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SunnyL · 11/02/2014 08:06

Hi all - the old thread was about to run out so I started a new one.

Little Miss was up to mischief last night. Thankfully it's DHs day off today so he took her into bed with him while I slept in the spare room. She is just so excitable when she wakes up at night. It can can 90 minutes to scrape her off the ceiling.

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HungryHorace · 06/04/2014 13:56

You don't gave to give access to grandparents at all. Just do what you want to do...starting with a new mobile number, I think!

Can you move into your gran's house, or does it need too much work?

You sound like you're really getting your head round everything. Good luck with the next stage. Xx

hedgehogy · 06/04/2014 15:06

DH goes in to turn the sheep on if DD wakes and doesn't self-settle straight away and I think that might be why she goes back off to sleep easily; I think there is something in the smelling of milk thing.

I hope you get everything sorted soon, pinkbear.

rrreow · 06/04/2014 22:21

Wow to the babies saying actual words!! We get dadada and mamama, and blablabla, but I think it's just babble. He's also doing a Donald Duck sound (pcchhh) recently which is hilarious.

I really would like to start getting him to sleep in a cot, but two attempts have just been cry-fests. DS1 is still in his cot so we were trying to use the travel cot and it's not really right for the job. Really need to sort out a big bed for DS1 to free up the cot.

pinkbear82 · 06/04/2014 23:40

Thank you all.

HH, it needs a lot of work, and not sure I could generate the money to do it for a long time. My landlord got in touch tonight, and very sweetly said he would be more than happy for me and dd to continue the tenancy if we could. It's food for thought. Although was looking forward to being a little closer to parents, maybe while they figure things out it would be better. Lots to think about!

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SunnyL · 07/04/2014 08:11

Hmmm baby still asleep. Do I a) go get myself a cup of tea or b) keep my lazy arse in bed? Such a wonderful conundrum.

Rreow we barely use the travel cot as it results in a cry fest too. I think she hates the thin mattress. Has yours got the thin one or have you got a thicker mattress for the bottom?

Pink if you can afford it I'd look for somewhere near your parents. As you can't reply on your exp for support with bubs being near your parents would surely be a good thing. I know they've not beem well but at least they can support you emotionally if not physically.

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AlohaMama · 07/04/2014 10:06

Attempting potty training today. Again. So how many pees on the floor do we do before we give up??? Can it be he just doesn't realise when he's going?

rrreow · 07/04/2014 11:00

Sunny yes it's a horrible thin thing. It's like a plank with the tiniest bit of padding. Seems very uncomfortable.

Aloha good luck!! In the beginning we just took him every 30 minutes (set a timer). Then after a few days he seemed to be understanding it a bit more. He now occasionally asks to go for a wee, but we still take him at regular intervals. Probably every 1-1.5 hours. We don't let him drink copious amounts (so no more Fruit Shoots!). Just water & milk really as those are drinks he'll drink if genuine thirsty, but doesn't just guzzle for the sake of it. I'd say give it 3 days, you'll notice if it's getting better, if not just put the nappies back on.

We're still struggling with poos, he absolutely does not want to go on the potty/toilet (chocolate bribes don't work!!). So I've been offering him a nappy when he needs a poo which worked yesterday (saw him do his 'poop face', said "do you want to poo on the potty or in a nappy?", he chose the nappy, I put it on him and he did a poo within 5 minutes). Hopefully that'll make him more aware of pooing, what he needs to do etc.

HungryHorace · 07/04/2014 13:20

Rrreow, we bought an extra mattress for the travel cot as we use it a fair amount (DD uses it at PiL's house and when we go away) as I didn't think she'd sleep at all well on the one that comes with it. Works a treat as she sleeps really well on it.

Pink, I think it'd be better near your parents. Did you say you're back to work soon? Where is that in comparison with the two locations? Shame your gran's isn't really suitable.

AlohaMama · 07/04/2014 17:44

Pinkbear, good luck deciding what to do. I would think being able to support and be supported by parents would be a good call, but it depends how much support you have where you are now from friends.

Thanks for the tips rrreow. After 1 pee on teh potty then two in the pants, we spent the rest of the day pant-less and that seemed to work better as he had no more accidents after that and just went and sat on the potty himself whenever he needed to go. We have another day at home tomorrow, before he's in nursery on Wed. I should think it might be a bit hard once he's got lots of distractions. Good luck with your bed transitions.

pinkbear82 · 07/04/2014 22:40

He's an arse, an absolute arse. He's made me so angry today. And then fucking calls to apologise, buts it's been a hard day for him. AngryAngryAngryAngry

I'm staying close to mum and dad, after he was so wonderfully knobish today, it made me realise I'm better being close to my family, not him and his. So that's a big decision made.

I'm keeping notes of the potty training tips!!!

HungryHorace · 08/04/2014 06:20

Oh pink...time for a new number, I think. Stupid man.

I'm glad you've made your decision now though. Now to find somewhere to live!

Good luck. Xx

Mrs81 · 08/04/2014 07:18

(((((Hugs))))) pink.

Yes, a new number sounds sensible. As does being further away from him and his unsupportive family, who just sound v unhelpful Sad

I hope today's a better day xx

Sunbeam18 · 08/04/2014 09:19

You are being amazing and strong, pink. Respect to you. Violet is a lucky girl to have you as her mummy. Sorry he is still being a bloody pest x

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SunnyL · 08/04/2014 12:15

Sigh off to London again today. This is my second out of 3 trips this month. I won't see little girl again til Friday morning. I've worked on 3 days off so far this month and now my client is demanding I pull yet another rabbit out of the hat by the end of the month which will involve working on even more days off. I'm fecked off. So much for a good work life balance.

I'm actually worried that I'm setting a precedence and that worl will start to think that my days off are fair game Sad

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Mrs81 · 08/04/2014 18:44

Sunny what would happen if you said no/re-explained that you are p/t now? It's tricky not to make overtime the norm...Confused

Feeling v pleased. Rattled off a curtain for ds's room just in time for bedtime. Felt like I was on the Great British Sewing Bee with such a deadline. But at least his room will be dark when we want it to be now (the blind wasn't hacking it) Smile

MaryWestmacott · 08/04/2014 19:24

Sunny - I think you need to push back to the client that you can't deliver in that time frame as you don't work full time anymore.

I know so many woman who went back parttime for 6months or so and then went fulltime, just because their employer and clients expected exactly the same amount of work done, they ended up working most of their days off anyway, so felt the should at least get paid for it.

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SunnyL · 08/04/2014 20:13

Yes I sent a plea for help to management last week and I'm told they are trying to hire someone to help me but they aren't interviewing people until May and apparently one of them is in Boston. If visas are an issue they probably won't be in place until Sept Angry .

I can't push back on the client as apparently that is the Minister - actually Ministers and this is their new flagship policy to stop people banging on about floods and badgers.

Its ok - right now I have beer, pizza and the sewing bee in my travelodge Wink

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BeanCalledPickle · 10/04/2014 21:35

Sunny you should have said! Me and Rreow could have taken you for a London night out:-) Mary could have come up from Yummy Mummy land and joined us as well!

I'm enjoying being back at work. I didn't realise how bored I was until I was back. It's hard though and I've already had a bit of an HR issue. Full time for us is 36 hours. I asked to work four eight hour days on the theory that I'd do that time anyway so may as well get paid for it. It was agreed and has been implemented by HR. New boss takes issue with it and said it would never have been agreed. And it's contrary to office policy. So absolutely no idea how it will be resolved. His view is that it's not fair for me to be paid for the extra when no one else is. That's fine. I quite agree. But it was agreed for me!

rrreow · 11/04/2014 10:42

bean Right, so you being paid for the work you do is unfair.. it's fair to work extra hours for free? Hmm

Date night tonight!!! Going for a meal and to the cinema (wow I hardly remember what a cinema is like..)

AlohaMama · 11/04/2014 19:59

Yay for date nights. Have fun rrreow We keep meaning to have one of those one day!

Potty training here going great so far. Only 2 accidents so far at home, and otherwise doing great. Not so good at nursery but I think that is to be expected. Little E on the other hand I have decided is an 'animated' character. Not a chilled baby, and is sometimes just very very loud. It's not even exactly crying, just very shouty. But we do finally have 2 more teeth coming through which is exciting.

Also, have just managed to get myself 5 days work through our/DH consultancy. Bit scared as I think my brain has forgotten how to work Confused

rrreow · 12/04/2014 12:45

Congrats on the work Aloha that's exciting!

I definitely recommend date night. I think we were averaging about 2-4 dates A YEAR since DS1 was born and we just never really connect and communicate without distractions. I think it's had a bad effect on our relationship. Now we're aiming for every Friday evening. This way we get to be together, try new things and just get a bit of a breather. It makes a big difference also in terms of how I feel towards the kids. Definitely more patient and able to be fun/playful.

I do realise we're in a lucky position though in that we pay SiL to stay a bit longer on a Friday, rather than having to fork out the going rate for a babysitter.

HungryHorace · 12/04/2014 17:47

Glad you enjoyed date night, rrreow :-)

No chance here...I'm too knackered at night to do anything but gave dinner then go to sleep. The joys of pregnancy.

We now have a pulling up to standing / attempting to walk DD. I predict chaos ahead!

RueDeWakening · 12/04/2014 20:08

I lost you Shock - that'll teach me to get caught up in Real Life.

All is well here, M is becoming a professional stander-upperer, cruising a bit too well for my liking, has an excellent pointing finger, and will be 11 months old on Wednesday. HOWEVER, he has a bit of a thing for biting, not fussy what it is, but when he bites me on the nipple during a feed it fucking kills hurts quite a lot. Help?

Right, am off to catch up...

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SunnyL · 13/04/2014 07:46

I'm baaack! Phew the whole changing password really threw me. I'm not normally such a luddite.

Little girl finally got the hang of her walker yesterday and set off. That's all my furniture being bashed into now. Good thing it is all such cheap crap from ikea Grin

I've been thinking about work quite a lot the last few weeks. There are applications open at the moment for civil service jobs in my field. it's a big pay rise but a bog commute away. I think a couple of you guys are civil servants - would you recommend it?

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BeanCalledPickle · 13/04/2014 10:00

Sunny yes, on the whole I would. However it's not the golden place it once was. When considering pay you need to consider 1% rises forever more. Pension is a lot less good these days as well. I think you need to do two years before you get six months full pay for maternity leave, but I know you weren't planning it very soon so that may be ok? On the plus side you will be able to work flexibly, at home etc. How bad is the commute? And I don't know what effect Scottish independence would have, not that I actually think that would ever happen:-)