DECEMBER 2012: Please babies sleep, before you turn 1!

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Earplugs hales! Honestly, you can still hear a bit but they block some out so take the edge off and hopefully stop some of the anxiety about noise.

Thats a good idea, i'll get my BiL to pick me some up tomorrow, i hadn't thought of that. Thank you WL and everyone else for being so nice to you all.

Anytime (day or night!) hales. Being a mummy is a really tough job with incredible highs but also some lows. As someone else said, you're a fab mummy - you give H your all, what more could anyone ask for? Well done for recognising that you need to change things - it sounds like you've got an action plan already too which is amazing and I'm sure will help you to start to feel better soon.

Also sending hugs to you Hales, it's a full on onslaught being a parent and you sound like a great one, but everyone needs a break sometimes! I love O but I actually really enjoy the day a week that his gm takes him so I can work in the quiet, just me and radio 4 so I think dh giving you a break will definitely help, and you have a good plan in place to address things.

wl glad the boob is on the mend.

Nutella sorry for the trouble with baby nut and doctors- will be thinking of him. Ditto on your behalf re your docs maryland

Happy birthday for today, technically, spotty! It's all gone so fast. I am already feeling guilty again about O having a birthday on the 27th - I imagine I'll get this every year though!

Have birthday F! I hope you all have a fantastic day Spotty.

Bloody drenched again here! Time to try active fit in another nappy. I'm seriously fucked off with this now!

Yay to first tooth minifod

hales you have made a massive step in acknowledging that you need support. You've got a fab dp. We're all behind you .

We've had a lot of leakage of late willyou, also considering active fit. Good luck.

Ive been awake for over an hour. Woke dp up after he crashed out on the sofa and then came back to bed. R hasnt woken up yet . He didnt have.a great day at nursery, 3 diarrhoea nappies and he didnt eat. He was fine when we got home, I boiled some plantain for him and he happily ate. This diarrhoea has been on and off for nearly a month now. Am I foolish to think its teething?

Happy birthday baby spotty!
2blessed it could be a bit down to teething - the extra saliva they swallow can upset digestion but I would think just as likely to be minor germs picked up from crawling about and putting everything in his mouth. This is a germy/immune system build up age. If its bit bothering him and he's eating enough I wouldn't worry too much yet.

Morning ladies!

Hales DS sounds a lot like H, he is a non stop baby. They are definitely hard work. I find myself getting very wound up when he has a screamy whiney day (like at the mo, with his cold) It is the hardest thing ever. I went to the dr about a month ago and have started some therapy. I can also get some psychotherapy - but I don't have any time to ring around various places to get on a waiting list for an appointment!!! - otherwise I would say the care here is great. How you feel is really normal!
You are a great mummy! You are doing a great job! Massive ((((hugs))))! I hope the dr is nice and supportive.
And if family can take her for an hour or two so you can do what you want make sure you use it!
I'm becoming more about the PIL taking DS and I've just deleted a massive rant about it. Sadly, they will only get older and T will only get faster

Maryland DS hates the inhaler. But sometimes we get lucky and he will chew the face mask bit so I guess that sort of works...

He is much better today, thank you all! Still a bit croaky and full of snot but not as bad. He must feel grotty though because he is very whiney. I coughed and he started to cry... It's going to be a long day!

And happy birthday to baby spotty!! Can't believe babies are already 1! DS will be 11 months soon.... Crazy!

And I can't remember who asked (sorry) they think it is Bronchitis. But it's the third time DS has had this sort of "croup attack" and it is horrible.
The hosp dr said to give him the medicines for 5-7 days and see how he is. The dr who saw him for all of 30 secs said, I'm sure he'll be fine within 5 days... Yeah... It usually takes DS 2/3 weeks to get over a cold or cough.
DH is going to ring the dr today and get a referral to an ear, nose and throat dr. Might he totally unnecessary but can't do any damage... Can it?

I think the other problem is how active he is, he doesn't looks like a poorly baby but to me he looked really pale yesterday and he isn't quite himself. Anyway, my mum's tip (my older brother had chronic asthma as a small child) is to have his history written down - so the three attacks, what worked, what didn't etc - and just hand that to the dr in future. She reckons they read better than they listen

Happy birthday babySpotty

Happy birthday F and also massively belated happy birthday to R

Hales . I'd completely echo what everyone else has said about you being a great mum and it sounds like you've got a good plan to get some help, as well as lots of support from DP which is vital. I have a persistent co-sleeper too, who will only be put down during the day very much on his own terms and it is exhausting. I'm holding onto the fact that his big brother went through phases of being similar and is now fiercely independent.

Nutella - hope DS revovers soon. Sounds like you had quite a fright.

WL - hope you are ok too.

Willyou - I'd also recommend Asda nappies. We used Pampers last tome with very few leaks, but N must be a slightly different shape or something and Asda have been best. He's just moved up to size 5.

Things are not exactly a barrel of laughs in the Ispy household. N is cutting 4 teeth at once and has a lingering cold so consequently is reluctant to leave the boob especially at night. I was also notified yesterday that my firm is making redundancies and I have to go yo a meeting tomorrow. Looking at length of service and the other criteria I should be ok, but I don't want to take anything for granted and on any event some of my colleagues will be going

Apologies for the amount of o/I based typos in the previous post -fat fingers and touchscreens are not a winning combination

Tough situation whatever happens ispy

Glad t is feeling better Nutella.

Hope you got to the doctors ok hales.

I've been at work all morning (poor neglected ds!) he loves his new toys though (he only got two as as we have asked for money from anyone who has asked). Anyway dd is still ill so I'm taking her to the dr later, she's had a fever for five days now and she's asleep for the second time today. Appt isn't until 4:40 though and it's twenty minutes away so I'm a bit worried about dinner as I've got nothing quick to do for them! I put ds to bed and I can hear him banging on his cot

Happy 1st birthday to F, Spotty, i hope you've all had a great day. Also i hope DD is feeling better soon.

Nutella, i hope T is better today.

Ispy, oh no what a horrible situation to be in. I hope it works out as well as it can do for you.

WL hows your breast today? Hope its better.

I'm not in with the GP till friday, i changed my appointment as it was with originally with my normal GP who knows me and my family quite well, due to my fathers ill health. I just feel too embarrassed to talk to him so have asked to see a GP that i don't know.

Happy birthday baby spotty.

ispy it's horrid. We're having cuts of 15% (that's getting rid of people to reduce the wage bill by 15%, not getting rid of 15% of the staff) I've got my head in the sand at the moment.

nutella & maryland we used to let DD pretend to give her teddies the inhaller, although in the end we consoled ourselves that if we squirted it after she screamed she got a good breath of it.

Hales it's difficult when you have one who doesn't stop. Even today, when she's ill, she can't stay still. But it gets easier as they get older. Take all the help you can get, and don't feel bad.

I was having a day with just DD. She still wasn't 100% this morning, but she was desperate to go to soft play. So I spent 2.95 hrs this morning climbing and sliding. Then as we came outside she had a coughing fit and was sick.

She's been sleeping on the sofa this afternoon and definitely isn't well. No nursery tomorrow, so that's my week off to tidy and cook scuppered a bit, and no more time off to do it before Christmas.

So long as A doesn't get it!

Happy birthday baby spotty.

Sorry I'm still so awful at keeping up with the thread. DS is non stop, and has started getting up at 5 each day. So I'm now usually tucked up in bed by 9pm, if I dare stay up later I really regret it the next day. Only gives me 3 hours each day to myself, and the housework never seems to stop. Oh well, things will get better I'm sure.

Going to read back now, hope everyone is well.

hales sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. I really hope the dr can help you. DS is really hard work too, he just will not play on his own. If I try and even sit in a chair in the same room as him while he plays then he'll stand at my knee and scream at me, if that doesn't work he starts bashing his head into my legs and biting my clothes. If I just get down to his level he's a bit better, but it's so uncomfortable being on the floor with him all day, and so restrictive! I expected parenting to be a full time job, but not this full time! Work usually involves at least a lunch break and a couple of coffee breaks. People at baby groups are surprised when I say he won't play on his own, and basically all end up asking some form of "have you tried just letting him play on his own". It's like they can't comprehend it

Our saviour is getting out, whether it's baby groups, shopping or just out for a walk. DS loves to watch other people, so even though I still have to sit and play with him, he's not as focused on the playing, so I can sneak in a couple of minutes of thinking my own thoughts. I can't imagine coping if we had to stay home all the time. I don't like noise or social situations, but it's more that I don't really know how to participate, even with friends I've had for years. Loud sounds make me cringe and jump, but it really is just a dislike, so I can handle it fine.
DH has never had DS for more than 2 hours, and never at all without me also being in the house and helping him with stuff - choosing what to feed him and when, watching him when DH wants to use the loo etc. I had a chat with him last weekend and have told him he needs to learn to deal with DS himself. I think next weekend I'll hide in the bedroom for a couple of hours, the next weekend I'll send him out somewhere. I think he's terrified of being out with DS on his own.

Not sure any of that is helpful to read, I just started waffling - sorry!

Dd is really ill I feel so guilty. She has a bad chest infection the dr even mentioned hospital but went for really strong antibiotics and wants to see her again at nine tomorrow

Don't beat yourself up Spotty. It's so hard to judge how ill they are sometimes. You waited to see if it was just a virus that she could fight off, and when it became clear she wasn't you took her to the dr. It could have been the case that a day or 2 ago her chest was fine and you'd have been sent home and then not gone back until later, meaning she was treated later.

DD rallied a bit, enough to ask to go to another soft play place tomorrow, since she isn't going to nursery! Then total melt down when we decided to try the mumsnet method for stopping coughing- vicks on the feet!

But MIL let A sleep for nearly 3 hours this afternoon. He's busy playing now....

Poor dd spotty. D

Try not to feel bad - it's so hard to know when they're really ill. When dd2 was really I'll I went to work and popped out to take her to the dr. The dr called an ambulance :-(

Oh Stacks i know what you mean, i get surely she plays independently yeah she does but only if i'm sat next to her. I hope your DP manages ok this weekend my DP openly admits being alone with her terrifies him but he's had to suck it up because of me being back in work. Work confuses me though as i never feel the panic in there, its as though i'm only panicking when Heidi is with me. I just basically don't understand my feelings anymore.

Spotty i have my FX that your DD reacts well to the antibiotics tonight and that you don't end up in hospital with her tomorrow. I hope she and you are well

Hales & stacks I won't to meet these babies who play on their own. DS shouts at me when I leave the room and whatever I do he is next to me or clinging to / climbing my trousers! Although when I put him in his play pen he will sometimes play on his own but that is after letting me know he does not want to be on there....

spotty I hope dd is doing well with the antibiotics!

DS was awake for a good half an hour from 1am something until about 1:45; but then slept from 1:45 ish until 6:50 last night! Unfortunately DH and I sprang out of bed at 5 am when he was moaning,because we thought he was awake... And his morning nap was 40 minutes.... Fx he starts to settle down a bit.

And why do various clothes makers sew little metal tags onto jumpers? DS loves them it is driving me nuts, and ruining my nice jumpers. The little monkey!

I had to wake both dc at 8:15 this morning! The dr is happy that the antibiotics are working so that's good.

My house is such a mess there's children's clothes and toys everywhere plus ds was sick last night so I need to wash all his bedding etc

This thread must be infectious! Dd2 was really poorly in the night with a raging temp and awful cough. Taking her to the dr as I think we also need to review her asthma plan.
T was inexplicably awake between 1-2 last night - happy but awake, but this morning on the school run she coughed herself sick so is currently asleep in a rather whiffy snow suit!