December 2008 - Summertime and the children are easy......

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Ha ha ha ha....we wish!

Here's to a lovely relaxing summer and cheery new thread for us all.

PS I have today done my Ocado delivery for Christmas and ordered my Turkey. I am so very very organised. But am feeding 12 people, so I need to be!! What am I thinking?

Beans I hope you sent that email!!

Oh gosh no. definitely not brave enough! !!
gosh it's so quiet here. where are you all?

I too would have wanted to send that email. Grrrrr. I swear they haven't got a clue.

How's things Lady? Hope you are recovering ok and no.3 is being a delight.

It is v quiet where are you all?

Hello

It is very quiet here isn't it? Please let's not let this thread fade away. I have been so busy lately but this is a brief attempt to revive my posting mojo.

So sorry to hear about your grandpa Jam. And such a shame that you will miss the meet-up.

Beans, I wish you had sent that email! Does DD3 really still wake a few times a night? That's harsh.

Veg, I think you left Holland yesterday. How are you feeling? Thinking of you.

Lady, you are very quiet, how is it going?

Today I will attempt to help DD1 build the Roman Colloseum out of gingerbread. She has to make a model of it for school. Everyone else is sensibly using cardboard or clay but of course I have the daughter who insists on gingerbread. She saw one in GBBO apparently. Wish us luck!

Back soon. Let's get posting!!! If you read this then post something, even if it's just "hello, I'm too busy to write more".

Hello!

jam I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Hope everyone else is well. i suppose i need to get up now. dh is up, all children marauding.

Need to study like i have never studied before.

I can post and tell you all about the horrific tummy bug I have had the last 24hr. 7lb weight loss though so silver lining and all that.

We are meant to be going sloe berry picking today with friends. Think I might stay home and let J go with the boys. There is a lot of tidying up to do after he was in charge yesterday. To be fair the poor man had a roll out yesterday and I was worse than useless. So he was dealing with work and the boys.

Anyway off to go eat my body weight in toast bloody starving.

Hi! Tummy bug sounds awful jam. I glad you're on the mend and enjoying some toast. I could do with losing 7 lbs but I think I'll stick with my resolution to exercise more.

How did the gingerbread showstopper go, Arti?

We spent 4 hours sorting and tidying DD's room today. She has promised to keep it tidy in future .

Glad the bug is over, Jam. How foul. And so sorry about your Grandpa....how upsetting.

Sorry to vanish. DD3 feeds every 3 hrs, but takes an hour to feed and sometimes an hour to settle so in the times in between I run around like the proverbial headless chicken trying to get on top of everything else. She is totally gorgeous and everyone is besotted with her but I do feel frazzled, and fat, and fatigued, and many other things beginning with f and probably the rest of the alphabet besides Now I need to get DD1 from Art Club and will try my very hardest to reappear. I need you ladies! Also I need something to read!

Right, am going to attempt very speedy post. Might be a bit me me me - apologies!

Rubes, after I saw you and your DH a couple of weeks ago (which was so lovely - thank you) things kicked off a bit. The next day I was recalled to London with a wound infection. I felt quite rough. Then the following Monday (a week ago) I had finished my course and it was still really swollen and painful so I had to go and see my consultant again (she won't let any local GPs etc get their mitts on her patients ) and was then given two strong ABs. One was Metronizidole, which is also prescribed as an Ant-Abuse, so no booze for me. I can have some tonight as the 48 hrs to clear out of my system will have elapsed but Monday's not really the night is it? Anyway, that wasn't the least of it - that same morning, DP fed DD3 whilst I legged DD1 over to school, and he fell asleep on the sofa and dropped her When I saw how upset and guilty he was I couldn't be cross. I just felt really sorry for him, but we were both so worried and horror-stricken even though she seemed fine. Anyway, my consultant said we should take her to Paed A&E at St Mary's so we were there for hours on end. Thankfully, they said she was fine and a week on that seems still to be the case.

DP has gone back to work today. DD3 has cried for most of the day as she is a very windy child but I think it's because she is so new, I remember DD2 being similar in the first weeks. DP has been really good on the practical help (ok, he is never going to be as on top of stuff as I am but he did really try and I appreciated it). However, the emotional support has been very lacking. It's just not his strong suit. I can usually survive without such niceties, my self-esteem is normally in good shape but these last couple of weeks it would have been good if he'd once said "well done" or "you look nice" as I have needed it. I know that sounds daft, but despite feeling flabby and a mess (and frankly a bit ill) I have got dressed and put make up on every day. I even wore a nice dress and high heels for a day party we went to, when I'd only been out of hospital a week! I suppose hormones all over the place haven't helped but it just makes me rage for some reason...I just feel he is stingy with his encouragement or kind remarks and I am not like that myself. Still - I do know if you expect people to think and behave as you do, you're generally onto a loser...

The girls are so thrilled with her and it's wonderful, but DD1 is a bit wobbly emotionally and even DD2 has had the odd wobble and she is teflon. They just want to maul DD3 all the time and it can be a little hard to manage. They love her so much and if I even gently ask them to tone it down a bit they get upset. So, in short it is lovely to have DD3 here but we are The House of Frayed Nerves just at the mo.

Vag, I am coming to the London thing on the 29th but only in the evening. Really looking forward to it.

Oh Lady, my love. I so feel your pain and the first few months weeks are so hard. my DH is similarly useless on the loving chat and compliments and even shrunk away when I went to give him a kiss the other day. I know I'm looking a little ropey at the mo, but it really was a total confidence knock.

more later but need to call MIL

Oh lady I can remember those first few weeks. So tough. Poor you. It is still very early days trying to juggle everything. It will all settle. FWIW DH never understood my emotional outbursts in the first few weeks. I'd be laughing one minute and then totally overcome the next. He would stand there with a "what the hell??" expression

Working 5 days means I have little time to post at the mo. New job starts 24th nov (DS birthday). Hopefully going back to 3 days will give me more time!

Oh and speaking of DS just had a fabulous parent evening for him. His new teacher really likes him & totally gets him!! Actually felt like she was talking about a different boy for a minute

Oh Lady! I can remember it well that early time. I was unbearable. (Dh is very resilient). I know how you feel truly. But honestly you looked fab-u-lous ! You're both bound to be so sleep deprived and stressed. Then DP must've felt awful. Glad all was ok with dd3. They are tough little buggers, kids. You know better than me that these down times pale in comparison after a few months - especially with the textbook babies you two produce!
Sorry you had all that drama after we saw you, and hope you're A ok now. Look forward to seeing you again shortly! Let me know if there is anything at all I can do xx

We've put our flat on the market today - eek.... Gulp! Our tenant is fab.
There's a house we would like to buy but it's a long shot. Good money earner but it's gone to best and final.
Looks like we will be out! But it's time to sell the flat regardless.

Deids so great to hear about ds' teacher meeting. And you new job! Sounds like things are fab!

I've had to take domestic leave for work recently as my "reliable childcare option who wants to be first call" had a weekend away planned. Dear God, on it goes.
Dh is still "between jobs" but got his latest stop gap job plan so is just waiting in paperwork and a start date. Then hopefully he will not be there long and get the job he really wants. bloody red tape.

Jam. So sorry again about your gp. Hope you're hanging in there. X

I wrote a long post this morn and just came back to look for responses bits it's not here :-(. Back later to try again.

Lady, I am glad DD3 is ok. Poor DP, must have been really scary for both of you.

Looking forward to seeing Vag and ZJ tomorrow! I have never driven to Hull so slightly worried!

Hello! Horribly behind but looking forward to seeing Vag and everyone else next week.

Halloween name change! Join the fun!

Poor you LadyT, you and dp must both be so shattered. It WILL get better, small babies are just bloody hard work. I hope he isnt' feeling too guilty over dropping her. I rather thought being dropped was a bit of a rite of passage for babies .

I've just booked the party for dd and ds1! How on Earth are they turning 6 and 8?

Have convinced them to have a joint party and booked a local gymnastics club. They put out trampolines, crash mats, a bouncy castle and various bits of soft play. It is a bargain.

who are you skeleton?

paleontologists love skeletons

Ok ladies what is plan for Wednesday? Have babysitter, will travel.

I think there was a rough plan of somewhere around kings x but not sure there was a definite decision where. I also have a free pass for the evening and look forward to it!

Aaaah, how lovely. Let me know where I need to be and I will roll up. Looking forward very much. Lady, are you coming and will you be bringing C? Much love to all XXXXX