July 2010: Tantrums R Us

[Woodlands]

Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

Don't think we'll be going anywhere today, there's about a foot of snow and coooold!

tsc jiggered? what does that mean? Ive never heard it! I wish we had someone with older boys to pass down fancy clothes to us Sad about your friends dad, its lovely that you are looking after her daughter, one less thing to worry about.
mlic you are joking about the plane? or have you no snow?

it was a dusting of snow last night when I left, by the time we got to the pub they had closed loads of A roads around here so we couldnt go to town so I was dressed up for nothing, wearing huge heels in 4-6 inches of snow! my friends live in the next village and had no way of getting home but wouldnt stay on my sofa so they walked the fields! L is in bed, dh has gone out with the dog and his snowboard. I have bought a joint to do a roast dinner.
L wittered all night while he slept, he ate a biscotti today its not great but its a start! His nappies are like mucus and it stinks but his wee smells exactly the same, so pungent! cakes all the docs have said a virus, they apparently cant do anything for it, really worrying now as he isnt eating but isnt really drinking again, we have docs for his referal on tuesday so he can check him over then!

I'm home

Yes memph we have snow. It's on the ground though, it's not snowing. The runway was icy this morning but was ok by lunchtime when we flew. In fact it was a really calm sky. It was really good. Except for the fact it was only a tiny little 4 seater plane so I felt really, really sick for half the flight!

Rather you than me mlic, I hate little planes, so bumpy. Scares the life out of me. Tbh I'm not that great in big planes.

Jiggered just means very tired memphis, it's a good word isn't it?

Looking at all the snow pics from the UK on Fb, very pretty!

Went to see Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy at the cinema last night, it was good, quite a complex plot though so you had to pay attention to keep up.

Had a great day too, went up to a hill overlooking the harbour where there are old military tunnels where they used to look out in case anyone decided to invade NZ - you can now go through all the tunnels, kids loved it. We all went for a pub lunch after, then an ice cream and a play in the park - was us, bil, sil and another friend, nice day out.

mlisc glad you got up, I did a week long flying course in a small plane and loved it. I'd never go up with fil but then he's 70 so I don't really want to hop in cars with him either!

tsc you're about due a break aren't you?! My dsis gets given bags of fantastic clothes by her sil - all Monsoon/Gap etc, I don't get hand-me-downs of any quality!

wss DH and I watched that at the weekend and I was so confused, couldn't work out why anyone did what they did

memphis I know you don't like milk but will L drink it? I only ask because S is still ill and he's drinking Nesquik by the bucket. It's got vitamins and stuff in so I don't feel quite so desperate to shovel stuff into him.

viks we've just started putting S under a quilt and I'm always worried he's going to wake up cold but so far he's been alright (although he's taken to waking around 1 and grizzling for nearly an hour). You're still in the newborn exhausted haze, it's not surprising you're forgetting everything. Give yourself a break and don't sweat the housework (I'm sure you're still trying to keep everything tidy and clean when you should be relaxing as best you can).

L has been a little treasure today, really sweet and lovely, looking after S and wanting lots of cuddles. At one point I was faffing about and she said "Mama, my want a cuddle and sweets please" with the most angelic expression. Days like this I want to remember everytime she's a horror!

We are having a nightmare here, F has definatly developed colic and has cried for the last two evenings pretty solidly till 9pm. DH and I are beside ourselves with him and the situation, its so sooooo fucking unfair. We try our hardest to do everything right and live decent lives and we just seem to get shit upon at every turn.
I dont deal well with this sort of shit, tsc i have to say i think the way you have delt with F and his poorlyness is fantastic, you are amazing the way you just get on with things, im sure i waould have fallen apart long ago.
I am falling apart with just a bit of cryng, bloody lightweight!!

You're not a lightweight vik. Far from it. You're in the thick of a shitty situation and on top of that, sleep deprived. It isn't fair, you're right. And the cliche 'it will get better' is very true, yet I suspect not very comforting right now.

What are your days like? My saving grace when ds2 was smaller was surestart where if ds1 needed me, someone would hold ds2. If ds2 needed me, someone would make sure ds1 was watched/safe. It wasn't a break as such, but a bit of a relief iyswim? I find if the days aren't so bad, the evenings are easier to cope with.

Sorry things are tough :(

vik it will pass, it will pass, it will pass. that time with F was one of the toughest of my life (i used to lie on the sofa with F on me and just sob along with him feeling like i'd totally fucked up) but when i look back it was such a short time really. we found the techniques in the Happiest Baby on The Block book and dvd really worked but dh struggled to keep the faith with it sometimes, iykwim?

you're not doing anything wrong, just help each other get thru it and it will soon be a distant memory.

tsc fuck knows how you're getting thru this sanity and sense of humour intact. you're doing amazingly to still be trucking away with bloody bf him still.

have the docs looked into anything underlying causing F's chest probs eg allergies?

and sorry - keep meaning to say trudy, i was thinking of you last week and it sounded v tough. very glad it turned out not to be anything worse. how're you feeling now?

memph ditto what chul said re milk/nesquik. can you get someone to see L tomo rather than tues?

sorry, have missed loads of you out - will catch up properly tomo

vik sorry you're having a hard time of it, I agree that it will pass although it doesn't seem like it will right now. Def try massage, rub his tummy clockwise and bring his knees up to his tummy and move his legs round clockwise too so his whole lower half is in the air iyswim.
I still massage D's tummy before bed because he can get bad trapped wind and it really helps.

Meant to be going to the group but it's still really snowy. It's ok on the main roads are ok but there's a slight hill to get out my road which is always a struggle in the snow but I need to get out I've got cabin fever.

My NVQ starts today. It's pretty much just induction today rather than the actual course, but I'm still pretty excited. It's only about a 12 minute brisk walk away but I'm going to have to go in the car because the pavements are pretty icy and I've already got a groin strain. If I slip and pull it any more I won't be able to walk so I'd better be careful. In the future though I'll walk and I can pick ds1 up on the way home as, conveniently, the school is on the route.

Today is a new day vik. Hope you're feeling better.

Memph how's L?

Chul, what's your cs date again?

mlic have a good first day!
vik sorry things are tough, could you get gaviscon from the docs, or change the milk you using? we ended up weaning at 17 weeks as nothing helped L but then as soon as he started on some food it eased no end.
cakes and chul he wont drink anything milk except his milk, but he isnt drinking anymre, recently I have tried him on vanilla rice milk, milkshakes, even turning his nose up at smoothies.

Had a shit shit shit night, L coughed so much in the afternoon he couldnt breath and went a funny colour, once he caught his breath he was so shocked and upset he shook and sobbed for an hour, this happened again at 10 so we brough him down to calm him and then lay on our bed until he fell asleep, happened again at 3, but I know the docs will say his chest is clear. He now seems normal in the mornings but after his nap he is so poorly he just lies on you burning up.
cakes not going to change appointment as tomorrow it is with a peadiatric specialist in the surgery so less chance of him fobbing me off, if its a virus how has hehad it a whole week without any let up? I thought a virus only lasted a few days.

Oh there's so many ill babies :(
Memph that sounds scary and i'd be thinking the same as you that it can't be just a virus. The poor little boy hope you get some answers tomorrow.
Tsc how is F's sats today? Any luck with the new medicine? Don't know how you're still standing with all this shit.
Vik god I have si much sympathy for you :( its really really trying for everyone so dibt feel bad if you get in a temper ir anything. Im trying to think of everything we did to help E.. Dr. browns bottles and gripe water, nice baths, we got a bouncer chair that vibrated that was brilliant for settling her, the sound of the hoover helped, I used to bung her into the car or buggy and drive or walk. You've probably tried all of these though :( its a really shit sutuation though

Shit tsc that is beyond crap :( the poor little dude and it's not even his fault. Maybe swap the yogurts and milk for soya and see will he take it that way and if he doesnt just go back to the normal stuff to just get stuff into him

mylife good luck with your first day, what is it your doing again? Forgive my forgetfulness!! Cant believe how bad the weather is everywhere, we are completly untouched, weird.
memphis oh poor L, sounds horrid, i hate it when they are poorly but thats full on, i hope you get a good response from the doc tomorrow.
tsc Man what a shitty situation, is there anyone who can advise you? What is your doc like?
Last night was a bit shitty here, F was ok it was D again, wide awake and chatting etc, hes woken today with a filthy cold, hurrah!! (joining tsc with the jazz hands!) Today has however been fine, i have got some stuff done and feel like i have given both children appropriate attention and gone to the park with doggle. Both are kipping now so my heads going down, fingers crossed they stay asleep for a bit!

kk thanks for all the suggestions, please keep them coming if you think of anything else. Hows things with you?

NVQ Hospitality vik :)

tsc that's shit. I would say what have you got to lose by eliminating dairy? It's not like you're getting any sleep now anyway. Are you going to give up dairy though too? Otherwise you'll have to stop feeding him else he'll get it through your milk.

The kids are in the save my sanity creche at the moment. Half on my 'free time' will be taken up with taking the dog to the vets though. For a review for his steroids, which he has been on all his life and will never come off them because he's too allergic to fresh air so there's no fucking point going. But they won't give me a repeat without an appointment so they can take £20 off me for the privilige

mlic do you get his meds off of the vets? cou,d you get them cheaper off of the net? my friends dog has steroids and gets the same ones they get prescribed at half the price? I have advanced GNVQ in Leisure, Tourism and Hospitality and I loved the course!
tsc that is shitter than shit! cant believe they arent doing more for him :(

Just been to out of town park to spend my boots vouchers, got all lovely face creams and BB cream, the woman kept looking at me as I spoke like I had the lurgi, I had to explain I wasnt catching I had just lost my voice due to exhaustion! we were out for an hour and L is now in bed tired out! mum bought him a few outfits in M and S, they have an offer spend £30 and save a fiver on kids clothes for anyone interested, then I got my waffle maker! I cant wait to test it out!

tsc can anyone take your two little ones so you can get some head space? It's worth trying to cut out dairy, it produces more mucus, but yea, you'd have to cut it out too or you wouldn't tell. My two quite happily have oat milk in stuff without noticing (only when I was trying to use up stocks).

viks S had reflux and screamed his head off for the first 12 weeks, it was utter misery. I used to carry him around in a mobywrap type carrier and never put him down. He'd still scream but we'd go out so it didn't seem so loud. It was awful and I sympathise with you totally.

memphis come and join us on the waffle side of life - is it a belgian waffler or a 'normal' one? Viruses can take 10-14 days to work themselves out so if that's what it is you may well have to wait a couple more days. Hope your dh is helping out!

mlisc March 13th, counting down the seconds... hope your first day goes well!

terrible tsc

deffo worth giving the dairy elimination a go. you and he can replace the dairy so he won't go hungry.

i know i've said it before but when my seriously-asthmatic friend and her toddler DD gave up dairy it was (and still is) like a miracle cure. she went from someone who regularly wheezed and was sometimes hospitalised despite being on steroids and having an inhaler to now, having a totally clear chest and running several times a week, symptom and drug-free. her dd (prob about our thread babies' age) went from wheezing and coughing and needing an inhaler to being completely normal. she's now my F's age and still dairy-free and has no asthma symptoms.

if you need any suggestions or advice on replacing the dairy then we can all help you.

tbh memph it's only £10.13 for 100 tablets so that's fine. But it's £60 a year in checkups and the hundred tablets lasts about 3 months so it does add up. Today the vet has recommended food allergy testing (and I had a bit of a go for them not having done it with his last tests/suggested it sooner) which has come down significantly in price since his last skin scrapings/biopsy and blood testing. It's now £92 for the food blood tests, soI will have to have a chat with dh when he gets home.

tsc I feel for you dude :(