July 2010: Tantrums R Us

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Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

dh Im loving Desperate Housewives, its on so late I struggle to stay awake for it! L went sleep at 6.30 he was so tired after 2 full days of playdates, he is going to a group with my mum tomorrow too, busy little boy!
My Dads been taken into hospital with a high temp he has got to stay in :(

Yes, Trudyla and Viksam have both had lttle boys and chulita is due her little boy in 8 weeks

I don't have my boys in my bed except 3yo ds1 last night but we'll gloss over that but I know you aren't the only one with sleep issues that's for sure!

:( memph

FWIW W is very 'MINE' at the moment. Not excusing bad behaviour, but a lot of it is because his brother takes everything off him. I tell him/them off constantly, but it's something they're just going to have to grow out of.

I've just watched a nice, foodie film called Julie & Julia.

Since I lost that big post this morning and it told me I had a 'compatibility issue' my posts have been loading much quicker again. Bonus.

mlic I know its their age at the moment but her kid still snatches at 5 which I find a worry, she can do as she wants with her kids but I dont want L having a weekly bashing from them. L is very 'MINE' at the moment but I make him take turns or if they had it first its tough bobbins to L someone else has it L isnt perfect I have had to tell him what he is doing is wrongand also say sorry about a million times but when parents dont tell their kids it pisses me right off! ignoring that E wasnt in his own bed last night

My dads got fever, and symptoms of flu, his white cells are very low, not sure what this means. :(

hey emsie you've very welcome here especially if you still have sleep issues and are accidentally co-sleeping.

our DD joins us every night at any time between 1am and 5am. tbh, we recently realised that we actually quite like it and are just enjoying this age, iyswim?

better sleep would be nice tho as regardless of what time she woke up and joined up she wakes up to bf at 5am so i don't feel like i sleep properly after then.

Sorry to hear that memph

chul re job/career - i do agree with you that it's pretty difficult if not impossible for both parents to have careers unless they opt for full-time childcare but i feel like i'm in a halfway house as my responsibility and salary are more career-like even tho i know i can't focus my energies on it all like a fulltime person can.

i also agree with your about the deathbed regrets but i'm also worried about medium-term regrets: if i let my so-called career lapse now, i may well regret it once they're in school and i'm having to start again.

it sounds as tho i'm the only freak worrying about the state of the house/paperwork etc but i know i don't have an option to chill out about it tho as it's been driving me mad for the last few months. i'll be much happier when i feel more on top of things again.

i'm trying to cut myself a bit of mental slack tho. i think i'd got out of my sahm routine a bit for a while so i'd been comparing my life/house/organisation levels etc to the childless career girlfriends who i'd seen more of.

i went to another friend's house today for the children to have a play together (she has 2 boys same age as my two and it was fricking insane) and again her house was miles messier than mine. again, not judging at all - it's a perfectly nice, clean home - but made me realise again that i haven't turned into the awful slob that i was imagining

random question: i'm not understanding this - do any of you?

the friend i saw today puts her 3yo ds in childcare (mix of preschool and MIL) for 4ish days a week spaced mon-fri even tho she only work 2.5 days mon, tues & wed am. anyway, in conversation i asked her why she does this (it flowed, it wasn't a judgey question) and she said to prepare him for school.

so i said - but they don't start school til sept 2013 so why do it now?

she said - but they start school nursery full-time this sept

wtf?

she thinks it's compulsory for them to go to a school nursery full-time from 4yo. i'm certain it isn't - after all, even reception is option.

and apparently she has to take him out of preschool to then go to a school nursery.

and it just all seems mad - like putting them in full-time childcare for years before actual school just to prepare them for it.

i no understand!

sorry mega-post there

cakes seems a bit odd IMO, Im going to put L into playschool two mornings a week in Sept and I feel guilty about that, I also feel guilty that I will have to send him to reception in sept 2014 asit seems so young! Maybe she just wants them out of her hair and didnt want to admit that to you?

no memph, i def got the impression that she genuinely thought that they had to start f/t school hours next year. she has her other boy on her days off so it's not like she just wants to have the time to herself.

re playschool - don;t feel guilty. i always do but tbh both mine do seem to really enjoy nursery and get lots of of it so i think i worry unnecessarily really.

i know - ours will be sooo young when they start school at least F is an oct birth so i have him all to myself for an extra year and he'll be nearly 5yo.

Seems very odd, did you correct her? The friend I met with this afternoons daughter is an October baby and will be in the same class as L,and be one of the oldest in their year, she is nearly a foot taller than him (she is very tall and L is short) but it made me sad thinking he will be the little one in the school, im hoping they stay friends then she can protect him He loves her they sat sharing snacks and dancing together and then they kissed and waved as they left! aaah!

Hello emsiero

cake re paperwork, house stuff etc, I keep on top of the finance stuff fine, we only have about 4 bills going out a month and they are all direct debit bar one. I keep the bills in a drawer in the sitting room till they have gone through then once a month I just file them in a filing cabinet - takes 2 mins. Re little DIY jobs etc I always feel there is more that could be done - it's a case of what really needs to be done and what can wait a while. I try to do stuff while dh is off work, he was just off for 2 wks over Christmas so I painted both bathroom ceilings amongst other things. There is loads that needs to be done in our house at some point but most of it isn't urgent.

Whenever we are out in the garden I do a bit of weeding, water plants that need watering etc, just keep on top of it (or try to) by doing a bit at a time.

We are in quite major clean up mode at the moment as sil and bil arrive on Monday for 3 wks then mil and fil for 6 wks after that. People visiting always gives us a bit of a kick up the arse to sort the house and garden out a bit.

I just heard on the radio that Pumpkin Patch's UK stores are going into administration (they are a NZ company which is why it's on the news here) so if any of you like their stuff there may be some huge closing down sales coming up.

OMG not another one going nto administration! its crazy and frankly im scared for my shop, if im honest i will be suprised if theres a job to go back to in sept. They are south east based and so if they need to shrink we would be one of te first to go! retail and construction two of the worst industrys to be in, we would be shafted if we both lost our jobs! chu dont look at the time!!
cake thats a bit weird for her to think that, someones told her wrong havent they?
Watching D on the monitor, hes so disturbed poor poor boy, i feel so bad for him, it does look like bad dreams but hes not fully awake so dh hasnt gone in yet. I wish he could just sleep. Had a bad evening with F yesterday. we are fearing the worst that hes going to have colic like D, i worked out it will be till the middle of April if he does!!! think i'll go mad at the thought!

Peacocks is going into administration too so I'm keeping an eye on the one in my town for any bargains.

emsie I'm another one who has ds in bed with us. He starts in his bed and he was better last night/eve but came in with us at half 10.

memphis I record desp housewives and watch it at a sensible hour the next eve. In fact we do that with most things!

My car is being picked up for a service today so won't have that, the weather is terrible too and it's at least a 20 min walk to the town. Will go in if the weather perks up.

Hello emsie, good to have you back!

dh thanks for reminding me about desperate housewives, I'd not realised it was back on again. I always watch it online a few days afterwards, it's on far too late!

fingers crossed he's not got colic, that would suck balls. My neighbour said she thought hers had colic but he got over it in a fortnight...I swear she's the luckiest woman when it comes to pgcy/labour/babies!

cake the house is a bit different for us cos we rent so any stuff that needs doing we call someone out to do it, it's a new-ish house anyway and gets redecorated every 3 years or when the occupiers move out so it's never in too bad a way. Our proper house however is a whole different kettle of fish but thankfully we don't live there so it's not all staring us in the face! Wrt paperwork ours piles up for about a month and then I sort it, but I'm a clutter person so as long as the house gets one good tidy a month I'm not too fussed really.

L really didn't want to go to nursery today and was clinging on, crying etc. I had to resort to getting Old Bear to go in with her but I'm dreading her losing him, we'd have problems if anything happened to him. She woke up shaky, just one of those days I think but I was about ready to blub too. I don't like leaving them if they're really crying cos I reckon it makes them not want to go back again, not sure if I'm just being precious though.

S hasn't got the 'mine' bit yet but it'll come...

The big news is... our dishwasher arrives on Tuesday! Cost a packet though so the miser in me is quivering a little bit

E is in the same school year as F as you know. He is currently doing mornings at nursery. Because he is a December baby, after the summer holidays (September) he will still be three, so he will do another full year of nursery, just mornings. The following September (2013) he will go into reception.

The teachers told me that the kids who are in nursery for 18 months as aopposed to just one year seem to do better. That is just their experience.

I just handed in my application to be a school governor [busybody emoticon] Then I went and voted in our local election. I feel like I have 'done my duty' in the local community this morning

x post - ooooo how exciting! I give you a month and then you'll wonder how you ever lived without one

Is there a way to delay starting til Jan for our tiny little July babies? or is it everyone starts in Sept regardless?

You'd have to speak to the school I guess. I think I'm the only one happy for her huge tiny little July baby to start in the September

I don't mind D starting in sept. Lots of people in my year at school who had late birthdays did well. It's not always a given that they won't do well it's the individual.

He slept for an hour and 20 mins but half of that was on me. Want to see if having more sleep in the day will help him at night. I'm going out tonight for a meal with my parents and bro so dh will be doing bedtime tonight.

I may change my mind yet mlisc but tbh I love being at home with them :) I've got nothing to go back to anyway and anything I'd like to do would involve training for a new job which would be pretty full-time so would have to wait til they're in proper school.

dh the advantage to him going straight away is that he'll only be a year below L which would be good. We'll see, one of DH's school friends was the brainiest in his class and he's an August baby so yea, the date doesn't mean anything!

I'm a July baby and don't think I missed out academically

The long post I wrote and lost mentioned instead of looking for a job now, I'm going to focus on my 5 year plan. In 5 years time I will own my own cafe. If I don't have another baby

If we get posted anywhere near you, I'll help you wait tables and bake stuff Another baby eh? You'll give in one of these days!

mlisc would you like another baby then?

Just been on a 2 hour round trip walk, stopping at a cafe. I'm so unfit it makes me a little lightheaded when I finally sit down at home and my teeth tingle! Might be the cold though it's not that cold

In theory dh, yes. Reality though is a different matter entirely!