I can totally empathise Jenbird. I often feel my DH rarely has much organisationally to do, particularly with regard to the DCs & often, when asked, seems to find it impossible. It is weird. I trust him to look after DD well - he was sole carer 1 day a wk until recently - but I still had to remind him about giving her breakfast soon after getting up, changing nappies & so on, yet I'm expected to manage single-handedly every day.
Off to bed now, as A is sleeping & finally off the boob. Can barely type I'm so tired, I'm falling asleep literally as I type.