July 2010: Tantrums R Us

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Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

It's been a year since dh and I went out on a 'date' on our own. We were in CP December 2010 and my mam came over to see ds1 for his 2nd birthday and she stayed in the lodge while we went for a meal. It was lovely

We rarely go out and if we do there are always other people with us. We're going out twice this month, both charity events with tens/hundreds of other people!

Dh and I went to the cinema a couple of weeks ago but I guess we're lucky that a) we've only got D and b) all out family live within 10 mins of us and they are always offering to babysit.

I'm at a loose end again today, so cold outside and D isn't well do don't want to take him anywhere with other kids. I've been measuring out curtains because I want to get new ones for the front room and D's room but they seem to be an odd size because I ant find any ready made poles or curtains that'll fit them

My sil and bil are here at the moment, then mil and step-fil arrive on Wednesday so dh and I had better get organised and have some nights out while we have babysitters here.

G seems to have started waking stupidly-early again so I've been up since 5.15.

I'd be a bit if dh applied for a job that far away without discussing it with me first tsc. I guess you just have to wait and see if anything comes of it.

We have no plans for the weekend so far except hanging out with sil and bil, maybe having some friends round Sat evening (last minute casual type thing)

Hanging out in the sun sounds like a perfect plan wss. It reached the trembling heights of 4C here by lunchtime today

I am pleased to report I think I have broken my crisp addiction. Unfortunately I have now become addicted to onion rings :(

ds2 got attacked at softplay today :( Hair pulling and face scratching from some little shitbag 3yo(ish). And his mother didn't even say sorry. She told her son to and when he refused to they just walked off

How awful MyLife....is our LO ok?
I would of gone ballistic!

Yeah well I'm the 'go ballistic' type normally with that sort of thing, but he was so upset that I was too busy trying to calm him down to say anything. And he didn't really calm down so we left. Funnily enough as we stood up to leave she shouted 'no Alfie, don't push him' so he is obviously great at playing with other kids

He's fine thanks. His cheek did flare up and go postbox red but there was no visable sratch If I didn't know about the scrap I would have just thought it was his normal eczema flaring up.

Aw poor little lamb. I hate seeing D pushed or toys snatched away because he's my pfb wary of children at the best of times and I feel it reinforces what he's already afraid of iyswim.

Took D swimming earlier, he threw himself in and went completely underwater for a good few secs! Dw I rescued him but he looked v shocked when he came back up

Also went to the dentist and I'd assume I'd need alot doing but I'm just getting them cleaned up and some sealant put on so v reasonable.

Oo no...poor little poppet. I'm usually the placid type til it comes to my little DS...then I turn in to a lioness protecting her cub! Insane! Hope your LO is ok now.

sorry i've been quiet lately. just busy with work and battling bedtimes and sleep etc. A's not sleeping well at all at the mo - even in the evening when she has always been good.

had her MMR & the 13 m ones (so 3 jabs in total) on wed so praying that doesn't make her even worse.

that's crap mlic poor ds

mlic/chul how are your oldest two about doing things in a group at nursery? i picked F up on tues and was told that he wouldn't say anything when they did phonics as a group (he's fine with singing etc tho) and then the manager took him off to do it one to one and he flew threw it all, like he does at home with me. she said he obv prefers it that way and she'll ask his key worker to do more 121 time with him but surely he has to get used to doing it in a group too? i suppose he is only 3 tho...

things sound crazy/tiring/interesting there tsc. would you really not mind if dp worked away? i would hate that if it was me. on the 'applying for a job without telling you' front - dh is often speaking to headhunters and talking to people about opportunities so it wouldn't seem like he was hiding anything if he hadn't told me immediately about it but i'd be really cross if i felt like he had intentionally avoided telling me.

chul do you think you will get out for an evening with dh before number 3 comes along? we're pretty lucky on that front and get out together maybe every 3 weeks (always feels like longer tho!). going to a party tonight actually but tbh it's so cold and we're both so knackered the box set of The Killing and a takeaway would have suited me better.

my big thing is trying to get away for a night - dh has been v patient about it but i know he's desperate to and my father & step-mother constantly offer to have them overnight but i don't feel quite ready to leave A especially while her sleep is so bad. i do need a push tho as i found it just as hard with F.

had a bad start to the day - by 8.30 i'd managed to tell off someone at work about some crap design work, F being really ignorant and A for hitting F (her new craze )

meeting a friend at soft play later - hopefully i won't tell her off too

hope you all have a good day.

oh and i'd NEVER locate willingly for dh's work! i love it here, have local friends and family, and my job (which i could do from anywhere, admittedly) and tbh there's nowhere else that appeals as much right now. even amazing places like New York would mean leaving too much behind here.

i'm even a bit about dh changing jobs to one where he'd have to travel more or go to into london every day (he currently splits his week between our town, london and other locations) as that would mean he sees the children less and i'd have a ton more on my plate juggling things here.

Shit night. ds2 up 3 times and ds1 up at 1.10am. Knackered. Which meant I didn't get out of bed until 7.30 even though I had to leave the house at 8am with both kids to drop ds2 off at nursery than take ds1 to school so had a pretty hectic morning. Then when I went on the field two dogs (a husky and a german shepherd) came running up to mine (who I had kept on the lead Just In Case) and I though oh here we go... but all was fine. No scrapping. When I let mine off they all played together nicely

I wouldn't really mind moving somewhere nice else. In some ways it would be perfect as I'll never have the 'why can't the kids sleep over one night' conversation with my mother. I'd be sory to move away from a small handful of friends but that's about it.

Cake my 3yo happily does things in groups. It made me laugh when we were doing visits and the teacher asked all the kids a question about what they'd learnt the day before. He wasn't even there so didn't know what the answer was but because all the kids put their hand up, he did too He always joins in.

Right, quick shower then going to nip to the shop/library before school pick up.

Hello all, I have caught up but in a bit of a hell at the mo so not much time to post. this.week.was.fuck.awful.
I was so ill on my birthday I last on the sofa unable to move ill, Tuesday night L became listless, floppy and unresponsive, firstaiders came within minutes as it was out of medical center hours, paramedic car came, temp of 39.6, ambulance took us to hospital and let us out when it settled again, the next day he was back to normal until night and now he has got worse and worse, ive had no phone as it went dead, he has breathing problems, conjunctivitis in both eyes and his eyeballs are bloodshot, soaring temp, we havent been able to do anything but feed ducks. holiday from hell, but on the plus side cp were unbelieveable the nurse came everyday, the staff went beyond the call of duty, sorry for me me me, will post again over weekend, L is sleeping at the moment but he actually had to come into our bed last night

oh god Memph, true holiday from hell! Glad the staff were lovely. Hope you all get better soon

Ack memphis, bet you're glad to be home. Sending get well quickly wishes to L, sorry it was such a crap holiday.

Sorry he's still poorly memph :(

memph sounds awful for you :( really hope things pick up and all the horrible illnesses go away.

memphis sorry you were both so ill, glad the staff were so great though.

cake dh and I haven't been away overnight together (just the two of us) since A was born, so over 4 years ago. I must have a look at cinemas etc and get some nights out in the next few wks though. The final of The Killing was on here this week, great show (the US one, they haven't shown the Danish one here)

Oh and A wasn't great in groups till recently - kindy actually said to me they had noticed it - how things change in a few months. She can't wait to get together with her little group of mates now and join in. Perfectly normal at 3 I think to still prefer a lot of 1 to 1.

Work-wise it's unlikely dh would move anywhere as the city we live in is by far the biggest in NZ - has a third of the total population - and most of the good jobs in his field are here. I like where we live, it has a good combination of city and nearby countryside/national park type things plus beaches so there is lots to do.

Can I direct any of you who know how to dress nicely ( cake for one) to my thread please.

mlisc my two are always getting picked on, neither of them push/hit/bite other children (only each other ) and littlies soon see them as a push-over. I've got used to rescuing them from other children hitting them. There are 2 boys at one group that make a beeline for S, the last time we went to the group I turned from helping L to see one of them hitting S over the head with a wooden chair. The mum was sat in a different room drinking tea with her mate (as usual). I don't bother with that group now. Gets me so pissed off that they can't be bothered to discipline their horrors and it's my dc that suffer for it

cake L is completely people oriented so she's happy to join in at groups but then she won't do anything by herself!

Maybe we should organise a group holiday at CP and each night 5 couples can go out while the rest of us watch the children - we all might get a turn then. wss you wouldn't mind popping over here for a week would you?

W was hysterical at 11pm (I'd gone to bed at 10pm so was in a v deep sleep then) then again at 4.40 & I had to get up with him :( Got a bit of shut eye on the couch but not a lot. I tried to put him back to bed t 6am but it didn't work he wouldn't go back off.

Chul I'm up for that

How's L today memph?

L is still ill, slept for max of 45 mins a time last night, holding his head and just wittering, I have a banging head, have done for days so I know how he feels! he has an awful cough too, he just wants to be cuddled constantly, or cuddle the dog! he had a little yoghurt this morning, but thats it, im going out tonight, its a very good friends birthday and im wearing a playsuit and huuuge heels I just got today...and its started snowing...and when I say playsuit, its short and I havent fot anything I can wear over it!

that sounds so awful memph :(

did you say it's a virus?

you're braver than i am re the playsuit!! i went to the party last night wearing jeans (plus gold sequin top, red bolero cardi and red heels)

hope you have fun anyway.

really looking forward to staying in with the killing and a curry tonight! it;s the danish one btw wss, v good.

MANNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Franklin has only just stopped crying, hes been awake since 5 and feeding on and off since then, its really a total nightmare, poor boy, i just wish to god i knew how to help him. Its so sooo stressfull and now there a frosty atmosphere between me and dh simply because we havent had a moment to breath. I really couldnt be bothered to eat so ive just had some cerial, got a maffis headache and just want to go to bed!!
My memory is awfull at the moment so im really sorry i just cant even remember what im talking about to people its really embarrasing, i'll start a conversation then have to ask what i was saying it for!
memphis i hope L is doing better and you have a good night out.
tsc hows F now?
cake is A disturbed due to teething did you say?
mylife Sounds like a mare with W, what was wrong with him do you think?
D has broken out of his sleeping bag the last few nights and has woken because hes cold i think, so i went to boots today and they had a fleecy sleepsuite his size for half price, he ws so funny parading about in it before bed, i just hope he gets on ok in it. Its totally amazing what they can understand isnt it, i said do us a turn, when he was showing off his suite and he stood on the spot and turned right around, how do they learn these things??
We had a lovely day today, such ashame it had to end in hysterics from F, we went out for coffee and cake and had a look around town then decided to stay out for lunch, D really enjoyed garlic cheesy bread and was as good as gold.
Regarding other childerens behavour im afraid D is one of the 'other' children atm, he thinks its ok to push and smacked one of his friends in the face the other day, i always tell him off if i can catch it immediatly, i dont think there is much point doing it after the event. Hes not doing it nastily, to him its a fun thing so he doesnt get thats its bad at all.
Can i just ask, why is it that you can moan and moan about something to your dh/p but untill they do it for them selves and run into the same issues, they dont take any notice!!Rahhhhhhhhh!!!!
CP sounds good to me, i'd love to go there but only if i could afford a luxury cabin!
Right im off before F (and D) wakes up again.

Jiggered! Haha! My god I haven't heard that in ages. My dad says that loads, I'm not compairing u to a 75 yo man you understand though. So he's very boarder line still then, poor boy, you and he must be truly 'jiggered'. I think I'm just a little tired in comparison!

At 20 to midnight I'm not surprised you were jiggered I go to bed between 10pm and 10.30pm!

I watched The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas last night. It's a bit sad isn't it. I didn't cry though, not like Sarah's Key where I couldn't stop crying.

Well, plans for today are...dh is taking me up in a plane!!! So if I don't come back you know something terrible has happened