tomorrow and you feel happy with the way it goes, that you have done everything you could.
Big hugs. You can do it.

What's a key worker Geog? I should probably know this.

xxxxxx hinking of you JBAD today xxxxxxx

mine will be starting her preschool on about her bday as still waiting for her teacher and the teaching assistant to come to see what my DD is like with her own terrority!!!! . Please dont ask me any further questions about it as "terrority"??

Anyway.....Jbad the letters are a v good idea as i wrote a letter to my aunty telling her how is she?, whats my next plans were, etc..it in her coffin on the side of her so she be able to read it in heaven.

ooh a keyworker.............erm!.............i cant type it out!!..... it is one KW to 4 children. The KW concentrated on those 4 kids in the class and its her responsibility. So if there is 12 kids....there be 3 kw with 4 kids each. d-y-k-w-i-m!!! cos i dont!!!!

GEOG!!!!!!

jbad - as everyone followed the thread about you and Toby. Ive started up one about Toby getting buried so we can share our thoughts and prayers with you today xxx

Keyworker = person who takes personal interest in your child, if there are issues you approach them first, when reports are written / portfolios compiled they do them for your child. Obviously all the staff take will work with your child and it is good to get to know more than one as the keyworker will not necessarily be there every session (all our staff work part time). Some places seem to make more of the role than others, we don't have home visits or anything but as geog's keyworker was keyworker to his brother and sister they already know each other.

Right, I expect I'll get used to all the jargon when Alfie starts in January.
He seems quite keen to go and occasionally tells me 'nursery is lovely'.
The ladies I have met so far seem really nice apart from one, who was a bit of a miss jean brodie character.
I hope Jbad is OK tonight.

Hi everyone, yesterday went really well, the service was lovely and made everyone smile. Thanks to the minister I am now commited to doing the 5 mile walk for snowdrop next year (he said it during the service). We were ok on the way to the crem but as soonj as we pullld in there was a huge queue of people wearing something yellow. How overwhelmed were we! What a fantastic send off for Tobs! He really did touch so many people (we estimated 150 people were there). Afterwards we went to a hall where there were so many sandwiches and other bits of food it was great. Not forgetting the alcohol that I started on straight away! I have given away food to family as there was loads left and still some in our fridge (the left over alcohol came home with us though!!!)

I have put a memory page for Toby on www.gonetoosoon.co.uk.

Hope everyone is doing well and those little ones that have started pre-schools this year. x

jbad - im so glad that it went well yesterday {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

I do still hope you still come on here now and again to say "Hi"

I will have a look at that site later on when im ready!!!

(oh did u rcvd the chocs and card yet??)

MMMMMMmmmmmmmm! Yes thankyou very much x (with chocolate smeard round lips)!!!

I thought of you both yesterday jbadgirl and had a cry reading your messages on his webpage. He was the most smilest beauitful little boy. I was going to write something but failed to find the right words.

I'm so glad to hear it went well. It must have been lovely to see all those people wearing yellow. What a great tribute to Toby and his sunny personality.
How far is the snowdrop walk?

Oh right - 5 miles!
Well you probably don't need to get in training for that yet then.
How is the nursery, when are you going back?

The nursery is doing ok without me for the moment. Not sure when to go back, I think I will go back in the next couple of weeks.

It would probably be good to get back into a routine of some sort. Do you have a lot to do in the house?
How are you feeling today?

Only the usual washing etc around the house but am finding things to sort out and clean! Feeling ok, the funeral director rang yesterday and said "ive got toby here" then said "his ashes". Still not sure where he will go so we may have him at home with us for a while.

I know this is nothing like on the same scale of significance, but when my cat Titus had to be put to sleep (he was practically dead on his feet poor old thing). The vet gave me his ashes in a really posh wooden casket and I couldn't decide what to do with them. I asked my friends what they thought and they suggested things like 'put him in a place where he liked to go', but since he mainly liked to go into other people's flats or sit outside on the pavement, I didn't fancy it, and I didn't think the other flat owners would either. So people suggested putting him somewhere he would like to go, but I didn't want to tip them out in a fishmongers. So guess what? Ten years later I still have his ashes in the casket, on top of my bookcase.
I have been asked 'What a nice box, what's in it?' a few times, and 'Oh!' When I tell them what it is.
But I have been having a discussion with DP about the ashes and kind of brain-storming about a venue, so I hope to make a decision soon.
I don't suppose that was very helpful.
I'm sending you a {{{hug}}}