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November 2012 - We want rattles and we want them now

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StuntNun · 04/02/2013 09:09

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1671393-November-2012-Vent-chat-or-brag

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PetiteRaleuse · 09/02/2013 08:28

Thing is throughout their lives we won't be able to treat them the same. Of course lots of things we can control can be kept the same but all kinds of factors come into play depending on changing circumstances.

horseylady · 09/02/2013 08:58

Kids? No I think you can try in terms if money spent and opportunities given but personalities, illness and real life get in the way. Do what you can do. My sister and I have always been treated fairly equally. Fairly think mum trusted my dsis more than me, but then I was the oldest who she learnt from so......

Right off to see what the suicidal horse is up to. I will hopefully make it back in one piece.....

Pikz · 09/02/2013 09:28

Katkit I can't wait to not wear breast pads and wear a normal bra. Strange thing is I was so desperate to breast feed to be the perfect mother I had in my head. I've realised now the perfect mother just gives her child so much love and time.

Evilwater · 09/02/2013 09:30

It's the Chinese New Year! Welcome the year of the snake.

The Snake is the intuitive, introspective, refined and collected of the Animal Signs. They are attractive people who take cries with ease and do not become flustered easily. They are graceful people, exciting and dark at the same time.

Contemplative and private, the Snake is not outwardly emotional. He can appear cunning and reticent and works very modestly in the business environment. The Snake will plot and scheme to make certain things turn out exactly as they want them to. They are not great communicators and can become quite possessive when they set their minds on achieving the interest of a partner.

Evil
(Our babies were born in the year of the dragon)

Catbag · 09/02/2013 10:07

I haz dragon, horse, rabbit and rat babies Grin I was born in the year of the monkey and DH the tiger. A veritable menagerie!

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StuntNun · 09/02/2013 10:24

How can I treat my kids the same? DS1 has SN and therefore uneven development. He is musical and started playing the trumpet aged 6 but at 10 he still has tantrums. DS2 on the other hand is pretty normal in his development apart from walking at 9 months. I think a good parent is responsive to each child's individual needs and that is more important than treating every child the same. Just my two cents though.

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blonderedhead · 09/02/2013 10:31

I am a Dragon!

ValiumQueen · 09/02/2013 10:33

evil what are the characteristics of the dragon?

DD1 s teeth are still there and do not hurt. She is disappointed.

DH is washing the car for the first time ever. I am sending him to the shop soon. This is such a reversal - I love it.

DD2 is teething and did a poo in the night so has a very sore bum.

DS slept 10-3.15, then 6-9.30 in bed with me. DH got up with the girls at 6 and let me sleep. DH witnessed how he was for half an hour last night so understands what I mean.

Elizadoesdolittle · 09/02/2013 10:34

I had a fabulous Chinese New Year lunch yesterday cooked by my one of my friends I met at nct with DD1. I regularly keep in touch with 5 of them and we managed to all be there which was really nice. There's 4 girls and 1 boy in the group. They all played really nicely together which made it nice and relaxing for the adults.

Not sure what to do today. DH playing golf, as usual. Might take DD1 out on her bike to a park near bluewater and combine it with a shooing trip. I find coming up with different things to do at the weekends quite tricky. I try to avoid busy places...not sure why I'm contemplating bluewater then!

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StuntNun · 09/02/2013 10:36

Me too Blonder. I'm '76. Apparently dragons are very musical but have trouble with scales.

O~___ tumbleweed

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Elizadoesdolittle · 09/02/2013 10:38

I too can't wait to wear a non nursing bra and clothes that don't give easy access to boobs! Am getting very bored of my breast feeding attire!

I'm a tiger.....grrrrrrrr.

ValiumQueen · 09/02/2013 10:40

I am inclined to agree with stunt in as much as you treat the kids appropriate to their needs. There are things like Christmas, driving lessons etc where it should be clear to all kids that they have been treated equally, and love should be equally shown. A girl I know was made to sleep on the back door step but her siblings were lavished with love - that is an obvious difference, and utterly shocking. I have a 6,2 and 0 year old, and no doubt the 6yo will say I treat her differently. I do, because she is 6 and because I want her to grow and learn and be independent. Mothers get blamed for everything anyway Grin

MissMummy1 · 09/02/2013 10:42

Our neighbour set off lots of fireworks last night for chinese new year. Twas lovely, we could see them from the garden and they reflected out over the river. There was a wedding on at the other side of the river too so lots of fireworks last night!

MIL spied a photo of M in Jonas' star wrap and is now buying her one. I'm worried she now thinks we have money worries after DP's outburst the other day - we don't; I just take issue with his squandering and lack of budgeting. Hmm

He's off diving today. Envy I'm reluctantly after fobbing him off for weeks having lunch with my arsehole dadConfused .

Still, I woke up to the happiest little girl at 8.30 this morning so all is good in my world Smile

Passmethecrisps · 09/02/2013 10:44

I are a horse. Neigh!

The fairness vs equality debate is a common one at school. My argument is that the same does not equal fair. For example responding to all children's behaviour in exactly the same way is not necessarily fair as the children come from different stand points.

Each child is unique and will need unique treatment.

Me and my 2 siblings could not be more different.

MissMummy1 · 09/02/2013 10:44

All children are different. The best teachers are the ones who can identify every child's individual needs and pitch a lesson to suit them all. Unfortunately in classes of 30+ this is neigh on impossible, hence some children are often 'left behind' Sad

Passmethecrisps · 09/02/2013 10:49

Was that Ian Rankin doing the fireworks?

Passmethecrisps · 09/02/2013 10:51

mm you are primary trained aren't you? I couldn't agree more. When children are at such a vital stage in their education we pack them in like sardines. Sadly this means that we have children coming to secondary school who are functionally illiterate - by that stage the damage is incredibly hard to repair.

blonderedhead · 09/02/2013 11:06

Snap Stunt. Or, Snapdragon!

Dragons are the best Chinese zodiac signs, apparently there is usually a baby boom in a Dragon year.

I dreamt about a snake last night. Am obviously in tune with my inner Chinese person. Or else in need of a shag.

YellowWellies · 09/02/2013 11:08

VQ dragons are considered the luckiest sign in the Chinese calendar - there will have been a glut of babies in HK last year.

ValiumQueen · 09/02/2013 11:09

DH and DD1 are dogs, DD2 is a tiger, J is a dragon, and I am a cock.

YellowWellies · 09/02/2013 11:13

I used to live in HK I love Chinese NY - Gung hei fat choi!!!!

Fingers crossed DS will let me eat soy so we can get takeout from the place recommended by MM

I'm a horse and DH and DS are both dragons - their luck clearly got them - ME!!! Grin

ValiumQueen · 09/02/2013 11:13

Thank you YW J is lucky he has not been sent back for a refund.

ValiumQueen · 09/02/2013 11:14
fruitpastilles · 09/02/2013 11:27

Lol blonder!
I'm an ox and dp is a rooster!

misslaughalot · 09/02/2013 11:32

I am a dragon too - '76 was a good year!

So after nearly a week of nighttime screaming we had a very calm bedtime last night Smile I decided to cut out her bath as she's been getting upset when we dressed her afterwards, and instead gave her a massage and story before her feed then bed. She went from 9.45-4.15 which is only the second time she's gone for longer than 6 hours praying we've turned a corner

Had a horrible dream about leaving her for the first time though, woke up crying and with a splitting headache Sad

Is anyone else's hair falling out in spaces? I lost a LOT of mine in the shower this morning. I also have been getting random songs in my head today, which I haven't heard for ages. What Shall we Do With The Drunken Sailor was first (early in the morning may have been my cue for that one though) and now it's Lets Get Ready To Rumble Hmm