Note to self. Do not do a fucking long meaningful inspiring helpful post at the end of a fucking thread!
My cape expeditions cover Europe but no further.
Summary of post was
SIDS is a real fear but if fear is unmanageable see GP. Fear growing with subsequent kids is understandable as it is easy to think your luck will run out. Do your best to be as safe as you can and try to channel any thoughts into enjoying every precious moment.
I reminded of the loss of a precious child of the group 10 years ago to SIDS ((hug to mummy))
I have an Angelcare which is fab and helps me sleep better, but think if you bought one now, it would not be used for long as rolling can give false alarms. I had a Tommee Tippee which was shite. They may be better now.
I also said that mine activated when DD2 was tiny and she was not breathing. She may well have started breathing again anyway, but I was most thankful I had the monitor. I have heard though that even if instant care is given, if it is SIDS then revival is impossible thus many saying the movement monitors give false reassurance.
Do not let this fear spoil precious moments with your babies x