Dec 2011: Running around after our Cybermidgets...

[Aethelfleda]

Roll up, roll up, it's the Dec 11 new thread.
Prepare to be upgraded (if you can catch them!)

Oh seven, she's lovely, so glad to see a picture! Hope the finger heals up, that sounds pretty grim.

And you are crazy-brave faffin, I'm sure there aren't many of us that could do that settles into sofa with Vimto

Will probably accept on the proviso that we will not negotiate a penny further reduction- there are houses without dodgy lofts (which although is dodgy is perfectly fine for storage/occasional use) that are on for more, so it's still a bargain. And we'll keep it on the market for a while.

I'm taking the view that we won't get excited about anything until completion, and we have the benefit that we don't 'love' anywhere, and nor is it vital to move instantly, so if they arse around we'll start again with an on-line agent.

Morning all, how's the finger healing seven? Bea is a Beauty. Lovely pic.
BOi is getting his caninces through at the minute too. So far, no real problem though.
Well, it didn't work. I wasn't nice to DH at all.
I seem to be a bit repelled by him at the moment, and last night I just really didn't like the tone of his voice... The poor bloke doesn't stand much of a chance, does he?
We went to bed in silence last night, and it felt like we both lay awake for ages, obviously perturbed by the state of things.
Part of me just wanted to say "Let's call it quits". And the other part of me knows how ratty I am in the early stages of pg, I was like this last month. Maybe it's the raging hormones (if I am pg) that are making everything worse...
I'm sure he was also thinking, "maybe it's better if we just call it quits."
bleurgh!

I'm working from home today. getting some coat stands delivered. Cash on delivery. When I first got a bank card for an ATM (7 zillion years ago) the maximum daily limit was £200 or £250. Why hasn't that increased?! I may have to go and find a cheque book (?!) or do a bank transfer when he arrives.

Aaargh, why is it so humid when it's already rained?

sympathy oi, though no idea about the money limit, I thought it was £300 per day for fraud/mugging prevention reasons..

How's that finger seven (and agree lovely pic of your DD2, so sweet! I am not broody. Nope.)

I'm with rbs oi and I can get £300 out

12 weeks?! DD2 is 3 months old seven (and gorgeous)
Hope your finger has healed well, and isn't getting in the way too much!

mopsy, glad kitchen seems to be going well (bar hiccup yesterday).

Aethel, how was the homemade dinner? Do you have a Delia in the making?

Oi, sorry things are still so crap with DH. Are you getting close to being able to do a pregnancy test?
Hope you manage to sort out the delivery/cash...wouldn't even know where to look for my cheque book!

Nothing going on in GaryLand; still pregnant, DS is a bit of mardy bum because he refuses to sleep in past 6am.
Ooh, we are getting brand new second hand sofas delivered on Saturday (courtesy of family moving abroad), they're cream so I'll probably go into labour the first time I sit down on one

to everyone in the middle of housing sales.

maybe i was allowed 300... I tried 350 and it said no. anyway, he's just been and I'll bank transfer the rest.
the coat thingies are lovely!
I started a thread to get some wisdom about DH's gambling. here. It doesn't make for pleasant reading. They're saying I have to go and see a solicitor. I feel like that's OTT. "He wouldn't..." but then, I didn't think he'd gamble...
Do I know him better than that, or am I naive?
Ugh!

Oi this is what pisses me off about MN when you ask for help somewhere. Sensible responses are in the minority and the majority seems to be people with their own agenda's based on their own limited situation about a subject who dont appreciate that all people/couples are individuals and situations will not necessarily replicate the path they experienced. Hysterical clutching of pearls and chest beating and the suggestion of expertise where there is none totally pisses me off.........rant over. Off to read your thread though it might be better than i imagine for your sake i hope so.

actually i take it back your advice there has been quite balanced!!

Oi a lot of those responses do seem rather over the top. On the other hand, seeing a solicitor is probably a sensible idea. You might as well err on the side of caution.

I think it would be wise to see a solicitor as well, just so you know all your options. There is some good advice in that thread, I don't really know what else to say except that you need to look after you and bOi, DH needs to sort himself out. Much love though. x

I have an appointment to see a solicitor tomorrow.
I have also made an appointment with the bank to split our bank account on Saturday morning.
This is what happens when we don't get our usual weekly Relate session! By next week's session, it'll probably be all over!
Dh has another Gamcare session tonight.
One thing that came out with that thread was thet I was directed to gamanon, for the partners. I read the "My Story" session, and found that the gamblers were going to groups sessions every week to keep on that path (20 years on) and their spouses were going to their sessions (20 years on).
THAT is not the happy and rewarding, pleasant life that I hope for.
No thanks, not for me.
(this is really pushing me to WALK AWAY NOW).
I don't want to be a crutch, I want to be a wildly dangerous, wonky stiletto.

(I meant "MyStory" section - not session).

(((((((oi)))))))) well, the addiction behaviour, whether or not you classify it as a disease, is a long term thought-pattern process, and so whether it's booze or drugs, gambling or ebay, the tendency for history to repeat itself is always there. Trouble is, you can't see inside his head to know what's going on (he can't either), and so if what you want it total certainty it will be v hard to achieve. Good luck with the meetings. One last thing: I know you've closed your profile, but this is a very open forum so all the posts googlable: might be worth considering a namechange if you think anyone could id you from what you've been posting, especially if there's any possibility of legal involvement in the near future. (and if you're not happy with this post itself please report it and I promise I will still be inappropriate at all the right intervals :) )

Yeah i wondered what to do about the name... but what to change it to...
GamAnonAnEggs sounds pretty good.

PerilousStilletto might work too.

It does work. Very well. I likes it! Thanking you please.

Out you had some good advice on the thread, hoping seeing the solicitor makes it easier for you...like the new name btw!

I have a poorly Darcie :( am waiting on a phone call back from docs.

She's lethargic, got banging headache, hardly drinking, bringing up loads of catarrh, acid & bile and really sleepy....really concerned as this isn't her. Temp at about 3pm was 38.1 at about 5pm was 37.5.

Oh dear hope she is OK Queen

yeep queenie,Did doc ring you back ok? Neurofen or similar? How's she doing now?

and love the new moniker stiletto.... can we call you Stiletto? Reminds me of Dangermouse...."si, Baroni"...

Wow, one day of hols and I'm shattered already! Double DD playdate went well today. And yesterday's chicken korma was lovely, dessert was cherries and chopped apple mixed in with half a ton of Anchor squirty cream. dD1 was v chuffed we all ate it :)

Doc requested I take her down go the surgery. So she is quite badly dehydrated...need to get her to drink at least 2 cans of coke tonight and if no better she needs to go back in morning...hopefully we don't as I know we will end up down QAH..been here before with her :(

Si barone! Call me anything you like. The last name was easier to shorten. peril ain't too bad.
Hope Darcie is feeling better. Sounds awful. (Hope it's just the heat.) x
I feel so dishonest. How do I keep quiet about the solicitor?! You all know me by now, I can't keep anything quiet. My life is there for all to see. Far too open for my own good.
I'm glad I haven't ordered the fireplace yet... I might be needing those pennies.

maybe you should be honest with him. they say honesty is the best policy,.. but think it thru first.

Oh heavens Peril that's not good news. I think you've mentally disengaged from him, properly this time, and once that's happened it's hard to get the relationship back unless you really want to. Sounds like you're taking control though, which will do you some good.
How long has it been since you started feeling like this btw? If it's only been a few months then I'd maybe give Relate a bit more of a go.

So sorry Darcie's not good Queenie, that sounds unpleasant for her. Let us know how she is in the morning, hope she perks up.

I know what you mean about some of the advice figgy; I love a good read of the boards, and some of the advice is good, but there are some people who are treated as Goddesses and their advice Must Be Taken, no matter how hysterical or unpractical.

We're going to accept the offer, and look at houses at the weekend. However, I fully expect it to fall through, as I know they'll try to bargain us down and we won't accept it. At which point we'll terminate the agreement with the EA and use an on-line one. Wish we'd done so before, but at least the experience has served to remind me how much I hate bastard estate agents. Saving £3k speaks to me, and I'm more than happy to show people round.

Currently sitting with a very sore eye too- DS batted me in the face and actually caught my eyeball...it's somehow caused a headache as well as sore eye...sometimes I wish I could take him back to the baby shop and exchange him for a nice one.....

I'm slightly more concerned about Darcie as she just brought up some of the coke I got her to drink...although they say always looks more than it is! Aethel what do you think?

Queen even though Darcie will prob hate it, taking a teaspoon of liquid every 5 minutes is really effective at rehydrating. It is extremely tedious unfortunately. Maybe try it for an hour though?