DECEMBER 2012: Please babies sleep, before you turn 1!

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utopian thats what we're here for . I would have been very lonely at times and constantly scratching my head if it wasn't for this (and ante natal) thread over the last year.

I've had a few hours to myself that I've used to clean. The place was just looking like a dump site. Watching x-factor and then afters while I watch homeland.

utopian tiffin is my fave! And I rather like raking leaves too! Mentioned ours to DH today but ran out of time. Will do them soon.
I've got a red patch on the outside of my boob :-(.

I've opened another pack of nappies and I still have a soaking wet baby and an only half filled nappy. I may try moving him back to 4s instead of 4+. He has been in 4+ a few weeks but maybe he's grown and changed shape and they've started to leak? Clutching at straws!

WL if it's red it sounds like mastitis. I'd get to a doctor ASAP before it really gets you. Massage and hand express in the bath/shower.

Keeping dd home from nursery today as she has a horrendous cough and fever, which she's had all weekend

We have a tooth! At last!

Hoorah fod!
Poor dd spotty. Dd1 has had an awful cough the last few days.
I think boob feels a bit better today. Just going to hot shower it and will feed T from it again before going to work. I'll make a dr apt if need be.

Hurrah for tooth minifod!

We have horribly snotty clingy baby. He cried when dh left for work. Think we'll have a quiet snuggly day for him - not sure he'd cope with the sitter in his current state.

More snotty DC here. And DD is meant to be having her MMR booster this afternoon. We'll have to see how it goes.

And at 4am I woke up as A was crawling across the bed to get to the pint of water on the bedside table. I got him just in time!

Yay FoD

Oh no Spotty, Utopian and Beasty. I hope all your LOs feel better soon.

Beasty, I had to smile at the water attempt. DS shared his sickness bug with DH and I, so we shut ourselves in the living room on Saturday, laid on the floor and let DS (who had recovered by then), play around us. In the afternoon, he spotted DH's glass of water on the sofa arm which just happened to be above DH's head at the time - it's was amazing how quickly DH could move, despite feeling poorly, when having a glass of cold water poured over him brightened my day

Equimum that sounds hilarious your poor DH DS has a thing for glasses of water and will move at top speed to investigate.

Well, yesterday DS was shooting out big strings of gooey snot with every other sneeze; this morning at about 4:50 he did some very strange breathing a really dry rasping sound. We stood out on the balcony with him and rang the local children's hospital (which fortunately is about 3 minutes drive away). We gave him "subitmol" (sp?) and that also didn't seem to do much. He was ok in himself but very rattly.

So we took him to the hospital. They gave him something to inhale for a few minutes and when that didn't help a cortisone suppository. The dr was really nice and 30 mins after the suppository she still wasn't happy and said we could take him home, but he needs medicine every 3-4 hours or we could leave him at the hospital.
We decided to take him home stupid DH where we fought him back to sleep. Then at 8 am DH who had given up on sleep, went to the pharmacy and they said they couldn't give him what was on the prescription because the dr hadn't filled it in properly
So I had to ring the dr after 9am and eventually got through at 10:15 ish. I fibbed a bit and said DS was having more problems breathing. Along we went, got seen at about midday and honestly, it was the quickest appointment ever! And now I'm so Because I had questions but it takes a while to formulate them and of course the dr is gone by then I hate going to the dr here!!! It makes me feel so rubbish

Poor Nutella and baby nutella. Fx for a speedy recovery.

DD has fallen asleep on the sofa. It's been hard trying to deal with one cuddly child and then one who is full of beans and thinks it's nice to pull hair, gouge eyes, hit and bite.

And wipe his nose/ dribble in my cleavage!

Oh no, lots of poorly babies. That sounds traumatic nutella. I'll never forget when dd1 was about same age as baby lazza is now & got tonsillitis. It was terrible. She went downhill very quickly & ended ip in high dependency unit & in hospital for 4 days it was so extreme. Still makes me wary of colds & flus (& mad that they are still so reluctant to remove them)

Baby lazza is completely fine with no daytime feeds. Day 3 today & it's been fine. Night weaning....not so successful! But we think she's cutting another tooth.

Do keep an eye on it WL, I had mastitis & it's pretty grim.

Nutella, hows DS now? I hope he's ok and that your ok as well

WL, i hope you've not got mastitis i had that twice and its not nice.

Congratulations to the little mister on his first tooth FoD.

Hope all the poorly DC feel better soon.

Well we're back from Centre Parcs we had a great time (no bum fun though Willyou haha). I have booked to see my GP though as since H has been born i get really anxious when i'm in loud environments or if there are lots of people around, which is weird because i use to be a loud person and loved being round people. Anyway it all came to a head this weekend as whilst we were in the winter wonderland i felt myself getting panicky, DP noticed and held my hand and we went somewhere quiet and i calmed down. But then later we took H and my Niece to see santa and there were 12 of us we were ushered into his grotto, and had to follow a path to see santa. There were a few families ahead of us and a few behind, it was so noisy and there were loads of people around i couldn't concentrate and felt like i was panicking i just wanted to grab H and run. It ended with me crying outside DP again calmed me down and asked me to see the Dr as he thinks i'm struggling. He's right i haven't admitted it before but since i've had H i've struggled i have found it all so relentless. I love H to bits but i just want to keep her in the house with me. And the noise to stop even if we go to my families houses i leave when they get loud. I also can't cope with H making loud noises. I also feel like H isn't like other children from the minute she wakes up to the minute she goes to sleep, she doesn't stop and she doesn't really play by herself i have to sit on the floor and play or explore the house or she goes nuts. She doesn't sleep in her cot anymore so shes literally next to me for what feels like 24/7. Her naps are taken on the couch with her legs across mine so i can't move when she naps. I never have time to cook nice meals unless someone sits with her whilst i do it. I feel like i do the bare minimum cleaning but again i can only do that if someone sits with her. And to top it all off i feel like the worlds worst mum for feeling like this. I have always wanted children but now shes here i feel like i'm lost and i don't know what to do to make it better.

Wow sorry for that mammoth me me me post!

Poor baby nut. It must be so hard in a forin language.
T loves glasses of water too and absolutely loves a bottle with a bit of water in to play with. Hmm might do her some with a bit of food colouring in.

Boob seems to be on the mend now.
Whoever was saying about rubbish Huggies - I normally use tesco 4+ at night but had some Huggies 5s left over from dd2 so thought it might be time to go up a size - well, rubbish - 3 nights, each morning soaked through when never even damp in tesco.

Willyou, i forgot to say H is in size 5+ asda's own nappies. We have never had any problems with them leaking. Could a new brand be worth a try, i use to think pampers leaked alot.

Oh hales (big big hug). Absolutely not the worst mum, just a normal mum. It's so tough not having a break. Definitely right to see the dr but can you also get a plan to have a little break? Could dp (glad he was supportive) take H out for an hour or 2 a couple of times a week? Will she let you cook for a bit if she's near you in her highchair with a saucepan/wooden spoon/flour to play with?
Will she sleep in her pram in the garden? What about a children's centre where staff will play with her for 10 mins while you have a quick breather?
Really hope you feel better soon. I went through a patch some years back (pre dds) when I got a bit panicy with crowds and tbh I'm still not that keen so I totally sympathise.

Oh Hales... Your post made me feel :( for you.

You're not the worst mum in the world that's so far from the truth! The best mums are the ones that are always trying hard and wanting to do the best by their children and giving them all the love they can :)
And that's what you're doing.

It sounds like you're struggling with anxiety.. And that's definitely something your GP can help you with. You could ask for an IAPT referral which would get you an appt with a psychological therapist. You could also get prescribed meds to support you for a while??

As regards Heidi things sound really tough for you.. You must be exhausted.. Which won't be helping the anxiety!!
Sorry if you've said this before but how come she doesn't sleep in her own bed?

Sounds like it's a bit of a viscious circle because the more tired you get the worse everything seems and the less tolerant you become.

I think if it was me I would be looking for a technique to follow to regulate H's sleeping including where and when. I think you said before you helped your sister in a similar situation so you're obviously very capable.
I think Pidj could help you with suggested technique? I think others have done PIck up out down and controlled crying? The baby whisperer book has some good ideas.. There is a psychologist called the Sleep Fairy and I hear she has very good results.

Don't beat yourself up about cooking and cleaning... I certainly don't get time for that either!!!!

Does H go to any groups or nursery or anything? I'm just thinking they may tire her out?

Sending you and

We've never had problems with pampers. Maybe 2 leaks in 11 mths ! But it could depend on movement and stuff- maybe the 'active' nappies might work better than the 'baby dry'. I gave friends that swear by the Aldi nappies but for me, it ainr broke so I'm not fixing it!!

Poor you hales I'm sure your doctor will be able to help and it's best that you go now before things get worse

WL glad your boob is better!

I've just put together the wooden blocks/walker we've got ds for his birthday tomorrow. Can't believe he's one!

Nutella that sounds really stressful I hope you're all ok now for you.

Nutella what did they say was the problem? We have an inhaler for DS but trying to get him to have it is like trying to put a jumper on the cat. He hates it and refuses to have the thing over his face.

DS's cough did not improve until we got anti
Biotics. They kept saying it was just viral until DH lost his temper and they gave penicillin and the 3 mth cough cleared up in 5 days. Yay but also it could have been resolved AGES ago!!

Enormous hugs to you Hales, you are a wonderful mum. You put H first despite motherhood being bloody hard work some times. That's all anyone could ever hope for. I hope your doctor can refer you, I have a friend who is a CBT counsellor and she sees so many people with social anxiety/fear of crowds.

Poor baby Nutella, I hope the medicine is helping and that you all get a restful night.

And and to all those with poorly babies/shit sleepers for one reason or another ATM.

I have put him in a pampers 4 tonight. He's had a massive shoot upwards so I'm wondering if the 4+ had become too loose on his teeny belly. He really doesn't have much meat on him despite his chubby chops.

Sorry not much time to post but just wanted to send massive hugs to you hales. You are a wonderful mummy

Thanks for the suggestions, i haven't taken H to any groups really to be honest i keep making excuses not to go when really its because i don't want the noise. As i'm scared of getting stressed out there. I have made play dates with my friends and their children but have always come up with an excuse not to go at the last minute. I have taken H to one family party and left after 30minutes due to the noise. At H's christening all that day i just felt like going home and hiding. I have tried to hide how i'm feeling for so long but apparently haven't fooled DP.

DP has been great, he agrees that H is quite hard going and has agreed to take her to his mums or dads every week and leave me behind.

H use to sleep in her cot well, but then she got a cold so i coslept and haven't managed to get her back in her cot yet. I'm making that my mission for this week, starting tomorrow. I am also starting CC to try and get her to get her to sleep i'm just nervous about how i'll cope with the noise.

Honestly before i had H i never had this problem i was loud myself and was always out with friends or family in large groups. I loved a good gathering now it just fills me with dread.