November 2012 - Diet plans and love bubbles

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1958191-November-2012-Any-words-yet

O is obsessed with books. When I say obsessed, I mean it. Owl babies, dear zoo, gruffalo,and alike. Bedtime is a pain, 6 books at least. When she wakes up, she wants milk and books. I'm happy but sometimes just so tired.

Picked up court order. But this does not allow me to register her on Leo's surname. Just to register her on my surname and put him as father. So I might need to go back and get a court order for that one although they did promise to look into it to find out what will happen. But this means I can get her free health care,yey.

We are back in sleeping bags, operation duvet failed on many levels. I found a lollipop sleeping bag on ebay for half price, delivered to Hungary, so hoping that will do. Only bought one though.

Ahh turns out I did jinx F's sleep yesterday after saying he had improved. After 5 good nights he went right back to square one last night. He was awake nearly 3 hours in then end - I am so tired.
I have always been very strict about keeping him in his room when he wakes either cuddling on the rocking chair or more recently sitting next to the cot. last night I was so fed up and couldnt face another 2 hours sat on his floor that I brought him into my bed thinking he would go off quicker as he wants cuddles and gets up in his cot constantly trying to get to me. Well it wasn't any quicker at all. I can't figure out a way to get him back to sleep quickly! I don't mind night wakings if only they were like 30 mins long or something. any suggestions on magic ways to get babies to sleep quickly?

I've been to Germany this morning to do the nappy and wipes shop. Went fine. Then went to the Lidl next door. I discovered my nearest French one last week and enjoyed it but the German ones are something else. Except I got to the checkout and learned they don't accept payment by cards. The checkout worker was lovely and we muddled through (she spoke no French or English and I understand some but don't speak German), agreed to keep my shopping while I drove to town to get cash. I did a week's shopping for €36!!! That's with lots of staples already in my cupboard / freezer but still. I really regret not going there before but once I rtw it will be a massive faff (the weekends the whole shopping area is packed with bargain hunting French and Lux people). So in two weeks I will have to do a massive stock up, then refill my freezer with batch cooks before D-Day.

I've woken up and feel very resentful towards bf and in turn co sleeping. My back is hurting so much. It gets worse when i bf laying down bit I'm to tiered to even contemplate sitting up.
Upset me how angry I was this morning ??
Don't know what to do. Backs been getting slowly worse last few weeks.

Argh screaming baby

GT no idea, sorry. R always preferred the crib/cot once i gave in to tummy sleeping, maybe cosleeping isn't the answer for you?

No one came for music this morning. Am struggling not to take it personally on top of everything else, this feels like yet another abject failure

n the plus side though, the nice church ladies were having a coffee morning and made a fuss of us. One of them started going on about the reasons some hospitals don't tell the gender being because the "ethnics" abort girls and i told her it was the daily mail being racist, it's an urban myth, and that the real reason is that they are looking for abnormalities and can't always guarantee they're right. So a small triumph yes they do know R's heritage

It is not a complete urban myth, but has been exaggerated by the Daily Mail and others. There is some legitimate concern in some trusts that selective abortion does or may take place (albeit privately or illegally/back street, as it is hard to get medical justification for abortion the later the pregnancy gets). I'll try and find a link for you that isn't press stirring.

If a baby is in the right position an experienced sonographer can see what the sex is in the high 90s% of cases (my OB GYN said he had never made a mistake at the 20w scan but if he wasn't certain he would tell them to come back a week or two later if they wanted to know so he could double check). And it doesn't take any extra time, especially as part of the abnormality checks focus on the genital area (at least it does over here). I think the main reason for the refusal of some trusts is that they are worried they may be sued if there is a mistake. I'm not sure that has ever actually happened though as they would always back up their statement with a 'but we can never be 100% sure).

I would, however, have picked your coffee ladies up on the use of the term 'the ethnics' it's the kind of term my grandmother uses when she is trying to be politically correct and can't remember what she is supposed to call non-whites anymore. Drives me mad but what can you do other than correct her every single time.

www.independent.co.uk/news/science/the-lost-girls-illegal-abortion-widely-used-by-some-uk-ethnic-groups-to-avoid-daughters-has-reduced-female-population-by-between-1500-and-4700-9059790.html

The Indie aren't known for pedalling racist myths.

Yeah, i know, but my hackles rose at the blatant racism - especially when she was complimenting my mixed race son - and i was struggling not to be rude i don't think "Bollocks!" would have been appropriate under the circumstances, bearing in mind it's the church we attend! vicar would have sniggered though he's known me for years

Apparently 99% accuracy available at 13 weeks. I was told I was carrying a girl both times at 16 weeks, then confirmed at 20 weeks - I could see for myself when he flicked over to 3D. He always said he wasn't completely sure at 16 weeks.

Interesting links on that article above anyway.

Congrats Donna, thats amazing news. Hope the birth went a bit smoother this time. Is the little one home??

GT sorry that you are feeling resentful about bf. You have done amazingly , but you both (you and the baby) should be happy doing it. Co sleeping and bf don't need to go hand in hand. A would probably want to co sleep even if you weren't bf.

PP that rubbish about no one turning up. H loves music. What kind of places did you advertise??

I find correcting racism/sexism/homophobia and whatever else with facts and a saintly smile and an air of long suffering patience normally shuts people up. These people hate to be made to realise they are being ignorant, and patronising them can be quite effective :)

Except some people you don't care about being rude to. There is a woman in my mum's village, a former neighbour, who gets all her opinions from the Daily Express. She popped in to see me when I was over in June last year and 5 minutes into the conversation she started going on and on about Eastern European benefits scroungers. I just cut her off and said Right, bye then, and shut the door in her face. My mum was pretty appalled at how rude I had been ("she's very fond of you you know") but tbh it was something I had wanted to do to the vile woman for about 25 years :o

I once had to ask a work colleague not to use the word coloured. Was so embarrassing, but after he said it 3 times, I felt I was saying it was okay by not saying something

He is an older man, and quite traveled. I was really surprised.

Just Facebook so far, and I've handed out little flyers at groups i go to. I don't know if I'm just a bit shit at it so find it a bit embarrassing

Publicising stuff, i mean. I'm happy running the class!

pp sorry nobody came. I've been looking for a local music group I can take both girls too. My friend noticed a poster up in a church hall where I used to take DD1 to tumble tots. Am trying it out this monday. I would imagine it's very similar to the class you are trying to set up. Try not to take it personally. I think you need to try and spread the word and advertise more. Try putting posters up in baby clinics/health centres/doctors surgery's and church halls if you can.

gt I used to resent bf E on a regular basis. I used to just ride it out for a bit and then the next day I was usually fine. No help really but I know how you feel.

Can You put it at your local newsagent? Or supermarket shops have notice boards too. Gumtree? Any local forums?

Feeling tired, back is aching. Taking it easy this afternoon.

Pp maybe like Eliza said, maybe advertising more. I was always looking for new things to do with H when I was on maternity leave. Even now I'm open to new classes.

And pp it's a bit like the zumba class I went to the other week. I really enjoyed it and am fully intending to go back but for one reason or another I have been unable to yet. Perhaps that's how the women who came to your group feel. I need to get into a routine of going to groups and once I do I manage to go most weeks. Give it time, get the word out there and once the class gains momentum I'm sure you'll be fine. Don't get disheartened and don't give up.

What Eliza said!!

O has his first pair of shoes! A little pair if cruisers from Clarks. He is a teeny size 3H

Yay on the new shoes for O! M had hers measured today, ones gone up to a 4, others still a 3.5 but getting bigger so might need some new shoes. Going back tomorrow to test her shoes as she had her converse on.

M and I have been naughty, we came up to snuggle in bed as M needed a nap and I had a headache. Just woke up and seen the time, I've been asleep 2 hours and M 3 hours and she's still snoozing got loads of jobs to be doing too
Ah well

pp really sorry no one came - could you run a free taster session (sorry I don't know if you already do this). All the groups around here do the first session free to encourage people through the doors - it works well.
Also put posters up in as many places as you can - some shops will put them up on community notice boards as well as doctors, baby clinics etc .
get listing on as many online sites as you can.
I really hope it picks up for you- these things often take time.
Also might be worth considering the timing, is it a time little ones would likely be napping - I find that a problem with alot of groups around here.

O just had a mahoosive meltdown because DS1 had a few mini eggs and he had none.