December 2011 "Mummymummymummymummy.... it's MINE!"

[NorthernChinchilla]

Combining our catchphrases...sigh...

Sorry Oi to hear how hard it is. But seriously impressed with how civilized you're both being. It is great that you both can do that.

Busy weekend here but house beginning to look like a home. Mostly unpacked. Won't be able to get new kitchen until new year as it needs a new window/door which can't be done until January. But just as well to settle into using it and really find out what layout/cupboards etc we need/want. Decorating we prob won't be able to start until kitchen in. But house totally liveable in until then and anyway, I'm getting to the exhausting stage (coming up to 30 weeks) and I know that I won't have the energy for anything but commute and lecturing.

Evening!

Yum to chocolate and mac and cheese.

Minimopsy decided no nappy this morning, trotted off to nursery in pants and didn't have a single accident akk day. Then came home and asked for a nappy to do a poo. I made a big song and dance about what a fab big girl she was using the loo and persuaded her to do her poo on the loo, and it worked! she also did two more wees before bed. Fingers crossed this continues....

Term proper starts for me tomorrow. Loads of meetings for those courses for which I am course director plus meeting all my tutees. Feeling exhausted at the thought. 30 weeks on Thursday and the third trimester exhaustion is already beginning to make itself felt...

Well done mini mopsy!

There must be something in the thread water. DS announced about a week ago that he was "not ever never going to wear Dora pants again" (pampers easy-up pants) and has bed in big boy pants since then. He's doing really well, only one accident today, and he's starting to tell me when he needs to go rather than me having to frequently pop him on the toilet. I think he'll be dry at night before DD too. He's dry most nights and gets up in the morning and goes straight to the loo whereas DD (20 months older) is still wet every night

'Been' in big boy pants not 'bed' in big boy pants. Sorry, on phone!

Woo hoo! DS was dry overnight and had no accidents today. And he ate his potatoes. It is truly a momentous day

Yay faffin!

No accidents again today here either. V pleased!

Am I the only one who still hasn't even begun potty training then? We do talk to him about it. And he does use the potty before and after a bath or shower. But I am too lazy to push it any further than that.

No fix, we've only just bought a potty in the past few days, will give it a go in November, see how we get on, and if not then try again in the new year.

Well, DFil has made it through the transplant surgery, and now we'll see how he gets on over the next week or so in hospital. Fingers and everything cross the kidney takes and he can regain a normal life.

Just made cookie dough to bake cookies for DP in the morning...there's a charity cake sale, so I don't mind, though I made him a batch of brownies for some of his colleagues' leaving do last week! Have rewarded myself with a small spoon of the cookie dough though, nom

No fix, no potty-goings-on going on here either. Boi is simply not interested.
He may be the most intelligent toddler ever in the world () but he simply ain't into pants or potties!
Glad FIL is doing ok, Northern.

Good news on the fil front then Northern, hope he recovers well and everything works as it ought to.

Thanks for the re-assurance ladies. If the Boi-genius is not interested I shall not be too worried!!

...and his overnight nappy is still pretty full to bursting!
We've found a new nursery. It's near work. Ofsted outstanding. Starting mid October.
His current childminder posted on fb that there have been 3 confirmed chicken pox cases today.
No symptoms with Boi yet, apart from a snotty nose. One to keep an eye on.
Oh and I went to my first exercise class in 3 years! Yoga/Pilates. Most enjoyable!
I've been falling apart a bit. Feel like the seams are coming a bit unstuck. It's not like me at all. I'm really tough. Really independent. Have never really needed anyone for anything. But I'm struggling. It takes the slightest incident to have me fighting back tears. There are some work-related phone calls that I will just not pick up. I can't. (?) crazy, isn't it? (They aren't important, just from suppliers, so it doesn't matter. But it's ridiculous isn't it, that I just don't have the strength to deal with them?). Meh! I can see what's happening. I know I have to regain control now.
I told my friend how I felt yesterday. She suffers from depression. She waved the big red flag, and agreed I have to take control now before it gets worse and I slip down her path.
I won't. But it's crazy that I'm going through something like this.
A wake up call to sort myself out!!
Fitness, diet, friends, action!
I'll be ok.

Hugs oi, hope the exercise helps but keep chatting to us/anyone in RL about how things are, don't bottle it up. You've had huge changes in your life and it takes time to work through.

Well done to your FIL northern.

I've been sorting out gear for a re-enactment show this weekend (first time in ages). Fortunately the DD's shoes still fit! And DS can have DD2's old ones, and I have enough spare tunics and trousers to at least put them in something comfy and windproof. New kit shall be sewn and it'll be great to see all our friends. Hoorah!

Hi everyone,

DS's first day back at nursery in pants didn't go too well! I felt his key worker was really negative about the whole thing despite her pushing me to start him on potty training months ago... Got told off for not putting him in sandals (they don't fit), not bringing in 10 x spare clothes, and told "once you start potty training you can't go back and put him in nappies". I was quite upset and angry after I'd called at lunch time as she said DS had had two wee accidents and said they'd been putting him on the potty every half an hour and he looked miserable. What I wanted to say was 'if he looks miserable what are you doing to cheer him up then?'. Grr! Anyway picked him up and he'd had 4 wee accidents in total and I had a chat with the assistant manager as I wasn't happy with the attitude. Potty training should be fun and exciting not negative. DS was so happy and proud of using the potty I don't want him to be put off using it because nursery haven't handled it properly. I think DS is quite a sensitive soul, he's not a boisterous loud two year old, he likes to do his own thing and work things out like building Lego etc. Anyway, sorry that was long, needed to get that off my chest!

Fix it was DH who decided to try out potty training on the spur of the moment and DS has been doing well at home. Some older mums at the gym said with their boys they were all just past 3 years old when they started potty training and we're of the firm belief that there's no point rushing these things!

Northern glad your FIL is doing well.

Oi hope that you feel better soon. I think the change of season doesn't always help as the days are getting shorter and we have some very important third birthdays coming up and Christmas and this year will be different for you. Glad you've found pilates, I felt like crying after my first pilates class last year - very strange - I think I'd been holding a lot in and it had relaxed me so much. Now I enjoy going as it's an hour where I don't think about anything else but my pelvic floor and core! I do try to put it into practice each day e.g. Standing in good posture for the duration of my team huddle each morning (I don't think anybody's noticed yet ). I also find if I'm having a shitty day an early night really does help and also forcing myself to get down on the floor and make a real effort to play with DS. Just little things, but I feel quite low sometimes so I think I know how you're feeling.

You ladies are making me determined to do pilates once baby here.

Fix Minimopsy instigated this potty training herself this time. She asked for pants. We tried in June and she just wasn't ready and got upset. So I'd say wait until they show interest.

Oi keep talking on here. You've just had massive changes in your life. Of course they're going to affect you. Doesn't mean you're not still strong!

Ds spends the day at home nappy free he knows when he needs to wee and takes himself off to potty or toilet(he has a step he moves to get on toilet then moves it round to stand on and flush not got to stage where he moves it to sink and washes hands though ) putting pants on though us another matter he just forgets they're not a nappy. Part of me thinks it's easier to train in nursery than with a cm as they in one place all the time ds is out and about walking, in the car, at park, at soft plays or various groups that might complicate matters.

Oi you are going through a massive change at the moment it's bound to hit you at times.

On train to London again meeting with boss her boss and her boss should be interesting!!

Oh and after 3 days of a runny nose it's gone into full cold grrr back on the multi vits for me!!

fix I agree with mopsy, just wait until he shows interest. I was quite happy to leave it for now with DS. It was him who suddenly announced he wanted big boy pants. DD did the same thing

Oi you are doing great. The fact that you are aware of how you are feeling and are already taking steps to address it can only be a good thing.

Off work this week, my list of jobs is insane. DS at the CM and my Mum has taken DD for a few hours so I can at least get on top of the laundry/ironing.

Have just put a load of my fat clothes on a free page on FB, so must get back on the diet after next week (you can't go to the seaside and not have fish and chips, icecream etc etc). It is quite liberating! No haggling over prices, just come and get it if you want it

Thank you all.
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Oh good my first holiday in what will be almost 5 years has been cancelled because of Ebola meaning less bookings to Gambia and therefore less flights there's not even any bleedin Ebola in Gambia. So basically we can move the dates at same price but will mean more holiday from work and likelihood of Ebola does get to Gambia having to change it anyway or we cancel and start again humph!! My first thought though was am just waiting to get on holiday then we WILL start trying for dc2 so maybe I campaign for abandoning holiday plans and get on with ttc ......doubt dh will be up for that though.

Fix have seen some pics on FB you have done so well with your weight loss I just cannot put the biscuits down at moment I feel soooo fat! Thank god I'm 5ft 10

Can we swap DSs chip, yours sounds lovely, just the sort of child I expected to have... Hope the assistant manager was more helpful and understanding, the last thing you want is him being put off potty training AND nursery!

Keeping physically active is really important Oi, to help combat those feelings, but I think you really need to give yourself permission to feel a bit shit. It doesn't mean you're not in control, or not independent, and it certainly won't last for ever. Seriously, you've just separated from your husband and have to see him most days at work, plus BOi is adjusting too. Clearly you need your friends to keep an eye out on you for depression, but after something major like this, trying to completely control yourself may end up doing more harm than good.
You're doing brilliantly so far, so don't feel guilty when you feel crap!

That is so unfortunate figster, I'd cancel and start again. Maybe Eastbourne ?

Are you still settling in OK mopsy, not getting too tired with the unpacking? Looks like I'll be getting both the shelving and the garden done next week, and I'm away for two days on a course, so DP will have to handle the necessaries for once ! Can't wait to be able to put all our books away and get rid of the boxes, hoo-bloody-rah.