June 2013 Commando crawlers vs Baby slugs

[SunnyL]

Hi all - the old thread was about to run out so I started a new one.

Little Miss was up to mischief last night. Thankfully it's DHs day off today so he took her into bed with him while I slept in the spare room. She is just so excitable when she wakes up at night. It can can 90 minutes to scrape her off the ceiling.

In my experience with dd1 when she weaned (around 18 months) we were both ready, I may feel differently this time as dd2 is my last but I hope it comes to a mutual natural conclusion again x

After a tough start, I'm not looking forward to the end of breastfeeding either. First, I wanted to get to 6 months, then 12 months (cutting down gradually and ending at 14 months). It doesn't look like DD is going to want to stop then, as she uses me for comfort as much as feeding (it would be difficult for me to count the number of 'feeds' as there are still so many!). So I will see how we feel in a couple of months. I really hope that it does come to a natural end.

Talking about hormones, I just burst into tears on the phone to a client as she was being horribly rude to me.

DS2 is off his food a bit, seems to be teething and I have a blocked duct, ouchie. I'm trying to gradually cut back on the breastfeeding (he's still waking up a lot in the night), but it's difficult. I definitely don't want to stop yet though.

DS1 self weaned around 14mo. He was having a morning and an evening feed, but was so easily distracted and not bothered that I stopped offering and he didn't ask for it. I was ready by then though.

I can't believe our babies are nearly ONE!!!

Oh dear rrreow Hormones are a bugger. But that's no excuse for rudeness.

Lalalala (sticks fingers in ears). They can't be nearly one! Do they turn into toddlers at one?

Ah bf, apart from when dd uses me as a teether I am still loving it, even more so atm I think because it feels like a bond and our time to really connect. Although I wouldn't mind some of the night ones to fade!

ExP emerged yesterday with some bits from the house for me. He picked dd up, and she looked right through him and reached out for me. She had no idea who he was I don't think a day had gone by where I hadn't offered him time to come and see her, even when I was most hurt. He refused each time. And he was only about yesterday for 10 mins. I've offered again for tomorrow, if that's refused I'm inclined not to offer again and see what happens. Bloody men!

words ladies, words. I'm trying really hard to convince myself that I did not hear her say Dadda this morning. Its just babble right? She's not punishing me for going away for 2 days with work?!

Pink I can't believe a man who has 2 children already and knows the joy of them won't interact with his newest one. What an arse.

oh feck I really do think that was a Dadda. He's at work today. Do I tell him and inflate his ego?

We have Dada(dadadadadada) too Sunny. But ds isn't specific about who/what he says it to yet. Your call about telling dh. But you certainly aren't being punished for going away!

Sunny, if it's any consolation, DD said dadda a handful of times then reverted to mumma and I don't think she's said dadda since! :-)

DH confirmed she can get from sitting to lying yesterday as he saw her do it after previous stealth moves! She goes from lying to all fours then manages to sit up from there by swinging her leg round.

She's also able to almost stand unaided. Scary how fast they develop.

And I agree with Sunny about your ex, pink. It's just bizarre.

We have mummummum, dadada, hewooo (hello) and mulk (milk). It's very scary how quick these babies are changing but I really wish dd didn't choose to practice all her new skills during the night :-(

DD also waves hello and goodbye! That's very cute. She's done a half hearted version for ages, but it's full on and proper now. :-)

Whaaaaaaat? MadamJ have you signed them up for Oxford or Cambridge yet? That's amazing!

I heard giggling the other day and walked into the living room to her looking ever so proud of herself as she was up and pushing her walker around. Terrifying how quickly she is picking up new things. I've got another business trip next week. Wonder if she'll learn something else then too?

An arse is being polite!

Dd waves hello and good bye, we have nana now too, which my mum is thrilled with! We have a very like sounding hiya, and very occasionally a yep. Mumma comes out when she's upset. She makes an amazing brrrr sound, I was on the phone yesterday sorting something and the person I was speaking to even commented. She stood on her own yesterday for about 30 seconds and did a walk across the room holding only one adult hand. My little lady is becoming far less little!

We've got Dada and Mumma, but I believe the sound Dada is easier to make than a Mumma sound, so saying that first is normal! We get a sound that does sound like she's trying to say "dat!" screamed at us when she wats something (normally with pointing) - and we've got growling and "uh!" noises. She's shaking her head when she doesn't want something, pointing and clapping when she does.

DD doesn't say much. She says mummummum, but only when she's upset. And woof! And some kind of rolling grrr sound.

She waves too.

She's very laid back though. We now know she can roll but she's decided she doesn't want to any more. She doesn't want any toy enough to bother, so it's hard to encourage her to crawl or walk.

Wow re all the talking!!! We don't really have any proper words, just loads of babble and ongoing debate over a 'dada'! May or may not be! He is hoisting himself to standing ALL THE BLEEDING TIME against anything he can find, and balanced standing unsupported for about 15 seconds yesterday. Obsessed with: remote controls, phones, radios, wires, plugs.
Sorry to hear your X is being worse than hopeless, pink. His ( huge) loss, but v hurtful and odd nevertheless.

Pink; what's his plan in respect of a) child support payments and b) actually seeing Violet and the other DDs? I'm so angry at him for you! This feckless behaviour is so cunty ( I rarely use that word. It seems appropriate here!)

I do the legal work for the child support agency. I've seen and heard a lot of horror stories. Including twins called Tia and Maria:-)

Bean, I have no idea, I have someone from csa calling next week, and I'm getting some legal advice too. He sorts payments and contact with his ex themselves. He pays through csa for his eldest that he doesn't have any contact with. I want this properly sorted, I don't want the hassle. He keeps telling me how much he misses dd and how he didn't want this... I keep reminding him he made the final choice. Not me.
I also know how good at not actually being there when he has his other dds, and I refuse to have dd palmed off on whoever because he is 'busy'. Again today I offered him time with dd, again he ignored it, only saying at 7 when he got in touch that he didn't want any arguments, I calmly told him we no longer have anything to argue over. It's just dd that sufferes from not seeing him.

Wow, that was a bit long, sorry! I haven't cried today, which is the first time in a long time, just need to sort homing for us now, and I will fell things have moved on properly! I get my cat tomorrow too, have missed her hugely, can't wait to have a snuggle with her!

Oh pink, he's being such an idiot and you're being utterly amazing amidst it all.

You're right to get things sorted out though. I used to work in the voluntary sector with women who had been through domestic abuse and some of the shenanigans that ex partners would go to with regards to seeing their own children never ceased to amaze me

Pink, he has 4 kids he doesn't live with?! Goodness.

I hope you get some joy from the CSA.

You're being so strong. Violet is lucky to have you there on her side. :-)

You've tried your best for him to have contact. Which is all you can do. He's such an idiot (Bean put it better, btw).

So tired this morning, dd woke 4 times but wanted mammoth feeds each time, I keep thinking she can't possibly be hungry but I don't know what else to try!! Dh has really pissed me off again this morning, he just got up after I have already beung awake 3 hours and informed me that we really need to do something about dd's sleep as he is "shattered"!!! I swear I will hit him hard with something if he says one more word to me! Just to make it very clear, he has never got up with dd in her entire life he can fuck right off

Arrrrggggh Madame. That would make me fume too. Once you've had a glut of (and are more awake) ask (d)h what he'd like to do about dd sleep. If he's offering to get up with her then all's well but if he's only got suggestions for you then he'd best just bring you more and a slice of toast!
For what it's worth, if ds is waking lots then I send dh through first to try and settle him. If that is clearly not working then I go through and feed him. I usually have to wake dh up first mind you...

My DH wouldn't be brave / stupid enough to say anything like that to me. Thankfully it's not an issue with DD.

Have you tried giving water? If DD wakes because her nose is bunged and won't go back off, we (or DH, I should say) give her 60ml water and that seems to help. I'm thirsty when I wake, so no reason why DD wouldn't be.

And it probably would help if your DH went as he doesn't smell of milk so is likely to have more success.

DD has taken to sometimes sleeping on her front, which is unusual. Though I'm not sure if it's an actual choice she's making, or she just drops off while rolling around the cot! She's been asleep almost 2 hours though, so I'm not arguing about it. :-)

That's the thing, he just says that dd won't settle for him probably because he has only tried once so obviously I go in and all she wants is boob. I wouldn't mind his input if I was moaning etc but I just carry on happily in my own little way. Just got back from the stables after a nice long walk with dd1 on her pony so feeling much better, think I am just going to keep my distance from dh today whilst I calm down. Sorry for the rant x

Madame I knew that feeling so well. And usually they only tried a half hearted attempt at what ever it was they were doing in the first place kinda glad now I can just bumble along.

HH yeah, he's a model dad! I'm not holding my breath with csa, he is self employed and I have a feeling he'll not 'earn enough' to make substantial payments. And annoyingly his parents are useless and will encourage him to do what is best for him, not dd. I'm certainly not worried about dd missing out on them. I would happily do no contact with them, I doubt I'll be able to tho.

No hum. Now I need to sort mine and dds space. Love being with mum and dad but missing my own space!