December 2011 (drop-in) - The Trouble With Dribbles

[LittleMissFlustered]

Hi Mimsy!

MissRee, my hair gets everywhere too. When I conditioner it, I comb through it to try and eliminate hair loss elsewhere in the house! Then have to pull the hair out the plug every few days, it looks like a deaf mouse haha. Pretty grim...

Oh, the hair.

Between me, the cats and the dogs it's like someone shaved a herd of wookies in our house.

Or hairy mammoths!

I got hope weighed she is 12lb 3oz and on second centil so i have borrowd a pump and i have to give top ups :(

Mhn said im ok stop panicing and the tablets are still working but i have to go back more offen for a check up. She told me to get out of house more and go for walks if i font feel up to meeting people at groups. That i had lost my congidence and need to get it back.

I agree with her but its sp hard to brake down the walls i build up around me. Im my own worst enamy.

Air has settling in days at school on monday and i have to go with him. Im a bit scared of going but i dont know why

Welcome back:)

Do what I do, paint the walls you build, make them look how you want them t so people see what you want them to. This is how most folk think I'm an outgoing and somewhat brash fat bird instead of the broken one:)

Dead mouse, not deaf mouse! Although he wouldn't hear much with all that hair in his ears ;0)

Hi Air, you'll get there - baby steps, perhaps meet a friend for coffee and work up to groups. Try not to worry about Air's settling in days, you're all in the same boat and have your precious children in common so have something to talk about to the other parents (if there are any, haven't got that far yet so don't know what im talking about!!)

Dd having a nap, feel guilty because I shouted at her for waking Ds up who I had managed to get to nap in his cot. Soooo I feel like a shit mum, dd is upset and subdued and ds is screaming in his cot. Fab. Going to make a cuppa before getting him, need a chill pill today, think I'm hormonal or summit...blah

I get angry when air wakes hope up. He does it all the time now and laughs. It drives me nuts. Im finding it hard to do everything at the mo cos im just going between them all the time feed one then the other then nappy and pant changes then air was to go play in garden so i put coat send him out then settle hope in swing and then he back in and shouting waking hope up. I feel guilty for not spending enough time with air and guilty for leaving hope cry so i can shower. It cant be normal all this guilt and not getting any housework done!

Im trying not to panic and just take one day at a time and know that things will get easier but right now i feel like im not getting anywhere.

Off to make a low cal hot choc as i have stared my deit :(

I think it's more normal than you think, I mean look at all of us with 2 or more children struggling a bit - there must be loads more out there!! We will get through this in one piece! X

I have my 3 dark rye crispbreads with garlic and herb light Philly because we have chocolate in the house but trying to resist!

air from what i read on mn the feelings you are having about juggling more than 1 DC are completely common and as someone said earlier lo's are the best small talk tool ive ever experienced.

Well Figgyboys 3rd set did not go well he was bouncing on my knee in the waiting room, squealing and making people laugh and then when he had his jabs he cried like i havent heard since the early days when he was starving due to lack of bf milk. Have given him his next feed early as he cried all the way home and now giving him all my attention for rest of day.

Weather has turned again def not going out tonight will go Over to work for lunch 1 day next week instead.

OMG its hail stoneing here huge fucking hail stones

Really frecky weather right now.

Thats what mhn said its normal to feel tired and ovet worked with lo's and to get angry about things as long as its not all the time and i can still be myself still read and be inttested in the things i like then its ok. Its ok to have bad days as long as i dont want to kill myself and i feel better the next day.

Its hard for me to know what is normal and ok to what may be depression back. I think im terrified of it happening again that i freak out at the first sign

Hi all,

I've had a productive day today for once and cleaned and tidied our bedroom, got the washing dry and put it away, been out for a walk and picked up passport forms from the post office and made some carrot purée which is now in the freezer!

DH wants to try the carrot purée tonight, so we'll give it a go and see what DS thinks!

The baby rice has been going well and DS keeps grabbing our hands and the spoon when we move it away from his mouth to get some more baby rice! It's very funny! He definitely knows what it is now and he is also trying to hold the milk bottle himself too :)

Air I think it's normal to feel angry sometimes when you're trying to get things done and can't because of the kids! I think the problem is that people don't admit they're having a shit day so when you're having one you feel abnormal (which you're not)!

Exactly right, Cherry! Least we can be honest on here and support each other, although my closest friend is normal shares her difficulties with her two kids so I don't feel so isolated during my 'arghs'

Re weaning, we stopped trying the baby rice with ds as he hasn't lost his thrusting tongue reflex so we were getting nowhere fast. He's 19 weeks tomorrow so going to try again in week 20. My new blender arrived today so will get creative with purée next week!

Re: weaning
im going to rxpress and give her it in a sippy cup twice a day for the next two weeks. Then in with baby rice. Then potato for a week then sweet potato and the blw where she can hold and eat what she wants. So its half and half and hope it goes ok.

Im throwing out the baby rice too but for me its because i cant seemingly make it right it just becomes gloop he loves porridge though so think we will stick with that. I bought some ellas kitchen 1st tastes in banana and apple this morning so going to try with that next few days and start pureeing veg over weekend too. I have to practically fight the spoon out of his hand too when feeding and when i give him one to hold to get used to it it goes straight in the mouth

I found a great food to puree and make into various mixes was beetroot (not with vinegar obviously) when weaning DD1, plus I do like red poo...

Re: vitamins, I wanted to give vitamins to DD1 when she was a year old as she was a poor eater but DH said that it would harm her appetite so she continued to be bald and tiny, but he finally thought it would be a good idea about 4 months ago and her hair is just starting to grow noticeably (at 2.2) and she has also grown 2cms in 2 months so no idea what she was deficient in but I think they've helped or at least I don't think they have harmed her and they have not negatively impacted on her eating so will be giving DD2 extra vitamins when she is weaned in 5 weeks.

Oi Do you think that might be BOi reverse feed cycling or whatevery its called as he's eating so less in the day?

Oooh, hello Mimsy, delighted to make your acquaintance, and hello again air. Sorry the sleeping's so crap- we are all going through it in varying degrees.

Dear Bob, work is busy. My diary has filled up, I've got an evening meeting on Monday, and I'm already wondering how I'll fit all the work in. Great lunch though, as it was my maternity cover's leaving do, so 3/4 of a takeaway pizza and a pile of M&S chocolatey things were mine. And it's curry tonight .

Lovely walking home from the train station with my boys though, and then getting the little man ready for bed and feeding him down.

And.... we may have had a breakthrough last night! DS got his dreamfeed at half ten, and then he woke at half one and half five as per, but DP just popped his dummy in and he took it and went back to sleep!!

Hope you can get to the bottom of it LMF. It does seem tough for both the parents, and the LOs themselves when there's more than one. More tiring, and more opportunities for stuff to explode...though I'm hoping it has its good points too?!

How did you get on Oi? It's the worst thing in the world, trying to be competent at work when you've had no sleep and your brain is mush.

And those of you bemoaning the hair should try living with my DP. He has wonderful, long, golden curls that he doesn't make the most of but has always refused to brush it . He used to leave little balls of rolled up hair everywhere round the house as he went round detangling, and now at least has improved to the level of just leaving piles on the walls of the shower when he forgets to clear them away, and blocking up the drain.
He also has the nerve to criticise my drain-cleaner 'addiction'!!
You may barf now

Hope your wee man feels a bit better now figgy.

If fists were edible I'd be bankrupted buying them. He's showing nononterestbin food though which I'm rather happy about as he's still so young:)

Right, we've been playing with our Legomens having a nice family time, bit it's definitely time for bed. Another early day tomorrow, like there's any other sort!

See you in the zombie hours:o

Air Welcome back normal - Define normal?

Sky has had 2 helpings of baby rice tonight and good amount of milk today so hoping she sleeps well tonight. As I need a full nights sleep been feeling pants the last few days.

Northern it's a double edged sword, they're a handful when theyrebth-teamin you, but it's fan when it's all going well. I'm hoping that whatever we find/don't find means we have an idea of how to help him be less angry and upset with the world, as well as slightly less manic. It's not as though it's a reaction to any recent stimulus either, it's been going on since he was about two >_<

Okay. All the small people are unconscious and I feel left out so I'm off to make like a sheep:o

Tag-teaming >_<

And fab not fan. Stupid fat thumbs!

Northern, you have surpassed my dead/deaf mouse...I'm so glad my dp has short hair because the one thing worse than my hair all over the shop, is someone elses!

Hope figgyboy's ok now. (but I wouldn't want to go out in this bob-awful weather either).
I have another spoon eater here, he lives the rice, the spoon, and holding the bottle. He's fed really well today, so it looks like bottles are going to be ok.
He's had the nerve to sleep well today too. Normally I'd feel lucky if he went down for more than 20 mins during the day, but he gave my mum 2 hours!!!!!
He had lots of lovely smiles for me when I went to collect him, and even though he'd fed only an hour ago he dived for my chest and pulled at my clothes, it was really funny watching him trying to bury into my chest. So I fed him, when we got home he fed again, and then once more before his bath.
And he's asleep now.
I was fine, thanks northern. I bought cake and grapes which I ate straight after my rice krispies and felt normal again.
I'll probably feel it tomorrow, I'm expecting to be knackered after my first full week of pre-6 o'clock wake ups and work.
He's at nursery til 1, then I'm just going to snuggle to make up for all the lost snuggles.
I missed him today, but it was ok.
I'm going to post pics of him around my desk to make it easier.
Aw! Mum and dad were upset that they won't see him til Monday! I was worried that they'd find 2 days too much, but they have LOVED having him. I couldn't be happier. My parents are fantastic. I'm a lucky lady, I know.
And air, I don't have 2 kids, but it's tough enough getting stuff done with one! You are normal. And as others have said, children are great ice breakers, all you have to do is ask another mum about her LO. It's our favourite topic! ((hugs))

Yup, and although I really hope DS takes after his Dad in the hair stakes Rashka, it'll be a nightmare for our crappy plumbing! Will have to train him to be more civilised about it all. Or just threaten him with deaf mice

I would quite fancy a brood, but I don't know if I could handle them fighting with each other, and just the relentlessness x 100 LMF.

And it's so hard to tell with LOs, whether it's a physical thing, a behaviour they'll grow out of, an on-going reaction to something, or anger/some feelings they can't properly express. Hopefully, with the attention of a range of people across the health/social spectrum they should be able to get somewhere with it... and in total adherence to the law of sod, the moment you consult someone he'll change

Oi, I know I'll be feeling it come the weekend too.

By the way, what are people's arrangements for sharing duties over the weekend- mainly about sleeping? DP and I are debating what's fair (genuinely, not a throwing plates debating!) now it's the other way round and I'm back at work.