November 2012 - losing sleep and losing weight

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1640937-November-2012-sleepless-nights-aplenty

Stats list: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1485512-November-2012-Stats-List

[katkit1]

Shelley - Jesus!! That's put me off considering a 2nd. Wow!!

[Izzybuzzybuzzybees]

Yikes! I've just had a nightmare with j. Screaming for no apparent reason. He had jags Monday and hasn't fed well today. Wondering if that's why.

[YellowWellies]

Awww garden that's lovely. So lovely. And from now on they'll always want to be together. One of my biggest reasons for moving south is to be near to my twin and to raise our kids together. We've both lived all over the world but now we're getting older being apart sucks.

[PetiteRaleuse]

shelley that's awful. Lucky though that they both got through it OK but She must be pretty traumatised both by the birth and the near miss.

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

izzy I have had ths too since jabs. He s a different boy. Not feeding well, colicky and cross. I am cross too. What have they done to my baby. I was thinking maybe 9 week spurt but he has cut back his milk.

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

[StuntNun]

New thread time www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1655656-November-2012-sleeping-through-yet again!

I took J to the swimming pool regular session Nervous so DS1 and DS2 could swim too and held him in the water but I'm going to get one of those big floaty things to sit in not that we don't already have one but it's lost somewhere in the loft.

[FreddieMercurysBolero]

Aw garden that is lovely:)

I should indeed call the sheep Ewan Kirrin, - though DS1 has a fixation on the name Richard, he wnted to call L either Richard or Darth Vader:)

thanks VQ _ not a hope of us buying a new cot either, needed to figure out how to do it on the cheap

Shelly _ something similar happened with DS1 and 2. Cord wrapped around neck stopping them from descending and help needed. i was thinking about a 3rd when pg with DS2 but not a hope am I having a third birth like that! DH is angling for a 3rd (that we can't afford anyway!) but it is NOT going to happen.

[TheDetective]

You know, it doesn't rain, it bloody floods here... I can't wait for my dad to go home. I'm not a very patient host. I'm currently having to do absolutley everything. DP has flu. Ds1 is ill. This afternoon after running about all morning my dad asks what is for lunch. It's 1.30pm and I haven't had a shower. I need a shower as my hair is stuck to my head, and I have to get ds1 from school at 3. So Oscar is crying, my dad sat on his iPad ignoring him as I'm making his fucking bacon butty. Dp doing the dying duck on the sofa. I honestly wanted to scream at them both. But instead I settled for screaming in my head 'you cunting bastards' and smiled through it...

So tonight after a very long day of doing everything for 2 grown men, and 2 little ones, I go in the kitchen to make up Oscars feeds. There is no hot water. 1 hour later, my dad has been unable to suss the problem on the boiler, which is showing a fault code (bearing in mind this fucking boiler is 1 year old, which replaced the previous 4 year old boiler that spent 18 months of it's life not working....) I did actually cry. I lived with no heating and no hot water for so long, and replacing the boiler I thought my problems were over. Anyway, just call me Detectives heating engineers ltd. I fixed it. My dad was baffled how I sorted it and he could not.

All the while DP was in bed. I put Oscar in the basket to self settle. He started screaming. My head was under the boiler which is underthe stairs, and is practically on the floor, so am contorted in to a very strange and wonderful position. Oscar is right next to DP. I can clearly hear the screams. DP does not. I scream up the stairs to wake him to sort the baby.

I just thank god that I know you ladies will understand! Fucking fucking men. Good job you lot have a few useless buggers among you! I feel less alone! One day I will make a list of DPs good points...! He is getting better though. But he still has a way to go!

On the plus side, my dad paid for the temporary repair to my car. He also discussed his will with me. And gave me an idea of figures. He talked about all eventualities. He tells me I do not need to pay in to a pension unless I want to retire before 60. He tells me I do not need to worry about paying off my mortgage. I know he had a lot of money. And I know he will be using a lot of it on fucking business class flights to Australia but I am [shocked] at what will still be left for me one day. Very shocked. But it has pushed me to make a plan, tomorrow before he leaves, I will ask him if he would consider gifting me an amount to allow me to take the full 9 months off with Oscar that I would have wanted to take. Or a lesser amount to allow me to work part time for a few months instead if he feels that is too much. I don't see why I shouldn't ask. I don't want to ask. But I would regret not doing so. What do you ladies think?

I need to catch up properly on here, phone posting is a pain in the ass. Will attempt laptop use tomorrow!

[Catbag]

If you think there is the slightest chance that he will agree, then I think you must do it. Good luck!

[CandyPop]

detective How much I do sympathise with your situation , the way you write do make me laugh :) I think you should write a book someday! Might as well turn a bad thing into something good!

I agree with catbag , if you think there is a chance of him saying yes I think it's worth a chance of asking. Especially when your reason is totally selfless and its for the good of his grandchild. It's not like you're asking for money for a new car.....

Fingers crossed for you!

[NotSoNervous]

detective I would go for it too, he can only say no and if he's going to be leaving you money in the future and can afford ridiculous 8 grand flights then I don't see why he wouldn't give iryou early to enjoy you DS

[kirrinIsland]

Can't hurt to ask detective

Awful night here. N slept at 23.30. Up at 00.30 for an hour. Then at 02.30 till 03.30. And now awake again. WTF is going on? Too much sleep all day is what. She's impossible to keep awake though, if she wants to sleep. Usually she wakes up after a little while if I put her down, but not today. I guess i shall have to console myself with thoughts of my tidy office and the washing mountain that got put away while she slept.....

[KissysUnderTheMisteltoe]

Agree with the others detective, definitely ask him, that would be a much better use for some of his money than 8k tickets to Oz!

This is not a stealth boast.. LO has slept for 6 hours! Is ok for an 8 week

[KissysUnderTheMisteltoe]

Whoops posted too early..

Is it ok for an 8 week old to go that long between feeds? I have her gaviscon before bed again last night, bit worried that's made her full up instead of milk. Will my supply be affected do u think?

Sorry to hear you had a bad night kirrin

[kirrinIsland]

I Wouldn't worry kissy - she might feed a bit more when she wakes to make up for it. Enjoy it!

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

Love ya detective go for it. He may be needs you to ask, you are a strong independent person, he may not realise that you would like that, rather than being that independant. IYSWIM.

I never ask. Asked dad for a contribution to my cut and come again visa which I have been struggling to pay off since my divorce. He said yes and I am now left with a manageable amount to finish off. I have never asked for help beforeand am quite independant so he never knew I needed it.

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

Oh. Despite my problems with Olly, 10:45-now.

[Catbag]

Yey sophia! Good sleeps are to be revelled in.

[DesperateHousewife21]

Amazing sophia I'd kill for a night like that.

We're regularly getting 9ish- 3ish then a feed then down til 6 or 7 but she strains alot after her feed because of wind.

I feel so so tired everyday though I don't think it's normal. It's either bfing or my crap diet so will try and change my diet first and see if that makes a difference.

[NotSoNervous]

Wow sophia

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

I know is easier said than done dh but if I consider what I am going to wear the night before, even if it is jeans or a track suit bottoms, and even if it doesn't go on till later, and make the effort to get up before DS1, tidy up my hair and maybe put some makeup on or at least cleanse and moisturise properly ( I shower in the evenings) it fools my brain into taking I can cope and I am in control. It is rare that I don't do that even in the early days when I had had an hours sleep.

[Sophiathesnowfairy]

*thinking