July 2010: Tantrums R Us

[Woodlands]

Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

Sorry things,are so tough all round :(
Vik I don't know what to say to you..it's really shit isn't it. I've lost my cool with E too and it is horrible after but it always seems si much worse when dp does it! He always feels terrible after it too. Sleep deprivation does horrible things to people.
Tsc really hope for a good night for you. God knows you need it. I know it shouldn't be funny but I really laughed thinking about you on the front of the paper!
Chul has S been to the docs? Sounds horrible the poor little thing :(
Sleep is shit here and im finding it so hard to get over this bloody exhaustion from the last couple of weeks cos I'm still getting no sleep .
Dh your dinner sounds yummy! I love sweet potato too! And butternut squash.

no I don't think so! A fee weeks ago she got a bfn iirc???

I think it's a different poster, "our" Stac is MalibuStac and the one on that thread is MalibuStacy with a "y". So it's another poster with a very similar name. Malibu Stacey is from an episode of The Simpsons, I think?

Morning all!
I hope it isn't stac, if she dared tell everyone else before us...hurrumph.

tsc was your night any better?

kkfairy how's E doing? hope you get some sleep soon, sleep deprivation is horrendous.

Not sure what to do today, S's chest sounds horrible and he can't breathe properly but he's wandering about playing with cars so it can't be that bad. If we stay in all day with L she'll be a nightmare but at the same time I don't really want to take him to a group sounding like this - I'll be the mum everyone's frowning at

Morning everyone....how is everyone?
DS still has this horrible cold so isn't sleeping great- after 4 weeks of really good sleep- so I am struggling! DH is avoiding helping again...so I'm doing everything again. Despite feeling like I need to curl up & stay at home all day...we are going out for a play-date. Admittedly..I'm not feeling socialiable..but need some RL adult interaction! What's everyone else doing today?

I love sweet potatoes, too.

tsc Hope F and C are better soon! It must be so tough for you. I struggle with my two having the sniffles all the time. Nevermind what you are coping with.

kk What is E up to at night?

Bloodgroup diet doesn't sound like it's for me. I'm doing calorie counting again and it seems to be the only thing that's working for me. Still got a loooong way to go though

Had the biopsy done yesterday. They don't think it's cancer but something called pre cancer cells. After the results are in (in two weeks) they will decide what treatment I have to get. It might be a small operation. I would have to stay for two days in hospital. Does anyone know what bf mums do. Can they take the baby with them or would I have to stop breastfeeding then? I'm relieved though that it's unlikely to be cancer. The doctors and nurses were so nice. One nurse was hugging me and stroking my face during the whole procedure

M had a shocking day yesterday, tantrum after tantrum and she even tried to stamp on F's hand She did miss her lunch nap though so hopefully it was just down to that.

Off to the waffle caf later. That's why I like the calorie counting, I can just make sure I compensate during the day, then can have a waffle in the afternoon

That's promising trudy - I don't know for sure (and it may differ because you're not in the UK) but I have read threads on here before that have said you should be able to take bf babies into hospital with you.

tsc sorry he's still poorly. My locality surestart manager wants me to volunteer too. She wants me to run the parent forums for her and associated admin.

Memph's L spent the night in hospital last night. They took him to the medics at CPs and they called 999 as his temp was v high and he was floppy and struggling to breathe. And she was ill on Monday so all in all they've not had a great holiday so far! Seems as though he's much better today though and they're saying it was a viral infection.

Well I've been to craft group and had another cry about W then drove home, walked to pick E up with his bike and we walked to the dentist. E flew onto the dentist chair and for the first time ever let him look in his mouth Even W let him look in his mouth! Amazing. Then quick whizz round Asda and W is now asleep in his buggy out in the back room.

Wifey we don't really know much about you... I assume you're a sahm? My dh isn't hands on either. Whereabouts in the world are you?

Hi MyLife....I am a SAHM during the week but work at a weekend for a few hours. I live in Somerset & my DS is nearly 19 months. DH was, in my opinion, scared of DS as a baby & would let me do everything...& nowadays he is the fun, playful parent as I am everything else. There are times when I feel resentful...but I feel that I do a great job with our DS & just feel so lucky to have him.

Poor memphis I hope L is better and she is feeling ok, At least she had a nice birthday but such a shame her holiday is spoiled for a few days.
chu hows things?
trudy hows F getting on, any improvement? Sounds like tired behavour from M, how is she today?
tsc OMG poor F, an infaction is really not what you needed right now is it!
wifey Somerset huh, where abouts? What do u do at the weekends? Sorry i am very nosey!
fwiw my dh is very hands on and whilst i wouldnt have it any other way and he is great it can create some tension if you had everything in hand and know what ur doing and he wades in to 'help'
I was violently sick and had the worst runs ever for a few hours last night! wtf man, seriously didnt need that, feeling really wshed out and tired today. DH has just got home, bless him, so im gona go catch a nap.

Poor memph that must have been v scary for her. Typical things like that happen on hol. Hope they are better v soon.

viksam....I am near Bath. I work in a department store. What about yourself? I agree about the 'wading in to help'. I like our routine & DH slots into it to be honest. We both have busy lives...but the difference being that mine is because of the baby & his is because of work & renovating. I shouldn't moan as he does contribute a lot overall so I can be home with our DS.

I'm on the parent forum and advisory board too. They aren't really very good at running them and will freely admit that they haven't done it properly. They want me to come and sort it out for them...and you never know where it might lead. I might never open a cafe and it may be good to keep my hand in 'working' as something to go on my CV for the future iyswim.

It's a bit 'good cop, bad cop' here too wifey. I am here 24/7 so do all most of the hard slog and he just comes home, plays with them and tickles them the I take them upstairs and put them in the bath, put them to bed and cook his tea

I have ds2 who will be 19mo on 6th and ds1 was 3 in December :)

Hahaha to 'not very supprtive. WTF did he expect? Didn't he even discuss it with you before applying?

God I'd be fuming if dh had done that without even telling me first.

I took ds to park but we only lasted about 15 mins. The wind gave me earache it was SO cold.

Dh is going to be home late as well so not really feeling it today.

It sounds like a good deal to me tsc! You know where I live and my friend's husband works in plymouth...or portsmouth...one of them and it's about a 7hour drive that he has to make to get home every weekend

I have very little family and only a small, close circle of friends round here if if/when gets a new job elsewhere I'll just relocate with him.

We've been out. Boy 1 on buggy board/walking, boy 2 in buggy and two boxers pulling my hand off, all in the freezing cold. Then they all ran about in the park for a bit and W cried all the way round the boating lake and then home (and then some). As usual. He seems to have chilled out now but I bet the minute I stand up to put their tea on he'll start again. Fingers crossed he doesn't!

What on earth was he thinking? How strange! Due to the job/amount of moving we've got, lots of DH's colleagues live all over the place and commute at weekends. The worst one had to be when we were in Gloucester and one bloke 'lived' in Edinburgh. He'd drive back every.single.weekend. What a fruit loop!

What a horribly scary thing to happen, poor memphis. Always happens on holiday those sorts of things, hope the rest of their time goes well.

It is freaking cold isn't it mlisc and dh, we had to go out this morning to let DH sleep and went to a posh food shop with a large toy section. They've got an outdoors bit and L wanted to see the goats but I had to keep dragging them back in. At one point they were chasing bubbles, all good for them but I was standing still and freezing to the spot! We got told off in the end for playing with the wrong toys, I think the lady was tired of us being there for over an hour (we'd been to the cafe so I felt we'd paid our way ) seriously though, there's nothing to do around here indoors, not even a shopping bit to dither about in.

trudy glad they didn't find something awful, I agree with mlisc here they let bf babies stay with the mums, let's hope you don't have to stop bfing. Fwiw the other lady I know who had pre-cancerous cells had them cauterized, she said the expectation of it was far worse than the actual procedure.

did you survive the day alright wifey ?

chulita....I did...thank you. We actually had a really good day. I didn't want to leave the house this morning but once out & about-we had a great time. DS was zonked out by 6:45pm so its given me & DH time to talk about quality time as a family etc as we are ttc no2. He honestly didn't even realise how much I wanted more time for us as a family & we have agree to try harder to make time. How's everyone else's day been?

Dh has only just left London so he won't be back for about 2 hours.

We've not really got anywhere indoors apart from soft play but want to avoid those because D isn't that well. I seem to spend most of my time round other people's houses but like to wait til they ask me otherwise I'd seem desperate!
That's why I way my friends without children to hurry up and have children!

Hey all, sorry I haven't been on for a while! Poor old Memph, hope L is better soon.

DH's brother came over at 6ish with a cardboard play house he had found kicking around at work or something, and set it up (it took up the whole of J's room). J thought this was seriously the Best Thing Ever! He went into and out of and into and out of it and giggled and giggled and giggled. He was so overexcited. He ended up so tired he kept falling over but he had a massive tantrum when we finally dragged him away (and packed away the playhouse). I guess that's what unlces are for, bringing round impractical toys and overexciting their nephews/nieces just before bedtime...

woodlands excellent! If we had a huge house I'd get an indoor playhouse, my two love going to B&Q and playing in the display houses there. Whenever my brothers come round they're always playing rowdy games right before bed.

S still has the most horrendous cough and is really wheezy, he can't even climb the stairs at the mo poor little pickle. So we're stuck indoors again, I might try our usual group tomorrow just cos we're the only ones that ever go so he won't pass it on to anyone. Trust our luck to have someone turn up tomorrow! L's at nursery so I'm lost, I have no idea what to do with S, he's such harder work than L. She'll do whatever I'm doing or paint/glue/draw whereas S wants books non-stop and there's only so many I want to read before I get really fed up!

wifey I was saying to DH the other day how I can see now why some people find they have nothing in common with their dp once the dc go. I feel at the moment it's all about the dc and we never have time/energy for each other. I'd love to go for a meal and a chat before dc3 gets here just to enjoy being with DH again!