Dec 2011: Running around after our Cybermidgets...

[Aethelfleda]

Roll up, roll up, it's the Dec 11 new thread.
Prepare to be upgraded (if you can catch them!)

Thanks Mopsy...she managed to drink the rest of her can of coke (Put in a cup) I think I got her to drink the last bit too fast as a little bit came back...however, it's started to work as she was a bit perkier to talk to me and wanted to go for a wee...which she hasn't done all day so that's a good thing right? Hopefully she'll be alright over night...she's got a cup full of another can of coke incase she wakes in night thirsty plus bottle of water too. So fx she'll be a bit better in morning..she told me to leave her to sleep about 15-20mins ago after I sat there for ages getting her to drink.

Good luck queenie and hope you both get some sleep and she's better tomrrow. Why did they say coke by the way, that sounds a bit unusual as a dehydration cure: I'd have thought water or oral rehydration salts would be more logical? Did they say juice or something?

Good luck with the house northern, I think you're right to be cautious... Let's hope they are sensible and don't mess you about and that the other place takes your offer!

Blughrrr I cant sleep :(

Something to do with the sugars to help with stopping the dizzy & nausea feeling...it's coke that's been sat a while once opened so not really fizzy! She said diorylite (sp) but said coke is good in this instance and need to change her to apple juice in morning. She was def perkier earlier and wanted to go for a wee sp that's a good thing as she didn't go at all since about 6am yesterday.

peril I think you've been given some good advice on that thread tbh, you and Boi deserve better than the constant worry, and you're very brave being realistic and trying to deal with it, but you do have to realise you can't fix him, it's up to him to do that and earn your trust back. Love the namechange btw!

queen hope she's a bit perkier tomorrow.

Thanks all, I already know DD2 is gorgeous though :o. GP agrees he's happy for her to stay on the Nutramigen so that's one less worry. Finger is a bit swollen and ugly, and I think I've damaged nerves as I've lost sensation in the end, it's just odd and tingly when I touch it.

Darcie been for a wee this morning but still doesn't want to do anything but sleep :( feeling very sorry for herself and is starting to become very irritating...what to do?

Can you let her sleep Queenie? Or does she/do you have to be anywhere?
I am all for the restorative and life-saving abilities of Coca Cola. I use it all the time to "save" creatures that look to be in trouble. So far I have brought back to life a butterfly, a bee, a big moth and a baby lizard (in Sri Lanka) with the help of a little puddle of coke in front of their noses. they famously mistranslated a campaign in China that said something like "brings back your ancestors from the dead", but I actually belive it's almost nearly true... I am surprised the doc prescribed it though!
Northern Congratulations on accepting the offer! I hear you about the EA's. I paid an online agency 439 quid, i think to sell mine, it worked ok.
because we don't live near to Dh's house to do the viewings, and thought it would also need more of a push (because its a bit of a mess) we're using an EA, an it'll cost us 1600quid. it should've been plus VAT but I politely told him what he could do with that...
"So, how long as the unhappiness/dissatisfaction been there with DH?" I think seriously from the beginning of this year. before BOi, there were little niggles, but nothing really. then BOi's arrival obviously added some pressure and exposed a few more cracks. But this year, we've been pretty bad. In March, I was speaking to a friend (the only one who knew about the gambling, and said that I almost wished he would do it again so I could kick him out. The next month he did. But I didn't.
We spoke last night when he got home from his last session (which was a bit of a waste of time, he said- they didn't really get anywhere - just filled in forms mainly.) I didn't tell him about the solicitors or bank appts, but told him that I'd been looking more into addiction. i asked him if this was going to be our life, of meetings every week. And then one day, when I'm not watching, I'll return home to find a repossession notice or bankruptcy, and me and Boi would be homeless?
He believes it'll never happen. he believes he'll never do it again. He believes that now he's taking action, it'll be sorted. The gamcare thing is only for 12 weeks anyway... (I believe that he really believes that - but I think we are both very naive about what addiction really is - I said that I don't think that he really thinks he has an addiction - to be honest, I am still a bit in denial about this myself. he doesn't do it all the time, it's happened four times - although each time lasting months or days - , i think....)
He thinks I'm being negative and looking for a reason to end the relationship. I said I have to protect me and Boi. I said that I'd look into if it is possible to ringfence my assets so that he could never threaten them, to safeguard the house, to give the relationship a chance... (which then gives me the excuse to see a solicitor today, and make the bank appt).
It was tough last night. When I'm not with him, it's quite easy to think about endingthe relationship, when he's there, it's much more upsetting! (Obviously!)
(sorry about all this me me me - i do feel that I'm hijacking the thread somewhat, and it's all very dramatic, isn't it? I hate drama queens/attention seekers. )

Peril...you have to do what you think is right for you & BOi. DH is a grown man and he will be able to look after himself. I think even tho he said he will never gamble again, it's hard to break that temptation, so never say never. Maybe the solicitor will help with securing your assets tho and discuss anything else you may need to think about putting in place.

Coke is a new one on me too...but she seems a little bit perkier but still sleepy. I've got nothing major planned for today...got some cakes to make for church tomorrow tho.

Horrible time Oi. I've no advice. Just hope you can get through it and make decisions you're OK with.

Shite sorry. peril I mean!

Hee hee mopsy you just made me spit out my coffee.

We're listening to "silly songs with Larry" which is a very catchy DVD/ CD of utterly daft songs by animated vegetables..... They do come from a Sunday school TV series called Veggietales but the actual silly songs are completely non religious, just incredibly silly and the lyrics are very pixar style. Much less asinine than the wheels on the chuffing bus!!

woohoo, whilst Darcie is wallowing in bed...I've ordered some xmas pressies and the CMPA support group on FB is publishing my Jaffa Cake Cuppy recipe on their website as so many people are asking for the recipe after seeing a pic on my FB business page.

Just thinking of other flavour cakes at moment. So far I do chocolate, Vanilla, Lemon & Strawberry & now Jaffa Cake Style ones. Also been asked to take cakes to a local christmas craft fair in Dec. So ladies what flavour cuppys would you like for xmas?

I'm working on Apple & Cinnamon, fruit & mixed Spice and Chocolate & Peppermint. Maybe a Champagne one too.

Aethel Silly songs with Larry sounds like something Sky would like.

queen don't give them the recipe! Get some decent packaging supplies and take mail orders instead :o

peril don't worry about the drama, we're here to be supportive. I agree that you have to do what's best for you and DS, of course you don't want to believe that he has a serious problem and will do it again, nobody would, but there's nothing wrong with being sensible just in case. I agree with the poster on your other thread who said that being in a relationship with a gambler is a gamble. What anyone else would do (about the relationship) is irrelevant, only you know your DH and can decide whether your relationship is worth gambling on. I understand why addicts lie to cover themselves, but if it were me I think the lying would be a bigger issue than the actual gambling, and personally I'm of the opinion that once the trust has gone there's not much left worth saving.

Queen cappuccino cupcakes, carrot cake cupcakes. nom.

queen could you do mini Christmas cakes?

Seven someone else on the group said I should open up for delivery. Not sure how I would go about it so my cakes get to their destination safely!

Mini Christmas cakes now that's an idea!

Mopsy I love carrot cake - would have an issue with the cream cheese topping for allergy free!

Just do lemon or orange buttercream?

Or is that still an allergy issue cos dairy...

Also loads of people deliver so I an sure that is something you could sort out.

Mopsy I can do DF lemon or orange buttercream.

Now who has got a good Christmas fruit cake recipe?

queen I've been looking at other cake-makers websites to get ideas, I've seen some that do mail-order cupcakes. Could be worth just ordering a box to see how they package them? I have a great fruitcake recipe, it's a family one passed on from my MIL, I even used it for my wedding cake! I'll dig it out tonight if DD2 isn't unsettled and miserable like last night. Vitalite is dairy free and works well for buttercream, just not sure about the cream cheese though. You could still do lactose-free if you're trying to base your business down the allergy- friendly route.

queen just a thought, it depends how much you can be bothered but making cheese isn't hard, soft cheese is often just milk, salt and lemon juice heated up to a specific temperature then drained and left to set. Could be worth playing around with almond or rice milk (i assume you'd also want to be soy free?) or at least googling to see if its possible?

DS has been asleep for 2.5hrs which is utterly unheard of rather than do anything constructive I've been doing mass US trash tv catch up dishes be damned!!

Nice one figgy.
I can not contribute to cake ideas, I'm afraid. Any talents I have related to cakes are purely in the eating.
Got great (soothing) advice from the solicitor. Any debts he may rack up in his name can not be allocated to me/claimed against any assets in my name. So as long as the house is in my name, it's safe.
If however, the debt could be argued to be "matrimonial" - so if the funds were used for a family holiday - then a claim could be made.
We have a joint account, and a joint savings account. I'm going to get this split this weekend, and he's going to sign it over to me. He doesn't know this yet, but he won't argue.
This is great news. It means that I can relax knowing that mine and BOi's futures are relatively safe. This is one less worry, so dh and i will continue with Relate and Gamcare and give the marriage a bug more time.
Phew!
Now, let's try and enjoy this weekend!

(Bit not bug!)