Jan 2013: Part Six. Part SIX!

[Angielka]

As I so frivolously finished the last thread, I thought I'd better start a new one. Go!

poly dd1 has a recurring eye infection, my heart sinks everytime as i know i will have to sit on her to get them in! I sympathise

Not quite the saame but im having to wrestle with my cats eyelids because shes got a dodgy expensive eye issue at the mo

Is anyone doing a first birthday party? I dont think I'll bother, maybe invite family but thats all

We'll be doing a birthday party, because my Mum, mine and baby's birthdays are all within days of each other.

How does one word an invitation to a 69th, 36th and 1st birthday party about gifts. If I was ballsy enough I'd say "No gifts please for the adults, but books and naice wooden toys voraciously sought for the baby"

Hope you are all doing well. I wrote a nice long reply to everyone then lost it :(

Not having a good time here. After sleeping through for a week baby has stopped sleeping at all. He keeps waking up after half an hour then screaming blue murder when he sees we're not there. Have gone back to co-sleeping but he still wakes frequently and goes mad. At wits end :(

Ahh Lolli that's amazing! :)

Meringue

Were not doing anything major for DDs birthday, probably just tea and cakes for family ..... Although I said the same for ds1 and it turned into a full blown house full of everyone!

meringue poor you and poor baby. And how do you co-sleep now they're so mobile? I don't think X would stay on the bed.

We didn't have a good night as DD1 had a temp and was sick everywhere so worried about her all night. I've got an awful sore throat and X is crying everytime she coughs now. So I think she may have a sore throat too. DD1 full of energy this morning though thankfully. I might phone the doctor later about X.

Ooh but we did also have no handed stranding yesterday, for about 3 seconds!

Just a family party for us too as is only 2 days after Christmas.

Spectacular projectile vomiting by Daniel at 6.30am all over my duvet He's streaming snot and grizzly so I can see we're in for a fantastic few days Bastard viruses, they're all over the place right now aren't they?

Meringue thats rubbish Not sleeping makes everything seem so much worse I think. And Bunty too. Its crap.

I think we will have family round for birthday tea and cake, probably with a dinosaur theme. Nothing over the top, just buffet food and a nice cake and some decorations.

Oh dear bunty and meringue no advice but hugs and sympathy from me...

Molly has bronchitis. She's cheerful with it, but her cough is atrocious and we are wrestling with nose drops and a nebuliser (ha! As if a baby has ever successfully worn a mask for more than two miliseconds)

Congrats lolli! Now she knows it's possible, there'll be no stopping her

Oh my phone didn't update the thread... I can add pascha and birdies to the recipients of my sympathy. Lots of and for you!

Honestly, it's like going back to the newborn stage. Loss of evening tv time and everything. Feel incapable of dealing with everything and driving is dangerous.

Birdies we have guardrails on bed and he is in a sleeping bag. Plus I wake at his slightest movement :(

Hugs to all those dealing with bugs. Yuk. Been there xx

Think we are having a joint 1st birthday party with the other NCT babies. So it might be a church hall event. But probably not til the youngest in the group has turned one so end February.

meringue Cameron was better as a newborn.

This is shit.

Nancy was too bunty. And now they're so busy, there's no rest in the day either. The big sleep she had Saturday was a one off and we're now back to 3 hourly wake ups. I really feel for those of you that are worse off.

I've decided that next week, I'm going to charge my kindle up and go down the cafe by the beach for a hot chocolate. By myself. DH doesn't know yet.

Sorry to hear of more poorly babies, I hope they're better soon.

Don't think we'll have a party, just a little get together. A friend had a huge party for her DS's first birthday a few weeks ago and he was so overwhelmed that he cried the whole time.

creepy that sounds amazing. I'm v

Sorry to hear of all the poorly babies.

I totally put my foot in it on Facebook. A not close friend updated saying she was away to Tampa. Didn't read the comments before I commented I was jealous... Everyone else's comments (which show when you see your comment you've just posted were all 'safe trip, thinking of you'.

Deleted my comment in a panic then looked at her last update - a picture of her with a little boy. Read the comments - rip said child.

She's away to his funeral. Open m

Open mouth, insert foot.

Aargh.

Oh dear Bunty - hopefully nobody saw.

Agree with this being like the newborn phase. DS was much better as a newborn. I was just thinking today how I used to wrap him up warm and pop him in the pram and go out into my greenhouse. He'd happily gurgle for a bit then just doze off. Bliss.

He slept for 90 minutes this afternoon. I suppose he needed to make up for the hell that was last night.

My DH has stopped eating - has had nothing since Sunday night. He barely speaks now. I think he is depressed but he refuses to talk to me. What do I do?

I have also had a major name change fail on another thread and have thoroughly shamed myself.

cupcakes your poor DH, and you. You're having such a rough time of it. Not eating since Sunday sounds really bad, have you got any family you can talk to about it? What about his family, is he close to anyone you could talk to. Feel very :( for you both.

And how have you shamed yourself, or would you rather not say?

bunty it's good that you realised so quickly, I'm sure no offence would be taken anyway, people often don't know what to say in those situations even when they realise what's going on.

oh meringue that does sound rough. do u think it is due to the attachment phase of development x

bunty it is easily done. i have dome worse am sure x

Bunty I don't know how you've managed all this time. Motherhood is slavery, I kept thinking today! And we sign up to it happily: "Aw look at the little slavedrivers, they're so cute!"

Cupcakes that sounds really stressful. Are you in touch with any MH professionals locally? Can you go to your GP?

Salt I don't know - what is that??

Creepy the beach sounds like bliss!

That's why they are so cute meringue, to stop us chucking them out the window!

That sounds awful cupcakes can you ask for professional help? Any close friends/family?

Don't worry bunty, facebook is a number one place for foot in mouth scenarios...

Can we all come to your beach cafe creepy?

Birdies I'm thinking about ringing his mum and asking her to talk to him. They're really close but she lives 3 hours away and doesn't drive so we don't get to see her very much. He will be livid if he finds out I've called her but she can be quite tactful so might be able to get him to talk without letting on I've spoken to her.

I started another thread about the problems we've been having, but in a lot more (depressing) detail and used another nn to try and keep my "real" MN identity out of it. Forgot to change back when I posted earlier so now I'm "outed". Don't think any of it's recognisable in RL though so not so bad, I guess.

Meringue you have caught me out on my other thread. How are you doing now? I think it's worse for parents whose babies have been sleeping through and then regress as you're not as used to it. DS is pretty bad at the moment but he's never slept through so I'm a bit more used to it. I co-slept with DS last night as he only managed 90 minutes before he started screaming so knew there was no point even trying to get him back in his cot. I have a double mattress on the floor in his room and keep the door shut. He always cries the second he wakes, too, so very little chance of him crawling off.

I am also liking the sound of creepy's beach café.

cupcakes don't add that to your worries as very very unlikely anyone would recognise you and actually you could go by a million different names on here and all is still anonymous! Yes definitely talk to his mum, there's nothing to lose by doing that and she may just be able to help him (and therefore you).

Thanks all. She sent me a nice message and I replied so she knows it wasn't meant, but still, how embarrassing.

cupcakes just read your name change thread. I can identify with all/most of it. I wonder if you're not depressed, so much as just horribly, horribly sleep deprived. I've thought about running away, and leaving them to it.

I've thought about shaking her, slapping her, doing anything to shut her up and make her sleep. But I don't. I still find joy in things, and in her.

She gets a bottle of formula from dh during the night for the last couple of weeks, as I can't physically keep doing all the night wakenings. She's not getting any more sleep, but I don't have to deal with it for a longer stretch of time.

The doctor prescribed me citalopram, but I've not taken them. I don't feel depressed. I just have a baby who won't sleep, and for someone who needs sleep (ie normal folk), it's soul destroying.

Your dh sounds like he's having a pity party. My dh did that and I told him to stop being such a cunt. At that point he wasn't doing any night wakenings, but was still having a moan about not getting one lie in a weekend like we did when ds was small - newsflash. If I'm up most of the night, you are having them in the mornings!

Where are you based? If you're close, we could meet and bemoan our satanic non sleeping spawn.

meringue thanks. Not being martyr like, but neither do I. I suppose you just know you have to so you get on with it. She is currently romping about the living room. Had two good naps today - I put her in the buggy bundled up, have her a rock, snooze shade on and she went out like a light.

I don't know at this point wtf is up with her.

We've contacted a sleep person to come and see us. £65. If she makes her sleep it will be the best money I've spent. If not, then at least I can say we tried everything before selling her to the gypsies

Oh cupcakes you have had a hard time. Have seen your thread but not read whole thing . When dd1 was 10 months old my anxiety got almost unbearable and i had what can only be described as a nervous breakdown. The gp prescribed ads and referred me for to the surgery counsellor. In the end iwent on a course through Mind which really helped. Maybr you could contact your local Mind? They may be able to help both you and dh.

Actually the not eating thing is something i struggle with, when v anxious i just cannot eat but am.so hungry my stomach will hurt and its a.vicious cycle. I hope things get better for you soon

bunty hope sleep person works. Honestly its lack of sleep that makes everything else hard!

creepys beach cafe sounds lovely. Perhaps we should all head there :)