December 2011 - crying and grizzling (and that's just the mums!)

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FairyBayleaf DC1 EDD 6th Dec BORN 29th Sept Albert Elwyn 2lb 14oz
Tjuice DC2 EDD 21st November BORN 7th Nov Amaya Rose 3kg
Sevensevenseven DC2 EDD 20th Dec 25yo Southwold BORN 21st Nov Eva Rose 5lb 4oz
Girlwiththemouseyhair DC2 EDD 24th Nov Maggie Juliet BORN 25th Nov 8lb 9oz
YBR DC1 EDD 22nd Dec BORN 25th Nov (girl) 6lb 3.5oz
LittleBlueBoat(Cheeptrick) DC2 EDD 5th Dec 29yo S.Yorkshire BORN 26th Nov Hope Brynn Frances 8lb 9oz
Kri5ty DC1 EDD 13th Dec 26yo Manchester Boy BORN 29th Nov Saul Harrison 6lb 13oz
LauraSmurf DC1 EDD 3rd December Girl BORN 30th Nov
BeeMyBaby DC2 EDD 29th November 25yo Scotland BORN 1st Dec Safia Hawwa 7lb6oz
SoTiredOfTheWheelsOnTheBus DC2 EDD 7th December BORN 1st December Boy 8lbs5oz
Iggly DC2 EDD 2nd December South London BORN 2nd Dec (Girl) 8lb 1oz
Girlsyearapart DC4 EDD 6th December BORN 3rd Dec (Boy) 7lb 7oz
HoneyLovesCake DC1 EDD 2nd December Cornwall BORN 6th Dec Rocco Kaleb 8lb 14oz
Mmmmcheese DC2 EDD 25th December 32yo BORN 7th Dec (Girl) 7lb8oz
Itsybitsy08 DC2 EDD 6th December Boy BORN 9th Dec Kieran 8lb4oz
Msbuggywinkle DC3 EDD 13th December 27yo BORN 10th Dec Miranda 8lb6oz
OiMissus DC1 2 December, 39yo, Horwich, Bolton BORN 10th Dec (Boy) Alistair Jude 9lbs
jigglebum BORN 11 Dec Freya 7lbs
Pludophtherednosedreindeer (plupervert): DC2 EDD Dec 10 (Kent) BORN 12 Dec Helena 8lb 6oz (3.8kg)
NorthernChinchilla- EDD 19th December, BORN 12th Dec, Boy, 7lb 7oz
Jomouse DC1 EDD 2nd December 35yo London BORN 14 Dec (Girl) 5lb 8oz
Tyelperion DC1 EDD 3rd December 27yo Windsor BORN 14 Dec (boy) 9lb 8oz
KateM77: DC2 EDD Dec 10 34yo BORN 16 Dec Daniel James 8lb 6oz
BennyBenBear DC1 EDD 5th December Manchester/Bolton BORN 18 Dec Oliver Stephen Bolton 8lb 9oz
Kiteflying DC2 EDD 7 December 44yo Australia BORN 18 December (Girl) Lulu 8lb 14 oz
mopsytop DC1 EDD 25th December BORN 19 Dec 6lbs 11oz
AWomanCalledHorse DC1 EDD 22nd December BORN 21st December 7lbs 6oz (Boy)
Figgygal DC1 EDD 12 December 30yo Bath BORN 22 Dec Daniel James McMillan 9lb 4oz
Kitty5824 DC1 EDD 21st December 33 yo Manchester - Don't know BORN 23rd Dec, Boy, 7lb 14oz, Sebastian John
Aethelfleda DC3 EDD 27th December London BORN 3rd January, Albert Thomas William 8lb 10 oz
hawthers DC2 EDD 22nd December London 33yo BORN 28 December 7lb 4oz (boy)
LittleMissFlustered DC3 31st December BORN 6 Jan (boy)
hopeful1 BORN 6 Jan Noa Francie Kate 10lb 3oz
MissRee BORN 12 Jan 12 Freya Violet 7lb 7oz

Rocco is 3 months 2moro...where did the time go?

Took him into town today to weigh him, he's 15lb 1 oz & sticking firmly to the 75th percentile...I'm more than happy with this but after last weeks feeding frenzy I was expecting him to have gained a bit more.

Finally made it to BFing group, it was nice as there were about 15 babies & a few very sweet 2-4 yr olds too. The scrunched up newborns made me very broody. I made a beeline for a couple of mums with LOs the same size as DS thinking they'd be about the same age but one was 6 months & the other 8months I don't think of him being a big baby but I guess he is compared to some! DS was very quiet, just stared at all the babies & then did a poosplosion which required a full change of clothes. No cake unfortunately but I did get a cup of tea & a slice of toast & I picked up a pasty & a danish afterwards.

I'm going to try to force myself to go to at least 1 baby group a week so that he has some friends for play dates & birthday parties in the future...good point about that figgy The mums seemed nice enough; not as nice as you lot obviously. I've booked the Sing & Sign classes, will probably get the dvd to continue after the class finishes & it'll be nice for DP to do it with him too.

Made a cleaning rota yesterday as I'd rather try to keep on top of things between us than have a cleaner as DP suggested. I really think our house is too small to need a cleaner, might rethink it when I've got 2 or more DCs. I've made it clear to him that I'll do what I can but childcare is my job & anything else I manage on top of that is a bonus! He's already making excuses for why he can't help; apparently outdoor work will fill his Sundays but I've told him with the lighter evenings he can do an hour after work...he chops wood every evening in the winter for the fire so he's used to it

DSM Zumba sounds like a very good idea. Ask Tell your OH when it's on & go to the class no matter how Darcie's behaving that night; it'll be best for you all in the long run. I should take my own advice really but DP's out so often I'd barely see him if I went out too. Plus I really don't think he'd manage; I left DS with him on Sunday morning while I took a long bath & washed my hair; they both got into a right tizz :(

MissRee about the buggy sounds scary.

Can't believe we're talking about weaning already. Think I'll go with the BLW approach but I'd much rather bf him indefinitely...I was such a fussy eater I hope he doesn't take after me.

Looong post..can you tell I'm trapped under a sleeping baby

We're training Ali to get the Sunday papers and bring us breakfast in bed at the moment. This boy will know his way around a kitchen, no bother!

Well Done Oi

Honey I've already told him and he said it was a good thing and I do need a break i'n the week. He has been really apologetic today and even spoke to me this afternoon and said sorry. I am a brilliant mum and sorry he made me think otherwise.

I'm going to Power Pilates with a friend and a cheeky afterwards

Also going to start buggy blast next week.

Why are men so useless though - as a friend said to me once - it is rare to meet an impressive man but women impress her on almost a daily basis! Dh is currently sulking upstairs on the bed as - he is soo tired (he hasnt got up once in the 12 weeks of freya's life) and is in a sulk as I told him I was fed up of him always coming home in a mood. Leaving me to tidy up, feed freya and cook dinner. If I hadn't already prepared most of dinner earlier I wouldnt bother. Sadly your OH and my dh sound like they have a lot in common dsm - another one whose mum who played a very traditional stay at home and do everything role. I won't be doing the same with ds - he actually really quite likes helping already luckily.

dsm great that things are looking up for you. I want teal in our bedroom when we get round to doing it. Wobbly teeth! I can't wait for DD1 to start losing her's, she has two broken ones from a fall when she was 18mths.

hlc ikwym about bfing forever, it is soooo much more convenient. The amount of weight I carry in my bag in snacks and drinks!

I am so fortunate in DP (might be to do with us having lived together since he was 18 though!), while he is here everything is 50/50. Well, getting back there again now as I have a few months off housework after birth.

At the bf group today HLC they're all around 14 months old, bar a lovely 9 week old; and same as you, made me go all mushy (and I have really, really noticed that I'm making a beeline for all things baby, whether it be news, or documentary or IRL ). My DS looked about twice his size though, and he's about the same weight as yours.
Really good idea with the rota though, as it breaks it into manageable chunks, and makes it more likely to be done!

So have you bought some extra-lovely onesies to celebrate then hawthers?

Oi- don't forget they have to be trained to make -and bring- a damn good cocktail too. DS will be allowed to start on G&Ts then progress .

Both my parents were very independent, and when I was 14 my Dad started talking mortgages and when I was 16 my mother taught me basic accounting. I could literally tell you how much I spent, when and on what for the past 15 years, as I keep all my books. All my finance/bills papers are neatly filed and go back years, and I started running my own place when at Uni (loooong story). DS and any subsequent children will be getting the same treatment.

DSM that does all sound good, both with your DH and with getting a break.

Sulking is secondly only to stingyness in my book of naff qualities jiggle, sorry you're having a pants evening.

Settling down now in front of the TV; DP happily gives nightly foot and calf rubs, which makes up for a lot!!

Glad he's being more supportive dsm I'm quite jealous of all the classes, I'm sure you'll be feeling better in no time :)

Wow, getting that long to train live with him and shape him sounds like the way forward MsB! I've only had 8 years living with DP, but he has made progress.

And you know, the real irony is that his mother thinks we live in a tip; which a) we don't, and b) 95% of any mess is created by her bloody son!

Hmm. Attempt number one at truffles... Followed your recipeseven, using Cointreau, on adding it the mixture seemed to go a bit grainy, though it may have been due to the chocolate doing that anyway (i've seen it happen with microwaved chocolate). It's now in the fridge, maybe I just didn't get it smooth enough... Anyhow, there's 8 oz of dark choc and 120ml of cream in there, so if it's not good enough to share I'll just have to eat it myself.....the saucepan leftovers tasted delicious...

And DS is currently having a feed after his customary 30 mins in moses basket. Plus le change....

Ooh, northern I get that exactly with my DH! He's under the impression that a) he doesn't have any room for "his" stuff (by which he attrbutes all the children's paraphenalia to me) and b) he never generates mess: he leaves EVERYTHING where it falls. Shoes, bags, cereal boxes, empty choc wrappers, papers, meal plates. He does do some very nice things (and I love him to bits) but I don't think he's cleaned the loo/bathroom once in five years...

Oops, that last post didn't make sense. Ignore me, I'm not all there...

Why is it as soon as one man starts behaving there's another one worthy of a ?

dsm glad that things are a bit better now, you sound much more positive. Does this also mean Darcie has been a bit better today?

honey Eva is 15 weeks and was 11.10 on Thursday. She doesn't seem tiny to me though, she's a good pound heavier than DS was. I spoke to a mum of twins in asda a couple of weeks ago as they looked around the same size as Eva, they were 6 months old!

Had a nice day with my friend, the boys played together while we started trying to organise our next muscular dystrophy charity event, trying to hold a fish and chips and quiz night in may and a street collection during the Easter school holidays.

As lovely as the truffles sound, DH made chocolate cornflake nests with mini eggs at the weekend. Can't beat 'em! (pardon any pun). Absolutely fabulous, with lots of leftover mini eggs. Yum!

Hi

So today Aaron, Hope and I went to a petting farm, where Hope slept, Aaron feed the goats and mini ponies, got scared by the turkey and played on the swings and mini tractors. Then we went to soft play where i feed Hope and had a cake and coffee and Aaron played nice with a little boy then got hit by another big boy. Aaron was very good so i got him a vtech car/dino toy and Hope got foot and wrist toy and I got a fairy soft toy. So a good day mostly.

The invites for the christening turned up. There was a message from STEPS to say that the play thearpy had finished and they would make a house call next week with the results. We only had 4 sessions and should have had 8. I think we were not their target group as you cant fix what is not broken. I can understand why they think my PND affected my children as at my worst it was very bad but i always looked after and protected Aaron and i hope the results prove that.

On the DH front he has another note off work. He has Muscular Dystrophy so when he is ill it takes him longer to get better. Also with him having MD i do all the childcare with Hope as he finds it hard to hold, lift and care for a young baby. He is better with Aaron as he is 3 now and can do things for himself more. I could not leave him with the children alone and go out in case there was an emergency he would not be able to look after the children. I also do most of the house work as in i delegate most of it to a cleaner! I do online shopping, i do the washing, DH irons his work clothes and i do everything else or it does not get done. DH drives and i dont so he currently earns the money and is the family taxi. He does help around the house and he is a great Dad and a great emotional support to me. I think of him as the heart of the family as he is more social and has more emphy than i will ever have. I also think he is the beavest person i have ever meet and i love him for it. I know i can rely on him and he would do anything for me and the children (even come to birmingham to pick me up when i got stuck half way home to my mums when i had PND and was running away from him ). I even went to a laywer and partioned him for a devioice because i had nealy hit him when i got upset at him and completly lost it due to PND and i wanted to protect him from me by leaving him - he left the house and stayed at him mums but came round every day to see Aaron and cook our tea . He told me he know i was ill and it was not like me to do that so he told me to get better and then deside if i wanted him or not - i cryed .

OK enough about DH and me - off to catch up.

air :( how long have we been on this thread? I never knew your DH has muscular dystrophy! What type does he have? DS has duchenne. Your DH sounds great by the way, thanks for being so open.

Hi all! Sorry warning that this is a me post but I'm fed up cos mum is visiting and is babysitting tomorrow and we'd planned a lovely posh meal out but now I've got bloody toothache :( felt something in one of my back teeth (maybe filling falling out? Feels different) but now it's properly painful. Was due my six monthly check on Wednesday anyway but will have to ring and go tomorrow. Hate the dentist -afraid it will be really expensive and potentially mean I've to cancel our meal if it's very painful or if he puts that dressing in that makes everything taste like clove. Not much point going for a meal if that's the case. Was so looking forward to it as well. Sorry maybe shouldn't be such a moan, especially as it may turn out ok. Just cranky cos of tooth pain and prospect of painful (in both senses-physical and financial!) visit to dentist!

Hope you all have good nights and get lots of sleep!!!

mopsy don't worry about being cranky, tooth ache is bloody awful. I e only had it badly once, due to wisdom teeth but I remember being in agony and unable to eat.

I've had an entire bottle of wine . Then I realised I haven't been properly drunk for over a year. It's DH's night anyway, hope everyone gets some sleep!

good effort seven ! Hope your head isn't too bad tomorrow...

Hope people are getting some sleep.........

Air That's lovely that your DH is there to support you through thick & thin

I'm just taking one day at a time for now and trying to think positive.

mopsy I haven't put it to the test, but isn't dentist work free for us during the 9 months of pregnancy and for the first year after childbirth?
Good luck.
Air your day and DH sound great.
We went to baby massage again yesterday and it was lovely. Alistair was v well behaved up to the point where we did reflexology to unblock sinuses - it unblocked his bladder. I caught it, so he did pee all over my jeans like last week. ...then we massaged the other leg, eventually getting to the reflexology point, and at precisely the same location he peed again. and I caught it again.
He woke at 1, 3 and 5 last night, but at 5 I decided not to feed him and to pop in a dummy. It worked. He slept. I slept! At 7:15 he woke but only for a couple of minutes feed and he fell asleep again.
I may try and use the dummy again to encourage him to not need feeding through the night. As he's so sleepy, he shouldn't even realise and formulate an attachment to it. Hmmmm.... We'll see.

"caught it so he DIDN'T pee..."

?I have a far lower tolerance than him for mess.? yep. That's the case here too. Also I can see when the laundry basket/nappy bucket is full and so put stuff on ? somehow it doesn't register for DH. I don't know how we're going to keep up once I go back to work!
DH has actually done most of the night feeding and usually cooks dinner; he does house work (when I don't get there first) and we both dump things rather than putting them away, so I'm not complaining.

Saw the Health Visited for the 3-4 month check yesterday and she said ?how are you doing with weaning? turns out it was a trick question! She then told us not to wean until 6 months.

Yup, I think those of us with sons especially owe it to their future partners to chant 'there is no such thing as the cleaning fairy' repeatedly at them, and make them do housework from a very early age!

Brekkie then will catch up.

Can't see dentist til tomo anyway as he doesn't work today so will just have to dose self with ibuprofen. Grrr