July 2010: Tantrums R Us

[Woodlands]

Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

I'm so pleased I don't buy meat!

oh memphis that sounds rotten, poor you - he'll forget about it very soon. Hope you get the results soon.

Am shattered, J was up at 5.50am - off to bed shortly!

Feel shattered this morning, D wouldn't settle after half 9. We both tried and he'd close his eyes then if I tried to move he'd be awake and crying. Don't know whether to battle with him now or wait til he's less clingy.
He didnt go to sleep til 7:50 then woke at 9ish and that was it for the eve, so im getting just over an hour of 'me' time.

Having a late nap didn't seem to make a difference either. I'm wondering if no nap would be a better solution.

What's everyone upto today? When I see friends they say oh we should meet up next week I'll give u a text so I'm expecting them to text on a mon or tues and they don't. I've got nothing to do today but two friends have said they'll meet up but then leave it so late in the week I've made other plans. I always end up texting them but don't want to come across needy. I don't know why people assume they should leave it til at least wed before arranging anything.

DH this is they first week tht I have planned things in advance, I never make plans, my friend said last week I will ring you Wednesday about meeting up, she will probably ring me at 11 and want to come for half past, some ppeople arent so organised, if I make plans a week in advance I willalmost aalways change them if im tired, L is grumpy or I just cant be bothered to be nice to people
My friend text last night at 10 and said could she come at 1 today, I said yes see her then, I bet she will roll up at 2, bet it would drive you mad, so today my plans are one froend supposted to be popping in for a cuppa (I bet she cancels) followed by at 1 my other friend popping over (she will be late) then my friend driving 80 miles to see us at 3 (Im waiting on a text of her cancelling!) I never normally get so many things in one day but I wont end up having a full day as at least one will cancel!
mlic Im glad I dont buy that much meat now, would like your recipe for stroganoff when you have time and what do you serve it with? is it normally brown rice?

Im so tired, up worrying about L and his tests, what if they are negative? I couldnt go through even more tests with him, and if he is positive I worry about him never going to parties and days out with friends as they wont want the hastle of having to deal with his diet! His little foot is really blue with bruising!

oh memph that sucks. poor L very sweet him trying to tell you about it tho. don't beat yourself up about it - you're just doing what needs to be done to make him better.

real life keeps mirroring this thread at the mo in odd ways. mlic my friend mentioned making that sweet potato bake just yday! i loved the look of the side dishes - garlicky vegetable etc - yum!

my fave home-made things are stodge like: roast, veggie and bean stew & dumplings, tagliatelle with mush, asparagus & cream sauce, spag and 'meatballs'. i also love simple things like stirfry & rice tho.

with you on the meat thing!

also, memph i saw a prescription renewal thing for wheat-free bread when i was at the docs which i was going to mention to you!

don't blame you for being irritated with your friend. would wind me up too.

very that you have it on tv there wss. i'm going to have to buy it. btw, you know my ex i mentioned the other day - he's in your country!

dh i tend to make firmish plans a week ahead and then some arrangements i'll get in the diary a few weeks in advance so i can make sure i keep days free, otherwise we'd end up doing nothing on my non-work days. this week for instance, we went to a friends for a play & dinner yday (arranged last week), work today, meeting up with another friend and her boys tomo (started arranging last week but firmed up yday), work thurs, meeting my cousin and her 2 DCs at softplay on fri (arranged a few weeks ago).

is anyone else feeling a bit like they're behind and a tad crap with everything? i'm feeling like i've come out of that full-on baby period and so my expectations have risen as to what i should be able to manage but it's actually pretty tough to do it all well. just before xmas i was starting to feel a bit of a failure trying to do a almost a full-time job in part-time hours, not feeling like i was totally there for the children when i was supposed to be off, and most of all really procrastinating about household chores and appts etc.

some are just silly things like the state of the house is doing my head in and i feel quite crap about it (chipped paintwork from buggies etc but no point touching it all up yet and hard to keep things as tidy as i like) but then when i went to my friend's house yday i realised hers was far messier than mine is - not at all judging btw, she actually has a lovely house but isn't as freaky about mess as i am. i've started to realise that lowered standards are probably going to have to stay in place for a while longer!

i've decided is to stop procrastinating about little tasks. i have to accept that there won't be time/energy to do things perfectly at the mo and far better to just be a bit more on top of the small things - eg finally got round to having a smear yday (yuk), it had been on my to do list to book all last year!

i'm also switching off more from work when i'm with the DCs and making sure we do more sahm-type things iykwim so i feel as tho we're actually benefitting from me being part-time.

do you all feel like this and when do you think it'll all feel a bit easier?

just booking to go to the amazing champneys spa at Tring on 10th feb. can not bloody wait!

xposted you memph. just wait and see what happens, try not to tie yourself in knots now. if it's positive you'll cope and it'll become normal (better than normal as he'll be well), friends etc won't mind at all for day outs etc - have never had any issues with my two being vegan so far. it's just about thinking ahead and being prepared. i certainly wouldn't mind catering for a gluten-free DC at a party.

if they're negative then cross that bridge when it comes to it.

Just going to bed so quickly - cake your ex in the drug ring prison story? It's such a small country, I've prob seen his picture in the paper.

And as to feeling behind well, yes and no. I feel I am finally getting enough sleep most nights as G only wakes in the night maybe once a week or even less, so I feel better on that score but I think they're both getting more full on - fighting over toys, climbing on tables etc, so I need to watch them more etc so can't get on with doing things that need doing. Once A is back at pre-school next week it will be a bit easier to get stuff done with just G around.

Thanks cake I think a lot of people around here (namely the inlaws) would justthink im being a fussy mum and that there isnt something actually wrong with him, my FIL didnt even know what gluten was?! and MIL would give him bread regardless if I wasnt there, the two times she had L she didnt give him the food I sent him with, he apparently didnt like iy o she gave him some other crap, I have one vegan friend and other than that evernyone thought I was an idiot when I was a vegetarian, the people here are quite small minded to say the least.
Im in London the weekend you are at the Spa! I have started panicking about the house and my weight now L is bigger, there is only so long you can blame a messy house and a fat ass on just having a baby! but DH tells me not to worry and that the house is tidy and to stop worrying, the house needs a hoover, I still have to unpack my boxes of shoes and the car looks like a tip inside!

yes and yes, you probably have! weird eh? still can't stop thinking about it all.

ah - sleep. yes that does make a huge difference. multiple wake-ups here every night still

I was having a clearout of a drawer upstairs and ds2 has found a dummy. He has taken rather a shine to it. Uh oh...

Off to get ds1 from school, back in a min

memphis I understand what you're saying, people are so snooty about allergies and people saying they're allergic to things when they're not. I guess you'd just need to sit your family down and explain to them that coeliac is serious and even crumbs of bread can do damage. I bet there are leaflets you can get to give them. My family members who have it have successfully adapted their diets and have no problems nowadays.

I've been to homebase and got some small hooks for the hall to put our keys on after last weeks episode!

Will prob stay in now until after lunch and nap.

I wish it was warmer I could think of a million things to do outside.

memphis I second what cake said, I would have no issue with catering for a reactive dc/giving them what they brought with them. If it is coeliac, there's a lot of support available and I'm sure once you get into the habit of it you'd find it actually quite easy!

cake I'm not remotely houseproud, not one little bit so mine's a constant mess but although I like a tidy house, I'm not one to worry if it isn't. My two still wake up most nights too so I'm simply too tired to sweat the small stuff! I reckon it'll get a bit better once they're in full-time school cos they'll be in less to mess it up.

dh I hardly ever have friends round, I'd love to but none of mine live nearby and the sort of semi-friends I have near I see at the groups so that sort of cancels that out. We do something everyday though or we'd go crazy sat in the house. Tbh I'd rather be out of the house than have people round, I spend enough time sat on the sofa and I quite like trying out other people's sofas

8 weeks today, cannot wait (but am also crapping myself about a cs )

dh I much prefer things in the winter that are outside, zoos and farms less crowded and smelly, the beach is great in the winter, you wont catch me on sand in the summer, the parks are empty, we wrap up L nd ourselves and are out unless it is hammering it down with rain and that is only beause L hates a raincover! summer is wasted on me!
woodlands my family are great and mum has even been speaking to her friend whos family members have it for advice and she was in Holland and Barretts looking at things, DH's family (even his sister) wont adampt to it at all and if I made gluten free cakes would turn her nose up at it, it will just be anothber excuse not to take him places and to leave him out which has started already 'because he poops to much'

My friends this afternoon havent cancelled so one will be here at 1 and the other at 3, cant wait to see my career friends face when she sees two children in my house (shock horror!)

My dad is at hospital today to see if the cancer had spread as the original scan was only in his groin/stomach so they have no idea if it had gone anywhere else, he gets his results thursday then next stage starts on tuesday.

memphis I don't mind being out when it's cold I wrap us both up but I prefer summer and being able to stay out all day without getting cold.

Good luck to your dad with the results, fingers crossed!

dh im so pale I fry after 20 mins so the summer is when I go into hiding! We plan to get married in Cyprus, no doubt on our official wedding pics I will be red like a lobster, maybe even with a few blisters whereas everyone else will have a golden tan haha

Ooh Cyprus that's lovely! At least it won't rain on your wedding day like it did on mine.

D won't nap today, I'm so tired I've even tried having him in my bed but he keeps talking. Don't know whether to wait to see if he gets sleepy or go out and make him stay up.

Cake that recipe book is good - I reckon there'd be loads in it you'd like. I like the Chachouka (although I varied it slightly) and the Caponata...although you'd have to omit the sultanas as you don't 'do' fruit in savoury dishes do you. I made that yesterday as he says it is better the longer it has to take on the flavours - so that's for tea tonight. It has lots of tapas/meze dishes in which I know is your thing

I'm with you memph, I like winter as it's nice and quiet! I HATE the school holidays they drive me insane as everywhere gets so busy. I like the sun, just don't like that everyone else is off!

Cake I never feel on top of everything. My house is in a constant state of upheaval. I never seems to get round to hoovering upstairs

How sad that L gets left out for 'pooping too much' memph :( Poor lad. That is awful.

Am thinking about how long it is since I hoovered upstairs. Off to do it now before the carpet bugs eat the children overnight

dh I'm with you on the naps, for the first time in months S is refusing to go to sleep. He's been up in his bed crying for over an hour but I'm going to have to give up and get him down. he's going to be so tired and whingy this pm.

mlisc I bet it's not as long as I've left it

D isn't whiny atm which is good but he'll either be awful later or falling asleep in his dinner. Maybe keeping him up is the answer to getting him to sleep through the night

Just booked a wax app and hair app for sat, they're doing half price cuts in jan too so I'll be getting a £37 cut for £18.50! Looking forward to being pampered, not so much the ripping out of intimate hair though!

W hasn't napped today either. Mainly pure laziness though - I just didn't put him down! He is running about like an idiot with his brother so I don't think he's too bothered! About to walk to the shops now so if he needs a sleep he can sleep in the buggy, but it's unlikely

Oh and memph I don't have a recipe - I'm a 'chuck it all in' kinda cook. this one looks vaguely similar to mine though. HTH

Feel bad for not having gone out this aft but I really couldn't face it I've been so tired and Ds been quite happy playing with anything and everything.

He's looking a bit tired now but he's going to have to wait til bed now.

I did them sweet potato/red onion/lentil dahl for tea with basmati rice. Don't kow why I fucking bother. They both refused it - I bribed ds1 to eat half then he gave up and ds2 wouln't so much as open his mouth. They are now having crackers with cheese From now on I officially go on strike and refuse to bother my arse cooking them real food.

Roll on wine o'clock.

Same here mlisc I made D tuna risotto and he had 3 mouthfuls, it all went in the bin. So much for trying to vary his lunches, I'll stick to bread and yoghurt then