November 2012 - The weaning adventure continues

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1772925-November-2012-Adventurous-eaters-food-refusers-and-everything-in-between

and right on cue, bry gets gold, not me. thanks anyway.

Thanks luis and YW. Compared to many here, his sleep isn't terrible, he just cannot seem to sleep longer than 3-4 hours. I'm sorry Izzy, that sounds incredibly insensitive, but I did think his sleep would be better than this by now.

He feeds to sleep at 7pm and goes down fine. He will then wake 2.5-3 hours later and has a 3-4oz feed. Repeat every 2-3 hours. He always seems quite unsettled when sleeping, wriggling etc but no reflux symptoms.

Yep, he is ff. Pre weaning he was steadily getting better at sleeping but weaning seems to have affected things. Wheat was definitely an issue, as was cheese. Both me and XP have food allergies, O has eczema and has had an allergic reaction to apricots. Maybe his tum is just getting used to food?

Chasing - maybe it is worth asking for some allergy testing?

Luis - nope, no medals here. R was a rubbish sleeper as a baby but sorted it before I got pregnant with g. How you and mrsG found the energy to make L on that little sleep is beyond me!

I wake up to texts from bil telling me Fucking Stupid husband will be home late. Why the Fuck is bil txting me to tell me this at 1.45? I'll tell you why. Cos stupid fucking husband is in hospital. He fell over. Guess what. He was drunk.

is he injured?

Oh gt. How infuriating.

From what I've worked out. Police found him. Called medics. His blood pressure was crazy high so they took him to hospital. Tried calling house phone but couldn't get through. Somehow called his brother. His blood pressure is not coming down so they won't let him come home. They also want to do a head scan.

I'm just so angry. So fed up. Trying to work out what to do.
I can't go to my folks. They will loose it.
No friends I can stay with for a few days.
Contemplating going to a hotel. An expensive one. Who will just do everything for me. But I have lo with me and things are not as simple as walking out any more.

(((hugs))) GT It is pretty clear that your DH has a definite problem, it is having a major impact on his wellbeing and on that of his family (you) and there is now NO CHOICE. He has to stop drinking, completely. There's no cutting down or compromise with alcoholism I'm afraid. Once you're an alcoholic you are always an alcoholic.

The advice yesterday to call al-anon was good. Please do it they are very supportive. My dad finally died from his drinking 5 years ago. I was delighted. My childhood had revolved around him and his drinking, and completely screwed up my concept of what healthy relationships are like. All four of his children, and my mum, are still finding it very hard to come to terms with what a massive impact living with an alcoholic had on us.

Your DH is about to have DC2, and could quite easily have killed himself last night. There's no choice. He has to stop or you will have to take your children out of that situation. Sorry if that sounds harsh. Alcohol abuseaffects everyone, not just the addict.

GT Hopefully this might be the shock he needs...make sure you show no sympathy to him.

Are his parents still in India?

GT I am so sorry.

For all the shit nights

DP did the early shift so am just getting up. Lush.

gt maybe going to your mums and your family losing it is what your dh needs. It might shame him to change and you would have the support you need. I don't think you should be alone with him when he is like this. xxx

A week to go before work so we are all up and dressed as a dry run. ugh.

Y and ds2 are working as a tag team. If one sleeps through the other wakes up and vice versa. Given that Y can't speak I am trying to work out how they are communicating. Perhaps Y's obsessive hand clapping has a deeper meaning hmmm..

one pot chicken with green peas and butt squash went down a treat yesterday. Today we are trying baby pasta. Do you put tinned salmon in normal AK recipes? Oh and Y loves trifle

Yes parents in India.

2nd wake up

1st was 00:30, and wasn't long enough for me to catch up with the fred, then 3:45 and he's slowing now...

Update because my Internet died... He went back down at 4:00 and slept till 6 :o

GT I agree with PR. LBT might not be an option culturally but then you said drinking too is against your faith? He is going to damage your boys and their view of how a man should act - not least risk killing himself if he doesn't stop. Not cut down. Stop

I hope he is ok gt. So sad for you. Another vote here for you going to your parents. It should all be about you and the babies now.

Brockle - love the idea of hand clapping morse code. Think we have some of that here too.

GT, that's exactly what happened to me on 27th December last year - except that dp is sporty, healthy, doesn't drink or smoke. His health is the only reason he survived. Now is the time for drastic, before he ends up dead or disabled

Apologies for bluntness but you have to protect yourself and H and Bean. It's terrifying, i know

Oh GT ((hugs)) - I agree with what everyone else has said. He needs a short, sharp shock to try to make him see sense. The problem with addictions is that everything bar alcohol/drugs/whatever ceases to be as important - including family and children. I hope he can sort himself out, for the sake of you all xx

Chasing I really thought F would be sleeping through by the time I returned to work. I go back in 12 days time. Last night she woke 5 times between 7 and 7. Sleeping through she most definitely is not.

PR glad you're still enjoying your hols.

Eliza sorry if I missed, but where are you going away? I'm sure the flight will be ok - or at least, not as bad as you think it will be.

So this morning I am awarding myself the BFI award (Big Fucking Idiot), as for some crazy reason I decided to lower Fs ranitidine dose yesterday. I had put it up whilst she was teething. Well, what an error. She had such a disturbed night, and when I brought her into bed with us a 5, she smelt of acidy sick . Like I said. Big. Fucking. Idiot. Higher dose has been given again this morning, think we'll stick to that.

GT another vote for your parents. I just hope he wakes ups to this.

I'm feeling much better, than yesterday. I Deffo overreacted yesterday, . Sorry everyone no wired stuff in his nappy. N woke up 3 times last night. P was excellent in waking up and seeing to him.

Evil

Gt good luck at work. And I can only echo what everyone else says. He is being a total dick. I hope this gives him a massive wake up call.

I'm fuming but happy. After going to bed at 10.30 I was still awake at 1 O had already woken just before 11 and took a lot of rocking back to sleep. So at 1 when he started crying and I was still lay there awake I hit DP with the pillow and told him to deal with him Because I was going the fuck downstairs, taking nytol, and staying on the sofa.

Which I did. Til 8 this morning. Bliss.

I thought O had gone and slept through til then! Turns out he didn't, but he did self settle after I stropped off. And didn't wake til 6 then back to sleep til 7.30 when the alarm going off woke him!!

So. DP CAN wake. Fuming that if he knows he has to he fucking well can.

He will be doing this loren

Effing phone.

Anyway.

He will be doing this more often from now on. Twat.

Still. 7 hours sleep for me!

And O slept 7 hours too!!

Have just been booked to work a locum shift 1-10pm on Friday. That is in THREE DAYS TIME people.

Can't remember a single effing thing, I'm so fuckity fucked

Early nap.... wooo we might make playgroup before the last half hour!

Evil good work P for getting up with the wee man. Hope you're feeling better.

Det could you get DP to give O fish - I'm struggling to think where he'd get important trace minerals like iodine if he's not having fish and dairy.

BPLP I'm the same, always wanting to reduce his dose and find him miraculously cured - it always bites us on the ass too.

So we have to try soy traces this month (not full on soy). He can already tolerate soy lecithin fine as it has v little soy protein in it. What should I try? desperately fights urge to go to all you can eat Chinese buffet

Chasing gaaahhh 2 hour chunks are almost short enough to think there could be a problem but 3 hour chunks almost long enough to think there isn't that sucks ass hon. Cheeky question - do you snore? I do like a dying wildebeast and if J and I sleep in the same room now I definitely disturb him. Is there any improvement if you sleep in separate rooms?

Pass great news on the child minder. Will she take Jonas for a week to get him napping in his cot?

BPLP I'm curious - will you be a different doc now you're a Ma? Will you give more credence to neurotic Mothers instincts as evidenced by quiche bear Mommas? Can you make sure your colleagues read up on CMPI?