Jan 2013: Part Six. Part SIX!

[Angielka]

As I so frivolously finished the last thread, I thought I'd better start a new one. Go!

Cupcakes, could you try mix feeding? Does he have dummies or not? I mix feed dexter he has boob before breakfast a dinner then bottle at 4ish tea then boob before bed. It takes a while of pushchair rocking to make him sleep though. I think the visual of him having his bottle or even leaving a bit helps me realise hes had all he needs, plus its easier to make him sleep after food or bottle.

In a way your lucky he takes the boob at night if/when dexter wakes im buggered he refuses boob at night I have to make a small bottle up. Tbh though the faff of bottles isnt really a faff they dont need sterilising now after 6m and I flout the rules and make two, 1 for the 4ish drink and I cool the other in jugs if ice cold water and when its cold I leave it in the fridge as my 'just in case' bottle, u can buy ready mixed stuff in a large bottle u just poir what you need and heat it a bit.

If you at least try mix feeding you can (and please do this bit) just dump ds on you dp with a ready bottle and tell him to do it.

I used to be constantly boob feeding but since the weaning started and the bottles are there im starting to feel like im getting my life back. Chin up but try a change, you have nothing to lose.

Creepy I want a beach cafe, it sounds lovely!

Cupcakes, I agree with Bunty that you are horribly sleep deprived, but on top of that you are dealing with your DH, he must open up to you and let you in, do you think that's why he is going out with his friends a lot, to avoid talking to you about whatever is wrong?

All come with me! DH has a late start today so I'm leaving in 15 minutes!

I'm so sorry things are so hard for you cupcakes. I second apple's suggestion of contacting your local Mind. They're a wonderful charity (I work for them, so obviously biased) and have so much support and resources on offer. I hope your MIL can talk to your DH.

bunty it's terrifying the thoughts we get sometimes isn't it. I really scare myself sometimes. I was so close to just driving away yesterday too.

Shall we go back to the beginning with a chant of 'this too shall pass'.

Hoping everyone has a better day today

I did drive away at 1:30 this morning.

Dh gave her the bottle then after 2 minutes "I can't settle her, you try"

Brought her into bed - "she was nearly away in my arms and now you've woken her up"

So which was it?

Cue baby sleeping in my arms for 30 seconds then waking up arching and screaming, kicking her legs against the chair.

Repeat for an hour.

Dumped her on the floor May have screamed wtf do you want

He comes storming in.

I stormed out and drove.

Came back. Feeling shit.

Bunty, sometimes the best thing to do is walk away/drive away to clear your head, when's the sleep person coming?

Like lolli says, sometimes it is better to leave for a bit. Are you nearby to any of us bunty?

Thanks lolli and creepy. She's coming for bedtime on Friday. I live near Chester.

I'm about 4 hours away otherwise I'd be arming myself with cakes and biscuits. How is she in the day? Are you able to rest at all? Is anyone able to have for an hour or two while you have some time to yourself?

Will she stay for the night? Only 2 more sleeps to go, I'm about 2 hours away from you
Creepy hope your enjoying your beach cafe day xxx

Thank you both -stop it, you'll make me cry! I work until 1, and we don't have any family here, and our friends all work so a bit stuck.

She is miraculously sleeping in her buggy. As in, pop her in, walk up and down my path half a dozen times, and leave her and she settles herself to sleep.

She is an absolute delight of a child during the day. Very loving, funny, clever and I adore her. But none of us are at our best with this level of sleep.

If this sleeping in the buggy continues (it's a stokke xplory) I am tempted to just keep putting her in there rather than fighting.

My friend has insisted I come for cake and wine tonight. Teeny will be put in the pram and hopefully to sleep, or she's getting left with her dad anyway because I need a break.

I hope you're having a lovely time, creepy hot choc at beach sounds so lovely. I like crisp days like this, sitting out all bundled up with a warm drink.

Oh cupcakes hope you are finding the support you need, in RL I mean. Hope there is a light for you at the end of the tunnel now...

Bunty Brussels is a bit far... but I say stick with what works. If that's the buggy, then that's the buggy. Good luck and enjoy your friend and the cake and wine. Sounds like just what you need.

Oh gosh I feel so that some of us are struggling. I really hope you both find answers and help Cupcakes and Bunty. also really wish I were closer to any of you but south Kent is quite some distance from Chester. I think I might be nearer Brussels.

Chesters about an hr or so from me if you get desperate? I went college in northwich so I know the north west quite well :-D

I had a good day today thank god although my bones are absolutely killing me. Went to ggetfree cake tea with my john lewis card. Accompanied by a shoppin spree in poundland and h&m :-D

Hi all

Just catching up after a bit of a break from MN. Sorry some of you are having such rough times :( Cupcakes and Bunty particularly, really feel for you and wish I could do or say something to help. Here's some and for now and lots of love. Agree with the advice on contacting Mind in the absence of a useful GP. And Bunty roll on Friday with your sleep person and hope you had a lovely time with your friend. Meringue too hope your DS is sleeping better now. Whoever came up with the phrase "sleeps like a baby" has clearly never been anywhere near a baby!

My DD (10 months on Saturday) isn't crawling or pulling herself up or really moving at all. Part of me feels a bit paranoid that she isn't crawling but the other rational part of me knows all babies are different etc. Plus I was a bottom shuffler and didn't walk til 20 months so maybe she just takes after her lazy ma! She also has four top teeth but no bottom ones yet... She has yet another cold and cough the poor lamb.

I haven't done a thing about Christmas shopping yet. Tell me I'm not the only one! No idea what to get DD.

After years of badgering him and me paying for driving lessons, DP was meant to take his driving test today but couldn't find the paper bit of his license so couldn't fucking do it! I surprised myself by how calm I remained about it all.

Anyway, this is turning into an essay. Night night ladies :)

Baby's conjunctivitis has worsened - despite the eye drops. After a sleep her eyes are so encrusted I have to bathe them so that she can open her eyes. It is horrible tosee her panic when she wakes and can't open her eyes.Oh and now II've caught it too. And her cough is so severe it's heartbreaking to listen to it. So back to the doctor we go. DH persuaded me not to rush to Moorfieldslast night but to get a proper nights sleep and deal with it tbis morning. So - GP agIn? Or Moorfields?

poly that's awful poor little thing. I think I must be hormonal cos reading all the stuff some of you are going through makes me teary. Hoping bunty and cupcakes aren't too bad today.

X still has horrid cough but seems fine in herself. My neck is all swollen though so about to take ibuprofen (would take paracetamol but can't bloody remember when I last did).

tugs is she rolling? I've got a really good book called 'your baby week to week' or something and it tells you when to worry and when not to worry. And most of the time there's no need to worry. The milestone is baby trying to get from A to B any old how, whether rolling, commando crawling or whatever. Shall I look it up for you as I can't remember when they need to be checked? Am almost positive 10 months way to early to worry though, esp if you were a late walker.

tugs I just checked anyway - by 12 months she should be moving somehow, doesn't even need to crawl by then if she's found another way. So she's got ages before you'd even need to think about worrying :)

Ah thanks so much birdies, really appreciate it. She rolls onto her side (and usually sleeps on her side) and has rolled onto her front a couple of times. Never rolled front to back though. Hmm. She can crawl backwards (sort of pushes herself rather than crawls). She seems fine otherwise - claps, waves, babbles etc. We have a check-up with HV soon so will ask then, although went for weigh in this morning and overheard a HV advising a mum of a very young (about 6wks) baby try controlled crying . I mean I did CC with my dd but at 6 months not 6 weeks... Anyway. The mum didn't look convinced.

Poly hope you're both ok and the conjunctivitis clears up soon, did you go to moorfields? They've always been amazing IME

We went to the GP in the end. Got drugs for her chest and different drops for her eyes.
My oldest friends have had their baby this morning - we'll not be welcome there to get our newborn snuggles until we are well and truly germ free. Oh drugs and immune system - work your recovery magic!

And another thing ..... Baby is totally off her food and existing purely on my milk. If I had obeyed the healthvisitor's advice to cut down the breastfeeding - lessening my supply - imagine what a nightmare that would have been.

Hurrah for tits and down with healthvisitors discouraging it.

I properly laughed at 'hurrah for tits'. I hope DD's better soon poly.

Also hope you had a good time with your friend bunty.

I'm with my parents for tonight so DH can finish plaster boarding our loft. Ever closer to Nancy having her own room! And some storage space finally, we have nowhere to keep anything at the moment.

Nancy and one other baby are the disruptive ones at rhyme time now

Hi all, I was on the antenatal thread and thought I'd check in on you all. I have a DD who was 10 months yesterday. We've had a mixed 10 months. She's totally adorable but sleep has been a real issue until very recently.

cupcakes and bunty, I wondered whether you have seen anyone about your LOs possibly having a cows milk protein allergy. This was the case for us and I didn't think of it because I was ebf, but she was getting proteins via my milk. She was a happy soul during the day but wouldn't sleep for longer than 2 hours at night and would wake up arching her back in pain. I'm now on a dairy-free diet and so is she, and miraculously she is now sleeping (and so are we!). Sorry if you've already considered this but I thought it might be worth sharing (we were also wrongly diagnosed with silent reflux by the GP by the way).

Oh no, I'm so sorry you're still having such a rough time cupcakes and bunty . Hope you had a great night bunty , you really deserve it.

poly I laughed too

Welcome back will and sorry about your sleep woes as well. Glad you found a reason and it has improved.

tugs Ellen doesn't crawl either though she does roll and pull up. It makes me a bit sad as she gets very frustrated. But they're nearly the same age aren't they so just wanted to reassure you that you have company.

I had a great night, thanks everyone! Even better because ... Dun dun DUN ... SHE SLEPT. From 10pm until 7:30am. Which will probably not be repeated but I have one night of 9 hours kip under my belt and I feel human.

Worried about cupcakes.

Thanks, willo I had considered cmpi when she was tiny as we had real issues with her poo, gaining weight etc, and they refused to test her

Gah, just typed out a long post then lost it.

Dd is poorly again, clothing, fever etc. The Dr said it is bronchiolitis. She is completely miserable and is also off her food, although bfing loads to make up for it. I think 'hurrah for tits' should be our next thread title.

Welcome back will and tugs. tugs Dd only just started crawling forwards and she is 11months. She had been going backwards for a few weeks.

Great news bunty!