December 2011 - crying and grizzling (and that's just the mums!)

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FairyBayleaf DC1 EDD 6th Dec BORN 29th Sept Albert Elwyn 2lb 14oz
Tjuice DC2 EDD 21st November BORN 7th Nov Amaya Rose 3kg
Sevensevenseven DC2 EDD 20th Dec 25yo Southwold BORN 21st Nov Eva Rose 5lb 4oz
Girlwiththemouseyhair DC2 EDD 24th Nov Maggie Juliet BORN 25th Nov 8lb 9oz
YBR DC1 EDD 22nd Dec BORN 25th Nov (girl) 6lb 3.5oz
LittleBlueBoat(Cheeptrick) DC2 EDD 5th Dec 29yo S.Yorkshire BORN 26th Nov Hope Brynn Frances 8lb 9oz
Kri5ty DC1 EDD 13th Dec 26yo Manchester Boy BORN 29th Nov Saul Harrison 6lb 13oz
LauraSmurf DC1 EDD 3rd December Girl BORN 30th Nov
BeeMyBaby DC2 EDD 29th November 25yo Scotland BORN 1st Dec Safia Hawwa 7lb6oz
SoTiredOfTheWheelsOnTheBus DC2 EDD 7th December BORN 1st December Boy 8lbs5oz
Iggly DC2 EDD 2nd December South London BORN 2nd Dec (Girl) 8lb 1oz
Girlsyearapart DC4 EDD 6th December BORN 3rd Dec (Boy) 7lb 7oz
HoneyLovesCake DC1 EDD 2nd December Cornwall BORN 6th Dec Rocco Kaleb 8lb 14oz
Mmmmcheese DC2 EDD 25th December 32yo BORN 7th Dec (Girl) 7lb8oz
Itsybitsy08 DC2 EDD 6th December Boy BORN 9th Dec Kieran 8lb4oz
Msbuggywinkle DC3 EDD 13th December 27yo BORN 10th Dec Miranda 8lb6oz
OiMissus DC1 2 December, 39yo, Horwich, Bolton BORN 10th Dec (Boy) Alistair Jude 9lbs
jigglebum BORN 11 Dec Freya 7lbs
Pludophtherednosedreindeer (plupervert): DC2 EDD Dec 10 (Kent) BORN 12 Dec Helena 8lb 6oz (3.8kg)
NorthernChinchilla- EDD 19th December, BORN 12th Dec, Boy, 7lb 7oz
Jomouse DC1 EDD 2nd December 35yo London BORN 14 Dec (Girl) 5lb 8oz
Tyelperion DC1 EDD 3rd December 27yo Windsor BORN 14 Dec (boy) 9lb 8oz
KateM77: DC2 EDD Dec 10 34yo BORN 16 Dec Daniel James 8lb 6oz
BennyBenBear DC1 EDD 5th December Manchester/Bolton BORN 18 Dec Oliver Stephen Bolton 8lb 9oz
Kiteflying DC2 EDD 7 December 44yo Australia BORN 18 December (Girl) Lulu 8lb 14 oz
mopsytop DC1 EDD 25th December BORN 19 Dec 6lbs 11oz
AWomanCalledHorse DC1 EDD 22nd December BORN 21st December 7lbs 6oz (Boy)
Figgygal DC1 EDD 12 December 30yo Bath BORN 22 Dec Daniel James McMillan 9lb 4oz
Kitty5824 DC1 EDD 21st December 33 yo Manchester - Don't know BORN 23rd Dec, Boy, 7lb 14oz, Sebastian John
Aethelfleda DC3 EDD 27th December London BORN 3rd January, Albert Thomas William 8lb 10 oz
hawthers DC2 EDD 22nd December London 33yo BORN 28 December 7lb 4oz (boy)
LittleMissFlustered DC3 31st December BORN 6 Jan (boy)
hopeful1 BORN 6 Jan Noa Francie Kate 10lb 3oz
MissRee BORN 12 Jan 12 Freya Violet 7lb 7oz

Oh and figgy DH is the same, he gets fed up and grumpy after a few mins of DD crying and makes such a big deal of looking after her e.g. While I'm making dinner even though I have had the two DCs all day, done the housework, shopping etc I think when he gets stressy it also really affects her and she can get a bit unsettled when he takes her, so I end up grabbing her back and settling her in the end myself.

mmmm I had the same problem in my last house. I only had a small front garden (2.5m x 1.5m) so I created a new garden of herbs and veggies intertwined with pretty things. The cats loved it. So we didn't really eat much from it. :(

honey, I never got around to the classes but I did the Sing and Sign DVd with my Dds from 6 months onwards, did about 6 of the basic signs with them (eat/milk/more/all gone/sleep/no) and by about 11 months they were both signing back (sooo cute!) DD1's first sign was "milk": I forgot her bottle was due when out at the shops, she grumped, I asked "what's wrong" and she signed "milk milk milk"! And DD2's first sign was "more" (wanting more food). The Sing and Sign DVD is available online and that particular one has lovely (very very catchy) songs.

Right, off to attempt bed and hope DS gives me a break so I don't look too dire tomorrow.....

hawthers put 8oz of chopped dark chocolate in a (preferably metal) mixing bowl. In a small pan heat 1/2 cup (120ml) double cream and 1oz butter until just boiling then pour over the chocolate. Mix together then heat over a pan of water until its smooth. Take off the heat and stir in 2tbsp of whatever alcohol you fancy or expresso, then cl

Bloody phone!

hawthers put 8oz of chopped dark chocolate in a (preferably metal) mixing bowl. In a small pan heat 1/2 cup (120ml) double cream and 1oz butter until just boiling then pour over the chocolate. Mix together then heat over a pan of water until its smooth. Take off the heat and stir in 2tbsp of whatever alcohol you fancy or expresso, then cling film and put in the fridge to set for a few hours or overnight. Roll into balls and coat in cocoa or icing sugar.

Dh seems to believe that when Lo cries at Him its louder, longer and worse in EVERY way as to how he cries at me which is crap. I dont know why hes crying half the time either but i just try different things to try and calm him i.e if hes crying ill stand up/sit down/rock/sing/change him and if nothing works then i will feed him DH still just panics and insists he must be hungry after 10 weeks, even if hes been fed 7oz an hour before and even if by doing the aforementioned fussing i can stop him crying. The difference really does seem to be im happy doing the "fussing" and dh isnt.

But then maybe its me i definitely dont want to be a fussy mum who is funny about giving her LO to anyone else let alone dh. I need to leave them together more but when dh is being defeatist/panicky like this it doesn't seem easy to do. Gahh dont even have any wine or chocolate to cheer self up tonight.

I share your pain figgy. It's such a hard balance between letting our OH's get on with it, as they need to, or having your evening spoilt, or taking DC and doing it yourself.

This evening it's been all three...

figgy do you know any good dads? That is, can you get your OH to spend some time with another dad to do the competitive dad thing? Or to just have someone for him to talk to. Sounds like he's scared or questioning his ability. (jealous of your natural ability, perhaps?) You need to try and stir some interest, in a "I will not be beaten" vibe.
Don't know what else to suggest.
I don't know if leaving them together -throwing him in at the deep end- will help or make things worse. (especially. If you're not sure you can trust him yet.)
My DH is really looking forward to having a boys-day-in tomorrow when I'll be out for 4-5 hrs. Luckily I have no fear, They are great together. Ali saves his most gorgeous smiles and chuckles for when DH gets home from work. I like it. It helps make up for the fact that I've had him all day, and DH will only get an hour of quality time before Ali's tiredness/grouchiness sets in.
Good luck for tonight all.
No poop yet today.

figgy and northern I'm also sympathising. DH was looking after Eva while I was cooking tea. She'd been awake for a couple of hours and was laying happily under her gym then started getting upset. He left her for a few minutes as she was just whingey (as I sometimes do when she sleeps if i think she'll settle again). He only picked her up when she started properly crying which quickly proceeded to full-on over tiredness screaming. At this point I could see DH getting stressed because he didn't know why she was screaming. I took her and shushed and rocked her until she calmed down then put her in her basket, within 2 minutes she was asleep, which then made DH feel even more crap. The difference is I would have guessed by how long she'd been awake that she was getting upset because she was getting tired (she never falls asleep on the floor) and put her in her basket before she got to the over-tired screaming stage.

oi "questioning his ability" you've got it exactly. DH considers himself to be rubbish at everything due to an abusive upbringing and has no confidence in his ability to do things :(

seven, figgy and northern , it's so common for dads to feel like this: there's no miracle cure but it sometimes helps to explain that a) it's v common, b) it will improve if they stick at it and c) it's like snooker/darts/rugby/blokish stereotypical pasttime of choice. Putting magic boobs aside, if they look at the hours of" work experience " they and you have, theirs is probably a tenth of yours (assuming dp has been back to work and not goiing 50:50 on night feeds). If you have two snooker/whatever players and one's had 60 hours of practice at lining up shots and the other 600 hours, who will heve greater skill? Encourage him that more practice(supervised) = better confidence

Oh and my dH is the same each time, and we're on baby number 3! I remind him I have no magic touch, but get used to the babies quicker through pure simple exposure.

Ps WOW that truffle recipe looks fatal. Feel cointreau truffles coming on..

Waves also in total zombie mode. We are off out on day trip tomorrow to a lovely wild animal sanctuary in Morpeth. Could have done with avfewvextra hours DS. Oh well, never mind, this too shall pass.

Sympathies to figgy re DH, must be incredibly frustrating for you.

I have to bite my lip sometimes when DP has Kieran, because he does it different to me, but I have to let him find his way.

oi that sounds like a fabulous Saturday bet your two boys have great fun, and I bet your DP will find a new level of respect for you after being alone with Ali.

I desperately need my hair doing too - its gone dead thick and is too long, its taking ages to dry and is in no particular style (not to mention the 3/4 inch roots, but i am blonde anyway, but hilights starting to really show) craving a shoulder length shaggy cut and i would like my choppy fringe cut back in i think. May find the time soon, at some point in 2020 perhaps?

Hair wise I have a bob that's a smidge longer than chin length which is currently reddish:D

Bleary wave again ! This 3 month sleep regression thingymajiggy sucks.

LMF wish I was brave enough for a bob.

Arrgh 10 minutes feed and DS asleep again, looks like this isvit fir the night now - we will be on the hour every hour now me thinks.

Morning! Bleeurgh my head :( fun night out but OUCH now. Had half bottle wine plus two cocktails so is my own fault! At least minimopsy kindly slept until five instead of usual half three (clever baba!) and to be fair my husband offered to do the feed but I don't want him to have to do everything after babysitting last night.

Sympathies re husband figgy.

What is this sleep regression some of you are mentioning?

And enjoy the wedding tomorrow (today!) aethel!

mopsy of your night out, sounds fab, ohhh wine and cocktails! Though not so jel of your head - I get the worst hangovers ever, like proper 3 day affairs even of I have not had that much to drink. I can't remember the last tine ibwas hungover though, seems like a whole different lifetime away.

I had a look about this sleep regression thing and apparently its common at 3 months and various other points where a previously 'good' sleeper start waking up often again. It passes again though

DS was going from 9.30 ish to 2.30/3 ish and then back down till 6ish but now he is waking up every hour or so after his first feed of the night, anywhere from midnight.

He was 12 weeks yesterday.

Total brag post, sorry!

After a long wk of dh being away lots, I'm feeling a but "babied out", so I went to lie down for an hour last night and woke up 3 hours later to find the baby had been bathed, fed, and put to sleep in his cot. Little tinker then slept from 10 until 4, when dh fed him. He woke up. At half six so I went to warm a bottle, but he's fallen asleep on me again. And I'm off out this lunchtime for some much needed alone time; off to read my book and drink expensive coffee. Yeay! Feeling very happy right now!

My house is weirdly quiet, DP and DS both still asleep upstairs and i'm wide awake having a relaxed breakfast and figuring out what I still have to pack before we leave for our holiday.

Hope everyone has a lovely week and that all your DPs behave and babies sleep lots!

Nice one, easily. Gold stars for your DP!
Enjoy the wedding aethel, and BJR have a fab holiday!
Another brag post coming now: LO, 12weeks today, went to sleep at 7 last night, we went to bed at 11pm, so as we disturbed him I fed him, and then he slept thru til 6!!!
I fed him, and then (finally after a 38hr gap) he did a poop.
I can hear DH and LO downstairs playing and gurgling, they left me in bed to have another hour.
Oh and we dtd last night. I got the minipill from the drs, and it's much easier without condoms. Still taking it slowly, slowly.
Itsy, I'm the same. My hair is now long, straggly, split-ends with big roots. It was last done at the end of October I think. I'm going to get it re-blondified, chopped to shoulder length, with layers and a bit of a fringe put in. Unless I see a picture of something else I fancy in the shop. ...something short, choppy and elf-like perhaps.
Have a great weekend everyone! Xxx