Feb 2011 - First year over! Whatya mean it gets more difficult!

[wigglesrock]

Handing out , and birthday cake

Tis true wee wiggles but they at least deserved the luck,good behaviour from fans etc.they put the other big teams to shame ignores the demented Soirez I am a truly happy fan. I did feel sorry for Cardiff though and they played brilliantly.

Earplugs ledkr, good plan. I am deffo annoying too but dp is more so god I'm mean. Erm, well done Liverpool doesn't have a clue about football Am looking forward to stories from race week!

granny N is moving to the toddler room?! Ahh, let us know how he gets on, our babies are growing up! My opinion re: gift is only if you think it is deserved if you know what I mean, maybe just a box of chocs but if you don't feel the need don't bother?

I'm re watching Walking Dead from Friday night, its repeated tonight, what a saddo

I know ponyo...was a wee bit sad when I found out. Won't be a huge difference to him I don't think, just a change of key person but the ratios of staff to kids obv change when he moves up....he's still only crawling & seems so wee compared to others but I've seen him in toddler room & he absolutely lives it!

Should say loves not lives!!

Hm I think A would prob love it in toddler room too granny, she is fascinated by older kids but babies seem to irritate her Bet N will love it. Have you decided re gift?!

Blizy, all our love. Zoe's candle is still lit and dh and i took a few minutes at 9.30 to think of you all.

Granny, wow to Nate moving to toddlers, Noahs nursery keep them in babies until they're over 18 months. As for pressies I've never bought gifts when Ben moved on.

Ponyo,yes to lie ins not being equal in our house. I nearly always have to call dh back to ask him to shut our bedroom door or the lounge door if I'm trying to have a lie in. He also raises his voice in the kitchen which is below our bedroom almost so I can hear how hard it is giving two kids breakfast, uh, yes, I know, I do it every bloody day! My dh gets on my nerves ALL the time, I try to bite my tongue but generally just blurt out my complaints, well, how can he improve if he's not told where he's going wrong, hehehe.

Reastie, I would second the house for the garden for Alice, our lasted Ben gas, he loved it.

Robin good to hear fom you, glad all is well.

Right, I'm off to bed. Night all

Morning, I have a question. Do you control how much your LO naps in the day and if so how long? DH thinks I should limit Alice's day time naps as she's sleeping less and less at night. At the min she won't go to sleep until 9 - 9:30pm and wakes about 6 - 6:30am. She usually has 2 day naps which in total vary from maybe 1 hr 15 to 3 hours total. It's not always a case of how little naps she's had means longer sleep at night though, plus if we've done an activity that day it doesn't always mean she's more tired at night . She does sometimes wake up early from her naps by a noise or whatever, and then usually she is bad tempered and just cries non stop until her next meal or nap time so I'm a bit scared or waking her up . Plus, she has no nap pattern so they could be at any point in the afternoon or morning and be for any length - I'm not sure whether I should be trying to get her into more of a habit with timings and lengths but then if we go out or so something this may muck up any routine depending on the day anyway . Any advice o wise ones?

awwwww nate moving up to the toddler room they are growing up arn't they, and btw I probably wouldn't have thought to buy the nursery worker a present - as a teacher who has been given some useless tat thoughtful gestures in the past, tbh by far I would prefer a thoughtful thank you card with some nice words about my work than a gift

Granny - I would get a box of chocs and a note. It's a bit cheeky of her if she was hinting for a gift.

Ponyo - 8am is not a proper lie-in. L is not quiet at all (god, the whinging ) but DH can completely sleep through it and I can't. So I was up at 8:30 Saturday and he slept until 10 yesterday.

wiggles - thanks for asking about my dad. He's having more stents put in today. My mum said she's doing OK, luckily my sister lives locally so is there for support.

blizy - how are you today?

Am rather of all this talk of lie ins, I've got up with the girls every morning since Imy was born- no, hold on, I got 2 mornings off when I was in hospital

reastie you've always had trouble with Alice's sleep, must be hard work :( S has 45 minutes at about 9.30am, then 1.5 hours at 1.30pm or 2pm. She sleeps 7-7 . Imy used to sleep a bit longer in the day I think, maybe 1.5 hrs in the morning. I very very rarely wake her from her naps, only if she's fallen asleep in the car and it's getting late. I think overtiredness has a lot to answer for [angry face] Good luck :) xxx

blizy we lit a candle for Zoe last night too, she will never be forgotten. Hope you're holding it together today xxx

ledkr well done on the football also knows nothing about football

granny your party sounds brilliant, the sort of thing I'd love and DH would absolutely detest

I've been super super good on sw this week (although I dreamt I cheated last night, was lovely when I woke up and realised I hadn't really!), I'm so hoping for a good loss tomorrow. I am a good 2 sizes down already, from a 26 at my very heaviest to a 22 now, I am desperate to get into a 20 because I can't actually remember when I was last that size. God I have a long way to go till I'm a normal weight

reastie - I only limit L's sleep during the day if he's having a late nap. He's always ready for bed at bedtime though and it's a struggle to get him to nap during the day so we've never worried about it.

debka - you've done so well already. Yes, it'll take ages to lose the rest of it but your new healthy habits will be ingrained by then. Silver lining and all that.

Hi ladies,

Not been on for ayyyyyyges so have no idea what's been going on, but off to have a catch-up now.

We're doing fine on the whole, C has also had a night of vomit on Friday night, went through all the bedding we had and ended up putting her to bed wrapped in a towel. Poor thing, really horrid, she was just lay on our bed sniffing and sobbing from it all. She seems OK on the whole now tho, a bit off her food still but otherwise her usual self. Don't think I'll be giving her spag for a bit tho, on account of the multiple clean up operations [grim].

DH is away this week so C and me are staying at my Mum's as I'm still embarassingly bad at coping with getting up/out to work and nursery etc. and back and bathed/bed etc. on my own.

blizy was thinking of you the last few days, glad you've managed to make it through the weekend.

Off to catch up on posts.

D

Blizy your plans sound lovely, hope it went alright and you did have that bubbly. You and dh are amazing together, well done.

Thanks guys for the fb requests, it's really been great seeing the los so big!

ledkr I wasn't ofended at all! I am allowed to be a lentil weaver because I am foreign lentil weaver ya see?

reastie I find it really hard to limit naps, it's bloody hard to get him to sleep in the first place! but he's changed int he past week to just one nap at mid day lasting 1.5 to 2 hrs, so perhaps that's what A is wanting to do too?

Question re cows milk: do you give it so they get used to the taste? or why? I am happy bfing still and want to carry on for sometime still, but would not want to have a 2 yo who does not like cows milk...

My dh cannot do anything right either atm. It doesn't help that he sleeps in the spare bedroom and I think couples really need that time together at night even if it just cuddling up together, but last night he tried to sleep with us and he just annoyed me! I really wonder how we are going to survive this as a couple as at the beginning it was just me being hormonal, but now he is really troppy with me too after a year of being treated like shit difficulties.

Hello ladies,

Thanks for the nap comments, keep them coming if you have any advice please. I've decided to concentrate on nap timings rather than length at the minute as sometimes Alice was having her afternoon nap at 4pm or so and we might have to wake her up to have dinner and then she was bouncing around till late, so I'm walking her to sleep for a 9am ish morning nap and make sure she is asleep by 3pm in the afternoon and see how that helps

wiggles thanks for the dvd tips - I've ordered alias season 1 today and also trying out a series called 'haven' - have you seen it? Sounds a bit x files meets fringey

knitta really feel for you with the DH situ. DH and I have our ishoos but we do have some good times too. Have you had a talk to your DH about all this? What does he say? Btw re: cows milk - what do you give P for breakfast? As I give Alice baby weetabix or readybrek type stuff and she has that with cows milk so she's used to the taste.

was going to ask where you were today. Now, I must know, have you got your VIP outfit yet? Btw I know it's pathetic but it makes me feel better that you struggle to get C ready and out the door for work too.

Went to the pound shop today and came back with loads of stuff I didn't realise I needed - peppa pig sticker book anyone? . Then went to wilkos and got Alice a toddler keyboard [spoilt pfb] (using alices bday money I hasten to add)

deb go you with the dropping dress sizes - you'll soon be able to just go into any shop on the high street and buy anything you fancy [simple pleasures]

blizy how are things? x

Hello ladies. Been thinking of you and Zoe all weekend blizy, and the champagne and bear idea is lovely.

Glad your Dad is a bit better expat. Have you decided whether you want to visit him yet?

Those parties sound great granny and wiggles! Glad you got through your family day too reastie. Also looking forward to the rac y ing stories from ledkr!

You're doing so well on the weight loss debka! We'll have to crack open the champagne for you when you get down to a 20.

Don't get much of a lie-in here either. Plus Sammy is really hit and miss with naps and often has only one 20 min nap in the day. He sleeps mostly 7.30 to around 6 so it isn't too bad, but bye-bye housework!

Took me around an hour to drop A off at school then dh at work and get home again because of all the snow. It can feck off now, really. A really loves her skiing and goes to ski school every Saturday. I would like to ski again this season but I need someone to go with and dh would have to stay at home with the boys. Looking forward to being back in the UK in the summer (definitely not the flights!) and will certainly be coming through Yorkshire at some point, 44. We often fill up at the Morrisons in BB.

Hoping you've all had great tea times and the babies are winding down nicely.

Hi ladies,

Again thank you for all your thoughts.

I am bearing up ok today, although I am finding today harder. This time last year I was in labour and we kept hearing babies being born screaming.
We went shopping for balloons and flowers today, we also got 2 duaghters first birthday card to attach to the balloons adn one for Zoe's memory box.
I will try and post some pics up at the end of the week.

debka you are doing so well with the weight loss, I am in awe of your determination. I wish I had some.

Hope you all had a nice day and the babies all sleep well. HAvr to go dh has just made dinner.

{{hugs}} blizy.xxx

40Weeks Happy Birthday Mikey for yesterday!!

reastie Did you not get the Peppa Pig post-it notes? - they're fab, so is the recorder and tamborine set, A loves the recorder, although she isn't sure exactly how it works but she is very pleased with herself when it does, the dog less so I stock up on sticker books, usually have about 6 hidden around the house, S is a bit old for them now but she'll still use the colouring/word search books and O&A love them. I don't wake from naps but A only has one a day, usually in the morning.

I haven't seen Haven but its on a channel we have I think. Oh and Bradley Cooper is also in Alias (first few series) if he tickles your fancy

debka I agree with the ever wise tad it will seem like its taking ages to shift the weight but if you keep up the running it will keep melting off honest! Do you have a weight/size in mind at the end?

Deliaskis Anna threw up all last night too, but it was all milk [bleurgh], it was like she had opened her own cottage cheese factory [double bleurgh]

blizy xxxxxx

Hi all,

blizy cards, ballon and flowers sound nice, would love to see some pics when you can put some up. Hope your dinner is nice, dp just made stir fry and crispy beef yum

deb you've always got up with the girls?! Always? I am in awe, does your dh always get a lie in then or is he up early too? You deserve a massive lie in (and a medal )

emski hmph to your dh being inconsiderate re: lie ins too, so annoying isn't it.

reastie I have woken A up from her naps and it always results in massive grumps so I don't have much good advice I'm afraid. Sometimes she has one nap in the morning then falls asleep at about 5.30, I'm sure she'd sleep and sleep if I let her but then be awake at 4am or something so I wake her and deal with the grumps for an hour or so then put her in bed. That was a bit long wasn't it Sorry to hear about A's sleep anyway, hope what you are trying works.

american hm sounds like you had a similar weekend to me re: lie ins. A can be a whinge bag too but thats what the dummy is for!

delia poor C, sounds horrid, especially beoing all pathetic and crying on your bed, aww! dp is out all weekend so I'm going to my mums too, nothing wrong with that I say, I could have A all weekend on my own (and I'm sure you could with C) but I'd rather not - its easier with people around to help, especially as my sis and her boyf are living at my mums at the moment!

k2 fwiw dp and I share a bed but no hugs or anything at the moment, neither of us are making an effort even though we know we should. I keep thinking how are we going to start getting along again, then think I know he doesn't give it this much thought, I have a tendancy to overthink Agree with giving P cows milk on his brekkie, my friend who is still bf-ing also gives cows milk in a beaker throughout the day.

tadj boo to snow, how annoying. But exciting for you about coming back here in the summer, whereabouts will you be apart from Yorkshire? I feel another meet up coming on Four4!

God that took me ages to write, bet I x post with people. Can I just say that I flippin hate work at the moment, it was rubbish today and I'm being made to feel uncomfortable by some people, don't know if they mean to but it still sucks. A on the other hand had a fab day at nursery, she was walking around the table chatting when I went to get her, when she saw me she got down and crawled at top speed with her head down to me, cute

blizy Inspirational as ever.You and dh are so united its lovely to hear about it.I remember when you used to think he didnt understand. Its a real testament to Zoe how you are managing to remember her in such a dignified way.

k2 I cant believe the impact having Dilly has had on me and dh either.We really were sickeningly loved up and perfect.Never rowed.had a charmed life.
I sometimes struggle with my emotions too.
This morning d was up at 6 and just moaned and moaned and lept touching anything she wasnt allowed to over and over depite having half a toy shop in here.
Then when i was eventually ready for work she hit her porridge out of my hand all over my suede shoes.I had to leave as i was fit to explode and i drove to work with some pretty horrible thoughts about how shit my life is now
Then when i came home she squealed when she saw me and crawled really fast to se me then wouldnt go to anyone else for ages and i felt in love again.
Me and dh get on ok but life seems such a drudge of cleaning,nappies,puke,bottles and early mornings. Then i feel bad cos its his only child and im spoiling it for him with my negativity.
We are looking forward to a bit of time together in brum.
Deb I was thinking, 20 is so close to an 18 which is available in most high st shops now.I feel as if ive got a mountain to climb and i only want to drop a size and lose about 2 stone so not surprised you feel daunted.
I have had a good diet day,largely cos i was too busy to eat

With me ponyo yes How can a nap at 5.30??whatever time does she go to bed?
For anyone who wants to know,D has started to only have one nap a day and thats a fight to get her to have. Depending on when that is she is knackered by 4-5ish,i just use snacks or a bath to keep her going then put her down between 6 and 7.30,she wakes at the crack of dawn either way so i may as well have a peacefull evening.
reastie I think if they dont nap they sleep worse at night.

Ooh what a surprise, x post ledkr A can nap at 5.30 and still is ready for bed at 7 most nights, if not earlier. If she stays up late (which is hardly ever) she doesn't sleep in in the morning so I don't see the point of keeping her up

Glad it's not just me and dp who aren't loved up, sorry no offence meant there ledkr A is our first one and I moan all the time about her/being tired/blah blah so don't feel bad about D being dh first one and you ruining it, no chance

Big hugs blizy you are amazing. Xxxxxx

deb well done you. You'll be so many peoples inspiration at sw and in rl.

tad our house is 5 mins from morrisons in BB. Would love to provide a refreshment stop for you and your family if it can be worked into your schedule.

reastie Archie has two sleeps a day. He is up about 7ish in the morning, I need him up then to get all four of them out for 8.30 to get to school, he has a nap sometime before lunchtime. This morning he was back asleep by 9.30 for one hour. He then goes back to bed after lunch about 1/1.30. I need to set off walking up to school at 2.45 so he needs to be awake by then. Then bed at 7pm..... It is a bit less constrained with times at the weekend without the school run. I certainly wouldn't want him napping too near 4pm. I like them nice and tired by bath time at 6.30ish. Any help?

k2 Archie has cows milk on his 'bix and occasionally has some in his sippy cup which he enjoys sprinkling everywhere but he still won't drink from a bottle and doesn't drink enough quantity wise from his cup to cut back the bf's and he is my last baby so super dreading the last ever feed

Waves to Delia

Have a super evening all x

Mega x post with ponyo and ledkr that shows how long I spent typing my post, while watching tv, ringing my mum etc etc....

Blizy thinking of you DH and Zoe. Sending you all love.

A flower lent not given, to bud on earth and bloom in heaven.

RIP little Zoe bear. I hope you are dancing with the angels and giggling at us below xxx

reastie I do structure C's naps a bit and we have always managed to have a civilised bedtime, although waking up time has been teetering a bit on the edge of acceptability from time to time (I call anything pre 6am Bad News), but not all the time. C is I think transitioning from 2 naps to 1 though, as her morning one is just getting later and later and it's affecting the afternoon one (which was the main one). So at the moment I chuck her in her cot at 10am and let her have no more than half an hour, then she's good for at least an hour and a half to two hours at about 1.30pm. Then she's good and sleepy by 7pm. Just works for C but probably not for others! Like Ponyo said, C can be a bit grumpy if I wake her from a deep sleep, but if I time it right, I can get her just at the end of a sleep cycle and she's in lighter sleep anyway and so not grumpy to wake up.

wiggles yes, puke is defo more gross now than it was when she was teeny tiny!

C is now pretty much standing on her own, and keeps moving as if to take a step, then gets the wobbles and holds onto things. All fun and exciting though.

Waves to everybody else ...

Dx