Hello all - it's been a while - keep catching up. But running out of steam or time before posting.
Luis - you know the answer yourself I think. Your kids need you without fucked knees. So from a completely non selfish perspective you have to stop using a technique that is breaking you. I am sure you have tried everything though and so there is no easy fix. I am lucky in that if I cuddle g after a feed and he is snoozy he will often drop off with bottom patting (especially now I have cut dairy and he seems more comfortable).
Thinking about it, and at risk of sounding like yw / vq is it worth mrsg trying cutting dairy for a bit to see if it helps? Wouldn't be easy being veggie I'm sure but it might be worth a shot? L does sound particularly unsettled.
Either way It will be hard enough for your knees to heal when you aren't sleeping without you doing stuff that you know aggravates them. Pack it in.
On a separate note - how did J get on at nursery? Been thinking of him.
Yw - not sure I got round to thanking you re weaning advice. Sorry - and thank you. That is really helpful.
Mm well done on the feeding in every way. You are a superstar.
Det I am so sorry your bits are still in pieces and so sore. I am sure the head of midwifery will have understood - the fact that you made it to the training shows your level of professional commitment so I wouldn't worry too much.
Hugs to everyone who is struggling. Wishing you all a lovely sleepy Sunday.
Passing - I loved your rant re good babies. It made me howl with laughter - that question infuriates me and I will have to use that response though maybe I'll have to restrain myself when mil's friends ask or she will never speak to me again.