Dec 08 Mums - still biffing on

[LadyThompson]

Yes, yes, it's a bit lame. I wanted to say: "Still fucking on!" but wary of causing offence....

I know 'biffing' is a bit PG Wodehouse, as well. You'll just have to humour me

Good luck Kiwi. I vet it will be better than you fear. My dentist has TV goggles you can watch during treatment. They are quite a good distraction. Maybe see if you can try them.

How are you feeling Vag? All better now I hope.

Congrats on the move Trace. Can't wait to hear all about it when your broadband is restored.

Thanks for all the good wishes. I'm feeling much more excited now. I realised that not yelling anyone was making me feel like it was a bad thing. I am such a blabbermouth when excited and my not blabbering I felt like I was telling my brain not to be excited. So I've told 3 close friends all ofwhom were lovely so that feels good.

Next weekend a old friend was is, to be frank, a child hater (she won't even talk about them let alone visit when they are awake) is taking me and our mutual old friend on a very swish spa break to celebrate 15 years of friendship. It was booked ages ago and I have full body massages and all sorts scheduled. Then we are having a boost dinner and staying in a big suite all together. I can't admit I am upduffed with no. 3 as she will be horrified yet how can I
hide it when every element of the weekend is unsuitable for early pregnancy?

Just running in quickly to post this very funny and brightened me up after a stressful school drop off.

Is it just me who does not at all see the attraction of shagging Beckham?

Kiwi breathe through it. Use all those lovely birthing breathing techniques to relax yourself. Or just come up here and see my dentist. He is so pretty he makes a lovely distraction from anything that might be going on in your mouth .

My victoria sandwich was delish. Sadly it was also rather lopsided and half collapsed so we didn't enter it and just ate it at home instead. My apple pies came a repectable 3rd out of 4. The dc's handful of blueberries off their bush came first thoguh I suspect the fact they were very cute when they handed them over to the judge in the morning adn the fact they were the only blueberries there may have helped slightly . No scarecrow prize this year, we shall need to up our game!

I am getting mightily fed up of ds2's massive sleep regression developmental thingy he is doing. I need sleeeeeeeeep! Just a complete hour at some point would be nice but what the hell do you do with a child who is trying to do press ups and crawl around in his sleep until he wakes up sceaming? Last night he also threw in some awake, happy and cooing time for kicks. My eyes are all swollen and itchy and watering all the time.

Oh dear RT. Well you will have to tell her since you'll have to make sure your treatments are pg friendly. Erm I don't know. I have child free/child disliking friends but none of them gets horrified by other people having them.

Oops missed two posts. thinking of you Kiwi. those goggles sound amazing RT.

RT, that's sounds quite sad for you to have to hold back. I'm not sure how suitable or not the treatments will actually be as its early days but I know a lot of places like to err on the side of caution for their own sake, they don't want to cause problems obviously. could you ring the place and ask them if there are treatments which are ok and steer the girls towards those. otherwise maybe just tell them, really its her issue not yours, I think your doing a wonderful thing, you have two lovely daughters who will now both get to be big sisters. let this women have her strope about it, its your life. if she seriously would deride you for having another child she is quite a sad person. this should not be a time to feel guilty, its a time to celebrate.

why the hell won't my phone put capitals & apostrophes in today!

Oh and still feeling crapola. Dropped a screaming DS2 at school today, no idea why he suddenly didn't want to go. Have to pick him up in a bit. Oh just noticed you've written something Indith hello.

Oh vag, thinking get well vibes to you and chin up ones to ds2. Maybe he's coming down with what you've got and that's why he's a bit wobbly?

kiwi I hope the dentist appt goes as well as can be expected. I hope he/she is good with nervous patients.

Well done on the prizes, indith, am very impressed. Maybe you could set up some sort of cottage industry?

Congrats on the house move, trace what's it like being in the new gaff?

rt that is a bummer about your friend's attitude. Do you think the whole weekend might be a bit awkward? Prob best to tell her ASAP and gauge her reaction. If she's being really awful about it you could always cancel and get your money back and celebrate in a different way that doesn't involve massages, saunas and cocktails?

Feeling really fed up about B's sleep. He's up several times a night, often for hours at a time, then T is up at 5.30 like clockwork. DP and I are knackered and the cumulative tiredness (and lack of employment) is causing us to bicker and generally bring each other down. Both frantically applying for jobs but no joy (not even a sodding interview) yet.

I am starting an 8 week mindfulness course at the end of the month though so hoping it will help me be more patient and deal better with my moods.

RT which treatments are you booked for? Massages should be fine, there are some oils they don't like to use but you could always just ask the masseur and keep it quiet that way? And I know they say no sauna/hot tubs here but they are all for it elsewhere in Europe!

Back from dentist. Have THREE appointments now (one w hygienist) and have to have a root canal. Shoot me now please. Or tell me where I can get some drugs to see me through this. She couldn't even do the X-ray yet because I have such a strong gag reflex that I gagged as soon as the enormous X-ray thing went in my mouth

Sob

Oh Kiwi, that sounds nasty poor you. I'm the same with Xrays, I once had to put a weird bit of square cardboard in my mouth that cut into my palate and made me gagg the whole way through the xrays. Poor you a root canal. Are you still in pain? When are your appointments?

Spot you really need to watch that link I just put up in my post earlier this morning. It includes he word Vajayjay too. I have no help for the sleep I'm sorry, ds1 was not that great with getting to sleep but once he was he stayed that way and ds2 would only sleep if he was hungry (I still remember 5 am cries for an apple). I'm not sure if it would help but if it is a hunger thing we used to give ds2 a bowl of porridge before bed.

After having to pry ds2 off me to ge him into nursery he has happily skipped off to a friends house for the afternoon .

Hi all

Not having a good day. Dad had a scan and results today. Lungs are riddled with cancer and the radiotherapy has made no difference to the tumour in his leg. Sadly he probably won't make it to Christmas. I can't really think about anything else at moment, but will be hugging the girls harder tonight.

X

Oh Beans lovely. I really wish I could think of something to say. I'm thinking of you x

I'm so sorry Beans x

Beans terribly sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family. xx

Oh lovely beans. Heartbreaking news, I'm so sorry to hear it. Am thinking of you and your family.

So sorry to hear this beans. Lots of love xxx

I'd even managed to boss my big sister into not staying there for Christmas Eve!! Oh fucking hell. Am going to see him tomorrow. Poor poor Dad. And Mum.

So sorry, Beans. Thinking of you lots. xxx

Barely lurking as MIL here but Beans - can your Dad still have those tablets I think you mentioned? Anything is worth trying, to hold it back as long as possible. Thinking of you so much. Really, I am.

Aw Beans, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Thinking of you. xx

Oh our lovely Beans, thinking of you lovely. You are the nicest lady, I hate to think of you sad. I making you a virtual cuppa tea right now.

Huge hug Beans. Am so sorry, such awful news. thinking of you. Xxx

Oh beans. I'm so sorry. Lots of love to you and your family. I hope you don't mind but I was telling DH some of your poo stories last night and we were both crying with laughter. You are such a lovely, caring, funny person. We are all here to talk to anytime xxxxx

Oh Sal, I've only just seen this and got your FB message. I am so very sorry. Thinking of you and all the family now and tomorrow and sending huge hugs to all. Take care sweetie. Will call Thursday. All love XXXXX

Thanks everyone. So much appreciated. And JJB - am DELIGHTED to have made you and your DH laugh so much. Dad, too, has always had a terrible time with his poos and was caught short on the golf course (actually has happened a lot to him, but this is the funniest one!). He wiped his bottom with his hankie and then realised it had a nametape in. It really was that old! He had a bit of a panic and was about to start unpicking said dirty hankie so if it was found he wouldn't get into trouble, when he noticed the nametape was actually one of his friend's names, so he left it! Genius!

LT - he could still have the tablets, but the most they would give him is a month or so and apparently they do have pretty nasty side effects, which, with his bad leg, he probably wouldn't be able to get to the bathroom in time to deal with them. And really, is it worth it with the quality of life. I think the important thing now is to keep him comfortable as he's in so much pain in his leg. So I think they're going to up his drugs now until the end.

I spoke to him last night and he was doing well, then suddenly broke down. He's just terrified, I think. My middle sister and I are going to see him today and I think try to set up regular visiting days. Am going to ask my childminder to do pick up with DD1 once a week so I can go and see him on a regular basis. I'm hoping that will work for her. Fingers crossed. She's doing it for me today so I can spend the day there.

My eyes are TINY this morning!

xx

Oh Beans, crying with you my lovely. He must be so scared poor man. At least he can know that he will have his family around him. Is there some sort of nursing support for home? Have you talked about what he wants, to stay at home as long as possible, is there hospice support if you need it? Is there also help for your mum with the everyday household stuff like shopping and cleaning the house? Also you mentioned him getting to the loo, is it possibly to get a commode chair in the room so if he can't get to the loo quickly enough.

Sorry you have to think about these things my lovely.

In other news, it's blimmin cold here. Is it cold over there.