November 2012 - hurry up to graduate, we're running out of November

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As suspected I am totally hopeless at keeping up with this thread. Hugs to all those having difficulties, it must be so awful having an ill LO. Well done to horsey (I think?) for passing your module - what a star! And sympathies on the sleeping front - Tilly lolled us into a false sense of security on night 1 and had us up every hour last night wanting to play....

MW weighed her today and she's only lost 5% of her body weight so feeding going really well (I'm not naive, it is still veryyyy early days and nightfeeds are tricky with miss play-till-i-fall-asleep!) We are getting a day off tomorrow as they're chuffed with how she's doing so pleased with that! Might try and register her depending on zombie-status tomorrow morning.

Neither of us can get over how totally in love with her we are. DH is being completely amazing and doing absolutely everything around the house and 90% of nappy changes so I can concentrate on feeding her. He's backtracked on never using a pram and is off out to show her off to the boat boys. I should really sleep but MN is much more fun

Oh and out of the 5 of us at our antenatal class turns out I'm the only one who managed a natural birth! I was last so explains why none of them wanted to discuss birth stories with me until now!

HV visit for us today as well. Wee piggy is now 8Ib 9oz so perfectly following the 50th percentile. She is now very much heavier than the cat!

She has been snoozing for almost 3 hours now. I have actually had a wee snooze as well. I put her in her carry cot rather than the swing and I swaddled her which I don't usually do during the day. I think she has had much better sleep as a result which I hope will make her sleep better tonight.

I had been planning to take her out a wee walk today but now I am not sure when to go. Should I just plonk a hat on her and go now or should I wait on her to next eat and go after that? Decisions decisions. Amazing to think we haven't been out the house ourselves yet so I am a bit nervous.

In other news I actually managed to read some of my book! I don't think I have read more than 2 pages since Penny was born!

Have a wee kip MM! You can guarantee that as soon as they come home you will wish you had.

Sounds like feeding is going well - good on you. We also had a fab first night home with a lie in and coffee in bed the next morning. No such luck since then.

Good luck for Friday petit, yw l don?t think you can use the canneston tablets when bf. Sat feedingg H in zupermarket cafe and just realised l am in very public view of the customer service queue!

F&£king husband has been in bed for 24 hours. With a break Last night for dinner and this morning to feed LO. I'm fuming. He has a headache. R u kidding me. He wants un disturbed sleep to recover from a fucking head ache. Fucking twat. I've had enough. I'm going out for a walk with LO.

mcsquared thank you. I think it is the auditory brainstem response, they are coming to the house to do it next week I think/hope

Everyone thanks for all your supportive message is feel much better this afternoon.

Off to see if I can drag DH to Costa for a skinny chocolate!

Hugs gt

Thanks cat

Mcs glad ur moving out. I am starting to get very frustrated living with pil. Doing my head in.

H swings from supportive to pain in the arse selfish twat. Guess what he is ATM

Well that's fun and games - trying to put gel in Jonas' mouth to combat the thrush. It's sugary orange flavour and seems to mess with his head given the strongest taste he's had so far is breast milk and one spat out tsp of gripe water.

The doc said to put the miconazole gel on my nips too but it's so sticky as it's a sugary oral gel - am not convinced it's the best option. But given the HV forgot to get the prescription written and we had to go into the surgery and had a slightly distracted GP disturbed from her afternoon surgery writing us a scrip at short notice - am not surprised. She also advised a dose double that recommended for small babies - so we're sticking with the dose recommended by the manufacturer (2.5ml 4x a day). I do worry sometimes about distracted doctors...

Other ladies with LO with oral thrush - what treatment were you prescribed.

Someone asked me about green poo (sorry brain lapse as to who it was - apologies) I don't think I read that it can be a sign of wind but apparently the odd green poo is perfectly normal for many babies. It can be a sign of a slight infection or fast digestion.

Am typing this with sugary orange smelling boobies out drying... this is going to add a comedic twist to our day until this disappears.

PR good luck with the audiologist.

MM glad to hear your DH is a proud daddy of a girl - I always worry when blokes are so obsessed with having one gender of a baby (they invariably get it wrong - Mother Nature tends to give them the opposite of what they obsess about i.e. like Henry VIII). Is he going to be a real sucker for her? I bet so

Sophia It is most likely to still be the crap in his ears, especially with the cold. Does he respond to you otherwise? Are you concerned other than the fact that he has 'failed' the hearing test. It is very common by the way :)

DP just rang me from Asda, trying to decipher the sanitary towels. He is very confused. I asked for regular sanitary pads with out wings. He is trying to buy panty liners... sigh! I'm more comfy without a pad at the minute, so going to give regular ones a go, as my loss isn't much any more - its mostly from the epis which still bleeds fresh red blood . The pads were irritating me!

I need a little reassurance about breastfeeding. After a long long night with me falling asleep through feeds, being unable to remember how long Oscar had fed for, I was just beyond exhausted, I have spent the day questioning what the hell I am doing. I can't keep awake for the hour long feeds. And he can't manage feeding lying down. I am sat on my sore arse for hours on end, falling asleep sat there.

The hour long feeds are really getting to me, especially as I'm being told that is too long! I don't think he has ever fed for less than 40 minutes? I think he is feeding between 2-3 1/2 hourly, no real pattern or routine to it. I'm shattered, and DP isn't helping as he can't even manage to get up on time to get DS to school. I have to wake him at least 3 times to get him up - same if Oscar needs a nappy change in the night - which generally I try to not do. He is getting 4-7 hours of unbroken sleep. I get an hour of very disturbed sleep if I am lucky. I tell him every day how he needs to sort himself out and wake up when needed without me having to practically hit him over the head. He isn't being fair when he is off work, and is supposed to be here to look after his baby too! He's good during the day, but his attitude to getting up at night is just appalling, grumpy and sullen. He said he doesn't remember being like that when I ask him in the day. .

I can't even consider what is going to happen when DP goes back to work and I have to do the hour long school run. What the hell do other people do?!! Everyone else manages, so why am I so stressed over the thought of it? I don't see how it is going to work unless he sorts out his feeds!!!

Help please just hit me over the head and knock me out. I only managed to get out of bed at 3.30pm. I just sat there for hours unable to function. I made DP take Oscar downstairs at 12.30 yes, DP was asleep next to me.... and he bought him back up at 2.30 to feed, that 2 hours was the longest I have had unbroken sleep in days. Even when not feeding, he is on me, so I'm never able to sleep properly. I've spent all day sat in bed, and I am still exhausted.

Oh and I have a cracking heat rash under both boobs, and home remedies aren't working. I should make a GP appt, but it feels like there is no way I can make it there! Not unless they don't mind me being an hour late anyway....

Have put a pic of the worst boob rash on fb! :(

I think it's still early days Detective. J was feeding for a long time at first but now at nearly three weeks it's more variable and the duration is decreasing. Sometimes he's hungry but sometimes he'll settle with a dummy instead so he just wants to suck sometimes.

I'm just back from the GP and have been given the all clear to start driving again. Woohoo freedom. Now I can start going to the bfing support group.

Here's a joke for you:
Tampax have announced today that they will replace the string on tampons with tinsel. They said this will be for the Christmas period only!

Woo Detective that looks nasty - have no idea what to suggest. Sorry :(

Well I've just asked Dr Google and, as I thought, I shouldn't be using the Daktarin sugary gel on my nips, the dose she gave was far too high for a newborn (am looking at NHS own treatment guidelines). Fecking hell - Doctors are shit.

Sophia, hope it goes well and try not to worry in the meantime. Don't panic if it takes a couple of visits either, it's often difficult to get everything in one go!

GT if you need to vent I'm all ears! It's annoying that your DH isn't being supportive though. I'm lucky that'd my DH knows his mother can be trying!

detective have you tried nappy rash remedies on the heat rash? Or breastmilk? I'm pretty much squirting breastmilk on all skin complaints at the moment!

Ooh I look forward to seeing that detective I will have my dinner first. The feeding is normal I am afraid, according to my three anyway. With the school run make sure you have everything ready to go the night before, lunches, homework, clothes etc. Make sure DS does as much as he can himself, be grateful he is a big boy and not a 2yo, or a girl with long hair that challenges a tangle teaser, or indeed two girls! Start feed 1 hour before you need to leave if not fed by then, in the morning milk flows better. May need to allow longer for scraping the car. Have a few dummy runs to test timings. I find this quite easy as the girls are up at 6 at the latest anyway.

Or stick him in a taxi?

Yes, tried sudocrem, and metanium. Also tried Lansinoh. And yep, breastmilk!

Tried talc too, but I'm cautious about using talc as he is feeding from the same area! Never long enough between feeds either!

YW Ring the surgery back and just said can you double check the dosage...? Is there more than one GP? Could you ring the HV to check??

You poor thing, sounds awful! Hopefully you can get to GPs and get it sorted. I know what you mean about worrying you won't make it there. The only thing we've done to appointment is registering the birth and that was such a mad panic!

Thanks for the advice - called the surgery - he says the dose we were advised is 5x more than it should be and would not be right for use on me either!!!!!! Fuming No wonder I double check with Dr Google grrrr

You'll prob be ok then Lane when they stop selling huggies, as you'll be in cloth by then.

Detective echo everything VQ said. He will settle down & you'll get it sorted. I felt a bit like "how will I cope?" when DH went back to work but in some ways its easier... Especially as my DH is a bit like your DP re; getting up.

Stunt

Thanks YW for green poo info. A has greenish tinged ones every now & then, but seems to poo a lot & I think he struggles a bit with my let-down so maybe its going through him a bit quickly? Maybe things will settle after the tongue tie is snipped on Fri.

That should say "emoticon"....

stunt lol :)