Success after miscarriage- Lets give thanks

[cori]

I feel a little bit bad about starting this thread just now as there have been heartbreaking stories on mumsnet over the past couple of days. Ladies our thoughts are with you.

This antenatal club is particularly special, as after a long difficult nine months for all of us we are now the lucky ones who get to hold our beautiful little babies. There are lots of challenges ahead for us, of course. but hopefully we can all continue to offer support , advice and friendship during the more happy times

hiya everyone

pet - sorry to hear about your aunt

wills- good luck with the move

cori- i have got a sling too and he goes straight to sleep in it, its great. also great for when you don't want people to prod and poke your LO

ds2 (first time i said that) is feeding ok, im a bit sore still and boobs get blocked ducts every other day which is driving me crazy. He seems to feed 10 minutes then sleep 10 minutes throughout day and night- i have given up at night and i just lie next to him with boob ready for action.
he usually sleeps when out in the pram though so i havent had to deal with any screaming school runs yet.
The midwife is coming tommorrow and will weigh him. how much weight should they put on and how fast?
dp has been cooking and cleaning and has been sleeping on sofa, i rather he get some sleep and keep up with the day to day and me do all baby stuff, im better at it

hi slink,
the midwife said to me the minimum they want to see for a BF baby is 3 ounces per week.

How many days is Eden now?

Slink - don't forget that they loose at first and it can take up to 2 weeks to regain. Also they've have recently decided that those centile charts are NOT realistic for breast fed babies and have decided to start again (but it'll be a couple of years before the new charts are published ). My dd2 was classed as failing to thrive by my gp and I had to go and see a pediatrician. The first thing he asked was what mummy (so looking straight at me) thought was wrong. Nothing was my reply! I think she's absolutely fine but small and compact. "Me too" was his response. He checked her over just to reasure me and sent me away full of confidence that I was doing the right thing. Slink don't worry hunny. If you feel that you are baby are coping then keep going with your gut feeling. I worry more now about dd2 being overweight than under!

Wills-that's interesting about the centile charts. DD1 gained weight OK until she was about 9mths old, then her weight gain slowed. The health visitor had her referred to the Leicester Royal Infirmary and DD1 was put through blood and urine tests before they decided that there was nothing wrong with her. This was despite me telling them that I wasn't worried. She looked healthy and ate like a horse! I later found in one of those booklets that you get from doctors/health visitors, that it's normal for b/f babies to gain weight slowly. I love these health professionals sometimes!

Well, off to my Aunts funeral today. Hope any thunder storms stay away until it's all over.

petunia - so sorry to hear of your rough week, hope you're doing ok and that the rain holds off for you today.

Wills - best of luck with the move, stay calm and don't let it stress you out.

Eden was weighed and he is a shocking 8lb4 he has put on 8oz in a week! he really wont be little for long will he. the time seems to be flying by he is almost 2 weeks old i wish the time would go slower.

me too slink - can't believe how fast its going, it needs to slow down now!!!!!!

Tell me about it! Jake is almost 7 weeks!

So there you go Slink. He's putting on at a lovely rate

im sooooooo tired!!!!!!!!!!! he was awake last night from 12.30- 5am just feeding and staying awake!
typically i had to get up at 7am too as its dps first day back at work after paternity leave so life must get back to normal and that means less sleep in the day for me!
my nips were so sore last night i was at the end of my tether with feeding, don't really want to feed formula but i don't think he is latching on properley and i am too lazy to keep pulling him of and starting again, he just gets worked up etc.
i think i should prob see a bf councillor soonish

Seems like your doing really well slink, he is gaining really well.
the other night when it was really hot Nathaniel wokeup every hour. Last night he slept through.
Had a bit on an emotional moment on a crowded bus today nobody would give me a seat, had Nathaniel in a sling the bus jerked and some idiot almost fell on top of me. I burst into tears,Luckily an old lady stood up for me. couldn't hold back the tears though

omg cori, i blumin hate busses! londoners can be really horrible over seats. i was suppose to be going on a bus today, but had the same fear and decided to walk all the way.
i fed eden on a bench by the canal and all was going well until it rained and i had to stop feeding. i got alot of stares bf in public and i barely had my boob out at all. kinda embarresing really.

aww, you all sound a bit down at the moment, slink you must be knackered, makes me very grateful that Josh is sleeping so well, i don't think i could manage with such little sleep.
I would definitly make sure he's latching on right though matey, you don't want your nips dropping off, they will only get sorer and Eden will eventually learn the right way to latch on, but only if you stop him from latching on wrong.

Cori - can't believe nobody gave you a seat when you got on the bus. i hate buses, so glad i have my car.

Try not to worry about the public breast feeding slink. people look because it is just not such a common sight in this country. My first public breast feeding experience this time round was sitting in costas across from two canoodling teenagers and next to a couple of cops. I realised then if I could cope with public breast feeding then I would be able to make a success of it.
Diddle, I also have a car but tired of driving everywhere. Also in an effort to try and lose some weight I want to try walking more and catching some buses. Just a bad experience, next time I will ask someone to stand up if not offerred.

I'm HOME!!!!!!!!!!

Everyone keeps asking what its like to have 3 children. I have no idea is what I keep responding as its not really fair to judge until I've moved. Now have to start unpacking. House is chaos but you know what... it feels like home already. dd1 started school today whilst she's very subdued I asked her what the best bit of today was. She replied "making a new friend". She's only 6 and I'm soooooo proud of her.

Anyway best go. More boxes to unpack and also as we have no dishwasher here best get to cleaning the dishes.

wills you must be in chaos i don't envy you. hope the unpacking goes ok. glad your dd is making new friends im sure she will have hundreds of friends in a few weeks.

cori- public BF does scare me, i think its because i have never seen anyone BF before ever- bizzare huh! i have a friend who is due in 4 weeks and she said to me today that we will BF together lol

well dp gone back to work and life has to return to normal so i am doing all the school runs now, i was 6 mins late yesterday but early today so i am getting the hang of the hectic mornings, i even went for coffee this morning. I have the health visitor coming round tommorrow, what does she do?

i am also thinking about doing baby massage and mum and baby yoga and also doing postnatal pilates so it will be a busy rest of the week i think.
anyone else doing postnatal classes? i am worried about them being too hard - my belly is jelly!

Slink - how did you get on with the HV? mine came today too, weighed Josh he's 9lb 9, and she measured him, and did hsi hearing test, he's passed!!! So proud of him.
Not doing any postnatal classes at the moment, Still feeling very sore, Josh is constantly kicking my wound when he's on me, so my poor belly aches, Plus i feel quite scared about going out in public, feel very protective of my DS and haven't really ventured far. Need to change that though, or i'll start to get low.

Wills - you are amazing, i don't know how you cope. 3 kids, moving house - NO DISHWASHER!!!

Hello guys only just saw this thread. Sill can't belive DS2 is here and so full of smiles too. He has to go to kings next wed for a liver scan and consultation, abit worried but they say they are just being carefull he also has his kidney scan on tuesday.
For the first time in a while I bf ds in public and he kept pulling off to look around much much harder hide

Evening all,
Glad the move went well, Wills.
Emily is 11wks old tomorrow. Can't believe it's gone so fast. We're getting plenty of smiles from her. Still breastfeeding here. After 3 children, I don't care about b/f in public. If people don't like it, they know where they can shove it! (I'm not a confrontational person really!) I tend to think these people who complain about it are the same people who complain when babies are screaming their heads off because they're hungry, so you can't win either way. I b/f Emily sitting in the large window of an Argos store a few weeks ago! I just kept my head down and pretended I wasn't there! Anyway, that's my 2 cents worth!
Hope everyone else is well.

diddle - the health vistor just chatted about stuff, she didn't weigh eden, but i am going to go to the baby cafe on tuesday to get him weighed and then its baby massage, there seems to be alot in my area for new mums which is good.
i know what you mean about protectiveness, i hate being out and about and someone smoking near him, and i really hate the hoards of kids i get all touching him in his pram whilst i am at the school picking up dd and ds. The complete strangers who also come along and stick there grubby hands into the pram! why do people think that this is ok!
HV also told me about the cool hearing tests they now do, i have been referred for one, also i was told about the TB jab needing to be done before he is 3 months and i have to make an appointment to get that done asap!

xena- hope ds2 liver is ok.

as for breastfeeding in public i had to bf yesterday whilst talking to ds's teacher at parents evening totally embarresing!!! i dunno whether ill ever get used to it.

i am suffering severe sleep deprivation though, eden didn't go more than an hour bettween feeds last night and by 5am my milk had ran out and he was sucking and sucking and making me sore, and to top it all off since his tongue tie was snipped he completely refuses a dummy!

ooh and my best mate is emmigrating to india tommorrow

For someone reason this time round I seem to get annoyed at people constantly cooing around nathaniel. It didnt bother me so much with DS 1, in fact i quite enjoyed the attention.

Nat is doing well, weighed in at over 11 pounds this week. He starting to smile and coo, and is trying to roll over. He is weigh to young for that, I would rather him stay still for a while. He can already roll on to his side. Wont be long til he is already all the way over.

hiya cori, when do babies start to smile? i can't remember anything from dd and ds!!

eden smiled about day 3, not a windy smile either but a responsive smile after i was jibbering at him. he smiled alot today when i played wiggling his hands around. he seems to have definate playing times which he needs to be entertained.

he is so respponsive i am surprised at him as he does not cry often and will settle at just my voice. i am thinking my good(apart from the stitch stress) pregnancy and my good birth must be why my baby is so chilled.
anyway i just love him so much and im so happy to be his mum

• one glass of wine tonight and im pissed and soppy soz lol

Babies usually start smiling at about 6 weeks so say the professionals. But if he is actually smiling after you do something, like playing or rocking etc I think that counts too.
Does any one know when they are meant to start to laugh?

slink - didn't know eden had tongue tie, josh has too, we were told to do nothing. were you recommended to have it snipped

Joel has tounge tie too, funny because none of the others do.
He started to make a noise when he smiled about a week ago and has turned into a chuckle now.