Feb 2010 - turning two and turning heads

[BigBadBear]

Er, Abs, is a cranial osteopath not meant to work on your head? What was he doing at the other end?
I've tried some cough mixture for nights for the first time ever with this cold and dh thinks it's hilarious that I fall asleep in the middle of a sentence after taking some. This is ridiculously strong stuff I'd better put the phone down before it kicks in... Unbelievable they sell this over the counter and why did I never try this before?

BG strong stuff!

Abs good news if you are getting sorted and that your DD may be helped too. As PA said quite a few DC still don't sleep through

Happy St Patrick's Day

Sorry, I've been away for a long time. Who is Survival? Have I got babybrain? Couldn't find her on the FB page either....
Yes, BG, usually it is the head, but to treat the pelvis or the reproductive organs, they put their hands under your bottom and in my case yesterday, nearly up my bottom!
DD was up at 5.45, oh the joy! I'm exhausted.

Good to hear you had a good time being osteo'd, Abs!
I've put a note on the FB page explaining who Survival is now

I don't know the flavour yet - you can find that out when you they've done the full analysis, so should know in the next 10 days or so. Don't worry, you'll be among the first to know!!

We have ordered a gro clock to see if we can get DD to stay in bed until 6.

I had a fight with DH. He is a procrastinator and it is getting to me. I have little patience left. I am also getting major PMT symptoms (peri menopause?) and insomnia is back .

Very very worried for what is going to happen regarding schooling and DD1. My mum is not helping either. I am looking at home schooling support in case everything failed, and she said it is stupid and DD1 needs school. I know that but I need the worse case scenario to be prepared.

And I am also extremely worried about DD2's language, she seems to be going backwards. She is not interested at all in books (well she is but her favourite is "Charlie and the chocolate factory" that she pretends to read alone, she shrieks if anybody tries to read it to her)
I seems to be my fault too, DD1 needed constant talking which I provided against my nature. DD2 will just happily get on with her things, playing with her sister's playmobile, tagging the house... She is also watching far too much TV, and we are letting her due to the status quo between DH and I.

DH is lovely but a PITA. Everything has to be done at the last minute possible. I am not strong enough anymore. His dad was helping us a lot with that part of his personality, now that he is gone I feel that I should do it but it is creating resentment, shutting down and P/A behaviour.

He doesn't wants me to talk about anything to him. I am not a planner but I think that 3 months is a reasonable time to be talking about a move of country, booking cheapest flights possible and thinking about packing sending our stuffs, make sure DD1 schooling is provided and DD2 has help if she needs it, and where we will end up.

I have also retyped my CV and have been looking at jobs which is hugely depressing. I found one tech job in cardiff (missed the deadline by 1 day, and the pay would not have covered child care) and one job in south america except I am not fluent in spanish. It is grim.

Mous If there is anything I can do re job search over here let me know (although I have failed to get anything for two years - your field should be easier). I can quite understand your frustration especially with your dh putting his head in the sand

Mous I'm not surprised you're feeling stressed at the moment. It sounds like you've got a lot on your plate and not enough positive support. Please unburden yourself on here whenever you want, don't worry about "me-posts".

Mous You are so not useless. It's very frustrating to have a partner you have to chivvy along to do anything and changing country all the time is bloody tough because you don't have the same support network of mum friends that people who are fixed in one place have. You are a great mum and it is best to prepare oneself for all possibilities so ignore your mum, you're doing the right thing re school.

Abs Good to hear from you. I'm sorry that you have so much to deal with - loss and grief are extremely painful to get through. It's natural to want to curl into your shell but if you want to talk we are here. Sounds like the cranial osteopath was helpful - hope your DD responds well too. Well done on your DD's talking and potty training.

Rainbow Hope you are still having a great time with your folks. How long will you be there?

Survival - Love the word 'sickups', glad the boys are pretty well at the moment and well done to your DS2 on the potty use too.

My DS uses the potty a couple of times a day for poos and wees but not consistently and still does a lot of his stuff in his pull ups. Sometimes he asks and sometimes we suggest. I don't have the energy at the moment to do it full-on cold turkey.

It's been rainy today so we've had a quiet day in. A friend from my postnatal group and her little girl came round for tea/cake/play this morning - that was nice. Then she left and all three of us had a nap and now DH and DS have gone off to sainsbury's.

I took the train up to London bridge on Wednesday and walked to Guildhall to take DS to the little clock museum. Clocks are his new obsession - they've overtaken brooms and cooking. He ran around for half an hour shouting "Clock...clock.....another clock...sundial....pendulum....grandfather clock". We've also got a DVD of Trumpton and he loves that because of the clock and his favourite episode is the one about the man who runs the clock shop and winds the town clock.

19 days to go until my caesarian. Blood pressure still fine. Bit of reflux and more tiredness. DH and mum very helpful - mum is back from Cornwall on Tuesday and she's having him all day Wednesday and Sunday next week.

Anyone else have to buy their husband's mother's day cards and presents and stand over them to get them to write them/post them? He still hasn't paid me for it yet, as it goes.

Thanks all and sorry to have blurt on .
I have a dear friend whose chemo failed they are now trying radiotherapy, he is a year older than me, was my 1st crush at 18 , is the cleverest man I have ever met, it is all my teenage and young woman memory going. They are still trying because he is so young I am sure if he was my dad they would just make him comfortable. That is the pity of being a biologist you actually understand what is going on (I am sure it is worse for a med BTW).
DH is actually really nice.

mous have a and lots of

bc at the clock obsession. I have bought DH's mother's card and present but I always do it so I'm usedto it. I hope DH got me a card

The 6 nations is finished!!! Jump around... It means that DH may be able to get time off at weekends...

Hello all. I have read but am struggling post-op so can't do replies at the moment and will come back soon.

Thinking of you all, my lovely mn girls, even though I have never met any of you but still feel I know you all so well x

BBB have a nice recovery. same here! take care

BBB look after yourself and please don't do any work for a few days! Like your present!! It's on my wish list for Christmas...

mous Hope your friend responds to radiotherapy. Sometimes the full lot of treatment does work (my mum had advanced aggressive breast cancer at 44 and they were pretty radical in their treatment - she is still with us!)

BBB take care. Is your pressie an ipad?

mous you have so much on atm :( {{}} Please offload here and if you can try and break tasks in RL to manageable bitesize ones and keep your confidence up. Don't let your mum and DH chip it away, tell them YOU need them to ...

bbb you take care as well

Oh Mous that is so sad about your friend. I really feel for you. There is a woman in the village who has three kids (ages 1, 3 and 5) and she was diagnosed with breast cancer about a month ago. She is a GP and she discovered it really late, it's in her bones and spine. We are all completely devastated. She is only 37 and is having to talk to her kids about not being there. Cancer is so bloody devastating. But there are lots of really positive stories of people who pull through despite the odds. I don't know what to say except all these things get on top of you, especially if you are not in a supportive environment. It's really hard to cope, believe me I have been there. Bringing up children is hard enough without having to deal with all this other stuff. I found it really hard to deal with my dad's illness and death, and be a good, positive role model for my DD.
BBB rest and recover.

Hello again. I'm feeling much better today so am reporting in!

I had my op on friday. The cyst was bigger than they had thought so they made a bigger incision than anticipated and also had to remove part of my ovary. I was very sore and sick afterwards but already am feeling much better. My parents have been here and my mum has ben brilliant. Dh has also been good in a practical way though it can feel a little grudging at times, but maybe I am being over sensitive.

ic great news about the amnio.

abs, rainbow, bear great to hear from you all.

mous sorry things are hard. I hope it gets better.

I got the ultimate mothering Sunday present : dh is hoovering my car

BBB glad you are on the mend!

DD has another limp. Opposite leg this time .

Her present was sleeping through and despite being awake at 5:30 staying in bed until 6.

Dd2's present was waking just after six to wish me Happy Birthday...

But I also got three cards (girls did one each in school and nursery and dh also bought one), chocolate truffles from dh, car valeting , and dd1 made chocolate cupcakes for me... Plus log fire and wine just now, so I'm a happy bunny Quiet day though because I haven't fully recovered from that virus and still feel woozy.

Got a card from DS (not sure if it was done by my mum or my DH tho). No present but a nice lunch with the full family.

I'm wondering how DS is going to react to been left at nursery tomorrow, the screamjng can't be worse than last week before he spent 4 days at home.

PA your poor DD

Hoping that everybody was well treated today.

The other day DD ate a daisy and had a good go at the bark on the stick she has been carrying around.